Be Wise Now: A Guide to Conscious Living
By Gael McCool
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In Be Wise Now, Gael McCool helps you discover—and learn to use—your natural and acquired gifts and strengths so you can deal decisively with the obstacles that life delivers daily to your doorstep and inbox.
By learning how to listen faithfully to the deep wisdom that already resides inside you, you'll begin to realize that no hurt has ever destroyed your essence and that no challenge or setback has ever truly beaten you.
After reading this helpful guide, you'll know how to honor and make use of the life lessons and opportunities that have—and will continue to—come your way. You'll be empowered to engage in conscious living as you transform yourself and the world around you.
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Be Wise Now - Gael McCool
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Copyright © 2019 Enlightened Emotional Living, Inc.
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Disclaimer
This book is presented solely for personal growth and self-development purposes. The author is not offering it as a substitute for therapeutic, medical, or other professional advice. Every personal development approach is different, and the advice and strategies contained herein may not be suitable for your situation. Every effort has been made to give appropriate credit to the people cited in this book. If there have been any errors or misattributions, it has been accidental, and the author will make appropriate adjustments on notification.
ISBN: 978-1-5445-0209-0
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For Nico and Jesse,
who helped me to see the light.
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Contents
Acknowledgments
Introduction
1. The Deeper Story of Your Soul
2. The Deeper Story of Your Embodied Self
3. The Deeper Story of Your Survival Self
4. The Deeper Story of Your Emotional Self
5. The Deeper Story of Your Intuitive Self
6. The Deeper Story of Your Imaginative Self
7. The Deeper Story of Your Intellectual Self
8. The Deeper Story of Your Social Self
9. The Deeper Story of Your Wounded Self
10. The Deeper Story of Your Ego
11. The Deeper Story of Your Self-Critic
12. The Deeper Story of Your Shadow Self
13. The Deeper Story of Your Dreaming Self
14. The Deeper Story of Your Narrative Self
15. The Deeper Story of Your Integrated Self
Conclusion
Appendix 1: The Deeper Story Questions for Each Aspect of Self
Appendix 2: Multiple Intelligences
Appendix 3: Arcs of Development
Appendix 4: Symptom, Process, Integrated Result
Appendix 5: Therefore, I Am
Additional Resources for Each Aspect of Self
About the Author
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We don’t receive wisdom; we must discover it for ourselves after a journey that no one can take for us or spare us.
—Marcel Proust
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Acknowledgments
My first debt of gratitude goes to my clients, who nudged, cajoled, and encouraged me to write this book. The writings here are based on everything they taught me about deep listening. For the rare gift of their trust, I am sincerely grateful.
Next, I wish to acknowledge my most important teachers: my children, Nico and Jesse. More than anyone else, they taught me the meaning of unconditional love and accountability. When you raise children to be truth tellers, watch out! They will hold your feet to the fire. For keeping mine warm all these years, I thank you both from the depths of my heart.
So many people offered their unconditional mental, emotional, spiritual, and material support along the way. Thanks go to Teri McArter, for being my muse and sounding board; Sandie O’Brian, for her generous material and spiritual support; Diane Johnson, for holding the space and for her endless encouragement; Karin Konstantynowicz, for resourceful assistance; and Fran Diamond for her loving editorial ear. Thanks also to the women who helped me define this material through courses and retreats, especially Jacqueline Peters, Leah Rowntree, Bonnie Wilson, Teri Tatchell, and Jennifer Johnson. To my writing group buddies, Sandi Bojm and Mary MacDonald, I can only say thanks for keeping my feet on this path. Thanks also to Caroline Durstan for providing a healing space in which to write.
There have been many positive influences on my work, but recently the contributions of three women stand out: Cindy Wigglesworth of Deep Change and author of the SQ21: The 21 Skills of Spiritual Intelligence; Laura Belsten, the founder of the Institute for Social and Emotional Intelligence; and Bonnie Bright, the founder of the Depth Psychology Alliance.
