Nursing Homes, Assisted Living: The Good, The Bad, The Money: My Shocking Experience as a Caregiver up to Covid-19
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Nursing Homes, Assisted Living - Ian Samuels
Nursing Homes, Assisted Living:
The Good, The Bad, The Money
My Shocking Experience as a Caregiver up to Covid-19
© 2022, Ian Samuels.
All rights reserved. This book or any portion thereof may not be reproduced or used in any manner whatsoever without the express written permission of the publisher except for the use of brief quotations in a book review.
Print ISBN: 978-1-66785-662-9
eBook ISBN: 978-1-66785-663-6
Contents
Dedicated to
I was born
My Mother
Learning Chores
A New Country
Leaving New York
Getting a Job Right Off the Bat
My Career Progression
Setting Priorities
I Thought of Quitting on the First Day
Fun Moments
Being a Male Nursing Assistant
The Housekeeping and Environmental Department
The Job Description Has to be Clear
The Laundry Department
The Maintenance Department
The Recreation Department
The Physical Therapy Department
Adapt and Overcome
The Pandemic
Money Trees
Operating Under an Illusion
Balancing Love and Respect
Hearing Good Stories
Selfless Family Members
Recognizing My Work and Effort
Being Conservative
Nursing Assistants and Who They Are
Effects of Working Overtime
Back Injury
The Wear and Tear of Being a Caregiver
Guilt Trip
Being Human Again
Multitasking
Survival
Thinking Carefully
Money-Driven Decision
Finding a Solution
Heartbreaking Situation
Something to Think About
My Personal Philosophy on Aging
When Residents Run Out of Money
A Global Perspective
The Good and the Bad
A Flexible Job
From Nothing to Something
Being Human
When Privacy Is Taken for Granted
Mental and Physical Abuse by Residents to Caregivers
Dying Alone
Solutions
My name is Francis: I have dementia and I’m lost.
Falls: The land of no Return
I outlived my savings: some want me to hurry up and die
Conclusion: Are you prepared for your end of journey in a nursing facility?
Dedicated to
My Uncle Rupert George B.
I feel compelled to write this book because after entering this field, I was shocked and horrified with what I have seen and heard. I want people to see what they are committing their mothers and fathers to. They are sending them into a profit-verses-people situation. Many of these facilities are run by companies whose only goal is profit. The managers and some of the staff members are good people at heart and some of that goodness will rub off. But from the top, as far as the owners, it’s all about the numbers.
I remember recently, I was asked to come into work on my day off. I told my boss I wanted a bonus for doing that. When a facility is not fully staffed, the residents absolutely suffer. To explain all of this is why I write this book. I want families to understand how these facilities are spending their money. I get to see the journey of people in a way that most people never see. I hear stories from residents about when they were very young. I get to see their final days of life. I get to see the totality of their journey. It gives me a unique perspective.
I also wanted to expose the lifestyles of nursing homes and inform the family members about the financial or psychological abuse they put families through. I wanted to show the readers how a lot of people are being abandoned in assisted living homes. Hopefully, this will ignite some change.
No matter who you are, how tough you are, how rich you are, or how nice you are, you reach the same final destination at the end of your life. I get to work with people who are that stage of their lives. Once they leave my place, they go to their creator or their maker. They don’t go back home. And I think that’s a very powerful situation I’m in—coming from the inspiration from my grandmother to end up in this field. I get to see human beings at the end of their journeys. You see them one day and they’re very nice, pleasant people telling you their stories, and then tomorrow they fall asleep and never wake up.
That is why I said to myself, If I don’t write this book, it would be a waste of a blessing. So this has to be written.
The purpose of this book is to encourage people to think about how you treat your loved ones, and how and where you place them at the end of their lives.
Without being judgmental, I asked myself, Why would you take your mother and father that loved you so much and put them in a place like this?
