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Looking into Oneself: Women in Training Vol 21
Looking into Oneself: Women in Training Vol 21
Looking into Oneself: Women in Training Vol 21
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Recognizing the need to educate women about women, Yogi Bhajan created a special summer intensive training program for women called Khalsa Women's Training Camp (KWTC). The women in training program took place in Española, NM, USA, during summer starting in 1976 and continued for twenty years. Every year he spent up to 8 weeks directly teaching

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PhD Yogi Bhajan

Yogi Bhajan was declared a Master of Kundalini Yoga at the age of 16. He came to the United States in 1969 and openly taught this transformative technology for the next 35 years, until his last breath in Aug 2004. In the turbulent drug culture of the 70s, Yogi Bhajan first reached out to the youth. He recognized that their experimentation with drugs and "altered states of consciousness" expressed a desire to experience themselves and a longing for family, for connection to their soul and their community. In response to this innate longing, he created a family known as 3HO (Healthy, Happy, Holy Organization). Soon, 3HO ashrams began springing up across the United States and throughout the world.He sparked a movement whose tendrils have woven their way into numerous aspects of our culture. Yoga and meditation have gained widespread acceptance in the West and the holistic health movement he introduced through diet, herbs, and lifestyle technologies. Born Harbhajan Singh in what is now Pakistan to a family of healers and community leaders, Yogi Bhajan studied comparative religion and Vedic philosophy in his undergraduate years and received his Masters in Economics with honors from Punjab University. Years later, he earned his Ph.D. in communications psychology from the University of Humanistic Studies in San Francisco. Yogi Bhajan emerged as a religious, community, and business leader with a distinguished reputation as a man of peace, world vision, wisdom, and compassion. He founded several food companies that manufacture and distribute natural products based on these teachings. He fostered economic development in communities around the world. He is also the author of several books on yoga philosophy, business, and communication during his lifetime.The Kundalini Research Institute continues his legacy through The Yogi Bhajan Library of Teachings, the International Teacher Training in Kundalini Yoga as taught by Yogi Bhajan®, and the publications of lectures and kriyas to serve the community of teachers, students, and practitioners around the world. See www.kundaliniresearchinstitute.org to learn how you can help keep the legacy alive!

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    Looking into Oneself - PhD Yogi Bhajan

    You know I always do a prayer to start with. Let's do it.

    Teree mehar daa bolnaa

    Tudh aagay ardaas

    Guru Guru Wahe Guru

    Guru Ram Das.

    -Personal prayer of Yogi Bhajan

    Oh, my Guru, my Infinite Guru, Guru Ram Das

    I pray to you. Guide what I speak.

    Aad guray nameh

    Jugaad guray nameh

    Sat guray nameh

    Siree gur devay nameh.

       -Guru Arjan Dev ji, page 262, from Sukhmani Sahib

    I bow to the Primal Wisdom

    I bow to the Wisdom of the Ages

    I bow to the True Wisdom

    I bow to the Great Wisdom.

    Wahe Guru Ji ka Khalsa, Wahe Guru Ji ki Fateh.

    The fact is, the axle of the Earth has changed. Humanity has to survive. They have to find a way in which unisonness can happen.

    You are Khalsa. It is the religion of all religions. Among you there are Jews, among you there are Christians, among you there are Muslims, among you there are Hindus, among you there are Buddhists. You can name anything. You are a combined force of all religions. In reality you are the reality. That's how the world should have it. That's how the world is going to be.

    The way I plan is not the way most people think of planning. I would like to tell you something very simple and very straight. With all your weakness, take the strength and work. That is the way to do it. Most of you just think of your weaknesses: your attachment, your anger, your shallowness, your dreams, your fears, your nightmares.

    I was counting weaknesses this morning. After awhile, when I reached above fifty, I said, Stop it. This is too much. Time is being wasted. What for?

