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Finding Your People: The ultimate guide to friendship
A relatable guide to finding, keeping and saying goodbye to friendships, from the twin-flame hosts of the hit podcast Two Broke Chicks.
Despite living in a world where instant communication is at our fingertips, it sometimes feels harder than ever to make meaningful connections. There's an overwhelming focus on romantic partners, but frankly, we're sick of platonic relationships missing out on the hype.
Friendships are some of the most significant relationships you'll ever have, and navigating conflict, miscommunication and new life phases is part and parcel of holding on to really good mates.
After seven years in an unholy union as best friends, twin flames and platonic soulmates, Sal and Al from Two Broke Chicks share what they've learned to help you find, keep and say goodbye to the friendships in your life.
Whether you're struggling to balance your social life, worried your pals don't like your new partner, unsure how to deal with that toxic friend, or simply at a loss as to how to make friends as an adult, consider this book your brand new bestie.
'This book is a tonic. Al and Sal masterfully centre friendship and navigate the complexities of platonic love in all of the ways it deserves to be valued and seen.' Hannah Ferguson, author of Bite Back
'Feels like you're having a convo with your bestie over a vino!' Lucy and Nikki, hosts of the Happy Hour with Lucy and Nikki podcast
'The girls find a way to breakdown friendships in an honest and relatable manner, offering real tools to help you have the quality friendships you dream of.' Alexis Fernandez -Preiksa, author of The Neuroscience of Self-Love
'The ultimate companion guide for friendship in your 20s, 30s and beyond. A must read!' Jemma Sbeg, host of The Psychology of Your 20s podcast
Despite living in a world where instant communication is at our fingertips, it sometimes feels harder than ever to make meaningful connections. There's an overwhelming focus on romantic partners, but frankly, we're sick of platonic relationships missing out on the hype.
Friendships are some of the most significant relationships you'll ever have, and navigating conflict, miscommunication and new life phases is part and parcel of holding on to really good mates.
After seven years in an unholy union as best friends, twin flames and platonic soulmates, Sal and Al from Two Broke Chicks share what they've learned to help you find, keep and say goodbye to the friendships in your life.
Whether you're struggling to balance your social life, worried your pals don't like your new partner, unsure how to deal with that toxic friend, or simply at a loss as to how to make friends as an adult, consider this book your brand new bestie.
'This book is a tonic. Al and Sal masterfully centre friendship and navigate the complexities of platonic love in all of the ways it deserves to be valued and seen.' Hannah Ferguson, author of Bite Back
'Feels like you're having a convo with your bestie over a vino!' Lucy and Nikki, hosts of the Happy Hour with Lucy and Nikki podcast
'The girls find a way to breakdown friendships in an honest and relatable manner, offering real tools to help you have the quality friendships you dream of.' Alexis Fernandez -Preiksa, author of The Neuroscience of Self-Love
'The ultimate companion guide for friendship in your 20s, 30s and beyond. A must read!' Jemma Sbeg, host of The Psychology of Your 20s podcast
308 pages, Kindle Edition
Published June 4, 2024
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August 18, 2024
Although I think I've already found my people, I wanted to read this book in support of Sal and Al.
During reading I had many points of reflection on past friendships and even had some lightbulb moments for my current friendships that I was not expecting.
All in all it helped me reaffirm just how wonderful my circle is and how much I appreciate my people and how lucky I am (but also excitedly I might not of met them all yet) 💕 tell your mates you love them!
During reading I had many points of reflection on past friendships and even had some lightbulb moments for my current friendships that I was not expecting.
All in all it helped me reaffirm just how wonderful my circle is and how much I appreciate my people and how lucky I am (but also excitedly I might not of met them all yet) 💕 tell your mates you love them!
