It Happened on Purpose: Value Yourself without Being Full of Yourself
By Paul R. Roy
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Paul has been writing articles on success and positive attitude now for five years preparing for the day he would write his first book It Happened On Purpose. Whenever Paul told his story listeners would always say you need to write a book. No one will believe it!
Paul’s ADD fueled a rush in and ask questions later attitude that took years to understand and harness. Two business failures, a firing from a public executive position and two marriages later, Paul still carries an optimism about life that is infectious.
Paul’s people skills and desire to succeed helped him grow business as a result of his entrepreneurial spirit. He is also a serial volunteer who embraces giving his time and money as a way to focus less on self and more on lifting others. He believes his many setbacks in life amplifies having empathy for those in struggle. We are stronger as a result of our setbacks.
This book is an extraordinary story of resilience and passion for life. We all love story tellers and this book contains so many nuggets they won’t seem like lessons.
Paul’s next book “Shoot and Aim Later” is planned for launch in the fall of 2017.
Paul Roy won the birth lottery but his life has not always been easy. As a child living with ADHD before it was a common diagnosis, taking on the waves in his first love, or dealing with the economics of corporate giants invading small towns Paul faced them all the same way - head on. It Happened on Purpose gives you the reader a chance to benefit from Paul's experience, he gives you a head start on the road of life.
Les Kletke, Author Professional Speaker, Writing Coach,
Winnipeg Alberta
I met Paul 10 years ago when he was first interested in business coaching. Having worked with Paul professionally I can attest that he is relentless in always looking to improve on his skills and to be the best he can be. Paul's book, It Happened On Purpose, is a testament to that commitment and a great blend of business and life skills and stories relevant and practical for any business leader - present or future.
Marilyn Orr.
Executive and Leadership Coach, Capacity Building Coaching
Founder and Co-Owner The Cedars Ranch, Green Wedding Venue and Wellness Retreat
Wimberley, Texas.
"Paul's book prods the status quo with a compelling and provocative premise that it is at the hand of failure that we discover our greatest riches and victories. Paul truly embodies a business leaders spirit of adventure, dauntless attitude and relentless resilience as he faces life challenges full-on. "It Happened on Purpose" is an archetypal gift of the hit story and a must read for entrepreneurs and others who need a boost of courage to persevere in the current economy."
Peter Davison, CEO of Gift of the Hit Publications Inc.
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It Happened on Purpose - Paul R. Roy
It Happened on Purpose
Value Yourself without Being Full of Yourself
Paul R. Roy
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Smashwords Edition
Copyright 2016 Paul R. Roy
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Smashwords Edition, License Notes
All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording or otherwise, without the prior written permission of the author.
The author has tried to recreate events, locales and conversations from their memories of them. In order to maintain their anonymity in some instances, the author has changed the names of individuals and places, the author, may have also changed some identifying characteristics and details such as physical properties, occupations and places of residence.
Layout and Design by Oak Island Publications
Cover design by Marianne Curtis
Published by Paul R. Roy
Published in Canada
Smashwords
ISBN: 9781370586547
Table of Contents
Endorsements
Acknowledgments
Chapter One – Winning the Birth Lottery
Chapter Two – Am I the Problem?
Chapter Three – Seeking Recognition
Chapter Four – In the Trenches
Chapter Five – Living the Dream
Chapter Six – Chasing the Dream
Chapter Seven – The Dream Takes Flight
Chapter Eight – Bucket and Cape
Chapter Nine – Humble Pie
Chapter Ten – And They’re Off
Chapter Eleven – Getting Traction
Chapter Twelve – Things Start to Slip
Chapter Thirteen – The First AHA!
Chapter Fourteen – The Darkest Time
Chapter Fifteen – It Gets Better
Chapter Sixteen – Leaving Land
Chapter Seventeen – Dealing with Mom
Chapter Eighteen – It Happened on Purpose
Chapter Nineteen – Pivitol Books
Chapter Twenty – I Can Make a Difference
Chapter Twenty-One – Brotherly Love
Chapter Twenty-Two – I Trust You
Chapter Twenty-Three – Seven Guests
Chapter Twenty-Four – Measuring Up
Chapter Twenty-Five – Peeking Over the Horizon
Paul’s Principles
About the Author
The wind will blow you in the direction it wants, unless you know how to adjust your sails.
Endorsements
Paul Roy won the birth lottery but his life has not always been easy. As a child living with ADHD before it was a common diagnosis, taking on the waves in his first love, or dealing with the economics of corporate giants invading small towns Paul faced them all the same way - head on.
It Happened on Purpose gives you the reader a chance to benefit from Paul's experience, he gives you a head start on the road of life.
Les Kletke, Author Professional Speaker, Writing Coach,
Buffalo Pointe, Manitoba
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I met Paul 10 years ago when he was first interested in business coaching. Having worked with Paul professionally I can attest that he is relentless in always looking to improve on his skills and to be the best he can be.