    Okay, I have two million weaknesses as a person, as a human, as myself. To hell with it. Who cares? What is there to care for? Does a postman care that he is limping, that he has an injury, and the household has a terrible dog? Is he not going to deliver the letter? Am I worse than that? Are you worse than that?

    One thing the human has to learn: personal weaknesses are personal. Mission is mission. And those who do not augment their life, dedicate their life into a mission, they never make it. It is not practical that the most precious life and the pranas be wasted on personal discussions. It is not very bright to use this life without achievement. The Gurus have guided us, shown us the way, and we shall be moving.

    I am not very doubtful. Standing here you record my words and they shall not be untrue. In the future we shall rule this Earth. In the future our technology shall work. In the future this is the way for mankind, not for the purpose of religion or for influence or creating a collective government. Nothing like that. I see governments and governments and governments. I see people and people and people. I see a vision. I am not dreaming. I'm not worried.

    There is no way that man can get rid of his emptiness, period. You have been trying for five thousand years. Guru Gobind Singh guided us to a rightful situation. We don't even have time to search for it. Once an American died on a pilgrimage to Harimandir Sahib. He went before Dharm Raj.

    Dharm Raj told him, Go back, you are not wanted.

    He said, I'm not going back.

    He said, I'll put you into hell.

    He said, Thank you.

    He said, What kind of man are you?

    He said, Well, whatever I am, down there they call me American Sikh. What you call me here, I don't know.

    He said, I'll take you to God. So he took him to God.

    The guy said, Go back, he's right.

    He said, I don't care. All you can do is put me in heaven or in hell. Both are equal, but I'm not going back.

    So God, out of His kindness and mercy said, Is there anything which I can grant you that will make you go back?

    He said, Western bathroom. I'm not going to sit on those fields anymore, I can't. I'm a Sikh, all right, I'm a Khalsa, okay. But if you send this with me, I'll go back right now, no questions asked.

    So having that question in mind, I said, We have to go to Anandpur Sahib. We have acquired ten plots to build houses on, so we can be comfortable.

    To mark the history of our life, we have also acquired some acreage where we would like to build a beautiful residence for people to stay when they visit. I am very grateful that Shiromani Gurdwara Parbandhak Committee, which we call in abbreviation S.G.P.C., finally after so many years, has agreed to part with something. That miracle you should not forget. It's a miracle of the miracles.

    And when I told them, Give this land to Sikh Dharma, they said, We do not know.

    I said, What do you mean you do not know? You are a part of Sikh Dharma. You are in Sikh Dharma.

    They said, Yogiji, the land is given to Yogi Harbhajan Singh. That's it.

    I said, What do you mean by giving it to me?

    They said, If something goes wrong, we'll get your neck. Sikh Dharma is too big, we can't get a neck.

    Finally, all the discussions went by and now we have that land—fifteen acres in the House of Guru Hargobind.

    So we have decided to build a Miri Piri Academy. We wanted a graceful, honest person of education. We have found Sardar Jagdish Singh. I know him from the old times when we both worked in All India Sikh Students Federation. With this recent situation it came to my mind that he should dedicate his time. So we have hammered each other for all this time and he has finally agreed that there shall be a Miri Piri Academy.

    The land they have given. Sopurkh is here. I have already told her that as a Comptroller General she has to write a check. Matter is done, period. Our children shall have the right to be educated. They must come out of school not only as Sikhs, but as invincible, complete, perfect, capable citizens of the world.

    If we talk about purity and piety and Sikh Dharma and Khalsa, then we must have the quality of it, and that is the purpose. You can't compromise, yet you do. I'm not saying you are all free. Take it from me. You cannot compromise the chance of your own growth and glory—forget about God—the chance of your own growth and your own glory. You have to use the character and characteristics. In God we trust, therefore you have to see God in all and trust all. Let another person put you down, let you down. It's not your problem. Pray for that person.

    Compassion is the base of companionship in Sikh Dharma. You don't understand that. Compassion is the base. Kindness is the base. Care is the base. Seva is the base. That seva contains these factors. I am not saying people are not going to go wrong, and I am not saying that we are going to be always right. But let's try compassionately to understand each other.

