Sharing the Same Heart: Parents, children, and our inherent essence
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Children, Parents, and the Dharma all around us!
A collection of Dharma talks by Daehaeng Kun Sunim
Because you are inherently connected with your children and everything around you, as you entrust your problems to your essence, your foundation, the light that arises from this will also grow brighter within the other person.
So there's no reason to blame others. Instead, work on using your mind wisely. If you can go forward with this kind of wisdom, how could your family not be happy and successful?
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Sharing the Same Heart - Seon Master Daehaeng
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Foreword
About the author
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Foreword
One day I happened to meet Daehaeng Kun Sunim as she walked out into the main courtyard of the Seon Center. There were two or three young children playing there, chasing each other and yelling with abandon. They probably lived in the neighborhood, and had found a wide-open space for their games. But they were being kind of noisy in the heart of the temple, and one of the sunims with us grumbled about it.
But Kun Sunim spoke up, saying, I think it’s beautiful.
Even now, twenty years later, I still remember this.
It showed me an aspect beyond the surface, the noisy kids, beyond the temporary disruption, and nudged me towards a more complete picture. For play is a sign of healthy kids. It’s good for them, and it’s a pretty good world where kids have the time and energy, and safety, to run and shout.
There’s an expression in Korean, that when the headwaters of a stream are clean, the water downstream will be as well. It flows from the top. If the parents are working diligently at entrusting everything to the awakened true nature within us, which is also the connection we all share, then as they get a sense of this, their connection with their children opens up and becomes more vibrant. The children in turn respond to this, and as this energy flows back and forth, parents have a better sense of what they need to be doing.
Thus, while Daehaeng Kun Sunim often encourages parents to teach their children about this practice of relying upon our foundation, she spends most of her time talking with the parents, encouraging them to work on their half of things.
To be honest, there’s only so much parents can do. Children come into this world with their own personality, history, and karma. As any parent can testify, beyond a certain point, you can’t really make children do much. Yelling and threatening are always temptations, but even when they yield results, everyone involved is often left feeling a little terrible.
Instead, as we begin to discover the light within us, our own inherent teacher, then we begin to get a better sense of the situation, and how to respond effectively. We begin to see what we can do to help bring forth this light in others. And as our own light begins to shine forth, children too begin to sense this. They learn from how we respond to them, but they also learn from how we treat others and how we respond to the things that come up in our life.
In addition to the need for parents to work on their own spiritual practice, Daehaeng Kun Sunim also answers questions in these Dharma talks about prenatal care and education, and specific issues between parents and children. Because fetuses and young children are changing so rapidly, the positive influences they receive at this time are magnified throughout their life, so to her, this was an excellent opportunity to help deepen a child’s potential for spiritual growth.
When the energy of our own fundamental Buddha nature shines bright, then it can automatically connect with and support the people in our lives. And as children experience the taste of this energy, that becomes a standard, an idea of what’s possible, and so they don’t easily fall into dark paths. And while the topic of this book is children and parents, this is also true for the people around us.
When our hearts and spirits are bright, that light shines on everyone we encounter. And while we’ll likely never know the effects of this, just by being in the world, we can be a source of hope and compassion for others, whether they be our children, parents, or just passing by on the sidewalk.
May all beings realize this light for themselves, and awaken to its power, joy, and compassion.
with palms together,
The Hanmaum International Culture Institute
Buddha’s Birthday, 2561 (2017 C.E.)
Faith in Action
July 16, 1995
When I woke up this morning and heard the rain pouring down, I was worried about the people who would be sitting outside listening to the Dharma talk.¹ However, the rain has since stopped and I think it’s because so many of you raised a sincere intention that it should.
Someone asked me, Why are you only teaching people about using spiritual practice to solve problems in their daily life?
² Right? You’ve probably all heard something like this. However, the act of seeing something, hearing something, moving your body – all of this is the functioning of your foundation, your Buddha-nature. All of the interactions, all of the movement of everything in this world, including the universe itself, is the functioning of our foundation. There’s no place this isn’t true, and there’s no time this hasn’t been true.
So, when we try to shape and moderate our ordinary activities by relying upon our foundation, this itself is spiritual practice. When you respond to what you’re seeing and hearing by giving rise to a wise thought and entrusting it to your foundation, this too is spiritual development. If we were to ignore the functioning of our fundamental mind³ as it fills the world around us, how could any growth be possible?
The Heart Sutra says, Form is emptiness, emptiness is form,
doesn’t it? This is what we’ve just been talking about: that everything is an interconnected whole, constantly flowing, where nothing remains fixed or unchanging. We are here today to learn this, and how we can apply this truth to our lives.
Right now, everything in your bodies is ceaselessly moving, and there’s not a single part of this that isn’t the functioning of your inherent nature. Even the blink of your eye is the functioning of your inherent nature. Living and breathing itself are the functioning of this nature. Because the Korean word for functioning
also sounds like the word for Dragon,
people used the idea of The Dragon Spirit
to represent the great power that comes from this ceaseless manifesting. Yet if you take this flowing and moving whole, and try to understand it through your own fixed ideas and opinions, how could you make the least bit of progress in your practice?
We are able to live together as one with the universe because the foundation of our life is connected to the foundation of the universe. This is the source of life that exists within each of us. We can call this our essence, or our foundation, or our Buddha-nature, whatever you like. It isn’t something that belongs to only a particular individual; rather, it flows through everything in the universe, and through it, all things and lives are connected. There’s nothing that isn’t part of this.
It’s like how electric current can be split apart and transformed, and used in a thousand different ways to make our world a better place. Even in the air, even in the sky, things are changing and transforming through the energy of this Buddha-nature. Rain, snow, and wind all arise through this process.
We’ve gathered here today, as Dharma brothers and sisters, to learn how to make use of this fundamental energy and free ourselves. This is what the Buddha taught. But he also cautioned that if you get lost in analyzing things that inherently can’t be split apart, you won’t attain anything, nor will you be able to grow and develop.
There are a lot of sutras, aren’t there? Such as the Flower Ornament Sutra, the Lotus Sutra, the Thousand Hands Sutra, and the Heart Sutra, which itself includes the deep meaning of all the other sutras. But the many things these sutras teach all arise from the same fundamental truth. It’s all descriptions of the same thing. So, if we try to label or define everything in our daily life, as if they were separate things, how could we ever learn about this always-flowing foundation?
If you have a family, then you find yourself naturally switching between the role of a father, to a husband, to a brother, don’t you? This is the way our fundamental one mind⁴ functions –ceaselessly manifesting and changing according to needs and circumstances.
This one mind, which can also be called Buddha,⁵ is within us, and is what enables everything to function together. Because this mind within us can give rise to intentions that are subtle and profound beyond imagining, it can be called Buddha. Because this mind can give rise to intentions beyond number, it is Buddha. Because this mind can see and hear anything,