After All These Years: Our Gypsy Journey Continues

Chapter One

Summer Months

IWAS LUCKY ENOUGH to be born into a unique race of people, the Romani Gypsy race. Deep in the heart of Somerset, my family lived a nomadic lifestyle, as did our ancestors for hundreds of generations before us. Steeped in the culture and customs of our forefathers, we lived by tradition, travelling the roads and lanes not only of Somerset but of Devon, Dorset, Wiltshire and Herefordshire. Often we strayed into other counties too, either by intention or on a whim, seeking the all-important work that kept body and soul together. Mostly this was field work, or we’d hawk our wares and swag round the settled community’s doors: handmade wooden flowers and clothes pegs, scrubbing brushes, bootlaces and wax-paper roses, medicines and potions. We picked the edible wild berries to sell in season too, as well as mushrooms and many other things. The grand horses that was bred from our own faithful working stock was brought on and broke in as drivers and sold at our Gypsy horse fairs.

Thus we travelled and grew up. We had a peaceful sort of life. We entertained ourselves with singing and dancing. Children had very few toys if any — there was no room to carry such things. But then, come to think on it, we had no real need of them: we had all the trees, farmers’ gates to swing on and horses, dogs and little bantam chicks to play with.

Once we had pulled off the road and done our chores (such as fetching wood and water), our time was our own. Summer evenings would see us out round the fields and lanes picking baskets full of wild flowers for our mams to sell, or collecting the new shoots of herbs to make medicine. We never had a dull moment, really. Life was full to the brim. It was our life, the only one we knew, and the only one we could wish for. It may sound as though we chavvies (children) had very little time for ourselves — but that was far from being the case.

Our special time was when we gathered and sat round the yog (fire) - or when me Dad would whisper, ‘Keep quiet and follow me, I got some thing to show yis.’ It could be anything from a nest of young birds to a badger set where the very young badgers were at play or even a nest of hedgehogs filled with tiny young ones. And he would tell us all about the animals that he had shown us.

This was the way we learned, as he passed his knowledge of wildlife on to us. Life was very interesting: each day brought new things to see and learn about. As for working alongside our parents in the fields and hop gardens, we never really thought about it in terms of having to do it - we expected and accepted that it was part of how we lived. For instance, when we pulled onto the pea fields the first thing we chavvies looked for was buckets to pick the peas in, because buckets filled quicker than the pea nets and we felt we picked more that way.

As for having time to play, we had loads of free time, mostly in the evenings when we could wander off and do our own thing, so long as we didn’t get in any trouble such as falling in a pond or ditch — because if there was any water about we were sure to find it. It drew us like magnets.

I’ve always said we had the best of childhoods.

Looking back, there were three main stages to my life. The first was being reared and raised within a close, loving family, taught from a very early age how to get me living and how to survive by working the land and using our own Gypsy skills. I experienced the joy of watching me Dad and all the other men whittle beautiful flowers from an elder stick. Of sitting round our yog and seeing dozens upon dozens of wooden clothes pegs falling to the ground, finished and ready to sell. Of the smell of herbs simmering in an old black pot kept for just this very purpose to make the potions and medicines - some for us to keep for our own use and some to sell or barter away.

Living in the open air meant our cooking smells floated far and wide, giving many a gorgie (non-Romani) hunger pangs as they passed by. My memory of my childhood is fresh in me mind’s eye — the feeling of being looked after and safe from harm, feeling peckish but never what you would call hungry. Oh no, there was no hunger — the skills of the men and boys enabled them to catch fresh meat each day and then the best of cooks, our mothers, saw to all our needs. The Romani women were always ready to go out calling to earn bread money and could stretch a shilling a mile — filling her chavvies’ bellies would be uppermost in her mind, and after that maybe she’d get a bit of baccy for her man.

Spring and summer were the favourite times. Spring would kind of wake us up and bring the idea of setting off travelling to the front of our minds. Spring would mean new paint on the wagons. Mares would be waiting the last few weeks to have their foals. The long, dark winter nights and cold days would finally be shook off. It was a new beginning, waiting for the wild flowers to spring into life: snowdrops, daffies, bluebells, primroses and cowslips — all would be gathered in turn, bunched up and hawked round doors. And the little wild strawberries would be picked and used to colour and flavour medicines, as would the wild, sweet-smelling violets, especially the white ones. All through the year something or other would come into season to be picked and used for the good of all of us.

