WHO ARE YOU, REALLY?
WHO ARE YOU, REALLY?
When asked this question, most people respond by saying what they do for a living, where they live, or something like, “I’m Sam’s father,” or “I’m Jessica’s partner.” These are all perfectly good answers, but what they have in common is they identify you with places, activities, or relationships, which are outside of you as an individual. So we might want to ask, “Who are you inside?”
We often feel that who we have to be in public, in front of other people or when we’re doing our job, involves living up to other people’s expectations of us—of being who they think we are or should be. We might think of this social self as an accommodative,
