'I won't be babysitting his kids anymore': Entitled dad derails his sister's New Year's Eve plans after showing up 5 hours late to pickup his children

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  • AITA for telling my brother I won't be babysitting his kids anymore because they messed up my plans for the new year?
  • Whenever my brother (27M) needs help, I take care of his two kids (4F and 6M). Even though I love my niece and nephew, New Year's Eve was the last blow for me. My brother and his wife asked me
  • to watch their kids while they went to a fancy New Year's party. Friends begged me to go with them even though I already had plans with other people. They said they couldn't find anyone else. It was even an offer to pay me twice what I normally get, so I reluctantly agreed.
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  • They were supposed to come back at 1 a.m., so I could still hang out with my friends late at night. However, they did not show up at midnight. I texted, called, and even tried calling the party location, but no one answered.
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  • They finally got in around 4 a.m., and it was clear they were drunk. They pretended it wasn't a big deal. My brother laughed when I told him how upset I was that they had left me all night and said, "You didn't have anything important going on anyway."
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  • That hurt a lot. I told him they could no longer have me watch if they couldn't respect my plans or time. It's making my brother mad, and he says I'm being too tough. My parents agree, saying "family helps family." AITA because she wouldn't watch after this?
  • Exciting Lack2896 NTA. They didn't respect the agreed time & shrugged off your concerns.
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  • dreamgirl sweet It wasn't just about being late, it was the way they acted like it didn't matter at all.
  • Competitive-Wear7324 You helped them out, and they completely disrespected your time and plans. Family or not, boundaries matter, and you're right to enforce them. Their reaction shows they took your kindness for granted. Stay firm-you're not wrong here.
  • Embarrassed Hat 2904 Whenever someone throws out "family helps family" ask how they helped you by coming home late? How did they help you by belittling you? Funny how this family helps family thing only ever goes one way. And if family helps family, why was no one else available to watch their kids?
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  • Snug_The_Cat NTA you kept your end of the bargain and gave extra. They didnt even offer you the courtesy of a call or text. When your brother essentially said his plans were more important than you. That was way over the top and very insulting.
  • dreamgirl sweet That's what hurt the most, feeling like my time and plans didn't matter to them at all. A simple call or text would've made a huge difference
  • Snug The Cat Ignore your parents on this one, they are just trying to smooth it over. They are wrong,, they know it, but they just dont want to deal with it. Mine did it for years because it was the path of least resistance.
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  • AyeshaAurora NTA. Your time is valuable, and it's not cool for them to disregard that, especially on New Year's! Setting boundaries is healthy, and it's important they respect your plans too, not just assume you'll be there because you're family.
  • HyacinthKaye Not the 'family helps family' card being pulled when they treated you like free daycare on NYE. Your time matters too, and saying 'you didn't have anything important going on' is such a bold assumption. NTA- your boundaries are valid. Let them find a sitter who's cool with a 4 a.m. drunk drop-off, because it's not giving respect.

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