    They have brought the Siri Guru Granth, the Shabad Guru unto us on their shoulders for all these years. Now we have to carry them on our shoulders for years to come. I know it. There's no secret in it. They are proud. They are haughty. Their arrogance is too much. Their ignorance is far beyond my reach, I can't accept it.

    It's a very simple thing. If a simple man like me can read Siri Guru Granth, a little here, a little there, and can understand the whole thing, what is wrong with them? What do they think they are? Who do they think they are? Well, they are who they are. You can't yell and scream at them. I mean, I have tried. Don't misunderstand me. They are so scared. When I go in a room there is a hum all the way around. But you know, that doesn't work and that didn't work. So what we are trying to do is to serve through a very silent, humble Jagdish Singh, a calm and quiet, peaceful, dedicated man, who, like me, doesn't have many years to live. So what is the big deal? So if we can serve the concept of Miri Piri, and he decides that ‘til his last breath he is going to do it, let's give him a chance. Let me have a chance, let you all have the chance. What is wrong? We can't deal with egos. Where there is ego, there is no amigo. It's a very friendless state.

    I have seen and I have counseled many many people. The whole problem in a person is I. "I don't feel good. I don't feel right. I feel sick. I feel tired. I'm not in a good mood. I don't have money. I don't have clothes. I don't know what to do."

    You taught me a lesson. The first thing you told me is, I don't know.

    I said, How can there be a human being who can say openly, face to face, ‘I don't know’? Everybody knows something. But they can't say it. You have one answer: I don't know.

    Then I learned I'm freezing, and I'm starving. These are three common phrases you have taught me. I thought, If all these words are their expressions, so be it. The Guru has given you grace, face, character and characteristics. And he has given you bana, bani, seva, simran.

    You shall live. I'm not saying all the fruits are going to be ripe and perfect. Many will fall, many will dry up, many will be wasted, many will reach back to the dirt, and many will flourish to their juice, their fruitness, their fullness, and they will carry the flag to the four corners of the world.

    There is no way what the Guru has said is going to be wrong. And there is no way what the world is asking you is going to be wrong. In this computerized age, a man in this mega-information is going to live in a mega-unison way in a solid solitude and must have a complete pratyahaar to synchronize himself to zero to understand infinity.

    It's a simple law of science. It's a quantum leap theory into the mega-information of the creativity of the cells into the micro- and macro-consciousness. The impact and the realization should be at the same time with the origin and with the original self of it. Go, write it down, think about it. That's how it is. It's a complete science.

    Every cell is a reflect. Every cell in production is a repulse. In the impulse of repulse, and in the fact of the cell to the effect of the cell, there's no way a man can live in isolation, until he has a complete shield within himself. That's what Sikh Dharma teaches.

    Sometimes when I speak to you, and I say, Let us talk to the people two thousand years from now, you don't understand, I know. I don't understand why you don't understand. But that's the way we have to talk.

    In this world of ours, God is a thought. We created that thought. We were forced by history, geography, circumstances, and experience to create that thought: There's One God. Guru Nanak said it in a very simple way:

    Ekaa maa-ee jugat viaa-ee tin cheyley parvaan

       -Guru Nanak, page 7, 30th pauree of Japji Sahib

    There is one mother who married the universe and she has three disciples.

    He's so convenient. He's so soft. He's so easy. He doesn't talk much about anything.

    Once I was talking to a man on the telephone, and he said, We've got to do something. And I couldn't go for that. I said,

    Jis hath jor kar veykhai so-eh

    Naanak utam neech na ko-eh

       -Guru Nanak, page 7, 33rd pauree of Japji Sahib

    One who thinks he or she is powerful, let him or her try.

    Nanak, no one is high or low in the eyes of God.

    Heh, Bhai—brother—if you have the power, then try using it, and see what you can do.