June 9, 2024
this book was very sweet and gorgeous to read. it’s filled with so much colour and soul. it’s also beautiful and sweet in a way that only female friendship can be.
i shared a conversation with a friend of mine from school in which we hesitantly admitted that perhaps we peaked in high school. the very next day i bought this book from work (my first sort of self-help book). it felt a bit embarrassing, or humiliating, or that i was admitting defeat when i added this to my goodreads but i refuse to have peaked in high school.
this book has instilled some hope in me that there’s so many people out there that i will be friends with, i just haven’t met them yet. i did have strong feeling of envy or ‘wish that was me’ sort of experience when reading. the experiences that the authors shared made me think of girls in my life who are already best friends with each other - ‘read this and thought of you and your best friend’ sort of scenario - rather than thinking of any best friend that i have myself. but that’s okay!
my favourite sections of the book were the parts they reflected on high school/the friendships they had in their adolescence, family-based friendships, and the chapter on best friends we see in pop culture (like friends, euphoria etc.). i don’t really think i have enough friends to have experienced all the conflicts that can arise in friendships that this book talks about. i also found some of their advice unreasonable - like scheduling in monthly catch-ups feels odd to me, and overemphasising drinking culture in australia or doing activities with friends that require paying for stuff, whether that’s coffee/dinner/pilates etc. overall it’s given me a lot of hope, comfort and excitement during a period of my life where i am feeling a little lonely! (crazy that i admitted that - but no one reads these anyways….right?) (if you are reading this, it is obviously a sign we should be friends).
i think i’m potentially overselling this book - but it would be questionable to say i fundamentally disliked a book about making friends. like…that doesn’t sound too friendly of me.
i shared a conversation with a friend of mine from school in which we hesitantly admitted that perhaps we peaked in high school. the very next day i bought this book from work (my first sort of self-help book). it felt a bit embarrassing, or humiliating, or that i was admitting defeat when i added this to my goodreads but i refuse to have peaked in high school.
this book has instilled some hope in me that there’s so many people out there that i will be friends with, i just haven’t met them yet. i did have strong feeling of envy or ‘wish that was me’ sort of experience when reading. the experiences that the authors shared made me think of girls in my life who are already best friends with each other - ‘read this and thought of you and your best friend’ sort of scenario - rather than thinking of any best friend that i have myself. but that’s okay!
my favourite sections of the book were the parts they reflected on high school/the friendships they had in their adolescence, family-based friendships, and the chapter on best friends we see in pop culture (like friends, euphoria etc.). i don’t really think i have enough friends to have experienced all the conflicts that can arise in friendships that this book talks about. i also found some of their advice unreasonable - like scheduling in monthly catch-ups feels odd to me, and overemphasising drinking culture in australia or doing activities with friends that require paying for stuff, whether that’s coffee/dinner/pilates etc. overall it’s given me a lot of hope, comfort and excitement during a period of my life where i am feeling a little lonely! (crazy that i admitted that - but no one reads these anyways….right?) (if you are reading this, it is obviously a sign we should be friends).
i think i’m potentially overselling this book - but it would be questionable to say i fundamentally disliked a book about making friends. like…that doesn’t sound too friendly of me.
July 13, 2024
Tell your mates you love them 🫶🏼🤗🫂
August 27, 2024
I found myself resonating with a lot in this book! Finding new friends & keeping long term friendships in your 20’s is tough.
May 27, 2024
So excited to read this! Al and Sal are two wholesome, inspiring af podcast girlies who are really paving the way in the Australian scene for everything from budgeting to fashion, life tips to relationship advice in your 20/30s - and I expect this book will be no different. They're so relatable and if their podcast content/advice regarding friendships, boundaries and hobbies are anything to go by then this book will be 🙌🏽✨ (also - A+ design on the book cover)
July 14, 2024
Was a nice read with some interesting, practical advice and wholesome stories. However, I found there was a HUGE emphasis on drinking culture. I found the advice and anecdotes about getting plastered with mates and being insanely hungover, sometimes multiple times per page, quite offputting. 😢
July 7, 2024
Listened to the audiobook. Easy listening, was nice but not life changing.
