So @star-anise as an account A Lot to deal with these days. I have a lot of old text posts on contentious topics (feminism, queerness, bisexuality, mental health etc) and a routine part of my week is seeing really hateful people popping up in my notes. I block them when I can, but it’s a perpetual game of whack-a-mole. I don’t want to delete my blog, though, or make my posts hard to access at their usual URLs, or completely lose touch with it.
Therefore: I’m going to do a lot of my blogging for now out of @beyondthisdarkhouse (or my fannish sideblog for The Untamed/The Old Guard/Murderbot/Zen Cho, @with-my-murder-flute). My askbox is going to stay closed for a bit and I’m going to be slower and more thoughtful about what I post here.
Sometimes people use “respect” to mean “treating someone like a person” and sometimes they use “respect” to mean “treating someone like an authority”
and sometimes people who are used to being treated like an authority say “if you won’t respect me I won’t respect you” and they mean “if you won’t treat me like an authority I won’t treat you like a person”
and they think they’re being fair but they aren’t, and it’s not okay.
OKAY I JUST HEARD THIS SPECIFIC POST QUOTED BY A MARRIAGE/SEX RESEARCHER ON HER PODCAST ANd I legitimately shrieked and almost fell of my chair when she said “to quote tumblr user flyingpurplepizzaeater” ugh we’re making it into Podcasts now. It truly never occurred to me that people would be quoting tumblr posts alongside published peer reviewed meta-analyses and boy howdy I’m both terrified and delighted
My marks on the firmament appear to be critiquing Mary Sue culture (even across the English-Portugese language barrier!) and Gifted burnout discourse (used specifically to point out that one has to be very longwinded to achieve sufficient nuance on the topic, which explains why Twitter specifically sucks as a platform to discuss it.)
I guess I’m okay with that? God knows they’re both subjects I put a lot of effort into.
I just need to be cranky about a theme I see in philosophy/self-help spaces. There is a related discussion going on elsewhere about consumerism, environmentalism, and economics, but that’s not the one I’m talking about right now. I’m talking about the advice given to people who are seeking to make their lives less better, less stressful, or healthier.
Anyway! My opinion:
A fundamental issue with ascetic self-improvement schemes like “Humans should just stop needing or relying on Stuff” is that we actually tend to be made of Stuff. Our fundamental experiences are mediated by Stuff. We live on a Stuff operating system, and the things we need often have to be in a compatible format. if you are getting rid of Stuff, then you’re actually just trading it with the Stuff of absence and workarounds!
This isn’t physics. We don’t live in an infinite plane without mass or wind resistance. There is not actually One Fundamental Principle that will lead all humans to happiness, the same way there isn’t One Fundamental Animal Food Recipe that will nourish all animals sufficiently.
I have just seen so many traps to toxic relationships and systems laid with the “no Stuff” philosophy. “Oh, you’re not happy after getting rid of Stuff? Clearly you still have too much Stuff left!” and “I just think your reliance on that Thing that makes you feel happier and less stressful is unhealthy, so give it here, the only solution is for you to lose access to it forever”
Of course there’s a baby in that bathwater; managing our relationships with Stuff is a constant struggle for all humans everywhere. But the absolutism without any nuance about how and why this issue actually functions really gets to me.
(I have been strongly informed that "Lobster Time" is much more SEO-friendly, not to mention less of a pain for everyone I work with who has to learn my system, than "The Freshwater Hungarian Crustacean Sensation." I have to acknowledge the truth and justice of those arguments. But it'll always be my little Crusty to me.)
Yes, I absolutely do believe it's worth taking a critical gaze at romance novels and films, where "critical" means "assessing and evaluating" and not "find everything wrong with it". And yes, I'm okay with men doing this too.
But also, I somehow think that if I, as a woman, launched a Youtube channel where I read military novels and watched action movies and invited military women to laugh with me at all their silly or improbable or problematic bits, I would not get nearly the same reaction as men reviewing EL James novels.
It's that annoying thing where one does not have to be intentionally misogynistic to be in a misogynistic system, and being on the internet often means that the audience, reach, and social impact you plan on having frequently bears no resemblance to the audience, reach, and social impact you do have.
Also there's a bit of an accountability paradox, where making gestures towards a movement, like feminism, seems to include in its social contract an implicit agreement to be open to criticism when one fails from a feminist lens. Which means that something that seems directed to a hugely female audience feels inherently like a more fitting target for feminist criticism than other things that are objectively worse, but have never made any gestures towards feminism at all.