I also want to acknowledge my late friends and mentors, Dr. Ted Merrill, Bill Merrill, and Navajo Elder Leon Secatero, whose influences continued to affect me through this entire project. Thanks also to Drs. Ed and Julia Levy for believing in me and challenging my ideas.
I was privileged to have the invaluable editorial assistance of Mary Beth Conlee, who helped me breathe life and organization into this book, and who immeasurably improved the quality and clarity of my expression in it. Her patience and persistence were a godsend. I also want to acknowledge Tamara Cooper, who designed my graphic for the multidimensional self.
A special expression of heartfelt gratitude goes to my husband, Doug Allan, for the loving and supportive way he listened deeply and advised gently, which made all the difference in the world. I could not have completed this without him.
To my readers, I thank you in advance for taking the time to become curious about your own deep wisdom and its conscious application in the world.
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Introduction
Every life is a sacred work of art—an assemblage of real and surreal, fact and fiction, order and chaos—a divine mix of mess and magic. What holds it all together is your capacity to create stories, extract meaning from your experience, and assemble the pieces into an evolving narrative about who you are and your place in the world.
Your everyday story unfolds naturally as you cruise along on autopilot, but when life presents you with an unexpected plot twist, a fantastic opportunity emerges: the chance to consciously engage in the deeper story of your life.
It doesn’t matter whether that twist presents as health problems, relationship trouble, parenting difficulties, career complications, or any other bump in the road of life; challenge and change provide incredible opportunities for self-discovery, learning, and growth. During such turmoil, you have unprecedented opportunities to re-evaluate your needs, priorities, and direction.
When sudden changes occur, or your path no longer appears to be taking you where you thought you were going, it’s easy to become disoriented. Things you once thought were rock solid can be called into question, and your sense of identity and security can be disrupted as conflicting inner directions emerge.
Such moments of confusion bring perfectly normal, successful, high-functioning people to my door: clients who unexpectedly find themselves unmoored by some difficult life circumstance. In such situations, people instinctively reach out to gain perspective. My job is to teach them how to reach inward.
At life’s critical turning points, you can’t rely on someone else for your answers. Regardless of how brilliant or well-intentioned an advisor, therapist, or coach may be, there is no other person in the world who inhabits your unique set of perceptions and experiences. Nobody else can say what’s right for you; all they can do is support you in discovering your own truth.
This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t seek feedback and guidance; we all need support along the way. It simply means that, in the end, you alone must decide what is in keeping with your deepest integrity.
Deep down, a part of you always knows the answer you seek—but that doesn’t necessarily mean it is easy to uncover. Getting to your deepest truth can be complicated because just like the outer world, your inner world is filled with conflicting ideas, feelings, contradictions, and paradoxes. To find genuinely meaningful answers, you need to learn how to dive beneath the surface and move through the usual defenses so you can listen deeply and discriminately to inner prompts. Those very prompts can take you to the deeper story of your life.
Imagine how different your life would be if, during your most challenging moments, you could:
Connect with a deeper sense of purpose
Inhabit your body’s wisdom
Rewire your survival mechanisms
Wholeheartedly embrace your emotional nature
Apply the subtle workings of your intuition
Employ the creative genius of your imagination
Utilize the discerning power of your intellect
Ground yourself in a social support system
Work with the catalytic energies behind your wounding, your ego, your judgment, and your shadow to inspire higher consciousness
Activate the subconscious value in your dreams
Rewrite the narratives with which you make sense of yourself and the world around you
In accepting and working deeply with every part of yourself, you would move from fragmentation to wholeness, and toward the possibility of living a fully conscious and accountable life. And that, my friend, is a rare and beautiful thing.
This book is an invitation to start that journey toward a deeper life, and it all begins with your story.
Turning Inward
You’ve heard it a million times: The answer lies within.
But where exactly are those essential answers when you most need them? Is it best to use your head, listen to your heart, or follow your gut instincts? How can you tell if the answers that emerge are products of logic, a bit of wishful thinking, or a deeper kind of intelligence at work?
