Opens in a new windowOpens an external websiteOpens an external website in a new window
This website utilizes technologies such as cookies to enable essential site functionality, as well as for analytics, personalization, and targeted advertising purposes. To learn more, view the following link: Cookie Policy
Do Not Create Too Many Rules | Too many rules hold you back
The document discusses how having too many rules can prevent people from finding fulfillment. It gives examples of how people create rules about jobs, relationships, and other areas of life. These rules often change each time a goal is not met, trapping people in a cycle of unhappiness. The key is to minimize rules and maximize enjoying the present situation rather than focusing on how it differs from some ideal standard. Overall rules should empower rather than frustrate people in their careers and lives.
1. The author realized after law school and clerking for a judge that practicing law did not align with his nature as he preferred working outdoors in the asphalt business where he understood the simple rules for success.
2. As a result, he created a list of goals focused on becoming a different more formal professional person in order to succeed in law, but knew deep down it was not a good fit.
3. The author stresses the importance of understanding the inherent rules of your chosen profession or career as that is key to finding success and being in alignment with your nature.
The document discusses how social media has changed customer buying behavior and expectations. It notes that customers now complete 70% of their purchase journey independently before engaging sales. It advocates for a social selling approach where salespeople use social networks and tools to engage customers online. Some key points are that leading companies now generate 30-80% of revenue from social selling, and integrating social insights into CRM systems allows salespeople to have more meaningful conversations with customers. The document provides advice on developing a social selling strategy and implementation plan to adapt selling approaches for today's digital customers.
The mind controls everything around you and that which decides your experiences, your relationships, your achievements or failures, your very existence. You need to take really good care of it.
Games To Explain Human Factors: Come, Participate, Learn & Have Fun!!! Certif...Ronald G. Shapiro
The document announces an event called "Games To Explain Human Factors: Come, Participate, Learn & Have Fun!!!" held at the Great Plains Students’ Psychology Convention. It lists the event champions, participants, and sponsors from various universities. The event used games to teach about human factors and psychology concepts in a fun way for participants.
Everything is Negotiable | Negotiating is one of the Greatest AbilitiesEmployment Crossing
Harrison believes that almost everything in life is negotiable but very few people actually realize it. Negotiating is one of the greatest abilities that you can possibly have, and you should take every chance to negotiate the best possible deal for your life, career, and everything you do.
This document outlines key concepts in science including the scientific method, measurement and data analysis, relationships between variables, and communication of results. It describes the major branches of science, important terminology, and how to perform calculations and conversions involving scientific notation and metric units. Safety, accuracy, precision and peer review are also discussed.
This document discusses the rationale for developing behaviour therapy for would-be bridegrooms. It notes that (1) relationships are complex and born at birth, requiring equality and forgetting of status differences; (2) we are all temporary guests and should aim to develop good relationships; (3) marriage requires compromises from girls who leave their homes and families to join their husband's, trusting him the most; and (4) developing relationships is a long process, and principles may fail because people are unique and building good relationships requires effort. The document aims to provide therapy to help would-be husbands develop relationships skills to support their new wives.
Instead of creating problems in the workplace, you should seek out responsibilities, and ritualize your work routine. These responsibilities will drive you forward in your daily work, in your career, and in your life.
This document discusses how to get out of the "mental treadmill" or "rat race" of constantly meeting others' expectations at the expense of one's own fulfillment and well-being. It describes how from a young age, people are conditioned through reward and punishment systems to conform to social and institutional norms. By the time they are adults, many feel trapped running in multiple treadmills of family, work, relationships, etc. The document advocates taking control of one's own life by reflecting inward on one's values, passions, and purpose rather than looking to external validation. It encourages making difficult changes and pursuing one's "unlived life" despite fears, in order to find greater fulfillment and avoid future reg
The Corporate Shift How Millennials Are Changing the World· T.docxrtodd643
The Corporate Shift: How Millennials Are Changing the World
· Tweet
· Share
· Share
· Share
· Mail
· Share
· Share
To understand the changes that are taking place in the workplace, one important factor to consider is the different generations. There are always exceptions to the rule, but I am referring to some general characteristics of a few generations that had an impact in the business world.
My parents’ generation—mostly baby boomers—were raised, for the most part, to follow a very clear, straight path. That path was to get an education, get married, and find a decent job to pay the bills. Many of them had the same job for more than 20 years and retired. They mostly viewed their “jobs” as just a means to make money and they did not question whether it was fulfilling or not. This was life as it was defined for them. It was selfish to think otherwise. They worked for money, and were respectful of and obedient to authority. They were grateful to have a job, especially one that many would desire. This was the mindset at the time. The companies gave them a feeling of stability; they invested in their people and were relatively loyal. Their generation also fought for some human rights and paved the way for a better world. I am grateful for that.