People who know jack shit about romance novels get to "critique" them and laugh at them and point out how "problematic" they are all day long, but god forbid someone with actual expertise points out that they're Doing A Misogyny. And women do it to! We get people at popular romance conferences trying to package their Think Of The Children Women Are So Vulnerable hot takes on hockey romance as important science, meanwhile male fantasy fans explode into incandescent rage if you dare criticise their faves.
Romance is absolutely worth critiquing and I am the first person to do so (I have, in fact, published papers on the subject), but the smugness and hypocrisy and thinly-veiled sexism from people who are not at all experts in the genre are so incredibly tiring.
Other things that come to mind with this topic: True crime. I've been seeing criticism of it become more and more intense following the pandemic lockdown podcast boom, and the rise of women obsessed with the topic.
And yes, true crime, as the direct commentary on real life people's deep traumas, guilt, innocence, and fundamental rights, is a fundamentally problematic genre. How we tell these stories is the crux of everything; a legal trial is literally two narratives going to war with each other. Then the narratives and statistics of all these single cases get braided into a whole narrative that affects social attitudes and government policy. So yes, this does truly matter.
But I can't stop thinking about "Ripperology", over a century of feverish speculation about the identity and crimes of Jack the Ripper. The fandom's greatest hits include retired police detectives, amateur historians, East End walking tours, and a fish and chip shop named Jack the Chipper. The average history of the case is extremely whorephobic copaganda that's only really interested in the victims when they become corpses. Some Ripperologists become deeply upset when modern historians re-evaluate the evidence and come up with possible narratives that paint the "Ripper" as much less of a suave and deadly supervillain, into some creep who snuck up on homeless women when they were asleep.
Or "parasocial relationships". There has been a little bit of academic work on the parasocial relationships fans have with professional athletes, and how being the target of intense emotions and expectations and creepiness and stalking has been toxic and abusive to the athletes. But if you think Kpop stans flip their lids when they're called out on this, you should see NFL fans when it's suggested the rules of their beloved game should change a little bit to reduce the number of athletes retiring due to permanent brain damage, and also, being hated and abused by the entire city and/or country you live in is not going to increase a performance athlete's likelihood of doing an extra good job.
Additionally, I get the impression that a lot of guys aggressively dunk on E. L. James, Stephenie Meyer, etc., not just because they hate "girly" media, but also out of jealousy toward heartthrobs like Christian Grey, Edward Cullen, etc. (same reason my male classmates in middle and high school hated Justin Bieber and 1D so much)
I think this take veers a bit close to that ridiculous defence of The Last Jedi, because horse girls.
At the same time, I always feel weirded out by sports writers who think their work is more like political commentary, while I always think their work is somewhere between game reviews, TV episode recapping, and tabloid celebrity gossip.
And I always thought that
People who know jack shit about romance novels get to "critique" them and laugh at them and point out how "problematic" they are all day long
But also, I somehow think that if I, as a woman, launched a Youtube channel where I read military novels and watched action movies and invited military women to laugh with me at all their silly or improbable or problematic bits, I would not get nearly the same reaction as men reviewing EL James novels.
jenny nicholson got 7m views ripping apart one of those and half of the career of Mista GG, who I will admit is a man, is ripping into action movies for how stupid their scenes are
Jenny Nicholson also has a MASSIVE antifandom. There are soooo many people who flood her online platforms with hate comments, spend hours on stream ripping her apart, and plotting ways to maim her career.
When Lindsay Ellis got cancelled in 2021, the big buzz online was: Jenny Nicholson next. Jenny next. JENNY NEXT.
Not because she had really done anything wrong, except maybe chop Joker (2019) into pathetic little pieces with her characteristic wit and insight. Just because people hated her and wanted to see her torn down in the public eye.
I didn't say no reaction. It would absolutely do numbers! A lot of people would watch it and love it! And a lot of people would watch it and hate it and then LET ME KNOW.
Feminists being feminist in public have to face an extra load of pressure, hostility, and and contempt that male commentators generally see far less of.
And that goes double for military women, who aren't just seen as stupid ditzes, but also useless bimbos who obviously can't actually be skilled pilots, engineers, tacticians, sharpshooters, or anything else. Clearly they just floated to Sergeant/RSM/Lt Col/General on the sheer basis of tits and DEI. They're horrible human beings who will get the REAL servicemen killed through sheer incompetence and also why Western civilization is doomed.
And that's shit that men slagging off on Sarah J Maas just do not have to deal with in any great regularity or volume.
