We do ourselves a real disservice by thinking that people who have the same identity as us are our community. Community is created; it is built. It is formulated over time, through trust and action and by living in unbridled joy.
Gender is a bit like clothing – some of us are very intentional with the clothes we wear. We have a lot of identity wrapped up in them. We think about aesthetics and design. Others treat clothes mechanically: “What can I put on my flesh prison today?”
Similar to clothing, we have normalised gender conformity in our modern lives. Because we have normalised the gender binary so deeply, we don’t even realise that we are performing gender. We don’t realise that we are subscribing to gender norms. We don’t see things such as going to the gym as being a form of
