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    Happy Starts at Home: Change your space, transform your life
    Happy Starts at Home: Change your space, transform your life
    Happy Starts at Home: Change your space, transform your life
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    Happy Starts at Home: Change your space, transform your life

    By Rebecca West

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    Use your home as a tool to make better changes happen in your life. Through aligning your heart, home, and health, experience first-hand how small changes make a big difference.
    What does it take to be happy at home? It's not about buying or not buying a new sofa. It's about whether your home is working for you in the best way. Your home can directly improve your well-being and contentment with better health, sleep, and relationships, and ultimately decrease your stress levels to increase your all-round happiness. Design expert Rebecca West helps you to learn how to achieve a geographical cure without actually relocating and how to redecorate so you can feel best in your space. Along with beautiful photographs, there are a variety of self-assessment activities to connect your financial, emotional and physical health to your space to ensure it nurtures your vision – and while doing so, investing your time and money more effectively too. With the valuable advice in Happy Starts at Home, you can commit to a philosophy of buying fewer things and doing more to discover what's holding you back, in order to find joy and create a home that makes you smile.
    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherCICO Books
    Release dateFeb 18, 2020
    ISBN9781782499138
    Happy Starts at Home: Change your space, transform your life
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    Rebecca West

    Dame Rebecca West (1892–1983) is one of the most critically acclaimed and bestselling English novelists, journalists, and literary critics of the twentieth century. In her eleven novels, beginning with The Return of the Soldier, she delved into the psychological landscape of her characters and explored topics including feminism, socialism, love, betrayal, and identity. She was lauded for her wit and intellectual acuity, evident in her prolific journalistic works such as her coverage of the Nuremberg trials for the New Yorker, published as A Train of Powder, and Black Lamb and Grey Falcon, her epic study of Yugoslavia and its people. She had a child with H.G. Wells, but married banker Henry Maxwell Andrews later in life and continued writing until she died in London at age ninety.

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      Happy Starts at Home - Rebecca West

      introduction

      It’s not about buying or not buying a new sofa.

      It’s about whether your home is working for you.

      Your home can be the key to better health, better sleep, better relationships, and an all-round better life. Your home can also lock you into a damaging relationship, drain your energy, and devour your money. Every choice you make about your home influences your life. With every dollar you spend on your home, you cast a vote for the kind of life you wish to live: what you value, how you will be treated, and whom you will let in. It’s that powerful! If you’re like me, you are highly affected by your environment. In a messy room we feel frustrated, stressed, even out of control.

      We crave the beauty and calm depicted in glossy home decorating magazines—not just because the pictures are pretty, but because we imagine that if we could just get our homes close to that ideal, we’d enjoy less stressful, more contented lives. The truth is your home can directly improve your well-being and contentment. It can help decrease your stress level and increase your happiness. But not necessarily by looking like the cover of an interior design magazine. This book is about using your home as a tool to make change happen in your life.

      getting started

      I became a designer by chance, not by, well, design. Nearly a decade ago I found myself divorced and living in a house that constantly reminded me of my failed marriage. I got tired of living somewhere that reverberated with sadness, loss, and defeat. After about six months of feeling stuck, I repainted the walls and completely refurnished the house (and it didn’t take buckets of money). Here’s what I discovered: Changing what I saw around me transformed how I saw my future. And that change thrilled me. While I hadn’t moved physically, I had moved on psychologically.

      I started my design company, Seriously Happy Homes, because I am passionate about helping people experience the transformative power of the home. I feel a special connection to those who are in life transition or who may feel blocked, frustrated, or trapped, like I once did. So, while I did go back to school to earn a degree in interior design, I didn’t start my company out of a love for design per se. I started it to help people use their home as a tool for change. To this day I don’t really care whether you buy a new sofa. I do care that your home is working for you. I want to share with you the tools you need to create your own happy home. It’s not about copying design trends. It’s about figuring out what you need from your home, and then identifying how to make your home work for you.

      first, let’s ask why

      A lot of books out there tell you how to declutter, decorate, and design your home, but many skip the most important question—why? Why have you decided to change something about your home? Why spend your time, money, and energy decorating or remodeling? What outcome do you seek?

      Maybe the answers seem obvious to you, but let me probe a little more deeply: Who are you making changes for? What do you hope will happen by making these changes and spending this money? What outcome must be realized for all of the expense, stress, and time to have been worth it? How will you know you’ve succeeded? If you haven’t really examined—and answered—the important questions before diving into a home remodel or decorating project, you may:

      • End up with a beautifully remodeled kitchen that fails to function for your family.

      • Start out strong but eventually lose motivation and remain stuck in a cluttered, shabby, dysfunctional home.

      • Create a picture-perfect home but realize that nothing has really changed in your life.

