The Book of Comforts: Genuine Encouragement for Hard Times
By Kaitlin Wernet, Rebecca Faires, Cymone Wilder and
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When someone is grieving, what should you say? How can you help? How do you comfort without offering shallow platitudes? The Book of Comforts stands in the gap between suffering and hope, offering readers the abiding comfort found in Scripture and personal experience.
The Book of Comforts is unlike other books on grief--with beautiful four-color interiors and an inviting format with brief devotions. Readers will gain:
- Long-term comfort from scripturally focused entries
- A deeper understanding of their grief, loss, and pain, and discover the richness of God's love
- A meaningful way to walk through hurt, heartache, challenges, and difficulty through the truth of God's Word
Scripture deals plainly and honestly with suffering and simultaneously points people to the rich hope we find in God. The Book of Comforts is a beautiful and comforting gift for those in hard places--because even though we don't always know what to say, the gift of divine consolation is always helpful.
Kaitlin Wernet
Kaitlin Wernet is a storyteller surrendered to hope. Forever passionate about holding the tension of darkness and light, she is grateful for the Good News that acknowledges and redeems both. With a journalism degree from the University of South Carolina, she spends her days writing everything from marketing strategies and prizeworthy puns to nonfiction essays and She Reads Truth devotionals. Living in Nashville, Tennessee by way of Asheville, North Carolina, she’s always planning her next big travel adventure but vows to only plant roots in cities that rhyme.
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The Book of Comforts - Kaitlin Wernet
FOREWORD
It’s hard to believe that, as I write this, my daughter Audrey would be ten and a half years old. I’m not sure what to make of that; it feels far away and close at the same time. Halfway through my pregnancy, what was supposed to be a standard ultrasound became the hardest appointment of my life.
She will not survive after she is born.
She is incompatible with life.
There were a host of other words, I’m sure. I remember them in bits and pieces. More than anything that was spoken out loud, what I will never forget is the way I stared at the fake flowers on the table in front of me. They matched perfectly. Too perfectly. I remember thinking that. It’s strange how your mind works when you’re being confronted with thoughts that are too big to comprehend in the moment.
For months I carried her, and we waited. We asked for a miracle, but it isn’t what He had for us. We got to keep her for two and a half hours in this life, but I know we’ll add on to that painfully small amount one day. It would be a lie if I said I don’t still have moments of anger and confusion, and it would be an exaggeration to say that I’ve found complete peace.
I guess I’m comforted by the fact that many people I meet say the same. It doesn’t make me a woman who doesn’t love and trust God; it makes me a human being who can feel the ache of this life.
So what do we do with all of this? I’ll tell you what we don’t do: we don’t burrow it away and allow ourselves to move farther and farther from God in our grief. In the midst of the pain, we have the opportunity to push back on the lies and press into the truth. He is good. I say that often, even if I don’t fully understand why my version of good looks so different than His sometimes.
This is grief.
The longing for peace—if even for a moment. The feeling of comfort—if even for a night. We want to be reminded that it won’t last forever, but how?
The answer, of course (you saw this coming, didn’t you?), is the Word of God. I confess that I often fail to give the words the honor they deserve. I admit that I tend to go elsewhere when I’ve been hurt or disappointed. Maybe you do as well?
After we lost Audrey, people wanted to help so badly. They brought casseroles and told us they were praying and offered to watch our kids so we could be alone to process our emotions. They gave advice (that was not always helpful) and held us when we cried.
What I heard, over and over again, was that they didn’t know exactly what to do to help. The honest answer? Make it right again. Make things the way they were before.
And the truth is that they were asking because they knew that they were helpless when it comes to the kind of help we longed for most. They felt paralyzed by the lack of ability to comfort, affirm, and empathize.
There aren’t many offerings that genuinely feel like comfort. Of course there are books about loss and grief. There are practical, bullet-pointed lists designed to help you work through your sadness. But in all honesty, they weren’t the things that were the most helpful to me.
If someone had handed me a book like this, I would have smiled and said thank you. I would have been grateful that I had something beautiful and full of truth and a reminder of the communal aspect of grief. Kaitlin, Rebecca, Caleb, and Cymone have done a spectacular job of putting together a beautiful, heartfelt book that invites the reader into a place where every emotion is accepted.