Paul's book, It Happened On Purpose, is a testament to that commitment and a great blend of business and life skills and stories relevant and practical for any business leader - present or future.
Marilyn Orr
Executive and Leadership Coach, Capacity Building Coaching
Founder and Co-Owner The Cedars Ranch, Green Wedding Venue and Wellness Retreat
Wimberley, Texas.
*
Paul's book prods the status quo with a compelling and provocative premise that it is at the hand of failure that we discover our greatest riches and victories. Paul truly embodies a business leaders spirit of adventure, dauntless attitude and relentless resilience as he faces life challenges full-on.
It Happened on Purpose is an archetypal gift of the hit story and a must read for entrepreneurs and others who need a boost of courage to persevere in the current economy.
Peter Davison, CEO of Gift of the Hit Publications Inc.
Acknowledgments
I have read so many impactful books in my life that they have helped mould me to who I am today. The old adage that a setback is a lesson rings true leading us to who we are and will become. I love public speaking and the book was at first a vehicle in which to gather speaking engagements. It has become so much more. I made the decision that the book needed to stand on its own, as a success unto itself. I enjoyed the process so much so that I have two more books planned.
I struggled with the notion of how could someone who failed English twice while in high school write a book. I learned a few things in my life and going to the pro’s when you know you don’t have that skill set is always a good choice. That being said I wanted this book to be 100 percent my words and short of grammar, structure and spelling edits they are.
My book writing coach Les Kletke is in himself an inspiration as well as an author. His technique in pulling the story and message out of me so I could piece each chapter together saved me from writer’s block. I could not wait to dive into the next chapter. It was after writing chapter six that Les said congratulations! You’re now a writer.
I will never forget those words Les. Thank You.
I meet my editor Joscelyn Duffy, who was doing the editing on a short story I wrote for another book project The Gift Of The Hit
in which I was a contributing author. I was impressed with her writing style and I knew it was Joscelyn who I would want to do my edit’s. She herself is an international ghostwriter and creative and she knew what it would take to give my story that extra polish. Thank you for your support and encouragement. You inspire me.
Marianne Curtis is also a best-selling author and chief creator at Oak Island Publications who pulled together an amazing theme for the front cover. I learned from Marianne that it’s also the presentation of the words that gives additional impact. Marianne was and is a huge help guiding me through the steps of self-publishing. Marianne. You’re the Queen of clarity.
Chapter One – Winning the Birth Lottery
Key Concept:
Longevity = Love + Purpose
Good roots create a huge advantage in life. They set the stage to start on your way up the ladder before a word comes out of your mouth. Born the third of four children, I came into this world smack in the middle of the baby Boomer generation. I had the good fortune to grow up in a happy and active family. I was the son of a successful doctor, who took after his father. My mother was a stay at home mom. She was the daughter of a successful businessman. She managed her own financial affairs with the efficiency of a CFO. Investing in the stock market was her passion. Mother kept things orderly in her ledger, just as she did for our family affairs. We were certainly a family of achievers. There was no middle of the road in our house. Adventure and life lessons awaited us every day. There were two schools in our house: the one we attended five days a week, and the school of life. My parents wouldn’t have had it any other way.
The good fortune of being born into my family brought with it a lifestyle in the upper middle class. We lived in a great neighborhood in Halifax, Nova Scotia, surrounded by successful families. Across the street was the Senior Vice President of one of Canada’s biggest breweries. Around the corner was one of the city of Halifax’s most successful developers. Our next door neighbor was a successful lawyer who sat on many corporate boards and was an advisor to two of Canada’s Prime Ministers – Lester Pearson and Pierre Trudeau.
At a young age, I was a very good sailor, winning the provincial (state) championships at various levels. I was a competitive skier and raced for the provincial team. I dreamed of being on the National Ski Team, but my best years racing came late, in my late teens. Sailing became my passion and has taken me to many parts of the world, both competitively, as well as recreational. I have raced to Bermuda twice, competed in seventeen Marblehead races between Boston and Halifax, cruised in the Mediterranean and the Caribbean Sea on several occasions and sailed down the coast of West Africa in a Transatlantic Yacht Race. I am fortunate to live on the ocean today and keep my boat in front of my house.
Growing up, we belonged to all the right prestigious clubs – The Yacht Club in the city, the Best Family Summer Club, the Saturday afternoon Family YMCA and the Curling Club. Not only did we belong to these sports clubs, we also held season tickets to the symphony and local theatre productions. My parent’s friends were wide and diverse. It was all part of their master plan to raise well-rounded kids to set forth into the world.
We had all the things we ever needed. Mom and Dad kept us fulfilled with new skis, bicycles, musical instruments, hockey equipment and the latest version of sailing crafts. To enjoy these things, we needed to perform in school and our music. We adhered to the time set aside to study and practice our instruments. I played the trumpet, attending private lessons each week and playing in the city youth band. Needless to say, we didn’t have the time to get in trouble.
