Pinned post to keep track of the oldest unanswered ask so no one has to wonder if I haven’t answered their ask or if Tumblr ate it.
Oldest unanswered ask is from: January 26th
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your parents don't get to decide for you what does and does not count as private information about you that they are allowed access to.
when you're mad at your parents you should be allowed to leave the situation, and you should be allowed to be mad at them. Your parents don't get to control how you feel about them.
it's not normal to feel like you have to hide very basic information about yourself from your parents. it's not normal to feel terrified of expressing that your parents did something wrong, or that you dislike how they treat you.
It’s not normal to set a basic boundary over and over again only to have it breached over and over again. It’s not normal to have parents decide for you that your boundaries are conditional, and allowed to be violated under specific circumstances that you don’t agree to.
& it's not normal for any other adult to have this kind of power over you either. That includes every teacher, every therapist, every coach, every aunt and uncle, every grandparent, every person.
Anonymous asked:
I wish you a happy day! Let everything you planned for today go well for you.
Hey! Thank you, I really appreciate it ❤️
Anonymous asked:
Hey!
I am truly sorry you are currently struggling. I hope you will be doing well very soon. You are a very kind person and you deserve love, happiness and all good in the world.
I wish you happy new year.
Thank you, nonnie, I appreciate that, and I’m luckily already feeling better ❤️ wishing you a happy new year too, hope it’s full of many good things!!
Anonymous asked:
i am sorry you are experiencing the difficulty of being triggered. sending all my love and support to you through the screen <3
Thanks, I really appreciate it ❤️ thankfully crying helped get those emotions out and I’m a bit more regulated now
I have no longer spent all of 2025 without getting triggered lol. Yay
It’s really valid if you have big feelings about being neglected as a child or pushed aside. Even if it was for what some see as a valid reason (sick sibling, etc), it’s still okay to be upset by it and feel the effects. Someone else needing more doesn’t mean you deserved less.
Me, living my life without my family: This is going so well! I'm so happy! This is the best decision ever, and I really think I'm dealing with my emotions well!
Also me, whenever I see family showing affection to their children in media:
You deserve credit for surviving.
You deserve credit for trying.
You deserve credit for getting through the days.
You don’t need to be thriving, making strides and noticeable progress to deserve credit. While those things are wonderful and deserving of credit, you deserve credit now too.
Try and give yourself the credit you deserve.