My generation started asking deeper questions. Is there a better life somewhere else? Do I feel fulfilled in my job where I spend 40-50 hours a week? How on earth am I supposed to act differently at work and in my personal life? Is this the life I want? It did not always feel right just to have a job. We started looking for fulfillment in our lives. The conventional path did not satisfy us. We started taking more risks. It was painful for our parents to watch us leave “stable” jobs as they saw it just because we did not find enough meaning or because our values were conflicting with the company goals.
In the meantime, some corporations started changing too. When they were striving to be the best place to work, proud to offer the best salaries, and hiring and retaining the most qualified employees, at some point, they decided to only pay attention to their shareholders. They lost touch with their clients and their employees. Employees became merely numbers or machines. They forgot that the only things that matter are human beings; the people working for them, the people who will buy their services, and their communities. They stopped being inspiring and felt like their employees needed them more than they did. It started becoming very easy to let go of people. Many of us experienced in many occasions that getting rid of office furniture in an office was harder to get rid of than employees. Even when businesses genuinely had to downsize to survive (I am not denying businesses exist to make money and there are times you need to let people go), they forgot to acknowledge their employees for all their hard work and accomplishments. People were treated like stuff.
The only things that matter are human beings;.
1. Behaviour therapy was developed to help cultivate equal and cordial relationships between spouses and in-laws. Every person should try to forget their status when interacting with family to build understanding.
2. When a girl gets married, she leaves her family and joins her husband's unknown family, trusting him completely. If her expectations of the relationship are not met, she can become mentally depressed.
3. Developing strong relationships takes a long time, as seen in one's changing relationship with parents over the years. Principles alone may not be enough, as relationships are complex and depend on individual circumstances. Behaviour therapy aims to provide practical guidance to build healthy marriage relationships.
You Will Succeed in Your Job and Job Search When You Are Concerned With Givin...Employment Crossing
A relationship with an employer is quite similar to any other relationship. In maintaining any relationship, you need to understand the other person's needs. You need to concentrate more on giving than taking.
Good governance & Social ResponsibilityDenni Domingo
This document discusses the importance of living ethically both as individuals and within communities. It addresses how communities have implicit rules or guidelines for interaction and cooperation. While others can influence our decisions, we are ultimately responsible for choosing our own path. Studying ethics helps us make moral decisions in all areas of life, not just specific professions, by building understanding of right and wrong. Ethical businesses are also more likely to be stable and successful in the long run compared to unethical companies that may prosper temporarily but ultimately fail due to lack of integrity and accountability.
The document provides instructions for requesting writing help from HelpWriting.net in 5 steps: 1) Create an account with a password and email. 2) Complete a 10-minute order form providing instructions, sources, and deadline. 3) Review bids from writers and choose one based on qualifications. 4) Review the completed paper and authorize payment if satisfied. 5) Request revisions to ensure satisfaction, with a full refund option for plagiarized work.
The document discusses how many people frequently change careers or hobbies without fully committing to any one thing. It argues that people should confront challenges rather than giving up when growth slows. Fully committing and pushing through difficult periods allows one to reach expert status and achieve more.
Money as a Motivator
History Of Money Essay
money Essay
Money in Our Society Essay
Essay On Money Market
Thesis On Save Money
Essay about History of Money
Essay on Money And Inflation
What is Economics? Essay
Wealth and Money
Money Is Life Essay
Essay Good Money Management
This document provides information about preparing for marriage, including selecting a marriage partner. It discusses various theories for how people select mates, such as propinquity theory which suggests people marry those they know, and exchange theory which views relationships as an exchange of qualities. It also discusses compatibility factors like shared interests, personalities, and filters people use in selecting partners such as biological factors, social class, religion, and psychological needs. The document provides activities for students to reflect on qualities and characteristics they desire in a partner and to think critically about what makes for a successful marriage.
The document discusses finding balance between work life and personal life. It notes that balance looks different for everyone as priorities vary. Key aspects to consider include understanding your needs, passions, and how you want to spend your time. Prioritizing self-care through adequate nutrition, sleep, exercise and recreation is important to avoid burnout. Pursuing fulfillment requires growth and contributing to others. Effective leaders help their teams feel engaged, supported and appreciated to maintain productivity while respecting individuals' needs for balance.
This document provides an overview of the culture at a medical facility called "The Clinic For Men" that helps men suffering from erectile dysfunction. Some key points:
- The clinic prides itself on helping men get erections to improve their sex lives. However, it is a serious medical facility, not related to the porn industry.
