Writing The Sacred Journey: The Art and Practice of Spiritual Memoir
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“Here is the definitive handbook for those courageous souls taking on the creative and ethical challenge of writing a spiritual memoir.—Frederic and Mary Ann Brussat, Spirituality & Practice
In Writing the Sacred Journey, readers will discover how to construct a well-crafted spiritual memoir—one that honors the author's interior, sacred story and is at the same time accessible to others. Award-winning writer and teacher Elizabeth Jarrett Andrew provides practical advice on how to overcome writing obstacles as well as guidance for transforming the writing process into a spiritual practice. A writing instructor and spiritual director, Andrew teaches spiritual memoir at Wisdom Ways Center for Spirituality in St. Paul, Minneapolis.
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Writing The Sacred Journey - Elizabeth Jarrett Andrew
Copyright © 2005 by Elizabeth J. Andrew. All rights reserved. Published by Skinner House Books, an imprint of the Unitarian Universalist Association, a liberal religious organization with more than 1,000 congregations in the U.S. and Canada. 24 Farnsworth St., Boston, MA 02210-1409.
elizabethjarrettandrew.com
Printed in the United States.
Cover design by Kimberly Glyder.
Author photo by Thomas Felix.
Text design by Suzanne Morgan.
print ISBN: 978-1-55896-470-9
eBook ISBN: 978-1-55896-576-8
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Andrew, Elizabeth, 1969-
Writing the sacred journey : the art and practice of spiritual memoir / Elizabeth J. Andrew. p. cm.
Includes bibliographical references.
ISBN 1-55896-470-3 (alk. paper)
1. Spiritual journals—Authorship. 2. Spiritual biography—Authorship.
3. Autobiography—Authorship. I. Title.
BL628.5.A53 2004
204’.46—dc22
2004019778
10 9 8
21
We gratefully acknowledge use of the following material:
Excerpt from East Coker
in Four Quartets, copyright 1940 by T. S. Eliot and renewed 1968 by Esme Excerpt Valerie Eliot, reprinted by permission of Harcourt, Inc.
Excerpt from My Story as Told by Water, by David James Duncan. Copyright © 2001 by David James Duncan. Reprinted by permission of Sierra Club Books.
Excerpt from The Confessions of St. Augustine by John K. Ryan, copyright © 1960 by Doubleday, a division of Random House, Inc. Used by permission of Doubleday, a division of Random House, Inc.
Excerpts from pages 9-12 and 264-65 from Balancing Heaven and Earth: A Memoir by Robert A. Johnson and with Jerry M. Ruhl. Reprinted by permission of HarperCollins Publishers Inc.
But whatsoever of the holy kingdom
Was in the power of memory to treasure
Will be my theme until the song is ended.
DANTE, DIVINE COMEDY
Contents
Introduction
THE SPIRITUAL MEMOIR
Why We Write
The Attributes of Spiritual Memoir
Getting Started
Inevitable Resistance
Developing the Writing Habit
The Dilemma of Memory
Organizing Your Memories
YOUR SPIRITUAL LIFE AS SUBJECT MATTER
Describing the Indescribable
The Power of Epiphany
Symbols and Metaphors
The Vividness of Childhood
Being in the Body
Honoring Teachers
Journeys
The Significance of Setting
Sharing Suffering
The Numinous
THE CRAFT OF WRITING
The Power of Showing, The Power of Telling
Finding a Structure for Your Story
Revision as Seeing Anew
Learning to Read as a Writer
Putting It Out There
Writing Practice, Spiritual Practice
For Further Reading
Introduction
WHAT, EXACTLY, is spiritual memoir? I was halfway through writing my own before I knew. A mentor began handing me books—wild rides through the Christian faith by Augustine, Teresa of Avila, Margery Kempe, Simone Weil, Thomas Merton, and Henri Nouwen. Later my reading widened to include Sufic, Jewish, Buddhist, Mormon, and New Age memoirs, memoirs by authors of eclectic faiths and authors with no faith tradition at all. I read books by authors who were young, old, famous, unknown, spiritual leaders and ordinary folk, queer and straight, alive and dead. What all these authors had in common was a passionate striving to link their seemingly small lives to some broader truth, some vaster mystery. Although each author’s experience of the spiritual was unique, the way each one’s experiences emerged in writing was strikingly similar. Familiar themes, structures, and styles appeared across history and culture. Since then, in my work with hundreds of beginning writers, I’ve come to recognize that the process of writing our sacred stories is filled with common pitfalls and pleasures. Spiritual memoir is a form unto itself.
