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    Boundaries: When To Say Yes, How to Say No
    Boundaries: When To Say Yes, How to Say No
    Boundaries: When To Say Yes, How to Say No
    Audiobook (abridged)1 hour

    Boundaries: When To Say Yes, How to Say No

    Written by Dr. Henry Cloud and John Townsend

    Narrated by Henry Cloud and John Townsend

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    About this audiobook

    Is your life out of control? Do people take advantage of you? Do you have trouble saying no? Christians often focus so much on being loving and unselfish that they forget their own limitations. Have you ever found yourself wondering: * Can I set limits and still be a loving person? * What are my legitimate boundaries? * How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or money? * Why do I feel guilty when I consider setting boundaries? Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend give you biblically based answers to these and other tough questions, showing you how to set healthy boundaries with parents, spouses, children, friends, coworkers, and even with yourself. You’ll see vital principles of boundaries at work as Drs. Cloud and Townsend take you through a day in the life of "Sherrie"--first as she lives with almost no boundaries, then as she begins to apply proper boundaries with others in her life.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherZondervan
    Release dateNov 19, 2003
    ISBN9780310260059
    Boundaries: When To Say Yes, How to Say No

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    Reviews for Boundaries

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    What our readers think

    Readers find this title to be a mixed bag. Some appreciate the clear and relevant content, finding it helpful in establishing boundaries and maintaining relationships. Others, however, feel that the religious aspects overpower the message and make it less accessible. Despite the differing opinions, many readers find the book insightful and impactful, with some even considering it one of the best books they've ever read. Overall, the book offers valuable ideas and inspiration for dealing with people and setting limits, making it a recommended read for those struggling with assertiveness.

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    • 1/5
      I liked being able to finish it at 2x speed so that I could get through it quickly.

      1 person found this helpful

    • 5/5
      Having clear boundaries is essential to a healthy, balanced lifestyle. A boundary is a personal property line that marks those things for which we are responsible. In other words, boundaries define who we are and who we are not. Boundaries impact all areas of our lives: Physical boundaries help us determine who may touch us and under what circumstances -- Mental boundaries give us the freedom to have our own thoughts and opinions -- Emotional boundaries help us to deal with our own emotions and disengage from the harmful, manipulative emotions of others -- Spiritual boundaries help us to distinguish God's will from our own and give us renewed awe for our Creator -- Often, Christians focus so much on being loving and unselfish that they forget their own limits and limitations. When confronted with their lack of boundaries, they ask: - Can I set limits and still be a loving person? - What are legitimate boundaries? - What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries? - How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or money? - Aren't boundaries selfish? - Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries? Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend offer biblically-based answers to these and other tough questions, showing us how to set healthy boundaries with our parents, spouses, children, friends, co-workers, and even ourselves.

      1 person found this helpful

    • 3/5
      I first read this book in the 1990s, at about the same time I read The Joshua Factor. Cloud and Townsend integrate their psychological and theological understandings in a refreshing manner. It is unashamedly Christian in focus, but that need not deter the non-Christian from taking note of the lessons, and adapting the spiritual aspects to their own faith or spirituality. What I like about the book is the applicability of boundary lessons, especially to areas of one's life that are deeply familial and personal. This is the book's strength, and when combined with the psychological foundations and research, the messages are powerful. I am pleased to have re-read this book, and the timing was perfect. The quote I wrote down over and over again while reading this was "Own the problem" (p. 207). And Proverbs 19:3 kept coming back to me: "The foolishness of man twists his way, and his heart frets against the Lord" (NKJV). If the non-Christian reader can identify with the philosophical and spiritual bases drawn upon in the book, there is much wisdom to be gained. A work well worth reading as part of one's end-of-year reflection.

      1 person found this helpful

    • 5/5
      Front row placement on my bookshelves, so I can refer to it often. This book is beautifully written, with scriptural and historical data to explain and clarify sociological expectations and create more functional relations.

      1 person found this helpful

    • 5/5
      Great book, and condensed in 2 hours addressing key issues on boundaries.
    • 2/5
      A lot of commentary but not one practical tip to actually build stronger boundaries.
    • 5/5
      A must read. This one is at the top of my list!
    • 3/5
      I don’t think I put effort into listening to it. I feel like it was abit rushed but I enjoyed it
    • 3/5
      I enjoyed the book. I do think it was relevant. It went really fast for me, so I know I’ll have to re-listen to the book again.
    • 5/5
      Excellent book! I last read it years ago and I really wish I had reread it sooner. I highly recommend reading this book at least every couple of years.
    • 4/5
      Good book Thank you.Highly recommend. I will work on my boundaries and saying No
    • 5/5
      The best book ever I'm so grateful for the lessons I gained on setting boundaries.
    • 5/5
      Highly recommend, I have poor set boundaries and this also helps us understand why.
    • 5/5
      Insightful book , I hope to learn more about my boundaries
    • 5/5
      Very insightful. It helped me to understand my life and how to manage it.
    • 3/5
      synezze/sails legitimateissue kasper skay issue me credit card i love you so much like never see any one before god says thats wil not live the one who love him safe rule and regulation.t-1294-3320-887-3
    • 5/5
      short but powerful, a lot of inner healing, self control and awareness of self in this book.
    • 4/5
      I need to share this with my family ASAP they need to understand a few things
    • 5/5
      This book is interesting and insightful! It really made me realize alot of the ways I can set healthy boundaries for myself and that its an important thing to do.
    • 4/5
      Wow! Great book. It's snappy, simple and rich in setting boundaries and maintaining family ties and relationships outside the home front. Check it out and confirm yourself!
    • 5/5
      Just brilliant!!! A must have for anyone struggling with being assertive!
    • 5/5
      It's clear and relevant I really enjoyed listening to the audio book
    • 4/5
      This book is very well written, i loved every minute of it.
    • 4/5
      I had a good experience, didn't know much about this
    • 3/5
      Good until it hit the religion string, at least for me, instead of it empowering you it empowers the power of god over you and how you were created to have boundaries. Good but not for everyone
    • 4/5
      Good read. Not what I expected but good anyway. I'll recommend.

    • 4/5
      I liked it. Not too long go straight to the point.
    • 5/5
      One of the best books I've ever listened to. To think I am at a point in my life where I needed such motivation and push, God sent this book to me just at the right time and for the right reason. I want to listen to it over and over and over again. I have also learnt to look at the beatitudes in a completely different light. I saw my life flash before my eyes and God opened up every door of doubt and regret with proper revelations and teachings. Many thanks to these authors and special thanks to Scribd. Downloading this app is one of the best things I've done in 2022.
    • 2/5
      Too Christian for my tastes. The messages are largely good, but drowned by all the talk of what God wants.
    • 5/5
      A Sound and helpful book. Much needed in our everyday relationships