One might think with all the toys my parents afforded us that I was given money. Not so. If I wanted money, I had to earn it. I had a healthy appetite for cash, so I did. I mowed lawns in the summer months and shoveled driveways and walkways in the winter months. I worked as a junior counsellor at the YMCA after school and taught sailing in the summer months once I was sixteen.
The same rules applied to play time in the yard or at the summer club: I was to practice my trumpet thirty minutes a day, six days a week. During this time, I can attest that it wasn’t easy listening to the other children in the neighborhood out playing hockey in the street or shooting hoops. There were days I wanted to throw the trumpet away and run away. I sometimes hated being taken to the symphony by my parents. I was often the only youngster there and didn’t enjoy the music. My practice paid, off as I won the trumpet section in the city music festival one year and played on closing night. The irony of all these music lessons was the day I no longer had to practice, I began to enjoy symphony music.
I had a woodworking business I ran out of the basement while I was in high school. It was just another step in my journey to becoming an entrepreneur. A neighbor and member of a rug-hooking and needlepoint group was telling me it was difficult to find frames required to stretch the material. This was back in the day before huge craft stores began popping up to service the craft types. I saw this as an opportunity to turn a profit. I liked doing physical things, and making rug hooking frames seemed simple enough. My dad enjoyed woodworking as a hobby so the necessary equipment was at my disposal.
The first twenty years of my life gave me a great understanding of self-discipline and a solid work ethic. I have struggled with delayed gratification most of my life, however, my determination and preparedness to do what was needed to succeed and achieve my goals always rose to the forefront. This attitude became the cause of some pain, knowing that if I over-extended myself, I would need to do what was required to right the ship. I watched my father go to the hospital on many a Christmas day to check in on his patients. He truly cared and was a doctor because he loved being a doctor. The money was a nice side benefit. It was his commitment to his job that I remember most. Thanks to my upbringing, I have achieved many of my life goals. I can directly connect this success to my parent’s insistence that only I am accountable for my success.
Money was not provided for education in our home. It was believed that if you wanted to go bad enough, you would find a way. Mom and Dad would be supportive through encouragement and they would find other ways to help financially. My father told me when I was in high school, I’m not giving you one red cent for university.
You should be in business. You have the people skills and the drive to be a success. He was right. I couldn’t wait to graduate from high school and get to work, gaining the skills I needed to own and run my own business.
The social network of my parents provided me the privilege to meet many influential people in both the private and public sectors. I loved hanging out and meeting successful people. I was like a sponge. I learned to emulate them, and they became the fuel on my road to achieving success. Many of my high school friends were the sons and daughters of extraordinary people. Real Estate moguls, construction heads, distribution company owners and the like. The sailing community was also a source of meeting achievers. As a teenager, I crewed on their boats and yachts. I wanted their lifestyle, and I knew that if I was going to have it, I would have to earn it. I wasn’t afraid of the challenge. I looked forward to it.
At the age of 26, my father and father-in-law loaned me the money to buy my first business. They became preferred shareholders with financial terms much like a bank. The most important thing I learned from them was that it’s the mentors and the successful people I looked up who were more valuable than the money that fueled me. It was proof in point that if you want it bad enough, you will find a way to make it work.
I believe that hard work can be a great equalizer. It’s important to work smart. It’s equally important to work hard. Sixty-five-hour work weeks became the norm in my life. One little thing I liked to do was go down to my store on Sunday mornings before church. I’d wash the windows and the front of the building. I enjoyed a clean look but I also wanted the community to see I took pride in my business. I was rewarded by being elected the Chair of the Downtown Business Association. A position I held for two years, before I was thirty years of age. I volunteered whenever I could. I chaired the Stewarts at my church. I was a Kinsmen. I believed beyond a shadow of doubt that if you give you will receive.
Yes, I came from two families of privilege. It would have been easy to pretend I was entitled to a soft and good life. Not so. I lived in a town where my Grandfather had been Mayor. He owned the newspaper among other businesses. There was, however a generation between Grandfather and myself. I needed to prove to the community I was worthy of their support. I was anything but lazy. The town we lived in was a blue collar town. There were no gimmies. You had to earn your support. You can’t buy respect. It’s earned.
Success is only impossible if you believe that to be so. It’s tough to sustain an easy lifestyle over the long term. Though, it will catch up to you. There is no template for success, other than to keep trying until you succeed. Failures create determination if you look at them as building blocks. Perseverance is probably the biggest asset a business person can have. We must have a purpose. It’s the foundation to a successful and happy life. We have all heard it takes 10,000 hours to excel at our career or job. That doesn’t happen on easy street.
Before my grandfather built his successful businesses he went broke in the 1920’s, when the shipbuilding business and the age of sail was overtaken by steel and steamers. The multi-generation family business went bankrupt. Grandfather started his new business selling hardware from a horse and buggy. From that he repaid his debts and ended up owning seven successful businesses throughout business career. That took guts and self-discipline. It is also said the best revenge is success. I