Philip Zaleski, the editor of Harper SanFrancisco’s annual Best Spiritual Writing series, defines spiritual writing as poetry or prose that deals with the bedrock of human existence—why we are here, where we are going, and how we can comport ourselves with dignity along the way.
Spiritual memoir, then, is a genre in which one’s life is written with particular attention paid to its mysteries. It uses the material of the past and present to ask, What is the source of my existence? What makes me tick? What gives me breath, hope, or inspiration? Invariably spiritual memoir places one’s life in relationship to something greater, whether that something be God or oneness or the earth or death. Unlike literary memoir, the purpose of writing spiritual memoir is only secondarily to create a well-crafted work. Spiritual memoirists write because writing brings them nearer to the ineffable essence of life.
This book will teach you how to write memoir with heart and flair; it will help you get started, move through drafts, and gain skills in the craft. That you might learn by others’ examples, I’ve quoted from a variety of memoirists, mostly contemporary, whose stories are accessible and directly helpful to the writing struggle. Underlying all these instructions is an exploration of creative writing as a spiritual practice—a means of opening one’s self to transformation and connecting the generative inner sanctum of hope, doubt, and faith to the wider world of community. Language is the bridge. If you write because writing helps you birth yourself, this book is for you.
Throughout the book are writing exercises that are relevant to the accompanying text. However, they needn’t be tackled in the order in which they appear. Try both the exercises that inspire you and those that turn you off. A strong emotional reaction (positive or negative) often points toward rich material. Especially do the exercises that seem radically different from your usual approach to writing. You’ll find new avenues into the creative process and widen your repertoire. Some of the writing suggestions are brief; others may get you going on an entire book. This diversity is designed to get you started and to teach new techniques, not to overwhelm you with homework. When you find yourself launched on a story, bend the exercise however you wish.
Blessings on you, dear reader, as you travel through this book. May the rigor of learning to write well deepen your insights, widen your relationships, and enlarge the sacred presence you bring into the world.
THE SPIRITUAL MEMOIR
Writing would be merely an act of crazy hubris were it not a means of discovery, cunning and patient.
—MARY ROSE O’REILLY
Why We Write
WHEN I WAS ATTENDING Sleepy Hollow High School, I’d occasionally forsake the rowdy bus ride home and walk two miles down the steep streets of North Tarrytown, New York, over the infamous bridge where Ichabod Crane is said to have disappeared, and down to the Hudson River. My bookbag weighed against my right shoulder, but my stride was long and increasingly jaunty. By my early teens I’d already been indoctrinated into the relentless race of activities that Americans think compose a well-lived life. My every moment was packed with homework, piano lessons, editing the school literary magazine, volunteering with Girl Scouts, and shelving books at the public library. The rush exhausted me. My walk home became an excuse to disappear from these demands and inhabit the world more freely.
When I came to the river I turned south into our small town park, where the Pocantico River empties into the mighty Hudson and where the little red lighthouse sits proper but dark. There used to be a public beach here, back before lifeguards were required, but the city fenced it off and allowed grapevines and honeysuckle to grow thick between the mowed grass and the sand. Like all the other kids in Tarrytown, I knew that I could still access the beach. I left my books and shoes on the lawn, followed the chain-link fence out along the thin, rocky breakwater; and swung around the end pole, where waves could strike if the river was choppy. The Hudson was steely, lurking between the boulders beneath me. Then it heaved, taking an immense breath. I wrapped my fingers through the chain links to stay balanced.
Once I reached the beach, I jumped down and ran to a log polished silver and reclining on the sand. Here I could have the river to myself—the murky water and the private tuck of shoreline that lay flat like a vast, open palm. In that rare moment of solitude I felt a terrific ache. I wanted to cleave my heart to that dynamic, undulating force that smelled of sea salt and spanned boundless distances. My teenage life was small—fretted with self-consciousness and my peers’ misguided expectations. Still, I knew the passion buzzing in my adolescent body was also rolling in that tide. I watched the waves push and pull, and the coarse sand simmer before absorbing the water. I breathed the moist, kelp-scented air. Passion fused me to the river, but there was no release. I was still my lanky, lonely self. I could never dissolve into such magnificence.
