Who Did You See Today?: The Power of Outrageous Kindness
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Author Dustin Schadt offers a biblical and theological basis for seeing people, outlines practical ways that individuals, families, schools, nonprofits, small groups, churches, and other organizations can collectively value, focus on, and respond to the world around us. Our care builds a bridge of trust strong enough to bear the weight of our gospel conversations.
Kindness has become a precious commodity. We are fast-paced, busy, and often distracted. In a world marked by skepticism, loneliness, and anxiety, Christ-followers must be the ones who live beyond differences and distractions to see the people God places in our lives. Jesus saw us, drew closer, and gave Himself up to make a way for us to come to Him. He is calling us to do the same—to love people the way Jesus loved people, ears open and eyes widen to the beauty of the love of Christ shown in His gospel.
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Who Did You See Today? - Dustin Schadt
Table of Contents
Foreword
1: See People
2: Jesus Saw People
3: Value
4: Focus
5: Respond
6: Collective Sight
7: Obstructions
8: Now, Go
Notes
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Subject Heading: CHRISTIAN LIFE \ MINISTRY \ INTERPERSONAL RELATIONS
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To:
Jimmy and Kristin
Kevin and Lynette
Nat and Tracy Millican
Mike and Debbie Schadt
And so many others.
Thank you for seeing me.
Foreword
When I met Dustin Schadt, he was a college student at the University of Louisville. He was a baby Christian—a new believer who was eager to be discipled. He was energetic, interested, earnest, and intelligent. I was doing student ministry at a local church and had just started an evangelistic Bible study for fraternity and sorority students on Louisville’s campus. Dustin was one of the first guys to show up.
Over the next several years Dustin and I built a deep and meaningful friendship. We met one on one for discipleship. We memorized Scripture together. We shared Christ with hundreds and hundreds of students in U of L’s Greek system. We went on mission trips. I had the privilege of sharing the gospel with his girlfriend, April. She became a believer too.
Dustin and April spent time in our home, and my wife Kristin and I loved them both. They held our children, ate our food, and listened to our stories. I officiated their wedding, baptized April, helped them understand their call to ministry, and hired Dustin onto our church staff. I have taken tremendous joy in watching Dustin and April thrive in their marriage, work out their ministry calling, build their family, and grow their church. We have been friends for nearly twenty-five years. That’s a lot of years, a lot of laughter, a lot of tears, a lot of love, and a lot of conversations.
Dustin has always been good at seeing
people. I noticed this quality when he was a young adult. Other guys his age considered him a good and faithful friend. When Dustin would invite them to an event, guys would come because they knew Dustin cared about them. Dustin has gotten older but his sense of connection to people hasn’t changed. When you are with Dustin, he always makes you feel like you are really important to him. He doesn’t hurry. He asks good questions. He is thoughtful in his follow-ups. All these qualities make him a good husband, a good father, and a good pastor. No wonder his church is thriving: Who doesn’t want a pastor like that? No wonder Dustin has a lot of deep friendships. Who doesn’t want a friend who sees
them? All that makes him the perfect person to write a book like this.
I hope you will be challenged by this book, as I am. The people in your life need to be seen.
And you should make the effort to see
them. This kind of intentionality comes naturally to some people, but most of us have to work at it. My wife needs me to see her, my kids need me to see them, the people in my church need to be seen by me, and that doesn’t count the people that God is going to put in my path. Plus, I need people to see me too.
Writing a book is really hard, it is. It is like putting pieces of your heart on paper. When you read this book, you will be reading more than Dustin’s ideas—you will be reading Dustin’s heart. You will be encouraged to see people the way that Jesus sees people. And hopefully, you will feel the eyes of God seeing you.
—Jimmy
Jimmy Scroggins and his wife Kristin have been married for twenty-nine years and have eight kids and four grandkids. He is the lead pastor of Family Church—a multicultural, multigenerational, multisite church that meets in sixteen locations across three counties and four languages in South Florida. Jimmy has a MDiv and PhD from Southern Seminary in Louisville, Kentucky. Jimmy is the author of multiple books, including Full Circle Parenting, which he and Kristin wrote together.
1
See People
On a beautiful (and hot) day in the neighborhood, Mr. Rogers took a moment to remove his shoes and soak his feet in a small pool of water. Rogers then invited Francois Clemmons, the friendly neighborhood policeman, to soak his feet alongside him. Clemmons was the first African American to hold a recurring role on a national children’s program. They rested their feet together in the water and chatted about life. Mr. Rogers seemed to have a way of showing others their value. He drew in, focused, and responded to the individual people around him. Later, Clemmons said, Fred Rogers not only was showing my brown skin in the tub with his white skin, but as I was getting out of that tub, he was helping me dry my feet.
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He was helping me dry my feet.
I think he was making a very strong statement,
Clemmons said. And I discovered a friend for life.
Journalist Tom Junod said in a reflection on Rogers, He practiced [kindness] like he practiced a musical instrument. I think he did the scales every day.
