Good Girl: Sound bites of an intimate revolution
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There are certain messages that women receive from the world with a promise that life will be fair; that the pursuit of goodness will render a life free of pain and heartache. When Maureen Fitzgerald first learned that her husband of three months was addicted to meth, her notions of being a “good girl” crumbled when love and goodness could not save him from addiction. After a year of drowning in his addiction and narcissism, Maureen’s obliterated marriage left her with a broken spirit and disillusionment for life and humanity. In this darkness, she sought to find her truest purpose and meaning by sewing together memories, conversations, journal entries, and poems. Through this excavation of her past, Maureen collected soundbites to make sense of her last 30 years as a woman, her marriage, her pain, the pandemic, and a country in shambles.
Left with the shrapnel of a shattered spirit, Maureen could not avoid the simple truth that the only way to make it out the other side of her suffering was to step fully into her own rebellion and turn it into a revolution.
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Good Girl - Maureen Fitzgerald
sound bites from an
intimate revolution
maureen fitzgerald
I share this story to exhale and shed light on the difficulties of life. I also share this to show we do not have to be shackled to our trauma.
There are magical possibilities that can emerge if we choose to really live.
Copyright © 2021 Maureen Fitzgerald Creations.
Copyright © 2021 Good Girl, sound bites from an intimate revolution.
All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, distributed, or transmitted in any form or by any means, including photocopying, recording, or other electronic or mechanical methods, without the prior written permission of the publisher, except in the case of brief quotations embodied in critical reviews and certain other noncommercial uses permitted by copyright law. For permission requests, write to the publisher, addressed Attention: Permissions Coordinator,
at the address below.
ISBN: 978-1-716-02927-1 (ebook)
Library of Congress Control Number: 2021924163
Front cover image by Maureen Fitzgerald.
Book design by Maureen Fitzgerald.
Chapter images by Maureen Fitzgerald.
Printed by, Lulu Press, Inc, in the United States of America.
First printing edition 2021.
Lulu Press, Inc.
www.momofitz.com
This story is a little different.
It’s a collection of soundbites from my life:
poems, conversations, quotes, tabs, journal entries...
It is meant to be read from start to finish. Although, there are no rules, so feel free to jump around and sit with the ones that make you feel something.
There is a lot of white space. If you own a copy, please write, draw and scribble all over this. Interact and play with this if you so wish, or leave it blank, there is peace in simplicity.
This story could be potentially triggering for those with experiences with toxic relationships. Please be kind to yourself.
Thank you to the books, people, and places that have been a source of love when I didn’t have it for myself.
To my friends and partner that waited patiently for me to realize my own worth.
To my family who showed up in ways I never expected.
To my therapist who was my lighthouse when I was completely, undeniably lost.
To my best friend, guardian angel, and copy editor, Carolynne.
Thank you to my editor, Joanne Sprott, you were so nice to me when I needed it.
To Linda Christensen and the Oregon Writing Project, without your mentorship I would have never believed I had anything to share.
Kelsey Hones, Tamika Abaka-Wood and my employer B+A, your support in documenting this story has been invaluable.
Robi Wood, my first reader and book sage.
To my sweet doggo, Migos who has been with me through it all, and for never letting me stay in bed too long.
And to the bad women who figured this out long before me.
Thank you.
contents
a shattered illusion
personal delusions
spiritual transfusion
newfound effusions
human devolution
overwhelming confusion
reimagined conclusion
intimate revolution
What is the difference between a revolution and a rebellion?
A revolution is a
rebellion you win.
For all the good girls.
image009The Great + Powerful
I went to see the wizard
about filling my heart with love
He boomed through fire and smoke
grand gestures and warm vows
he held me close
and placed a yellow ring on my finger
and a ruby kiss on my lips
With the smile of a salesmen
he sold me a promise
that I would be loved
It was perfect.
Me, a young teacher,
spreading ideas of justice fueled by white privilege and guilt.
Latin America was a fascination.
I learned Spanish.
I indulged in the culture.
The rules felt different than those I grew up with.
There was life here.
Marrying a Mexican American
whose father walked across the border,
I awed at this American dream.
No one expected much of me. I was a small kid.
I didn’t win tackles or headers, nor score all the goals.
Somehow, quietly and then all at once I played for a crowd of 20,000.
A professional.
That one gorgeous summer, everyone knew my name.
He was a local prodigy,
the youngest person in his high school hall of fame.
Player of the year and a state champion.
A professional too.
In El Salvador, he almost died from malaria.
He almost died…
He came back from the dead
and devoted his life to serving children.
He was the trophy I would bring home to show my parents
what a good girl I was.
How deserving I was.
My life blinked from black and white to color when he said he loved me.
He told me I was different from everyone else:
I understood that life was about giving back to others.
He was persistent and all-encompassing.
He called me the love of his life, and then fiancée without even asking.
He introduced me to everyone that way after we ran away from the waves.
He kissed me as we overlooked the sprawling ocean.
Our future felt just as vast.
In a few weeks, I was hooked.
I told my diary that he was it.
A love bomb that felt like a fairytale.
We were to coach soccer and teach,
to brighten the lives of young people
the way we wished ours were.
We were married on a hot summer evening in the Oregon countryside.
The winery twinkled with tea lights and burgundy dahlias.
When I said my vows he kissed me before he was supposed to.
He yelled, I do!
and the crowd delighted in his affection.
We were going to live happily ever after.
Oh what a high tower to fall from.
Diary entry
February 27, 2019
Month 7 of marriage
Dear Universe,
I’ve asked for some pretty petty favors in the past, like a job or a place to live. This time I am asking for you to give him his life back. For him, ya know? He is nothing but a ghost right now and I know deep down the true him is begging and fighting to emerge. The addiction has this part of him suffocated. I hope and pray that you will use your forces to help him heal or at least allow him to heal himself. He deserves a beautiful life.
With love,
Maureen
Who gets married
and smiles and laughs and says vows and parades around like they’ve won the fucking lottery knowing they have tricked a
person into loving him, the facade of him, the bullshit of him?
Who gets married
and takes their wife’s credit cards and charges hotels to
disappear in and smoke meth and then tells her about it like a
child who shat the bed? And when I tell him I’m concerned
about finances he tells me, "That’s such a white person thing to
worry about."
Who gets married and disappears for days only to call in the middle of the night to come get him from his hell?
Who gets married and leaves their wife to move into their new home by herself, nowhere to be found? He was nowhere to be found. My dad asking, Where’s your husband?
And all I could
do was shrug. I fucking shrugged it off, like he didn’t abandon
me.
Addict
noun.
a person who is addicted to a particular substance, typically an illegal drug.
an enthusiastic devotee of a specified thing or activity.
my husband.
"Methamphetamine is a highly addictive street drug with a variety of forms and street names. The drug gives users a ‘rush’ that includes feelings of enhanced well- being, heightened libido, increased energy, and appetite suppression.
Psychological effects observed with methamphetamine use include euphoria, paranoia, agitation, mood disturbances, violent behavior, anxiety, depression, and psychosis. Cheaper than cocaine, its stimulant effects are also longer lasting. As the mood- and energy-enhancing effects of binging methamphetamine begin to wear off, users begin ‘tweaking,’ a term describing a dangerous combination of restless anxiety, irritability, fatigue, and dysphoria.
Further use of methamphetamine temporarily improves the symptoms and further