What, then, could I do to ease my ache? If I prayed, God’s pervasive, dissatisfying silence only intensified my longing. Instead I dug into my jeans’ pockets for scrap paper and a ballpoint pen. I did the only thing that transformed my longing into something of substance. I wrote about it.
I no longer have my teenage writing as evidence, but two things remain clear in my memory. One is the inexplicable longing that pushed my pen forward. I remember wanting to burst out of my skin, to become as big on the outside as I felt on the inside. The fact that I was separate from the undulating fabric of the natural world—that I was an independent being—discomfited me. I wanted unity. I wanted to be bound to the tide, to be awash with the created world.
The other thing I remember is that I wrote about what I knew: the river beating against sand, the driftwood hard against my legs, the seagulls holding wind. I wrote my world and, in doing so, felt myself participate fully in its unfolding. I might never accurately describe the salt scent kicked up in the spray, but the attempt changed me; it joined me to the work so evident around me: birthing, changing, destroying, and roiling with beauty.
Today, my drive to write is the same—language, penned to paper, binds the inner world to the outer, satisfying my desire to unite with creation. Why does the effort of translating experience into story satisfy a spiritual need? Over the years I’ve written three books, countless short memoirs, personal essays, church newsletter columns, poems, and journal entries. I’ve written myself out of the closet, out of depression, out of regular employment, and into work that fosters a similar passion for writing in others. And still, how writing binds self to creation remains a mystery. I write to find out.
It comforts me that I’m not alone. All sorts of people—elderly church-goers, prisoners, parents, teenage moms, recovering addicts, business executives, homeless people—are eager to put words to their spiritual journeys. Just last week during announcements at a Quaker meeting, a woman in her fifties practically leapt into the air: I’m finally writing my memoir,
she said. It’s amazing! I want to find other people to write with me and talk about it.
I recognized in her excitement the impulse that drives us language-lovers to work with our life stories. People seek continuity between the inner world and the outer, between their past selves and who they are now, and especially between what they claim to believe and how they live. Writing helps bring about this continuity. And writing becomes a means to engage that creative force within and beyond us, the sacred presence that lends us life.
The reasons we give for writing spiritual memoirs are often more practical than this abstract, heartfelt longing. We say we want to pass our stories along to our children, or that we need to share our soul’s journey with loved ones, or that we want to leave behind more than a financial legacy. Jewish communities in particular are paying increasing attention to the tradition of writing ethical wills
—documents that place individual lives in a broader context, linking past and future generations by tracing an ethical heritage (see Resources for Writing,
). Writing our struggles, our beliefs, and our insights gives us tangible evidence of our internal life to hand to our families.
Another reason people give for writing spiritual memoir is that our experiences have been so transformative, our insights so hard earned, that we feel compelled to share them. One of my students had grown disillusioned with his silk-suit, cell-phone, jet-set lifestyle. After a period of depression, during which he felt his life’s efforts had been misdirected and fruitless, he discovered a love of landscaping. If he could write his story, he told me, it might help others transition into lives of greater integrity. Another student saw her mother through hospice care and her final, dying moments. The student’s grief was overwhelming, and it seemed the only good she could make of such pain was to write it down in the hope that her story would help others traverse those last days. Wisdom resides inherently within experiences of hardship. Writing is a public manner of claiming this wisdom.
When we write with the professed hope of helping others, I suspect that many of us are really writing for our former selves. The intention to help others is generous; it keeps us motivated and sanctions the huge time investment that writing requires. But what we are writing is the book we wish we had read during our own trying, formative experience. Writing for one’s self seems selfish, so we obscure our real motivation with the altruistic desire to help others. In fact, writing for one’s self is noble. Each of us is worthy of that generosity. When we return to a difficult period with the care and attention that writing requires, healing happens. Writing connects personal suffering to human suffering, teaching us that we are not alone.