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• • •
Seeing people happens in countless everyday ways. Take, for instance, the time Sara’s life intersected with her local postal service worker. Sara is bright, fun, kind, and a terrific mother. When I asked Sara if I could share her story, she said, I don’t have a spectacular story to tell—we’ve just become friends as she’s grown to know me and my story and she knows I am a single mom like herself and has looked out for my son and me.
One of the most beautiful things about Sara’s story is that she thinks it’s just ordinary. To Sara, it seems like something that you just do.
Do you know the name of the person who brings your mail? Sara sure does. Day after day, workers of the United States Postal Service visit nearly every person in the United States. In rain, sleet, and snow
these tireless workers toil to bring birthday cards, junk mail, gifts, bills, and everything in between. They play a vital role in our communities, and each one of them has a story. To Sara, her postal worker isn’t just the mail lady.
She is Marilyn. Over the course of thirteen years, Sara developed a dear friendship with Marilyn. On hot and humid Atlanta days, Marilyn could always count on Sara for a water, popsicle, or even lunch. Not only did Sara care for the person who brought the mail, but the mail lady also often ministered to Sara.
Upon Marilyn’s retirement, Sara’s whole neighborhood threw a party for their friend to honor this woman who had served them for many years. Kids painted signs celebrating Marilyn, this wonderful person they all came to know and love. I wonder how many days Marilyn drove through the neighborhood. How many pieces of mail did she deliver? How many rainy, hot, and even snowy days did she endure, hitting the brakes at each mailbox before accelerating to the next? It could be easy for a person and a neighborhood to forget, but this time, kindness and intentionality won the day.
Proverbs 11:25 (
niv
) says, A generous person will prosper; whoever refreshes others will be refreshed.
Studies indicate that symptoms of struggling mental health are rising across individuals from every season of life, and especially among young people in our country. People feel unseen, depleted, and broken. The Lord is calling you and me to the people around us each day, to something so countercultural, unique, and powerful, that it just may make a dent in the sadness—He’s called us to see people.
The Power of Washing Feet
What does the most powerful man in the room do when he understands that he is the most powerful man in the room? For Jesus, it meant showing care and practicing humility. Jesus didn’t ask for service as the Son of God—instead, He served others. Jesus said in Matthew 20:28 The Son of Man came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.
Jesus gave us a visual example of this service when He gathered at a large religious festival with His followers. The Scriptures tell us that Jesus loved His followers to the end
(John 13:1). When we think about the love of Jesus for His followers, we might sometimes think His love lacked the affection that we often feel in our love. This simply isn’t true. Through the life of Jesus, He draws near in affection for His friends. He weeps at the death of a friend. He holds the hand of a little girl. He addresses a woman with a lifelong, debilitating, and embarrassing disease as a daughter.
Jesus knew His mission. He would endure temptation, give up Himself in death on a cross, and then rise victoriously from the grave. After a meal with His closest friends and followers, Jesus stood up, grabbed a towel, and tied it around His waist. Taking each of His friends’ feet into His own hands, He washed their feet. I can’t help but imagine the bewilderment of the group watching their leader stoop down to such a task, the task of a servant.
One of His closest followers rejected this offer, to which Jesus replied, If I don’t wash you, you have no part with me
(John 13:8
csb
). If we zoom out a bit on the story, we also see in attendance Judas Iscariot, who for a handful of coins would betray Jesus and hand Him over to be killed. And Jesus washed his feet too. In a world where vengeance and violence often ruled the day, Jesus told and showed us how to love your enemies
(Matt. 5:44).
We see people first not because we decide that they deserve to be seen. We see people because every single person in the entire world matters to our heavenly Father. We often say within the church family something like, As the Lord has been to us, so we will be to others.
Maybe you’ve felt that kind of love. Maybe you’ve had someone draw their warm and inviting attention toward you. It seems when people spent time with Jesus, they felt like the only person in the room.
As children, we often had an adult place their focus on us. Maybe they sat on the floor with us, played a game, shared a meal, taught a math lesson, or showed us a skill. I’m sure you remember those childhood moments because they were meaningful to you. We never forget how good it feels to be seen and valued. Unfortunately, as adults we often go unseen and catch ourselves reflecting back to those long-ago moments when someone did see us.
But what if we could change that?
Tired from a long journey, Jesus sat down beside a well in the town of Samaria. As a Jewish man, Jesus would have had a history of strife to draw upon in relation to the Samaritan people. Jews and Samaritans held great animosity toward one another. As a woman from Samaria came to draw water, Jesus said to her, Give me a drink.
It’s wild enough that a Jewish man would talk to a Samaritan, but further craziness that an upstanding religious man would engage in conversation with a woman known to make less than upstanding choices. Even Jesus’s friends were dismayed. But Jesus persisted. He showed the woman He indeed is living water, not just quenching the palate in a moment, but the one who hydrates the soul forever. Jesus knew the woman, her sin, and her shortcomings—yet He saw her. He slowed down. He drew in.
Jesus stooped down to us, just like He met the Samaritan woman right where she was. He walked the earth as 100 percent man and 100 percent God, at the same time. The Son of God, who created the stars in the sky and the waters of the sea, grew thirsty. He was tired, abandoned, beaten,