- The culture is defined by five core values: reliability, accuracy, teamwork, enthusiasm, and accountability. These values govern all decisions from hiring to promotions.
- Employees must be passionate about helping patients reconnect through improved sex lives. The work involves dealing with patients' erectile issues on a daily basis.
- The culture seeks people who are self-motivated
Interested in joining our company? Have a desire to work at a unique medical practice where you know what is expected of you and how you fit? Watch this slide deck to understand our culture.
Tony Robbins discusses the "invisible forces" that make us do what we do -- and high-fives Al Gore in the front row.
What is your motive for action? What is it that drives you in your life today? Not 10 years ago. Are you running the same pattern? Because I believe that the invisible force of internal drive, activated, is the most important thing. I'm here because I believe emotion is the force of life. All of us have great minds. Most of us here have great minds, right? We all know how to think. With our minds we can rationalize anything. We can make anything happen.
Your career and life are totally within your control, and the kind and amount of energy you give out will always return to you. if you understand this universal law and can harness its power, life should never appear hopeless.
The neighbor would see the man of the house drink beers quickly behind his garage when his daughter and son-in-law visited. This happened every few weeks and was the man's way of dealing with the stress of their visits. The passage discusses common ways people cope with stress, such as distraction, avoidance, isolation, or dissipating energy, but argues these don't resolve the underlying issues. It introduces the concept of "focusing" from Dr. Gendlin's research - accepting feelings instead of resisting stress, in order to remain conscious of problems and deal with them directly.
Are You Motivated by Power, Relationships, or Achievement?Employment Crossing
The document discusses three different personality types that may emerge when someone sits in the restored classic cars that the author has spent decades restoring: power-oriented, relationship-oriented, and achievement-oriented. It provides examples of how each type would react and what questions they would ask when viewing the cars, noting their different motivations - power, relationships, and achievement respectively. The author stresses the importance of understanding one's own personality type and being in a career that allows one to thrive using their natural motivations.
More Related Content
Do Not Create Too Many Rules | Too many rules hold you back
2. One Of The Biggest Mistakes People Make When They Are…
Looking for a job, working in a job and in life is this: They have too many
rules.
They have rules about the jobs they can apply for.
They have rules about how they apply for jobs.
They have rules about where they can apply for jobs.
They have rules about whether they will or will not use recruiters.
They have rules about how many jobs they apply for.
They have rules about the type of work they will do.
They have rules about the hours they will work.
They have rules about the wages they will start making.
They have rules about the sort of health insurance they need to receive.
They have rules about the reputation of the employer they are working for.
They have rules about the diversity of the employer they are working for.
They have rules about the challenge of the job they are working in.
They have rules about the vacation policies their employer should offer.
3. -They have rules about the neighborhoods the people they work with should live in.
-They have rules about whether or not the people they work with should have families.-
-They have rules about the organizations the people they work with should belong to.
-The have rules about the race the people they work with should be.
-They have rules about the training they should get on the job.
-They have rules about the attractiveness of the people they work with.
-They have rules about the religion of the people they work with.
This list is probably less than 10% of the sorts of rules that you have about what your
current or next job should be. We make up so many rules for what should exist where
we are working and in the work that we do. These rules are constant and we continually
create numerous, numerous rules about what our jobs should be like. We also do this
with our lives. We believe we should be more wealthy, more religious or spiritual, have
more friends, have closer intimate relationships and more. We, in fact, continually create
rule after rule for ourselves and about what we desire and want for ourselves. The
problem with this line of thinking is that it prevents us from ever finding fulfillment in
what we are doing right now.
4. For Most Of My Entire Childhood, Both Of My Parents Were
Single.
It was amazing to me watching them go in and out of various relationships because
after each relationship one would say something like “I need someone who is more
educated.” The next relationship they were in they would find someone who was
educated. When this relationship would end, they would say something like “I need
to find someone who is not so interested in ideas and is more interested in sports
and taking care of their body.”
5. The Next Relationship They Would Find Someone Who…
Was very outgoing with sports. When that relationship ended they would say
something like “I need someone who knows how to relax.” They would get into
another relationship and, in my mother’s case, she found a guy who liked to watch
television while eating all of his meals. Then she said “I need someone who has
better manners” when that relationship ended. To this day, I see my parents
coming up with impossible combinations of rules for who their ideal mate should
be, and the rules are “refreshed” and modified and added to as each relationship
ends and another begins.
6. For The Close to 40 Years I Have Known My Parents…
They have been making new rules about mates on and off at
least once a year. I am not being critical of them for doing this,
because we all do this. We are constantly making new rules
about so many things in our lives. We make these rules over
and over and over. We are constantly creating one rule or
another about how something should be this or that in order
for things to be as we feel they should be. If the world does not
match what we are seeking, then we choose not to feel good
about ourselves, feel some sort of angst and not be happy.