I’ve gotten absolutely no hint that you would! Your reblog seemed fairly supportive of the idea, since you were going, “Check out the people who have succeeded doing the thing!”
I just wanted to highlight an important part of my point, which is that both romance novels and action movies give lots of room for criticism. In a vacuum, either could be analyzed critically by any gender.
However, we don’t live in a vacuum. We live in a world where people grow up seeing vast cultural forces invested in the narrative that things women care about are trivial, unserious, and unproductive, while things men care about are vital, important, and worthy of time and attention.
So women grow up hearing society say in a million different ways that they should be ashamed of reading something as trashy as a romance novel, while men grow up hearing society say that war and violence are very important and they should admire and emulate masculine role models. Also, part of how men are socialized to use “masculine” traits, like violence, technical mastery, or nerdy interests, is the implicit promise that these things will make them look special and talented and unique, floating above women, receiving admiration and not worried about feeling inferior to them. Which means it’s way easier to attract dudes who are really hostile towards a woman who seems to be encroaching onto traditionally male territory.
So in that society, you can try to subject both genres to equal scrutiny and criticism, but reactions from the core fanbase and outside audience just will nooooot be the same. One group of creators/commentators will face a much heavier burden when it comes to operating on the internet and cultivating a good relationship with their viewers. Functionally, it will be much easier to make critiques of romance novels so ubiquitous that romance novel fans and authors deal with a lot of mockery, criticism, and outcasting in the industry, and much harder to assert female voices as worth listening to when it comes to traditionally male parts of life.
I’m not saying I’ll never do it! It’s one of the better ideas I’ve come up with lately. I just also have to be very aware that success will come with a lot of hazards that will be real risks to my mental health.
So this all is just… something I wish more dudes really understood, when talking about these things.
Yes, I absolutely do believe it's worth taking a critical gaze at romance novels and films, where "critical" means "assessing and evaluating" and not "find everything wrong with it". And yes, I'm okay with men doing this too.
But also, I somehow think that if I, as a woman, launched a Youtube channel where I read military novels and watched action movies and invited military women to laugh with me at all their silly or improbable or problematic bits, I would not get nearly the same reaction as men reviewing EL James novels.
It's that annoying thing where one does not have to be intentionally misogynistic to be in a misogynistic system, and being on the internet often means that the audience, reach, and social impact you plan on having frequently bears no resemblance to the audience, reach, and social impact you do have.
Also there's a bit of an accountability paradox, where making gestures towards a movement, like feminism, seems to include in its social contract an implicit agreement to be open to criticism when one fails from a feminist lens. Which means that something that seems directed to a hugely female audience feels inherently like a more fitting target for feminist criticism than other things that are objectively worse, but have never made any gestures towards feminism at all.
People who know jack shit about romance novels get to "critique" them and laugh at them and point out how "problematic" they are all day long, but god forbid someone with actual expertise points out that they're Doing A Misogyny. And women do it to! We get people at popular romance conferences trying to package their Think Of The Children Women Are So Vulnerable hot takes on hockey romance as important science, meanwhile male fantasy fans explode into incandescent rage if you dare criticise their faves.
Romance is absolutely worth critiquing and I am the first person to do so (I have, in fact, published papers on the subject), but the smugness and hypocrisy and thinly-veiled sexism from people who are not at all experts in the genre are so incredibly tiring.
Other things that come to mind with this topic: True crime. I've been seeing criticism of it become more and more intense following the pandemic lockdown podcast boom, and the rise of women obsessed with the topic.
And yes, true crime, as the direct commentary on real life people's deep traumas, guilt, innocence, and fundamental rights, is a fundamentally problematic genre. How we tell these stories is the crux of everything; a legal trial is literally two narratives going to war with each other. Then the narratives and statistics of all these single cases get braided into a whole narrative that affects social attitudes and government policy. So yes, this does truly matter.
But I can't stop thinking about "Ripperology", over a century of feverish speculation about the identity and crimes of Jack the Ripper. The fandom's greatest hits include retired police detectives, amateur historians, East End walking tours, and a fish and chip shop named Jack the Chipper. The average history of the case is extremely whorephobic copaganda that's only really interested in the victims when they become corpses. Some Ripperologists become deeply upset when modern historians re-evaluate the evidence and come up with possible narratives that paint the "Ripper" as much less of a suave and deadly supervillain, into some creep who snuck up on homeless women when they were asleep.