      When we aren’t driven by a clear and internal motivating factor to implement change, the change (if we achieve it at all) rarely lasts. Like a person who loses weight to please someone else or who loses it too quickly and gains it all right back, your house ends up (or stays) out of shape. The answer to Why should you invest in your home? is this: You shouldn’t! Not unless that investment results in a home in which you feel more carefree, confident, and cared for, and not unless you know why you (not your mom or your sister or your friend) will be happier as a result.

      When we know how we want to use a space and how it should make us feel, we can make informed and intentional decisions about what to buy to meet those goals.

      Here’s a personal example of a positive life outcome. When I married for the second time, my fiancé and I decided that if we were going to spend thousands on a wedding, we might as well get something long lasting from it (I mean, besides a marriage, of course!). We enjoy hosting parties and barbecues, and we also have a passion for ballroom dance and dreamed of hosting dancing parties and lessons at our home. Inside, our modest house could accommodate, at most, about a dozen people, but outside, our giant weedy-sloped backyard was ripe with potential. We decided to host the wedding at our home and invest in revamping the backyard into a terraced entertaining space. In the year after our wedding, we hosted another half-dozen outdoor soirées, including a zombie-apocalypse emergency planning party and an auction for my local Toastmasters club. That was the prize on which we’d kept our eye the whole time we were neck deep in wedding and remodeling chaos. We stuck with it because we knew we’d end up with an outdoor space that suited our lives. Visualizing our goal helped us keep perspective and make good long-term decisions. And because we understood our end goal, our why, we ended up with a space that really did enrich our lives.

      So how about you? How can you set an intentional goal for your space and project? How can you make decisions for your remodel and have confidence that you are making the right calls? How can you use your home to achieve more joy, calm, love, and success in your life? How can you get—and stay—happier at home?

      what do you really want?

      With any home project we have to connect to an intention, a purpose, that will serve our life. If you can identify your desires at a core-values level, then you can assess what you need to change to achieve those goals, and then collect the right tools to make those goals a reality. For example, not a new kitchen but more healthy home-cooked meals to help my diabetic partner live longer. Or not a prettier living room but a space where I can spend more time with my friends and family. So before you start to redecorate or remodel, you must connect with your core values, see your surroundings with new eyes, and understand how your home supports (or sabotages) the things, people, and activities you most value. Only when you understand the profound impact that your home has in giving you (or keeping you from) the life you crave can you identify how you want to live, come up with a concrete why to guide your successful project, and create a plan to get to your new life.

      balance the changes you make to your space

      If you are the sole decision-maker in your home, then taking action on the changes you want to make to your space will be straightforward. However, if you are part of a couple, you may find yourself having home remodeling arguments that can seem unsolvable, especially if you are eager to make changes in your home but you’re having a tough time getting your partner on board with the plan. You may be tempted to dismiss your partner’s opinions, or assume that they don’t care about the house. More likely, they just care about it in a different way than you do.

      Try to identify how you and your partner see your home. If someone is more of a nurturer, then the home is a nest, and reflects how well they care for everyone living there. That might be seen in a desire to have attractive décor that creates inviting, cozy spaces. If someone is more of a provider then home is a castle, offering evidence of their ability to support and protect. That might show up in a home with a solid home value or a trustworthy security system. When you can connect the changes you want to make to the values your partner holds, it will help you have a more fruitful conversation. Remember that while your partner may not express interest in the precise wall color or number of throw pillows, they do care about the house and what happens to it physically and financially. And a kitchen update can be expressed in terms of home value rather than only the social value.

      Knowing what you really want helps you filter out well-meant advice that isn’t actually a good fit for your life.

      Discover what home means to your partner and then frame the conversation in a way that speaks to those values. You’ll get a lot further in your discussions about what to change, how much to spend, and where you both are willing to compromise. Come up with a shared why and goal for your space, and you’ll spend a lot less time arguing about the size of the sofa, the color of the carpet, or the price of the countertops.

      how to use this book

      This book isn’t an interior design how-to guide. This book is about aligning your heart, your home, and your health. It’s about getting a geographical cure (putting yourself in a new environment) without actually relocating. It is about creating a home that will nurture and support the life you deserve to live. If you plan to redecorate, this book will help you identify and buy what you need to feel your best in your space. If you are about to remodel, the activities in this book will better equip you to communicate your needs to an architect, a designer, or a contractor, and will help ensure that you end up with the home, and life, of your dreams. This is important because I want you to have the home of your dreams, not the home of your designer’s dreams.

      This isn’t just a reading book. Treat it as a workbook too. Take a moment to gather these tools (they’ll come in handy as you work through the chapters):

      • A special notebook or journal dedicated to your Happy Starts at Home™ journey

      • Your favorite pen for journaling

      • Graph paper for drawing basic

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