    I fully understand. Today you are sitting here. I also fully understand that one day not only were you not here, you were nowhere. Do you remember? You were sitting under trees.

    Today you marry around the Siri Guru Granth…

    Har pehelaree laav

    -Beginning words of the Lavan, the wedding rounds given by Guru Ram Das, page 773

    …with glamour, friends, church or temple or Gurdwara. Remember those days, when the decorations used to be leaves knotted together to distinguish the bride and bridegroom? Then after about six months we found a Gudka of Japji Sahib. We used to put it in the center. Before that we used to only light a fire. We wanted to do something, start somewhere.

    We created havoc when we went to the Akal Takhat, and our ladies said, Now we are Khalsa, we'd like to tie turbans. And the Jethadar, the man who was the spiritual head, freaked out. Nobody else. I was downstairs on the staircase, and he came and asked me, What have you done this for?

    I said, I don't know anything. They are yours. You gave them the Amrit. Now they are uplifted, deal with them.

    He said, They want to be women wearing turbans. Do you agree with it?

    I said, Who am I? What are they asking?

    They are asking you to give them turbans, now that they are Khalsa. I told him, "Go to the dhuri, pick up the cloth, go up there and give them turbans." And that's how we started wearing turbans. Was it predesigned? No. Was it a reflect? No. Was it a reaction? No. It was destined. He had no option.

    For years and years we told them we have the right to clean the temple. If a Guru's daughter could give him a wash, and clean him, and dress him, what's so wrong that our ladies can't go and clean the floors of the Harimandir? You know, they have become so prejudiced, so uptight, so small.

    I told them to just spell small: S-M-A-L-L. All is in small. So what is the big deal? Why are you differentiating with us? Why do we have to tie our beards? We are not going to tie our beards. We are not going to tie ourselves to anything on this planet on which our mental attitude is attached. We are not going to prostitute our souls; that's the most important thing.

    What do I care what people say? Don't I care for my life? Am I so unfortunately, arrogantly ignorant that I have no respect for my soul? If I see somebody bad and rotten, am I going to be so shaky? I'll be grateful it's not me. If I see something great, am I not going to be grateful that God has brought me something good? Can you understand the English word great and full? Nothing is small in it. After that what do you want? I'm great and I'm full. There's no place for anything else. But you don't understand, and you don't stand under.

    Now we are speaking English like Punjabi, aren't we? Because now we know,

    Asankh naav asankh taav

    Agam agam asankh lo

    Asankh kaheh sir bhaar ho-eh

    Akhree naam akhree saalaah

    Akhree giaan geet gun gaah

       -Guru Nanak, page 4, 19th pauree of Japji Sahib

    God's Names and Abodes are countless. Inaccessible

    and inscrutable are God's Realms. Even to say they are

    countless is to carry loads of sins on one's head. God's

    Name and praises are uttered through words. God's

    virtues and knowledge are sung through words.

    Now we understand. We understand Nanak, we understand his Word, and we understand what he's telling us.

    You don't have to go anywhere. Mark my word. I may not be physically here, but I shall see you somewhere. Millions of people shall knock at your door, take my word for it. They will ask you to just touch them. These words are shining with light: Hail, Hail, Guru Ram Das, heal the world. These words shall come exactly true. We don't have to do anything.

    What is Sat Nam Rasayan? Touch a person, and personify into the ecstasy and infinity, and let Guru Ram Das prevail. There's nothing which cannot heal. There's nothing which you cannot do.

    If you waste your time thinking about yourself, Am I right? Am I wrong? Am I up? Am I down? Am I left, am I right? If you take that time and just utter, Wahe Guru, it will take care of everything. Your plans are great, your thinking is great, your words are great. Then look at what the Guru said:

    Sehes siaanapaa lakh hoeh ta ik na chalai naal

       -Guru Nanak, page 1, 1st pauree of Japji Sahib

    Your hundred thousand wisdoms are not going to

    go with you.