Sometimes we’d sell nosegays of buttercups and dandelions tied up with herbs - these two plants which everyone seems to think of as weeds but which should be given at least a second glance at close quarters. They really are beautiful flowers and so bright in their colours. The dandelion can be used in all sorts of ways which I am not at liberty to disclose. The reason I’m not at liberty to disclose these ways is that the herbs and plants we blend with them to make medicines and potions are known to us Romanies by different names from those of the settled community. If folks tried to copy a recipe they could very well pick the wrong plants and make themselves really ill instead of better. I can tell you that the old dandelion was used to make drinks, and the flower stem, which contains a sticky milky substance, was used with a mixture of other plants to make potions for horse ailments.

But I don’t think my community would be very happy if I wrote down any of these recipes. They have been closely guarded for hundreds of generations. It’s their private knowledge and it’s not for me to tell their secrets, so this knowledge will stay in the past, as it should. But we made full use of it when travelling the roads. Knowledge is a wonderful thing and Gypsies had a great deal of knowledge, especially about plants and their healing powers. This knowledge was not shared with the house-dwelling community; it was secret to the Romanies and a great deal of it is still closely guarded today. There is still so much people could learn from us, if we shared our secret knowledge.

The joy of being alive when I woke at dawn on a spring morning, with the songs of the birds and the smoke from our yog. Those spring dawns were a picture. Everything was green and fresh to the yock (eye). Beautiful wild flowers covered in early morning dew filled the hedgerows, banks and fields.

The best part of the day was lighting a big yog between seven and eight o’clock, cooking a fried breakfast and warming up round the flames: thick bacon sizzles in the cast-iron pan that hangs from the old kettle-iron. Sweet-smelling wood burns brightly on the yog. The kettle sings in the embers, ready to be poured on the tea leaves in the huge enamel teapot. That teapot’s big enough to fill many cups, once the tea has been left to soak, as we say.

These are the sights that greeted us each and every day as we climbed out the wagon and ambled to the yog for breakfast.

Bellies full to the brim, me and me Mam would set off to hawk the doors of the local house-dwellers, offering our bunches of fresh wild flowers for sale or a few gross of clothes pegs. Meanwhile me Dad stayed close by our wagon and grys (horses), looking after the rest of the family and making the next day’s pegs or wooden flowers. Every one of us pulled our weight — and pulled together.

The summer months were grand too. We chavvies could stay up later at night and wake up to the perfume of wild honeysuckle and the dog rose, for the wild perfume was best at night and in the early morning. Wildlife is dear to us still: each tree and bush had its own uses for us — to make medicines or on the yog to keep us warm — and of course the wild meat that fed us.

Autumn was the time of year when old Mother Nature thought, ‘These Gypsies have had it too kushti [good]. I’ll give them a taste of what’s to come, give them a bit of cold, wet and frosty weather to train them up for winter. I’ll blow the leaves off the trees to take their shelter and harden them up for all the snow I aim to throw their way.’ Oh yes, Mother Nature played a big part in our daily lives. Winter could be a wonderland: if luck was with us, deep snow would see us tucked away near a farm where the men of our family group would work for the farmer mush (man).

While the older family members grumbled about the snow and its drawbacks, I loved it. I enjoyed its beauty, its crispy glittering whiteness. During the day it would shine in the sunlight, but at night when there was only the glow of the candlelight in the wagon and the yog outside, the snow was a grand sight to see. It would gleam and light up the land as far as the yock could see.

My childhood had its bad times, such as when me Mam forced me and my older brother Alfie to go to school. How we hated being parted from the family wagon and grys, locked away for no good reason within four walls. And to top it all, the teachers never wanted us in their old noisy schools, so it was a waste of good time.

And we had sad times. Death has a habit of visiting my race too soon. Babies died at birth; mothers died birthing; children died by drowning or for the lack of medical help. And the old yog brought many deaths to young chavvies who caught themselves alight getting a warm from the fire. Me Dad lost a young sister to the yog. The death rate was high among Traveller children. Some would fall under the wheels of their wagons as they travelled — because we chavvies saw no danger and trouble often followed our antics. Accidents happened — silly, tragic accidents, but happen they did, and took the lives of the young. Parents spent a deal of time warning their offspring, ‘Don’t do this, don’t do that, mind the road, don’t go near the river, don’t climb the trees.’ Of so very many warnings that we had rammed into our heads we generally took little heed until it was too late.

But all in all we really did have the best of childhoods. Did we not have good, caring parents and the whole countryside to play in? And all the good life we chavvies had, it was our families that made it so.

The second stage of me life was when, at twenty years of age, I met and married a gorgie mush. Fresh out the army he was and full of life. He had deep feelings for me — he was to tell me it was love at first sight. All me life I had known a love of and for me family, but nothing anywhere near what was happening to me now. This was new to me, this was the love of just one person for another, not the shared family love I was used to.