I hope that as you read, you remember that while all of our stories differ in circumstance, they don’t differ in the common goal: to find comfort in the God of the universe through the love letter He wrote for all of us. Turn the pages and ask to find Him there. Hold this book in your hands as a reminder that you aren’t alone.
Your sisters and brothers are standing with you, fighting for you, cheering you on to a place where your soul feels like it settles a little.
I pray you find that here.
Angie Smith, nationally recognized Bible teacher and bestselling author of Seamless: Understanding the Bible as One Complete Story, Chasing God, and What Women Fear
Authors’ Note
Dear Reader,
This book began the same way we hope it will end: as a conversation around the dinner table.
The four of us who worked on this book, and passed a basket of warm bread around a wooden outdoor table that day, don’t have a lot in common. And yet, although our families, careers, and life stages are very different, our unlikely friendship began at the intersection of four individually and collectively painful seasons—griefs that we’d been carrying quietly. From a sudden loss to the surprises that came along with adoption to the ache of packing up and starting over, we didn’t understand what one another was going through, and we definitely didn’t know the words to say.
And then we found them. They were God’s words. We based this book on the big idea in David’s Sixty-Third Psalm: our comfort comes from God alone. But that sentence, taken by itself is hard to hang your hat on. How does comfort come from God? What does that comfort look like? And is He really the only true source of comfort? What about baths, chocolate, and ice cream?
The Book of Comforts was written not only out of the frustration and isolation that comes with the various aches and pains of being human, but also the simple collective refrain we can’t hear often enough: He is our true comforter.
It was important to us that, from beginning to end, this book was a step away from grief books tied neatly in a bow or the dismal black and grays found in advice on suffering. We wrote these essays as honestly as we could, wrestling with the tension between temporal grief and the everlasting promise of comfort.
We hope that our vulnerability encourages you to join in and sit with others in their grief, to share your own stories. We’re certainly in this together. We’re not in this alone.
In the midst of our own terrible messes, we have come to know intimately the comfort of God. The redemptive arc of the gospel doesn’t shy away from dealing with real suffering and sorrow. Christ came to bear our griefs and carry our sorrows. He is not scared by your deepest pain. He is our greatest friend and comforter. We hope this is a book you’ll feel comfortable putting in the hands of your friends and family members when you don’t understand the pain they are experiencing, and you don’t know what to say.
Use this book as a daily guide, or open it anytime you need an extra reminder of God’s hand of redemption. May we find the words of comfort in these pages together.
Caleb, Rebecca, Kaitlin, and Cymone
Summertime 2018
Comfort IN God Alone
You, God, are my God,
earnestly I seek you;
I thirst for you,
my whole being longs for you,
in a dry and parched land
where there is no water.
PSALM 63:1
There is no genuine consolation but in God alone. For every need, He is the supply. For every wound, He is the cure. For every failing, He is the remedy. Is your well dry? Run to the Fountain of Life (Psalm 36:9). Is your way unsure? Listen for the sound of your Shepherd’s voice (John 10:14–16). He promises to those who knock, the door will be opened; to those who seek, He will be found (Matthew 7:7). God alone is our comfort, and He supplies our every need.
CALEB
1
And even the very hairs of your head are all numbered.
MATTHEW 10:30
I hope that heaven is just one joyful realization like this after another: even our hairs are numbered by our Father. The concept of numbering the hairs on our heads may be common knowledge to us, but I wonder how Jesus’ followers felt the very first time they found out. They must’ve been shocked that something as seemingly meaningless and mundane as hair was an intricately designed reminder of our Creator’s care and compassion placed on top of our heads.
I can’t wait for the "So that’s how that works! and
Oh, I see why You did that!" moments in eternity, but what I’m most looking forward to is finding the same refrain in every answer: He loves us, He loves us, He loves us.
KAITLIN
2
The L
ORD
will be at your side and will keep your foot from being snared.
PROVERBS 3:26
I’m always trying to steer my own feet toward safety. Manhole without a cover? No problem—veer left. Sharp cliffs over there? I’ll hug the wall, thank you. It’s a little harder to keep