    Because within time and space you are planning with the isolated self to protect yourself. Within that situation the longitude and latitude of the Earth has changed. Within the change of the longitude and latitude, the magnetic field has changed, your attitude has changed. What do you think you can do, kiddo? Where are you coming from? The frequency into the reality of the magnum to the mega leaps sense of the institutionalization of that defined self and in the relative creativity of the infinite co-existence, has a quantum leap which keeps you alive. Therefore it is not practical for the finite to define the Infinite. That's a scientific fact. But you can't stop thinking, I'm scared.

    Somebody was telling me, I'm scared.

    I said, Of what?

    I am just scared.

    I said, Have fun, dance. And say, ‘I'm scared, I'm scared.’ Do it. Who cares for this? Come on, dance, man.

    But you are not going to help me?

    I said, I'm helping you. Dance. ‘I'm scared. I'm scared.’ Like this is your mantra.

    And what will be your mantra?

    I said, "I'll say, ‘Wahe Guru, Wahe Guru, Wahe Guru.’ You say ‘I'm scared. I'm scared.’ We are two different polarities. Fine. You live. I live. Let me live."

    Scared of what? Now believe me. This is what happens. A thought takes time. In that time, the thought has a space. Correct? We all agree, right? My thought, my space, my time. Correct? Longitude and latitude of the Earth has changed within that thought. The micro-magnetic psyche of the mega-psyche has changed. The interrelated and interconnected brain waves are changed. What a crippled way to live. People say, I'm not willing to go along with the change. I'm not willing to change it with the change. But I'm thinking of going ahead of the change. I don't want to think. I want somebody to have a thought for me. I'm going to act. I'm not going to react. Life was given to me to act. In this essence of this Word I have understood the Siri Guru Granth.

    Gur is the formula, Guru is the one who gives you the formula to bring you from darkness to light, Sat Guru gives you the Truth, Siri Guru gives you the Infinity, and Wahe Guru is the mantra which is God itself. It amazes me that having all those, you are suffering.

    Because it is not our fault. It took us forty years to go through the desert to the promised land. We are not going straight. I love you. I don't love you. I hate you. I don't hate you. I know you. I don't know you.

    Who are you? Have you never existed? You are not in existence, nor will you ever exist, if you do not understand the infinite play of Almighty God who created you as a creature. If you will not understand what exactly is meant by Ek Ong Kaar, if you create this infinite blunder of blunders, you will never understand life.

    It's not the life we come here to live for. I didn't take birth to be Harbhajan Singh only. Any opportunity I will get I'll try to leap in a quantum, measured, relative coexistence to cause an existence in the psyche of that which was, which is, and which shall be. I'm not going to define with words. What's the difficulty? Why can we not understand a simple theory?

    The Pavan Guru, the breath of life, is given to us, it keeps us going. We can't even sit down and consciously breathe? We breathe unconsciously and talk consciousness? And if we consciously breathe we waste it unconsciously?

    God, forgive me today. I don't know why I'm talking to you this way and from where, but you all have to reach where I am today to start the game. The world is looking for you.

    You can't forgive because you do not know how to forgive yourself. You can't forget because you do not forget your fears. You can't go forward because you are tied down with your past. You have become a motionless, egomaniac, insane human. God is asking.

    When I talked to God this morning, I said, How do You feel?

    He said, Bad, Yogiji, bad, bad.

    I said, What do You mean, bad.

    He said, Bad, bad. But go. Go to the Gurdwara, and have fun.

    I said, No, I want to talk to You.

    He said, Go and tell these guys I am kind, compassionate, merciful, that I created them Myself. They don't believe it. You have been trying for twenty-five years, they don't believe you either.

    I said, Well, then I tell You one thing. Guru Nanak has said it.

    He said, What? The man I sent to the Earth?

    I said, Yeah, same one. You know him.

    He said, Yup.

    He says he has one commandment, only one: Jap. Repeat. So, God, keep on repeating, I am repeating and we'll be repeating and that is the way it will be.

