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    The Courage to Be Disliked: The Japanese Phenomenon That Shows You How to Change Your Life and Achieve Real Happiness
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    The Courage to Be Disliked: The Japanese Phenomenon That Shows You How to Change Your Life and Achieve Real Happiness
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    The Courage to Be Disliked: The Japanese Phenomenon That Shows You How to Change Your Life and Achieve Real Happiness

    By Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga

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    • Interpersonal Relationships

    • Adlerian Psychology

    • Personal Growth

    • Happiness

    • Freedom

    • Self-Discovery

    • Mentorship

    • Coming of Age

    • Philosophical Debate

    • Inner Conflict

    • Inner Struggle

    • Carpe Diem

    • Intellectual Debate

    • Power of Friendship

    • Hero's Journey

    • Separation of Tasks

    • Community Feeling

    • Courage

    • Philosophy

    • Self-Acceptance

    About this ebook

    “Marie Kondo, but for your brain.” —HelloGiggles
    “Compelling from front to back. Highly recommend.” —Marc Andreessen, venture capitalist and founder of Andreessen Horowitz

    Reading this book could change your life.

    The Courage to Be Disliked, already an enormous bestseller in Asia with more than 3.5 million copies sold, demonstrates how to unlock the power within yourself to be the person you truly want to be.

    Is happiness something you choose for yourself? The Courage to Be Disliked presents a simple and straightforward answer. Using the theories of Alfred Adler, one of the three giants of twentieth-century psychology alongside Freud and Jung, this book follows an illuminating dialogue between a philosopher and a young man. Over the course of five conversations, the philosopher helps his student to understand how each of us is able to determine the direction of our own life, free from the shackles of past traumas and the expectations of others.

    Rich in wisdom, The Courage to Be Disliked will guide you through the concepts of self-forgiveness, self-care, and mind decluttering. It is a deeply liberating way of thinking, allowing you to develop the courage to change and ignore the limitations that you might be placing on yourself. This plainspoken and profoundly moving book unlocks the power within you to find lasting happiness and be the person you truly want to be. Millions have already benefited from its teachings—now you can too.
    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherSimon & Schuster
    Release dateJan 1, 2019
    ISBN9781982107079
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    The Courage to Be Disliked: The Japanese Phenomenon That Shows You How to Change Your Life and Achieve Real Happiness
    Author

    Ichiro Kishimi

    Ichiro Kishimi was born in Kyoto, where he currently resides. He writes and lectures on Adlerian psychology and provides counseling for youths in psychiatric clinics as a certified counselor and consultant for the Japanese Society of Adlerian Psychology. He is the translator, into Japanese, of selected writings by Alfred Adler—The Science of Living and Problems of Neurosis—and he is the author of Introduction to Adlerian Psychology, in addition to numerous other books.

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    • 4/5
      Excellent and timely introduction to the work of Adler.
    • 5/5
      Really interesting book. An interesting way of writing an introduction to Adler's psychology
    • 3/5
      Written in the stilted "dialogue" meant to emulate Plato, long passages of this book felt interminable as the wise teacher batted aside straw men of ego, fame and honor. Still, the underlying idea that our freedom to be ourselves lies in our ability to seek our value through duty to others while also accepting that we can not work to please others is a compelling one for me.
      I'd say skip this short book unless they come out with an abridged version.
    • 3/5
      This is an interesting book and throws up many challenges to our way of thinking. It addresses our self-concepts and asks us to reassess the way we go about our lives.

      I am not familiar with Adlerian philosophy, so I must take the author's word and interpretation.

      He used the Platonic tool, of a dialogue, effectively.

      The book started well, but as it progressed, I felt that much of the material was tautological. This diminished the value I would have otherwise gotten from the book.
    • 5/5
      First, an admission: I bought this book as a joke, not seriously intending to read it. 'The Courage to be Disliked'? Crazy. But then I actually started reading it, and within pages I was hooked.

      Like almost everyone I can think of, I am familiar with the name Sigmund Freud, and of his impact on the world of psychiatry and psychology. His theory that all present problems can be traced back to a root cause is compelling and clearly understandable.

      But most importantly, it might very well be wrong.

      In this fascinating book, Kishimi introduces the reader to the work and philosophy of Freud's contemporary, Alfred Adler. He turned Freud's logic on its head, suggesting instead that we use our current state as an excuse not to change. For example, somebody who is depressed might say that they are depressed as a result of a failed marriage, or that they were never loved as children. But this way of looking at things will simply prevent positive change from happening: you cannot change the past, and therefore the future is already written for you. Adler instead said that a depressed person is using their depression as an excuse not to be depressed - or in other words, there are benefits to the depression that outweigh fighting against it.

      At first, this sounds quite ridiculous, not to mention downright insensitive. But as you probe the argument, you find that it is rather more sensible than it first seemed: a depressed person does not have to take risks, such as trying to go out and find somebody to date. If you try asking somebody out, you can easily be rejected, and that causes pain; but if you say you are too depressed to even attempt change, you are protected against the risk.

      The courage spoken of in the title of this book then is not so much that you go out of your way to be disliked, but that you come to an understanding of who's task it is to do the disliking. You cannot make people like you - you can only live in such a way that being liked or disliked matters little to you and your sense of self.

      This was the first time I read the name Adler; I doubt it will be the last. My curiosity has been piqued, and I want to know more, for here I seem to have found an approach to living my life that I can really get onboard with.