Or "parasocial relationships". There has been a little bit of academic work on the parasocial relationships fans have with professional athletes, and how being the target of intense emotions and expectations and creepiness and stalking has been toxic and abusive to the athletes. But if you think Kpop stans flip their lids when they're called out on this, you should see NFL fans when it's suggested the rules of their beloved game should change a little bit to reduce the number of athletes retiring due to permanent brain damage, and also, being hated and abused by the entire city and/or country you live in is not going to increase a performance athlete's likelihood of doing an extra good job.
Additionally, I get the impression that a lot of guys aggressively dunk on E. L. James, Stephenie Meyer, etc., not just because they hate "girly" media, but also out of jealousy toward heartthrobs like Christian Grey, Edward Cullen, etc. (same reason my male classmates in middle and high school hated Justin Bieber and 1D so much)
I think this take veers a bit close to that ridiculous defence of The Last Jedi, because horse girls.
At the same time, I always feel weirded out by sports writers who think their work is more like political commentary, while I always think their work is somewhere between game reviews, TV episode recapping, and tabloid celebrity gossip.
And I always thought that
People who know jack shit about romance novels get to "critique" them and laugh at them and point out how "problematic" they are all day long
But also, I somehow think that if I, as a woman, launched a Youtube channel where I read military novels and watched action movies and invited military women to laugh with me at all their silly or improbable or problematic bits, I would not get nearly the same reaction as men reviewing EL James novels.
jenny nicholson got 7m views ripping apart one of those and half of the career of Mista GG, who I will admit is a man, is ripping into action movies for how stupid their scenes are
Jenny Nicholson also has a MASSIVE antifandom. There are soooo many people who flood her online platforms with hate comments, spend hours on stream ripping her apart, and plotting ways to maim her career.
When Lindsay Ellis got cancelled in 2021, the big buzz online was: Jenny Nicholson next. Jenny next. JENNY NEXT.
Not because she had really done anything wrong, except maybe chop Joker (2019) into pathetic little pieces with her characteristic wit and insight. Just because people hated her and wanted to see her torn down in the public eye.
I didn’t say no reaction. It would absolutely do numbers! A lot of people would watch it and love it! And a lot of people would watch it and hate it and then LET ME KNOW.
Feminists being feminist in public have to face an extra load of pressure, hostility, and and contempt that male commentators generally see far less of.
And that goes double for military women, who aren’t just seen as stupid ditzes, but also useless bimbos who obviously can’t actually be skilled pilots, engineers, tacticians, sharpshooters, or anything else. Clearly they just floated to Sergeant/RSM/Lt Col/General on the sheer basis of tits and DEI. They’re horrible human beings who will get the REAL servicemen killed through sheer incompetence and also why Western civilization is doomed.
And that’s shit that men slagging off on Sarah J Maas just do not have to deal with in any great regularity or volume.
“make yourselves impossible to ignore. 10,000 signatures on twitter is a lot but 10 unique personal emails is enough to derail an entire council session.”
I was in a city council meeting last week about defunding the police and one of the council members mentioned multiple times that she’d been inundated with calls and emails all that day saying to defund the police.
[ID: Two screenshots of a twitter thread by alex flanigan, anti-fascist @Coff33Detective from June 12, 2020 beginning at 11:25 AM that reads: hi! i work in local government and community management, and i’m here to tell you a secret: it is like, really, really easy to overwhelm the people who work in your local government. especially right now. especially on things they can actionably do or impact.
you may not know this, but i bet your city or town or municipality has a website. i bet that website has some contact forms or email addresses on it. i bet you can use them to put together a message in about 5 minutes! i bet it’s almost as easy as signing a national petition.
which is to say: i’m noticing, like most other people, that the national level discussion on really important and long overdue issues is flagging. but the internet and news cycle is not the only battleground, and you will be pleasantly surprised by how easy it is to—
—fight those battles at home, on your own turf, with much more immediate impact, and they are so, so important.
I am begging you: make my job, and the jobs of people like me, difficult right now. flood us with demands. make yourselves impossible to ignore. 10,000 signatures on twitter is a lot but 10 unique personal emails is enough to derail an entire council session. End ID]
I’ve been a city council observer with the League of Women Voters for nearly a year, and I have witnessed the following:
A few guys voicing their anxiety about speeding on a street where their children play and suggesting a radar speed sign. Despite catching all of two meetings where this was mentioned, I walked back home one day and–yep–there was a radar speed sign up.