    Somewhere along the line when His own Mercy will bestow the spiritual crown—crown of spirituality is always bestowed—it can never be conquered. When out of His Mercy He will see that you are almost on the edge of getting tired of repeating, just on the edge of that, He'll say, Here, you get it. Before that no, no way.

    So my dear fellows and friends, and my dear guruwards, and my dear brothers and sisters, my dear enemies and foes, my dear whatever you are, just remember tomorrow has no sorrow. And if you want to walk in that tomorrow, leave that sorrow today.

    I am very grateful to these young Sikhs sitting here who have come all the way to let us know the raag where the sun can go. Ra means sun. Ga means go. Naga means snake. It can go where nobody else can go. So we are giving them saropas. On my word they came.

    So the comptroller general and the president will write a check to honor them, so they will never feel poor again. They are not poor. They are richer than me. They cannot be poor. They are not appreciated. They are wondering, have we gone insane? What is this system?

    Now listen to the science of this system. A sutra or a shabad is spoken, and then a complementary and supplementary sutra is spoken. Then the packing starts until the riveting is done. It is not what you hear you like or dislike. The inner hair by the inner ear of the hammer, is taken to the brain so consistently that it gives you ecstasy.

    So, yes, they came. They are our guests. We'll honor them also. And we'll honor them well. God has given us all that we need, because as we belong to God, God belongs to us.

    I am also very grateful to tell you something in my own words. These words must be recorded in the history of the Western Hemisphere. There would not have been elegance in Sikh Dharma if Tarlochan Singh would not have taken a personal risk and catered to our egos. He doesn't even cater to the ego of his wife. He never catered to the ego of the President of India. But he catered to your egos and made you understand that twelve thousand miles from here you have a home. You are welcome.

    So my dear friends, we are among friends today. It is a very happy day. It is healthy or holy, we don't care. We are holily happy, unholily happy, healthily happy, unhealthily happy, happiness is our birthright. So, when a ragi jatha comes, in all places we should receive them, honor them, and make them understand that they are most welcome. Our guests will also be proceeding from here to other cities.

    Our prayer is that God goes with them. And then when they go back home they should also feel they were in their own home: the Guru's house.

    I hope you will all participate. We have ten plots in Anandpur Sahib where we are going to build a home for us. And we have another three and a half acres which we have procured to build a house to receive people. In this way, we are putting a footstone on our Father's land, Guru Gobind Singh, in a very correct way.

    One day it is all going to belong to us, so take care of it. That's the way we are. Nothing is going to escape, but it takes time. Patience pays. With the Guru's Grace and with our prayers, God will guide our way. Hopefully, it shall be a very successful situation when our children study at the school in India. They are the gems of the Khalsa for tomorrow. They are diamonds who will be formed into the facets so they can be bright and shining. We don't want children to be produced just to earn bread. We have a lot of that. Nor do we want children for status. We want our children to have states. Who wants status?

    For one year the children will go through hardship. Why not? They're our children. What is hardship for them? They're hard children. And by next year the Academy will be running. Four S is also going to build a house there, I think. I'm not pushing my way. Basically we have an agreement for a joint venture. That is what we want to do. We are very grateful that you have heard us clearly and we are building. May your prayer work now that each day you bring us the strength and the clarity so that we can further the mission of the Guru, of our lofty Father, Guru Gobind Singh, and the most beautiful woman, Mata Sahib Deva. May we continue towards that goal on this planet wherever we go.

    Wahe Guru Ji ka Khalsa, Wahe Guru Ji ki Fateh.

    This year's classes with Yogi Bhajan took place in the new Langar Hall in Espanola. Yogi Bhajan begins by making reference to the new hall and to the previous site where classes were held for many years, a huge open-air tent in the Ladies Camp area.

    It looks good! It's better than a tent, though the tent was good. You got all the rain.