What if one part of you wants one thing while another wants something else? Which one should you listen to? These questions represent an old way of thinking that polarizes and pits one part of self against another—head versus heart, mind versus body, ego versus spirit, self versus other, and so on. That approach leads to fragmentation. It limits the richness and complexity of your inner being and the deeper holistic perspective you can bring to the resolution of any problem.
Maturity and inner authority come from the ability to successfully engage the dynamic tension of opposites within you and come to a new sense of wholeness as a result.
You Have No Spare Parts
Western culture teaches us to extinguish what we don’t understand or see as imperfect, flawed, negative, or difficult. We attempt to eliminate what we believe is wrong
with us without exploring the truths contained within these parts of ourselves. We talk about getting over old stories,
ridding ourselves of negative emotions, eliminating our ego, and eradicating obstacles with sheer will. Somehow, this unconscious process of elimination is supposed to help us become authentic.
When people discuss the process of becoming authentic, they often use the metaphor of a sculptor, chipping away at the stone to release the ideal figure within. This implies that finding one’s true self is achieved by removing what is in the way. But in my experience, often what we typically consider in the way
is the way to understanding ourselves at a deeper level.
We have no spare parts that need to be removed. Working with even the most troublesome aspects of yourself and your behavior is often what leads you to consciousness of the deepest authenticity possible.
How I Came to My Own Deeper Story
I came to my sense of calling honestly, out of my own struggle to understand myself and others. As a child, I was taught to respect external authority and to trust that others had the answers I needed, but I often experienced difficulty reconciling others’ advice with my own sense of inner knowing. I was told, however, that if you can’t explain how or why you know something, then knowing doesn’t count.
The home in which I was raised was predominantly left-brained, competitive, and testosterone-driven (I was the only girl among five boys in my family). We were taught that logic, reason, and intellect were everything. Intuition and insight were deemed suspect at best, and feelings were definitely not to be trusted. This was a problem for me, since feelings were my main navigational tool.
I didn’t understand the need to negate and deny feelings. They were patently undeniable, and yet everyone seemed to pretend they either didn’t exist or didn’t matter. I was taught that emotional expression indicated weakness, stoicism was strength, and being sensitive was a liability.
My brothers, who were also sensitive, worked hard to conceal any signs of vulnerability, while my parents hid from their feelings behind their intellect. This was very challenging for me because not only was I tuned into my own feelings, I was also acutely aware of emotions in others, even when they denied feeling anything at all.
My emotional radar worked overtime as I tried to decipher who was feeling what and why. While other kids were outside playing, I spent my time around adults, trying to make sense of their conversations and interactions. I quickly discovered that it wasn’t just my family who said one thing while feeling another; most people seemed to exhibit this same kind of self-denying behavior. It was incredibly confusing.
At first, I was uncertain whether this withholding of feeling was deliberate, or whether people were simply unaware of the internal conflict they were broadcasting. I tried to understand what was going on beneath the surface. I questioned people’s incongruities, but this did not go over well. I was told it was impolite and intrusive to ask personal questions. I eventually learned it was better not to point out the mismatch between words and feelings, but I desperately wanted to understand why people engaged in such pretense.
I wrestled with why no one else seemed to be disturbed by this. I thought there might be something wrong with me and my way of seeing things. I felt different and isolated, and even though I learned to keep my questions to myself, my curiosity never went away.
I continued to wonder about how people formed meaning out of their experiences, how they arrived at their conclusions, and why different people’s versions of the same events often varied so dramatically. In learning to keep quiet all those years, I also learned how to listen.
The more I listened, the more adept I became at recognizing when things were left unsaid. I noticed contradictions, gaps in memory, and the places where stories trailed off into mumbles or caught in a person’s throat. I became especially sensitive to the degree of animation with which people expressed themselves and tried to understand what opened or closed their conversational flow. I noticed patterns in people’s stories—underlying themes, motifs, and repetitive elements that seemed to elude the storytellers themselves.