August 2, 2024
4 ⭐️ first time I have read a book like this and my emotional intelligence has been levelled up and I’m gonna go tell all my friends I love them BYE
July 3, 2024
Love these girls and love this book. Would recommend to friends 🥰
June 24, 2024
I loved this book, beautiful read!
July 7, 2024
While there were some good points and lessons from this book most especially the part where we should be friends with ourselves and learn to enjoy our own time, I did find the part where the author shared their experience going on an outdoor adventure date with someone who had already eaten was a "f* that, red flag". I think that's a little harsh, some people might want to save money and not eat out, have an IBS flare up on that particular day or was nervous to share a meal with someone they just met. That just felt a little mean.
June 15, 2024
i love a book that makes you look around take a breathe and think fuck i’m so lucky to surrounded by these legends! and that’s exactly what this book did. sometimes you need a perspective shift and a reminder to text your friends and tell them you love them, this is a great reminder
September 26, 2024
I picked up Finding Your People by Alexander and Sally because I’ve been an avid listener of their podcast, Two Broke Chicks, for almost a year now—thanks to my best friend’s recommendation! These two have been my go-to source for life advice, and with their live show coming up next month (which we’re beyond excited for), I figured it was the perfect time to dive into their book. Plus, I couldn’t resist the $12 deal at K-Mart, so I thought, why not?
Honestly, I didn’t expect to get so much from this book. At first, I wasn’t sure I needed it—I’ve already found my people, and I felt content. But once I started reading, I realized this book isn’t just for those searching for friends; it’s also for those who have found their people and want to strengthen those relationships. I even think of it as a guide for people who have found their people but are still navigating the ups and downs of friendships.
This book gave me a fresh perspective on maintaining the friendships I have and reflecting on the ones I’ve lost. It’s not just about how to make friends—it’s about appreciating the ones you have, understanding why some relationships end, and learning to be a better friend yourself. It helped me reflect on who I am as a friend, who I’ve been in the past, and who I want to be moving forward.
The way it touches on toxic friendships versus natural fizz-outs was especially eye-opening. It made me realize it’s okay to let go sometimes and reassured me that even the people I no longer speak to played a meaningful role in my life. This book is as much about self-reflection as it is about relationships, and it leaves you feeling more connected to the people in your life, past and present.
Surprisingly, I’ve gained so much from this book, more than I ever expected. It made me feel incredibly lucky for the friends I have, while also giving me hope that I might find more of my people in the future. I’d recommend it to anyone, whether you’re searching for friends, trying to maintain relationships, or just reflecting on yourself. I even got my therapist, who’s in her 50s, reading it—and she loves it!
Honestly, I didn’t expect to get so much from this book. At first, I wasn’t sure I needed it—I’ve already found my people, and I felt content. But once I started reading, I realized this book isn’t just for those searching for friends; it’s also for those who have found their people and want to strengthen those relationships. I even think of it as a guide for people who have found their people but are still navigating the ups and downs of friendships.
This book gave me a fresh perspective on maintaining the friendships I have and reflecting on the ones I’ve lost. It’s not just about how to make friends—it’s about appreciating the ones you have, understanding why some relationships end, and learning to be a better friend yourself. It helped me reflect on who I am as a friend, who I’ve been in the past, and who I want to be moving forward.
The way it touches on toxic friendships versus natural fizz-outs was especially eye-opening. It made me realize it’s okay to let go sometimes and reassured me that even the people I no longer speak to played a meaningful role in my life. This book is as much about self-reflection as it is about relationships, and it leaves you feeling more connected to the people in your life, past and present.
Surprisingly, I’ve gained so much from this book, more than I ever expected. It made me feel incredibly lucky for the friends I have, while also giving me hope that I might find more of my people in the future. I’d recommend it to anyone, whether you’re searching for friends, trying to maintain relationships, or just reflecting on yourself. I even got my therapist, who’s in her 50s, reading it—and she loves it!
