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    Becoming a Soulful Parent: A Path to the Wisdom Within
    Becoming a Soulful Parent: A Path to the Wisdom Within
    Becoming a Soulful Parent: A Path to the Wisdom Within
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    Becoming a Soulful Parent: A Path to the Wisdom Within

    By Dasee Berkowitz

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    2021 NATIONAL JEWISH BOOK AWARD FINALIST

    This is not a parenting how-to book. It does not offer the usual advice or add to your to-do list, which is already long enough. Instead, Becoming a Soulful Parent asks questions to help you explore the contours of your inner life, developing your internal compass as you lead your family with love and wisdom.

    Combining insights from thousands of years of traditional Jewish wisdom with her own utterly relatable first-person storytelling, author Dasee Berkowitz helps you embrace every moment with your family while leaning into the challenges of parenting with renewed perspective and enthusiasm.

    Becoming a Soulful Parent will help you ground your floating anxieties about the state of the world outside, while giving you the tools to reflect on the state of your world. It will help strengthen “muscles” that will be essential for you and your children throughout your lives—muscles like love, listening, empathy, and curiosity.
    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherKasva Press
    Release dateMar 1, 2021
    ISBN9781948403207
    Becoming a Soulful Parent: A Path to the Wisdom Within
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    Dasee Berkowitz

    Dasee Berkowitz is a Jewish educator, facilitator and founder of Ayeka's 'Becoming a Soulful Parent', a program that has inspired hundreds of parents and parent educators nationwide to bring soulful parenting to their families. Her writing has appeared in Kveller.com, Haaretz, the Forward, JTA.org and the Times of Israel and other publications. She lives in Jerusalem, Israel with her husband and three children.

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      Becoming a Soulful Parent - Dasee Berkowitz

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      Beyond a Management Mindset

      Your Child Has a Purpose

      I am starting to believe in divine grace — or in lay terminology, the possibility for change. Lately there has been a growing distance between my son and everyone around him. His elementary school English teacher keeps asking me, Is everything okay? His beloved math teacher took him aside: You are a student who can achieve 100 percent, but you disrupt the class too much. His father and I have repeatedly questioned him (mostly under our breath), What’s going on? And sometimes at night, under the layers of down comforters, we have whispered worriedly, Do you think we are losing him?

      We aren’t crazy about his friends and we only feel close to a few parents of kids in his grade. Naturally, we started to question whether we are sending him to the right school; we want him to have better influences. Usually my instinct is to wait and see. But this approach is questionable. What if there really are behaviors that won’t change without our intervention? What if the window is closing on making a difference in his life, and we are going to miss it?

      And yet, even during this uncertain stage, we have experienced moments of divine grace, of closeness, of finding him again. In those moments when he gets angry because he’s frustrated, his soft, vulnerable side emerges, searching to connect: I get lonely sometimes. Can you keep me company? Or when he climbed into my bed the other night to ask me about a bump on his face that is not going away (his first pimple, as it turns out), I could now teach him how to wash his face with soap.

      When my son begins a sentence with Imma, can you please… I feel a drop of divine grace falling on me, a reminder of his call to connect and my call to answer.

      Ego Stories and Soul Stories

      The renowned writer, activist, and educational reformer Parker J. Palmer, together with his colleague at the Center for Courage and Renewal, Marcy Jackson, writes about two narratives that are running through our minds all of the time: our ego stories and our soul stories.⁴ Our ego stories star in the curated Me — you know, the self I present at dinner parties or invite to my interviews. The curated Me is linear, with an upward and forward trajectory. The narratives we tell when we are speaking from a place of ego focus on life’s high points and the times when we have been successful and affirmed. They focus on my story; I am the story. When something throws me off track, my ego voice (the one telling my ego story) becomes reactive and defensive.

      Soul stories, on the other hand, honor the shadow as well as the light. They notice the suffering as much as the gladness. These are the stories that keep us up at night. They allow us to integrate fragments and inconsistency within the whole. As Palmer writes, soul stories are not afraid of fear, loss, failure, or mystery. They are the stories that fold into a larger story. Instead of saying, "I am the story, we can say, I am a part of a larger story. When something throws us off track, our soul voice soothes us and reminds us, Throughout your story, you will experience many ups and downs. At some point, you will feel those parts working together, creating wholeness. Right now that moment might feel far away. But have faith, it will come." Once I was exposed to the concept of ego stories and soul stories, I slowly became more attuned to what is happening inside my head, especially during interactions with my kids.

      My ego voice screams, "Why can’t you be like other kids? Other parents aren’t getting calls every evening from the teacher sharing the latest behavioral mess-up of the day. What’s wrong here?"

      My soul voice speaks with more understanding. "This is what my child is experiencing now. We moved to Israel a few years ago. My son is a new immigrant in a new school. He is trying to figure out how to fit in. Beyond empathy, my soul voice takes me a drop deeper, saying, He has a soul too. Sometimes he follows the rules and does what we expect of him, and sometimes he doesn’t. He’s creative, strong-willed, and determined. The way he is acting is how his creativity, will, and determination are expressing themselves. There is nothing wrong here. These core qualities of his will develop and become refined throughout his life. This is him. Love him — all of him."

      Our soul voices soothe us; our ego voices keep us on edge.

      My ego voice is on high volume most of the time. I think that might be true for a lot of us today. We are bombarded by digital media showing us the picture-perfect way to be a family. We are surrounded by external measurements of success, and our anxiety about our children’s employability in the competitive job market of the future grows daily. Small talk with other parents, while collecting the kids from school or at the playground, raises our anxiety level even higher — Your child hasn’t mastered conversational Chinese yet? Don’t worry, it will come [with patronizing smile]. These voices and encounters are valuable when they help us create opportunities for our children to compete and succeed in the world. But they might not serve us all the time. When I am trying to cultivate a closer, more soulful connection in my family, it serves me to turn down the ego voice and turn up my soul voice.

      Soul Meeting Soul

      Parker J. Palmer once wrote that the process of education is the condition of the teacher’s soul meeting the condition of the student’s soul.

      Face to face with my students, only one resource is at my immediate command: my identity, my selfhood, my sense of this I who teaches — without which I have no sense of the Thou who learns.⁵

      I wonder if it’s like that in our families too. The condition of each of our inner lives plays out in our family dynamics. When we clash, it’s my ego voice against my son’s: my need for him to live up to my expectations versus his need to be himself at all costs.

      But what if I consciously enable a soul-to-soul connection instead?

      My son is different from me. I am much more interested in spiritual matters than practical ones. I would rather gaze at a flower; he would prefer to build, dismantle, and rebuild his desk. My idea of a good time is sitting with a friend and talking about my feelings all day long. His is figuring out how to build a fire with a match and some

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