Writing for ourselves, or for our former selves, is more than just a therapeutic exercise. It’s essential for writing well. Writing is far too strenuous—too solitary, too sedentary, too emotionally demanding—to sustain if the writer does not somehow benefit from the process. Unfortunately, the benefit rarely comes in the form of money or recognition. We don’t live in a culture that values the contemplative remembering or the imaginative labor of making art. And even when our work is publicly received and financially compensated, this recognition rarely satisfies the more profound needs that drive us to write. Love of the grueling work itself, or of the insights that come with it, is necessary to sustain us.
A great many writers are interested in memoir because they understand it to be a spiritual practice. On the surface, writing memoir may seem like a flat transcription of memories, but once you begin writing you discover it is more like call-and-response. You set out to write one funny mishap (say, the time your parents accidentally left you at the gas station during the family vacation) and find yourself reflecting on abandonment. You write your reflections on abandonment, including other memories, and discover a rooted belief that all love entails leaving. When you ask yourself what this might say about the sacred, you feel an onslaught of anger that’s been welling since that first mishap. You let your anger rip the page. Upon revision your story grows textured, multilayered.
The balance of expression and receptivity, of solitude and relationship, that emerges from writing provides an opportunity for personal growth. The core reason for writing may not be to generate an end product so much as to engage in the creative process.
THE WRITER’S THREE PRIORITIES
One spring I attended the Festival of Faith and Writing at Calvin College in Grand Rapids, Michigan, and was privileged to hear Jane Yolen speak. Yolen, the author of over a hundred children’s books, identified herself as a Jewish Quaker. She spoke on the hazards of addressing spiritual questions in books for children, explaining that children’s book buyers are primarily public schools and libraries, which tend to shy away from spiritually inclined literature. Nonreligious publishers are often unwilling to take on material that might prove controversial. Yet as Yolen pointed out, children ask spiritual questions: Where did Rover go when he died? Why do some people attend church and not others? Who is God? Yolen argued that we do wrong by our children when we censor stories that might aid them in their seeking.
After Yolen’s lecture a member of the audience asked, To whom do you think children’s authors should be accountable for the moral quality of their books?
The questioner was concerned that indoctrinating content might wind up in her children’s hands. Yolen responded fiercely, Every writer has three responsibilities: first to the story, second to yourself, and finally to your audience.
I often think about Yolen’s three commandments. Although they apply to all creative writing, they hold particularly true for spiritual memoir. Thinking first about the audience rather than about the story or about yourself is a frequent but misguided habit among beginning writers. At some point (about draft three or four), it’s important to be accountable to your audience. You want your story to be welcoming, accessible, gripping, and transformative. Considering your reader’s response helps you construct a story that accomplishes these things.
But through the early stages of writing, your primary audience is yourself. Write to satisfy you. If you think first about your readers (about what you have to teach them, whether or not they’ll buy the book, or if they will like or condemn your message), you begin to mold your writing to your expectation of readers’ reactions. You do a disservice to yourself when you avoid risky topics or skirt deep levels of honesty.
What intrigues me about Jane Yolen’s priorities—and why I believe them to be particularly relevant to spiritual memoir—is her placement of the story first. What does it mean to be responsible to the story? For writers of spiritual memoir, story is not something born of the imagination or of history; it is the very stuff of our lives. It is the aching and questing of our souls. Although seemingly mundane, ordinary experiences contain within them a vivacity, a sense of wholeness, and a will beyond our own. In other words, our spiritual stories bare the world’s holiness. This ought to be obvious, but religious traditions of all persuasions have a tendency to canonize certain stories and certain people’s lives. In the process of honoring these stories, we forget to honor the revelatory qualities of our own stories. When memoir writers are responsible to the story, they honor that which is vital and true—the spirit—within their experience.
When you are chatting idly with the neighbor and she asks you whom you’re writing for, it’s easier to say readers who are struggling with grief
than it is to say me!
But there is a third, more subtle answer—one that is at the source of your drive and conviction: I write for the story itself.
Of course, you don’t say this to the neighbor because she would think you’re crazy. Writers rarely even acknowledge it to themselves. But the answer is there nonetheless, prodding writers along. How many hundreds of times have writers declared, My story needs to be told
? And it does—for its own bare sake. We are compelled by our encounters with pain, doubt, rebellion, and revelation to dialogue with these memories and release them from the bonds of our bodies onto the page. Even an unpublished, unread memoir exerts influence on the world. Stories, in and of themselves, matter.
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