    The Destiny of Woman is the Destiny of the World. (Yogi Bhajan reads the title of a newly published book which has been given to him.) Wow! It is true. It is something I have to read; I'll read it tonight.

    Ladies, you have come here with hope, with determination, and to learn something. I will not be very boring because I'm a humanist type of person. But you have to listen more carefully than you can afford, to the things that I am going to teach you.

    When I lectured in 1972 that the world was going to change, it was one person talking in a simple place called New York. Nobody believed it. Yet today the Earth moves slower—the axle has changed exactly one degree. Now the scientists say, You know what is the reason for that? They don't say that it is because the Age of Aquarius has come. Now they say it is because we have built dams in the world at different places, and the weight of the water has slowed the Earth. Can you believe that? They need an excuse. I said that in the future the world and its whole knowledge will change at the press of the button. And today, the computer itself is changing the universe.

    You are the women of the cusp. That's what you are. Whether you like yourself or hate yourself, that makes no difference. You are the women of the cusp moving from the Piscean Age to the Age of Aquarius. On the 1th of November 1991, by the longitude and latitude of Los Angeles, everything shifted. In the coming twenty-one years, you will find the weather will change, people's attitudes will change, people will change in their needs and desires, and family life will change.

    You have longitude and latitude. That's what the Earth is. You chose a longitude and latitude to be born, and you chose parents. Normally you ask a person, Where were you born? Bakersfield. I was born in Los Angeles. I was born in Massachusetts. But the fact is, you have chosen three things: The structure of the tattvas (that refers to the body), the parents from whom you were born for whatever reason, and the longitude and latitude where you were born.

    The purpose of life now is to build an altitude and attitude. You have to look at everything now from a height, from high above. If in these twenty-one years, you look at things face to face, you will go insane.

    You have to understand, men are half-brained creatures. God never gave them both sides of the hemisphere together. In return, He gave them the ideal capacity of a push. He gave you both hemispheres and He gave you balance—the yoyo that you call it. In one way this is good, in another way this is not good.

    Therefore, through the centuries, you ruled the Earth, you ruled the tribe, you ruled the families. You still rule in many ways, but in other ways you don't. The reality is that you end up in not very high careers. Your earning capacity in the same job compared to a man is less. You end up as a victim of man's aggressiveness. You end up with the aggressiveness of your own children. They do not follow your order. You end up having divorce, divorce, divorce—God knows how many. Then there are a lot of things you do. You go to work like a man does, plus you raise children, which he doesn't do. You cook meals and wash dishes—which he doesn't do—and you have to have equal sex. That means ten minutes of his sex and two hours of your suffering. That he does. And you have to live with the most snoring men. You don't know what to do! I'm just introducing men to you.

    Whether they like you or they don't like you, very seldom will a man have an attitude and say, You are wrong. A man will not confront you—mostly. Yet mostly you confront the man. And the moment you confront a man, life starts. In ancient civilization, it was called the War of Mahabharata. It started for nothing, it worked out, killed everybody and ended with nothing. You deprive yourself of your life totally when you are dragged into a war of ego. A woman who fights the ego of the male destroys her beauty, her energy, her life. You don't gain anything out of it—absolutely nothing.

    Man cannot give you a thing. If you want anything out of a man, do not fight his ego, do not fight him. There are two tactics you have to learn which are thousands of years old. One is silence, the other is smile. Period. There's no man who can confront these two things. Don't utter a word. Don't try to say you are a Ph.D. Don't try to say you are smart. Don't try to say you want this or that. Don't argue.

    But you say, You are an idiot, you bloody fool, I knew it in the beginning and I wanted to see your face. Yeah, you are right. Don't you hear me? Why don't you look at me?.

    No, I am looking at the dream you are in. When you come through, we'll talk.

    The ego of the man is co-central. A co-central ego means his existence is based on his ego and he always wants to create an alter ego. If the female doesn't become his alter ego, divorce is inevitable. You can write it down, and I can sign it on a paper.

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