A persistent force of 3-5ish loud residents coming to zoning and council meetings because they did not want a drive through style restaurant moving into a particular area where there were already major issues with traffic congestion and safety. This eventually resulted in a Chik-fil-a having its planning proposal shot down by council such that the lot is now likely to house an Aldi. I am getting low cost groceries instead of bigotry chicken in my neighborhood because of a D&D party’s worth of regular speakers.
A turnout of residents shouting down an attempt to reduce the amount of funding for the community Juneteenth celebration until Council backed down. One meeting. Roughly a dozen people + their kids speaking about the significance of the holiday. The celebration ended up having its full funding restored.
In my experience, it is incredibly easy to bully local politicians and get some sort of results, especially in small municipalities. If you have something that you want to see happen at the local level, seriously try to contact your local officials and see what you can make happen.
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Youtuber DJ Akademiks was recently exposed by a video where he and several other influential men in the music and streaming industry tried to pressure a 15-year-old boy into discussing sexually explicit topics, proposed setting him up with a sex worker, and then asked his opinion on whether one of those men should have sex with him instead.
And the 15-year-old showed how far we’ve come in helping kids set boundaries. He just kept saying no. To this chat full of important and powerful men who could help him achieve the career he dreams about. He kept saying: I’m 15. I’m a kid. It’s weird for you to be so interested in the sex life of a teenage boy.
And FD says what I’m thinking: A lot of people are shocked and appalled because “Who would ever do something like that?” and “I can’t believe something like this actually happened.”
And like, really, y'all?
I’m with FD. This isn’t one guy being a weirdo. (Like, it is, but it isn’t). It’s extremist behaviour, but it’s still a natural extension of patriarchy we live under. The sexual abuse of boys rests on the bedrock of how patriarchy pressures them to prove their manhood and win the approval and acceptance of adult men.
I’ve heard stories like that all the time. From men in my family, male friends, male counselling clients, and scientific research on how common this shit is, what it looks like, and how damaging it is.
The fact is, a lot of this shit is so common that everyone will excuse and ignore it. DJ Akademiks himself has a history of sexual violence towards women. It took video evidence of a teenage boy clearly resisting him for large numbers of people to stop supporting him, and even that was probably because in the midst of his abuse and grooming, he threatened to have sex with the boy himself.
And that finally did it because lot of people out there are convinced that the real groomers and abusers are those queer degenerate perverts out there. Their logic goes; Talking about sex with women = regular locker room talk, boys will be boys, teaching him to be a man! What’s abusive about that??? Women can’t abuse men, after all.
They think it’s only abusive grooming when it’s gay. Or trans. That it’s not “grooming” to use massive social pressures and personal relationships with adults a kid trusts to make sure he is cis and straight and not a challenge to the patriarchy he lives in. Conveniently, it’s only grooming when it challenges the patriarchy, in which case it’s not about consent or autonomy; it’s because encouraging any sort of queer shit is ipso facto bad.
I’m gonna stop here before I start frothing at the mouth. Sorry for not writing as well as I could have. It’s just, if my apartment had wallpaper I’d be peeling it off in strips with my fingernails right now. I hate this shit so much.
“TO BE HOPEFUL in bad times is not just foolishly romantic. It is based on the fact that human history is a history not only of cruelty, but also of compassion, sacrifice, courage, kindness.
What we choose to emphasize in this complex history will determine our lives. If we see only the worst, it destroys our capacity to do something. If we remember those times and places—and there are so many—where people have behaved magnificently, this gives us the energy to act, and at least the possibility of sending this spinning top of a world in a different direction.
And if we do act, in however small a way, we don’t have to wait for some grand utopian future. The future is an infinite succession of presents, and to live now as we think human beings should live, in defiance of all that is bad around us, is itself a marvelous victory.”
[image: cropped tweet by SNeurotypicals. full tweet transcribed below:]
I am not disabled I just struggle sometimes with things other people don't generally struggle with and I have to develop elaborate strategies to get the same result
Great news! Belgium today becomes the first country in the world where sex workers can sign a legal employment contract and gain access to all employment-dependent social security (which includes saving for a pension, paid pregnancy leave, paid sick leave etc.). It gives sex workers more rights and makes them less dependent on the goodwill of their employer because they now have state protection through a legal contract.
Belgian sex workers have gained the right to sick days, maternity pay and pension rights under the first law of its kind in the world.
Lawmakers voted in May to give sex workers the same employment protections as any other employee, in an attempt to clamp down on abuse and exploitation.
The law, which went into force on Sunday, ensures that sex workers have employment contracts and legal protection.