In Jamaica, we don’t do that. Jamaica is nowhere as rich as America. There’s no comparison. But in Jamaica, your mother or grandmother lives with dignity in their own homes, seeing their family pictures and eating their home-cooked foods. In Jamaica, we have people that are ninety-five or older and still doing farming in their backyards, and cooking. When you go to the countryside, ladies from eighty-five to ninety are still making you breakfast. And then we take turns caring for them in their final days.
One of the reasons I am writing this book is that I want the readers to see themselves in this journey of their family members. Once you do that, you can understand the inevitability of that journey. I think by seeing yourself in someone who is reaching that journey, your reaction will be a little bit more humane and understanding. I just want the readers to put themselves in the shoes of their elderly loved ones as they approach their final destination and see themselves in that same position one day. Maybe we can have better treatment and more love.
I was born
I was born at No. 3 Rae Street in Rae Town, a neighborhood in Kingston, Jamaica, that is about a half mile from Kingston Airport. The neighborhood is by the ocean and is known as a place where people come for good music and good fish, enjoying themselves. It was almost like a party town—a place to listen to music and relax. They have different clubs on the beachfront where they would cook fish on the beach. It’s a nice area, even though historically, Rae Town does have a history of violence. But over the years, it has gotten better. It’s a place where couples come to relax. It’s also an area with lots of industries. Investors have turned it into a getaway place where people party by the ocean, enjoying nice music and good food. It’s mostly a mature crowd. People from all walks of Jamaica would come there for good music and good food by the ocean.
I remember as a child, at night in my room, I used to hear the vibration of music hitting my window and I really wanted to go there and listen but my parents were very strict, so I could not leave to go where the music was being played. I may have sneaked out one or two times.
Every weekend from Friday until Sunday, I would hear the crowds and the music playing. I would experience the vibration. The amplifiers were very big and very powerful. It was very soothing music which you would like to hear. It was not disturbing to anyone. It’s not like people were complaining. I would just lie in bed and enjoy it and fall asleep. I think I may have sneaked out one or two times and gotten in trouble.
These are the fond memories I have of Rae Town. I would see my aunts and uncles getting ready to party all night and into the mornings.
My father was a truck driver at the time for a drinks company. I remember him leaving every morning for work and returning the next day because he had to drive all over. When he was away, I had a little freedom because he was very strict. I could stand by the window and listen to the music play in Rae Town.
Rae Town was just a very good experience for me as a child. It was very sunny all day. The vegetation was very green. People were busy—always out and about and moving around. It was a very vibrant place.
Rae Town was a particularly beautiful, energetic part of Jamaica. The sun would give you energy, and it was just a very happy environment.
If you are travelling to Jamaica, stop by Rae Town and enjoy your first taste of real Jamaican food, drinks, and music. That area is very famous for that. People are close-knit. It’s a very nice community.
When I was very young, my family moved to Spanish Town in St. Catherine’s Parish.
Spanish Town was also beautiful. It had very green vegetation. It was vibrant. But Spanish Town was more of a suburban environment. It was not a big city like Kingston. It was more of a family-oriented community.
Jamaica is ninety miles from Cuba, and about 600 miles from Florida. It has a population of about 2.9 million. From some of the mountainous parts of Jamaica, you can see Cuba and Haiti and maybe even parts of Florida depending on the location in Jamaica. Jamaica is approximately 146 miles long and fifty-one miles wide, not a very big island compared to Cuba or other places.
Jamaica is a very beautiful place. We have historical customs. There were a lot of influential people born there, including Bob Marley, Gen. Colin Powell, actors, musicians, innovators, doctors. Jamaica is known for its athletes. Usain Bolt, the fastest man on the planet, is from Jamaica. We even had a bobsled team in the Olympics even though there is no snow in Jamaica. John Candy was Canada did a movie about that.
The main industry in Jamaica is tourism, sugarcane, and things like that. Our music is world renowned. Lots of people love Reggae music.
Jamaica has its issues, like any country. There are little gangs here and there just like you have in the United States but for the most part, we are a very stable country. We have two political