I promised myself that I would never do what I saw others doing: ignoring and overriding inner promptings, pretending not to know what I felt. But without being conscious of it, as I got older, I, too, became adept at overriding feelings and inner knowing. In my early twenties, I was given a devastating reminder of the dire consequences that kind of denial can have.
Post-traumatic Story Disorder
For me, those consequences came from denying an inner warning. When something in my gut told me to run, I didn’t, and I paid a terrible price for that inner betrayal. I overrode a danger signal in an effort to prove that I was a good person.
A man was asking for help, and a good person shouldn’t turn away from those in need. At least that was the story I told myself, and that story, combined with my refusal to honor my own knowing, set me up for a brutal assault.
The attack itself felt unendurable, but as if surviving it wasn’t bad enough, it also left behind a traumatic imprint. I wrestled with Post-traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) and found myself sinking into a period of suicidal depression. It was during that dark time that I came to understand the profound impact of what I now call Post-traumatic Story Disorder—a distorted way in which we learn to interpret, manufacture meaning from, and re-create our deepest wounds.
The notion of Post-traumatic Story Disorder arose unexpectedly from one of my dark nights of the soul. On that particularly black night, I was struggling with despair and suicidal feelings. I felt broken and filled with fear, pain, and rage. Suicide was not only enticing, it seemed like the best and only solution. But I also knew it was impossible: I had two young children who needed me, and I couldn’t abandon them that way.
Feeling totally trapped in my dark state, I paced the family room of our home, back and forth like a caged animal. As I passed the bookcase for the umpteenth time, I randomly reached out and grabbed a book, taking the first one that came to hand. I latched onto a thin hardcover volume I had purchased at a second-hand book sale years before but had not opened since. It was a companion prayer book for the Tibetan Book of the Dead. Its contents were to be read as a guide to a person to help them make the transition from dying to rebirth. It seemed oddly fitting to my circumstance, so I took it with me to read in bed.
Life, Death, and Liberation
I knew nothing about Buddhist beliefs, so I opened the book with a mixture of curiosity and skepticism, but I soon found myself drawn into the strange undertow of the book’s revelations. According to its teachings, at any moment, one could liberate themselves from the entire karmic cycle of life, death, and rebirth by simply facing and becoming one
with the bright light within them. This was a totally foreign notion to me, but the book indicated that this was all that was required to achieve enlightenment, or Buddhahood. I had never had those aspirations, but I liked the implication of an end to suffering.
The book went on to say that, to accomplish this, one must accept fear, confusion, and suffering without becoming attached to it. I had no idea what that meant.
The book then described the stages in the dying
process. In the first phase, the main trial or challenge was accepting your departure from the life you had known. During this stage, you would likely feel lost, confused, alone, and powerless. I could certainly relate to those feelings.
The book said that you would feel regret and experience difficulty in letting go of the life you had to leave behind. I knew this feeling, too. I felt like my previously innocent life had ended with the assault, and now I didn’t know how to live or die.
The book went on to say that the remedy for transforming that confusion and discomfort would come from turning toward a numinous light. If you could look directly into its brilliance and become one with it, you would become enlightened. I did not believe in light of any kind at that point, but I continued reading. It cautioned that if you were unable to face that light, you would miss your chance for liberation and would have to move on to the next phase.
Feeling nothing but blackness inside me, I missed that opportunity for liberation, so I read on to the next stage. The book said this one would be infinitely more challenging. In this phase, you would be confronted by your greatest fears—in fact, every fear imaginable, a relentless series of horrors. This was referred to as entering the plane of frightening karmic illusions.
During this terrifying passage, you would encounter not only your own dark deeds, but also monsters—half animal, half human creatures who would attack and rip you apart. This got my full attention; I had intimate knowledge of such monsters. I also felt a stab of shame, fearing I was somehow responsible for unconsciously allowing such a monster into my life.