September 21, 2024
I was attracted to read this because of its title and being listed on a recent new company on ebooks called www.findanyebook.com but I soon found out that his book is written by a couple of teenaged girls and wrote this book over their weekend discussions and girl night parties. Finding your people as a book on friends does not do justice to the topic and alot if left missed out in the end.
First and foremost, the book begins with becoming your own friend. Imagine, a book on friendship that tells you to be your own friend. Ironically, this is the only well-written chapter in the whole book. The remaining part of the book is divided into different modalities of friendships or types such as
romantic friendships, toxic friendships and friends that are there for a reason, season or forever, I hope that makes sense.
The book takes up topics like touching and gifting between friends but it appears that it aims towards young girls or women who are looking for ways to deal with women groups.
The book comes out as clumsy and only-for-women content oriented. I wish they could have taken some ideas from Epicureus.
First and foremost, the book begins with becoming your own friend. Imagine, a book on friendship that tells you to be your own friend. Ironically, this is the only well-written chapter in the whole book. The remaining part of the book is divided into different modalities of friendships or types such as
romantic friendships, toxic friendships and friends that are there for a reason, season or forever, I hope that makes sense.
The book takes up topics like touching and gifting between friends but it appears that it aims towards young girls or women who are looking for ways to deal with women groups.
The book comes out as clumsy and only-for-women content oriented. I wish they could have taken some ideas from Epicureus.
September 30, 2024
The premise of the book is great considering we live in a literal loneliness epidemic and seems great for those seeking more intentional and nourishing relationships. But honestly this missed the mark for me…it kind of reads more like a column in dolly magazine, which I’m not mad at lowkey.
But as I was unfamiliar with the authors and their podcast, it felt like i was missing out on a level of gravity never registered. Drawing from lived experience is great, I found myself resonating with some of the anecdotes, but i found it became overdone really quickly.
I had different expectations, but I can see this book being helpful for young adults navigating their relationships for the first time.
2.5
But as I was unfamiliar with the authors and their podcast, it felt like i was missing out on a level of gravity never registered. Drawing from lived experience is great, I found myself resonating with some of the anecdotes, but i found it became overdone really quickly.
I had different expectations, but I can see this book being helpful for young adults navigating their relationships for the first time.
2.5
July 24, 2024
Having moved to a new country with only a handful of individuals I know, this book was like a warm hug saying this shit I’m in now will pass.
However, I still don’t really know how to make new friends as an adult after reading this. The key takeaway is just to love yourself and people will come in which I’m like that’s fucking easier said than done…
Anyways, there are some valuable insights such as how to bring up conflict with friends and how to apologise to them
However, I still don’t really know how to make new friends as an adult after reading this. The key takeaway is just to love yourself and people will come in which I’m like that’s fucking easier said than done…
Anyways, there are some valuable insights such as how to bring up conflict with friends and how to apologise to them
August 14, 2024
Made me cry, laugh and have multiple eye opening moments around friendships I have and friendships I want. Such a beautifully written book that honestly felt like a massive hug from your big sister. My biggest takeaway; at the end of the day, the most important relationship you will have is the one with yourself - the way you treat yourself trickles into every other relationship you have.
July 10, 2024
The only 'self-help' book worth reading.
July 14, 2024
Took a hot minute to finish but was reassuring and super insightful.
September 4, 2024
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September 13, 2024Just turn your brain off while reading this, at least that’s what I did.
September 22, 2024
Nice little audio book lisen from the lovely podcast humans. Nice to reflect on my own friendships, tell my friends I love them and feel optimistic about all the people still yet to come into my life
September 23, 2024
4.5
Life changing
Life changing
October 2, 2024
Super surface level stuff
October 4, 2024
Fun lil read, enjoyed it but nothing revolutionary
September 26, 2024
Such a good recomm to enter the girls group chat! Loved how sweet this audiobook was
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