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    Come Home to Yourself
    Come Home to Yourself
    Come Home to Yourself
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    Come Home to Yourself

    By Déjà Rae

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    In her second collection of published writing, Déjà Rae explores the highs and lows of letting go of past relationships and embracing loneliness as a means to discover oneself.

    Throughout her work, she takes the reader on a journey through seasons of truth, pain, and abundance, showing that each subsequent season requires its predecessor. This book is a catalyst for transformation, a guide to letting go, surrendering to solitude, and discovering one’s authenticity and purpose. By doing so, Déjá Rae shows that the love we are all looking for has always been inside of us, patiently waiting for us to come home.
    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherThought Catalog Books
    Release dateNov 1, 2023
    ISBN9781949759525
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      A special book which makes sense. Read it if you want to know your true value. Read it if you want to live your life to the fullest. It is the best book ever. Thank you for writing this Deja Rae

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    Come Home to Yourself - Déjà Rae

    Copyright © 2022 Déjà Rae.

    All rights reserved.

    Published by Thought Catalog Books, an imprint of the digital magazine Thought Catalog, which is owned and operated by The Thought & Expression Company LLC, an independent media organization based in Brooklyn, New York and Los Angeles, California.

    This book was produced by Chris Lavergne and Noelle Beams with art direction and design by KJ Parish. Special thanks to Isidoros Karamitopoulos for circulation management.

    thoughtcatalog.com | shopcatalog.com

    Made in the United States of America.

    ISBN 978-1-949759-52-5

    I used to dream about the day you would finally love me.

    I crafted storylines and scenarios, I imagined every little detail in my mind, anxiously waiting for the day to come. I thought about the words you would say, the way I would feel, the light in my eyes that would finally resurface after all this time apart. I thought about the way we would laugh together so nostalgically, reflecting back on all our missed time. I thought about the secrets we would share, the love we would make, the life we would create.

    But even as I watched the years pass and seasons change, and the leaves fall and blossom over and over again—you still didn’t love me. My days became longer, the winters felt colder, the dreams I had of us became distant and dismal.

    And then on one summer day, I sat down and looked deeply into myself. I felt the sun shining on my skin and the breeze swirling through my hair. I heard birds chirping, and people laughing, and in that very moment I realized it had been years since I had truly felt anything besides the longing for you to love me.

    It turns out, in the seasons I spent waiting for you, I was withdrawing from myself. I was so consumed in my dreams, I lost sight of my own life. I had forgotten that the earth was spinning, that time was passing, that there was a world out there waiting for my attention.

    I no longer dream about the day you will finally love me, because I have found that love in myself. My dreams no longer consist of you; my power does not lie with someone else.

    Table of Contents

    Section I

    Truth

    Section II

    Pain

    Section III

    Abundance

    Section I

    Truth

    Your capacity to love is marked by your capacity to be alone.

    People can only love you to the extent they love themselves.

    People can only see you as clearly as they see themselves.

    People can only understand you to the depth that they understand themselves.

    Do not be disheartened by the people who can’t love you, who can’t see you, who can’t understand you.

    Their perception of you is merely a reflection of themselves.

    Some people want love, but don’t know how to love.

    Love is both a feeling and an action. Just because someone wants to love you does not mean they know how to love you. This disparity often causes us to open our arms to the wrong people. We assume that emotion will evoke action. We think a feeling is enough to fulfill us.

    The truth is, there is a learning curve with love. It takes practice, patience, and persistence to learn how to properly love another.

    Some will step up to the challenge, others will fall short.

    If someone tells you they’re emotionally unavailable, please believe them.

    You’re not going to change their mind. You’re not going to shake the ground they walk on and reroute their course. You’re just not.

    Please understand, if someone is not ready for love, there is nothing you can say and nothing you can do that will make them love you. You will only end up breaking your own heart.

    Believe their actions, believe what they tell you.

    You deserve to be loved freely.

    Not everyone has the capacity for intimacy.

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