By falling for me mush I hurt me parents to the quick. I had gone against my traditions and culture and married my gorgie mush as quick as lightning. He showed me a different kind of love and a different way of life from that of my heritage, and he helped me to have the best of both worlds.

The third stage of me life, and one that has lasted many years, was when I became a Gypsy activist, working for Gypsy families and trying to gain planning permission for private Gypsy sites. I seemed to be very successful at it and I really enjoyed the work — it also meant that I got to meet the younger generations of families I had travelled with when I was young, renewing old friendships. This gave me Mam a great deal of pleasure while she still lived — and as a result we got in touch with relatives we never knew we had. Such as Denny and Sallyann Smith of Cheltenham — close relatives of me Dad and a wonderful old-fashioned family who still built their own horse-drawn wagons. Alas, me Dad had passed away long afore so he never learned of their existence. Had he done, I know he and them would have been drunk as handcarts for a week.

It wasn’t easy breaking in to the world of planning. It drove me mad at times because I got so frustrated — my lack of knowledge knew no bounds, but I was determined to learn. I was desperate to help my community in any way I could and the best way to start was by helping to provide homes, permanent bases.

I had a good friend and teacher, Mr Brian Cox of South West Law in Bristol, who was a well-known Gypsy planning solicitor. He took me under his wing and taught me right from wrong. And my dear husband Terry gave me all the encouragement he could — and picked me up when it got me down. He would say, ‘If you believe in what you’re doing, my old gal, learn to roll with the knockbacks. Shake yourself off and get back in the fight.’

Me with solicitor Brian Cox on a site visit during a planning appeal.

This, then, is my story — told in the hope that by reading it people will see us Gypsies in a new light and come to a better understanding of my race, stop viewing us with suspicion and offer us their trust for the first time since we came to these shores hundreds of years ago. I would like people to see us as a race apart, a self-supporting community, who live by tradition and culture as far as today’s society allows. And I also want both them and my own people to know the price we have paid for being born and bred in the Romani community.

This is my second book on my life and community. Our Forgotten Years was published in 2009 by University of Hertfordshire Press (and later reprinted by Abacus as Rabbit Stew and a Penny or Two). I feel I need to keep writing because there is still so much of my life and culture I need to share, not only with the settled community but with my own as well. Our way of life has changed so much since my travelling days on the roads. I need to tell the younger generations of my own community how it was just sixty years ago and how things have changed for us in that short time. Young Romani Gypsies of today only hear our travelling tales from their grandparents and can’t get their heads round the idea of living in wagons and being on the move on a daily basis: spending most of that life sitting round outside fires; eating all our meals in the open air come rain, sun, snow or winds; hanging washing out to dry on a hedge after our mams had sat for hours scrubbing the clothes in a tin bath and boiling the whites in a bucket hung over the yog; making our living by using the real old skills such as making chrysanthemum flowers from elder, using brightly coloured crepe paper to make lifelike wax roses or cutting clothes pegs from the hazel bush; working from dawn till tea time out on the land, in all winds and weathers.

It’s hard for them to visualise this way of life as they sit in their smart caravans and mobile homes of today (either living on a local authority or private site), watching a flat screen TV and with the latest mobile phone stuck to their ears. They know nothing of the free feeling of pulling on to the open common land in a brightly painted wagon pulled by a beautiful sturdy coloured gry; collecting wood fallen from the old tall trees and dragging it back to light the yog so a very tasty meal can be cooked and eaten out in God’s clean air; enjoying the love of that closeknit and extended family and being told the tales of bygone days.

We must not forget these grand old days and the precious memories of a lifestyle that’s only now a memory in our old minds and an old tale to tell today’s young ones.

First and foremost, my race are a very private community of people: we like to keep our private business and our culture safe within our own community. This is an important part of our make-up, part and parcel of our unique way of life. It’s not that we Romanies are unsociable — far from it: we need to integrate to earn our living. We are family-orientated and do our utmost to keep it that way. In all creeds and races family ties are precious, but in our community they are even more so. We cling together because really bad, unforgettable things happened to us in past generations — things told again and again in our old tales. This has bonded us together for ever so that now we are one of the toughest groups alive.

There’s a chapter about these terrible things later in this book to help people understand what has made us this way.

For generations people have been fascinated by my race, the Romani Gypsies. Once a strange mush stopped to chat to us while we were all sat round the fire one night. He was full of questions, too many questions to suit Grandad.

‘What is you after?’ asked Grandad. ‘Why is you asking all these questions?’

‘Because I wants to write a book about you people.’ This is how Grandad told it.

‘Write a book about we lot?’

‘Yes,’ said the mush.

‘Well take my advice and go away and write about somebody else.’

‘But your life and ways