According to the book, you were supposed to face such horrors and your part in them without becoming overwhelmed. The goal was to remain detached and free from getting caught up in those images. But then the book, which was already confusing, started to make absolutely no sense at all. It insisted that you needed to see those monsters for what they really were: illusions, manifestations of compulsive thought forms, and the reflection of your own dark consciousness!
I found this notion outrageous. How was I supposed to do that? Especially if the darkness wasn’t just some illusion or thought form of my own conjuring? I didn’t make up that monster. What if the monsters and the tearing apart were real, and the pain and suffering they cause also, real?
I felt duped and was suddenly furious at myself for getting sucked into that ridiculous book. Overwhelmed with anger, I jumped out of bed and threw it as hard as I could across the room. It skidded across my desk, hit the wall, and fell to the floor. My stomach went into a spasm, and my chest tightened.
It felt like a typical case of blaming the victim. It reminded me of all the times when, as a child, I was told that my feelings weren’t real or that I shouldn’t be feeling what I was feeling. My anger felt pretty real in that moment, and I argued, too, for the realness of my pain. After fuming for a while, the anger gradually flamed out. I was left alone again in my pain, so I cried myself into a stupor.
Eventually, I was able to breathe again. I felt emptied out. But into that emptiness crept the stirrings of anger again. Feeling defensive and annoyed, I decided to prove that book wrong. I wasn’t going to let it have the last word on what was real for me!
I got up to retrieve it, but when I crossed the room to pick it up, I noticed it had knocked something off my desk: the tiny, cockeyed clay mouse that lived there, a gift from my four-year-old daughter. I picked it up carefully, examined it, and noticed with gratitude that the fall hadn’t damaged it. Something about that mouse gave me resolve. I placed it on my bedside table and crawled back into bed with the book.
I took a deep breath and paused, steeling myself before opening the book. I felt determined—oddly stronger and calmer than I had been since the attack. Maybe this was a new beginning. Maybe it was a good thing to actually stand up for myself and fight for my feelings.
But with that thought, something strange occurred. It was as though everything switched into slow motion, and I was somehow outside of my body, watching myself. I could see myself reaching for my familiar fear and pain, and to do this, I was going to have to conjure up and rerun a memory of the attack. Suddenly, a different kind of alarm went off inside me. I felt shocked and confused. Why on earth would I want to do that? It seemed like a totally crazy thing to do. Why would I choose to re-engage the very feelings that made me want to take my own life? Why was I arguing for the right to hang onto this?
And then it struck me…I was doing exactly what the book had been talking about. It had warned that an undisciplined mind would automatically be compelled toward dark thoughts and feelings, would experience the addictive pull toward suffering, would fixate itself on pain and frightening illusions. I was feeling that pull, and not only was it compelling, it was feeling just a little too familiar.
I was suspended in time as I witnessed myself desperately trying to decipher what was really happening. I grasped for the truth but didn’t know where to find it…so I began surveying the facts.
This is what I noticed: I was alone, at home, perfectly safe and secure in my own bed, and yet, even with the certain knowledge of my safety, I was seeking to re-traumatize myself by conjuring up a memory that would make me re-live the horror of the worst moment of my life!
That realization was both terrible and profound. It meant that, in that particular instant, I alone was responsible for my own fear and suffering. It didn’t mean I hadn’t been grievously violated or that I had to deny my pain, but it did mean I needed to stop re-running it and re-inflicting it upon myself. By incessantly replaying that memory, I had been keeping myself trapped (as the book described it) on that plane of frightening karmic illusions, suspended in that dark territory between life and death. I was caught in my own Post-traumatic Story.
I was stunned. I took a breath, picked up the book, and continued reading. It said that when we are ensnared in this kind of illusion, we perpetuate an endless cycle of suffering, and until we liberate ourselves, we are doomed to repeat the same lessons over and over again. That definitely got my attention. I knew for certain I never wanted to re-experience that lesson.
I also knew I couldn’t pretend the assault hadn’t happened. Somehow, I had to acknowledge that painful experience without making it