7. The Result of These Rules Is That They Serve To Isolate Us In
Many Respects
The rules give us reasons for not feeling like everything is
perfect and that something is wrong. The rules prevent us
from working on what is in front of us at the moment,
making the most of it and being happy. The rules separate
us from people, jobs and opportunities. A major key to
happiness in life and success in your chosen calling is doing
everything within your power to not have so many rules.
The more rules you have, the less happy you will generally
be. Rules are something that create a blueprint for how we
believe our lives should be. The more blueprints we have
about the way life should be and the less our life conditions
match these blueprints, the less happy we will be.
8. Several Years Ago I Had A Mix of People Who Were Very Young…
And others who were quite older (in their 60s) working for our
company. In our company’s younger days the young people were
extremely enthusiastic about it. Desks were doors, for example, and
we used the area where a door handle should have been for cords. The
young employees went out after work several times a week. We had a
pool table that doubled as a ping pong table in the office. A foosball
table. Darts. In general, the office was an extremely fun place to work
and had the atmosphere of a carnival. The company attracted the best
young people, and young people loved working for us because we were
young and energetic and quite excited about the world and doing very
well. In the 2001 recession our revenues continued rocketing up.
For the young people in our company, it was a great place
to work and it matched their expectations about what a
young California company with a strong online strategy
should be.
9. As The Company Grew We Started…
Hiring older people who had a lot of experience, and in some cases had retired and
were coming back to work. These people brought a lot of experience to the table,
but did not share the same enthusiasm for working for a younger company.
One day I heard one of our older employees, in their 60s I believe, arguing with one
of our star younger employees, who was much more intelligent than the older
employee. I could not believe what the older employee said to the younger
employee: “If you were so talented you would not have to work in a small company
like this and would be working in a large company like I did when I was at your age!”
10. This Argument Was Amazing To Me
Essentially what the older employee was saying was that it was
not a good thing to be working at a smaller company. His idea
was, and his model for the world was, that it was a bad thing to
work at a small company instead of a large company. I could tell
that the older employee was not happy with his job but I never
knew it was for this reason. In effect, the older employee was
trying to share with the younger employee a “rule” about how he
should feel about his job, based on the size of the company he was
working at. We all have these rules. These rules control so
completely for many of us how we feel about our careers and lives
that it is profound. People believe they need to work a certain
place in order to be happy. Once someone works in this or that
place, they believe they need to be doing a certain type of work
there in order to be happy. Once they are doing this certain type
of work, they believe they need to be making a certain amount of
money. The list goes on and on …
11. I Can Say Unequivocally That the Smartest People I Have
Known…
In my life have most often been the ones who are the most
unhappy. The reason for this, I believe, is due to the fact that these
smart people are continually using their intelligence to create rules
and not feel happy. They look at the world around them and can
see all sorts of reasons that they should not feel fulfilled and happy.
This thought process then ends up making them continually feel
unhappy and unfulfilled with the world around them.
When I grew up in Detroit people always seemed to be comparing
this or that to something in a large city. They would say “this is a
New York-style art gallery”, or “this food is just as good as California
cuisine in Napa Valley,” or this is similar to that. This comparing and
contrasting is also a form of rule making, and it is something that I
think we all do. We say to ourselves that where we live must be just
as good as somewhere else. We do this with everything. Our jobs.
Our mates. Our lives …
12. There Is Nothing Wrong With…
Having certain standards about the sort of
work you would like to do. There is also
nothing wrong with having standards for your
job. However, there is a tremendous amount
wrong when these are not standards, but rules
which control whether or not we find the job
we are after and whether or not we can enjoy
the jobs that we are in. Your life and career
will never be fulfilled if you have too many
rules governing it.
13. One of the Strangest Things To Me Is…
Every time I go to New York City and spend time
with connected and wealthy people. I love New
York City and I love the people there in so many
ways. However, unlike any place in the world I
have ever encountered, the people there have
learned to create so many rules. There are rules
about where the best places to live are. Rules
about the best places to eat. Rules about the best
places to sit in restaurants. Rules about the best
clubs to go to.
Moreover, what is so completely confusing
about New York is that these rules are
always changing. A rule about something
one day is completely different the next.
14. A Giant Secret To Being Successful In Your Career and Job is…
Making sure that you have rules that empower you and do not cause
you frustration. Rules about how to get a job and how to enjoy the work
you are doing are something that can cause you a tremendous amount of
harm. You need to choose rules that empower you and give you the
strength and power to push forward and enjoy what you are doing. Not
rules that hold you back and continually cause you frustration.