Man Angry After His Sibling Got Engaged 3 Days After His Wedding: 'Trying to Compete'

A man feels hurt and angry after his sibling got engaged three days after his wedding.

The sibling explained in a post on Reddit's "Am I the A------?" forum that they were proposed to at the Grand Canyon, which is just two hours from their brother's destination wedding that occurred three days ago. When the individual shared the news with their brother and his wife, he "responded with hostility." Instead of being happy about the proposal, he was upset about its location and timing.

"It looks like you're trying to compete. That is incredibly socially inept of him or both of you," the man told his sibling, according to screenshots of the original post before it was edited.

The newlyweds' "elopement ceremony" in Arizona had only 11 people total. When the poster and their partner extended their trip to get engaged so soon after the ceremony, the groom felt like they were stealing the spotlight.

"It's the action of doing it three days after the wedding at the same location" that was most frustrating to the groom, according to his sibling.

The poster is "truly failing to understand why" the couple is upset. But they realized that their brother was "advocating" for his wife because "she felt hurt," so they decided to text her an apology anyway.

"[I] explained that it was not our intent to encroach and just wanted to share the news with family and that it’s my belief that there’s room for happiness for everyone," the sibling wrote. "She did not respond."

This apology apparently wasn't enough because the married man doubled down on his frustration.

"[She has] a past that was supposed to make everything about that wedding much more meaningful. EVERYONE knows that weddings are about the bride. He could've absolutely planned around it," the man said of his brother's fiancé. "Hellishly stupid and selfish. Trust me when I say I'm biting my f------ tongue right now."

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Redditors in the comments section had mixed reactions, with some feeling as though the newlyweds were overreacting and others agreeing that the proposal timing was inconsiderate. 

"If I was on the first days of my honeymoon and instead of fully enjoying my newlywed bubble my sibling texted me not to tell me they hope I'm enjoying my honeymoon or congratulations on my marriage, but that they're engaged and instead of them congratulating me on my marriage they're trying to get me to congratulate them on their engagement, I don't know that I'd be the most thrilled in the world," one Reddit user admitted.

Another person argued in part: "Their reaction is WILD! Sure, it's rude to propose at someone else's wedding.....but that's not what happened. The fact that you and your fiancé got engaged a few days after their wedding, before you flew home....is a totally different thing. Also, the level of hostility in that message from your brother is nasty and definitely not normal."