It is intended to end a grey zone created in 2022 when sex work was decriminalised in Belgium but without conferring any protections on sex workers, or labour rights such as unemployment benefit or health insurance.
Under the law, sex workers have the right to refuse sexual partners or to perform specific acts and can stop an act at any time. Nor can they be sacked for these refusals.
I rambled about this in tags on another post but I can’t emphasize enough how only focusing on large-scale issues WILL lead to hopelessness & burnout. Activism must include small-scale, achievable works. If you don’t have something you can get your hands around and look at directly, despair will eat you alive.
I want to elaborate here for people who don’t think they’re capable of practical activism due to disability: what a LOT of volunteer groups need most is clerical and logistical support. Maybe you can’t get down to the river to pick up trash, but how about working the sign-up table? Or sending out email reminders or creating promotional graphics? How about making calls to the city to get funds for supplies?
Many volunteer groups rely on retired people to run their day-to-day functions, so as the economy worsens and retirement ages go up, charities are feeling the squeeze as their aging participants aren’t replaced. If you’re unable to work full-time due to disability but have the means to attend a zoom meeting once a month and take minutes, there’s an activist group that needs you. If you don’t have the financial means to donate to charities you care about, there’s a local advocacy group that needs help deciding how to allocate donation funds.
If you’re not sure how you or your disability can fit into a group, call and ask. My prison book group works from a basement that isn’t wheelchair accessible, so when I was unable to do stairs last year, I built them a database.
As someone who’s living is primarily made working for non-profits and arts organizations…
Fucking This.
And -starting- to feel the squeeze? Oh no. The squeeze started YEARS ago and the pandemic only made it worse. The last dregs of retirees who got to have an actual retirement where they could work a part-time job for free are dying and there’s no one to replace them.
Listen to me.
No one wants to do the thankless clerical shit. Answering phones. Answering emails. Sending out newsletters. Minding the calendar. Connecting brand new volunteers with the organization. Managing Quickbooks. Dealing with the budget. Keeping records. Keeping the website updated. Running a blog. Wrangling social media. Writing grants.
No one wants these jobs because they don’t feel good. They don’t feel like you’re doing anything. But they’re so crucial. If no one is turning in the 501c3 paperwork and making sure the donor emails go out on time, then there ain’t gonna be an organization for much longer.
But YOU can do this. If you rock up to any nonprofit with an office and say, “I can help, but I am disabled and can’t do physical stuff. But I can sit in an office, or work from home. I’m free on Mondays and Wednesdays. How can I help?” they will find you shit to do. And be SO fucking grateful. (do note how I put the boundaries in there… make sure you know and articulate your limits.)
It’s like that quote about “Everyone wants to save the world, but no one wants to do the dishes.”
Everyone wants to do the flashy stuff. Pick up trash. Make the art. Do the protests. But no one wants to make and maintain a spreadsheet of volunteers.
"Being treated like an enemy and a traitor because we had the temerity to survive is seemingly one of the core transmasculine experiences.
...Trans men are literally dying in the closet, just to prove to you how good they are, how not-toxic and not-sexist and not-selfish they are, how committed they are to "changing womanhood from the inside," how much they care about you and about women and about feminism – they're dying, and they're still trying to keep you comfortable, and you can't be bothered to care about them for one brief second. Take that thought home, sit with it, eat with it, let it sing you to sleep. What does that tell you about who you are?"
Trigger warning: JKR the faux-feminist. Transphobes, don’t even start on this post.
That aside, I was just reading Wikipedia, as one does, and the acronym here hit me like a wet sock.
ALT
Like, do you think she knew?
When she wrote Hermione’s arc as an overbearing self-righteous SJW ignoring the wants and desires of the people she advocated for, who… you know, do tons of unpaid domestic labour without even legal personhood, who she thought should be given proper wages and the right to leave abusive households…
I realize this is a really dumb point here. Obviously her “feminism” was never strong enough to overcome a lot of basic misogyny at any point, but it’s long since stopped being a tissue-thin veil over her transphobia. It wouldn’t actually matter to any of the other “feminists” she hangs around with if she had at one point had reason to know better than to make her bad point about misguided student activism so closely parallel the argument that women just LIKE being barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen all day and feminism was a mistake to begin with.
Nor would it make my opinion of her any lower, frankly. Clearly she’s still a bigoted celebrity crybully who thinks only women like her should get to throw punches.
But I’m still agog? Surely she didn’t know and just went for a silly pun. Back then she still thought she was a liberal. She couldn’t have.
The Mountain Goats just dropped this video. Guess they thought we’d need it.
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