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What Happened to You? & What I Know for Sure By Oprah Winfrey Collection 2 Books Set
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What Happened to You? & What I Know for Sure By Oprah Winfrey Collection 2 Books
What Happened to You?:
Oprah Winfrey and renowned brain development and trauma expert, Dr. Bruce Perry, discuss the impact of trauma and adverse experiences and how healing must begin with a shift to asking, 'what happened to you?' rather than 'what’s wrong with you?' Through wide-ranging, and often deeply personal conversation, Oprah Winfrey and Dr. Perry explore how what happens to us in early childhood – both good and bad - influences the people we become. They challenge us to shift from focusing on, 'What’s wrong with you?' or “Why are you behaving that way?,”
What I Know for
Candid, moving, exhilarating, uplifting, and frequently humorous, the words Oprah shares in What I Know For Sure shimmer with the sort of truth that readers will turn to again and again. As a creative force, student of the human heart and soul, and champion of living the life you want, Oprah Winfrey stands alone. Over the years, she has made history with a legendary talk show (the highest-rated program of its kind), launched her own television network, become the USA's only African-American billionaire, and been awarded both an honorary degree by Harvard University and the Presidential Medal of Freedom.
What Happened to You? & What I Know for Sure By Oprah Winfrey Collection 2 Books
What Happened to You?:
Oprah Winfrey and renowned brain development and trauma expert, Dr. Bruce Perry, discuss the impact of trauma and adverse experiences and how healing must begin with a shift to asking, 'what happened to you?' rather than 'what’s wrong with you?' Through wide-ranging, and often deeply personal conversation, Oprah Winfrey and Dr. Perry explore how what happens to us in early childhood – both good and bad - influences the people we become. They challenge us to shift from focusing on, 'What’s wrong with you?' or “Why are you behaving that way?,”
What I Know for
Candid, moving, exhilarating, uplifting, and frequently humorous, the words Oprah shares in What I Know For Sure shimmer with the sort of truth that readers will turn to again and again. As a creative force, student of the human heart and soul, and champion of living the life you want, Oprah Winfrey stands alone. Over the years, she has made history with a legendary talk show (the highest-rated program of its kind), launched her own television network, become the USA's only African-American billionaire, and been awarded both an honorary degree by Harvard University and the Presidential Medal of Freedom.
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Published January 1, 2021
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Oprah Winfrey
126 books5,283 followersAs the visionary and leader behind OWN: Oprah Winfrey Network and formerly the supervising producer and host of the top-rated, award-winning “The Oprah Winfrey Show,” Oprah has entertained and inspired millions of viewers to live their best lives. Her accomplishments as a global media leader and philanthropist have established her as one of the most respected and admired public figures today.
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November 6, 2021
Wow, a very easy read about how much of our childhood makes up who we are. I listened to the book so I heard both Oprah and Bruce Perry narrate it felt as if they were just having a conversation.
It starts out with Oprah telling her story of growing up with her grandmother...a very abusive upbringing where she was whipped so that blood stained her clothes then chastised for allowing that. All the time they were a God fearing, church going family. She describes herself as a 'pleaser' becuase of this.
Bruce Perry goes on to share his immense research about childhood trauma and how he has treated the most severely abused children.
What I walked away with was the following:
At birth a child needs to know that his/her needs are being met...I'm hungry-feed me, I'm cold-warm me, I'm hurting-hold me. In the first two months, if these needs are not met the child immediately forms behaviors and opinions as to how life works. Perry goes on to say that a child whose first two months of life who had all their needs met then goes onto being abused has a much better chance of a normal life then one that was neglected the first two months of their life then went onto having a loving upbringing.
A child needs to really have some form of community. A mother cannot be there for the child 100% of the time and also has their own needs so a child needs to be able to go to the father, uncle, sibling, church, school, friends or neighbors to get everything.
When a child is abused all different senses are engaged so a trigger may be the smell of the abuser's aftershave, the tone of a voice, positioning of how a person stands or approaches you.
When a child or actually any person, needs to be able to digest how they want to move forward with it. When Bruce Perry worked with the Waco children who survived and were brought up being taught that everyone outside of their community is the enemy they had to first just be there and be a part of their life. Let the kids eat, play and then allow them to approach the doctors. Bringing up their trauma to them when they are not ready to talk about it is far more detrimental than previously known. The patient needs to do it at their own pace.
You can never change the past, it is real and it has happened. The only thing you can do is to move forward, “Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could have been any different, it's accepting the past for what it was, and using this moment and this time to help yourself move forward.”
Great book, I didn't give it 5 stars only because I had hoped it touched a bit on some some less traumatic experiences.
It starts out with Oprah telling her story of growing up with her grandmother...a very abusive upbringing where she was whipped so that blood stained her clothes then chastised for allowing that. All the time they were a God fearing, church going family. She describes herself as a 'pleaser' becuase of this.
Bruce Perry goes on to share his immense research about childhood trauma and how he has treated the most severely abused children.
What I walked away with was the following:
At birth a child needs to know that his/her needs are being met...I'm hungry-feed me, I'm cold-warm me, I'm hurting-hold me. In the first two months, if these needs are not met the child immediately forms behaviors and opinions as to how life works. Perry goes on to say that a child whose first two months of life who had all their needs met then goes onto being abused has a much better chance of a normal life then one that was neglected the first two months of their life then went onto having a loving upbringing.
A child needs to really have some form of community. A mother cannot be there for the child 100% of the time and also has their own needs so a child needs to be able to go to the father, uncle, sibling, church, school, friends or neighbors to get everything.
When a child is abused all different senses are engaged so a trigger may be the smell of the abuser's aftershave, the tone of a voice, positioning of how a person stands or approaches you.
When a child or actually any person, needs to be able to digest how they want to move forward with it. When Bruce Perry worked with the Waco children who survived and were brought up being taught that everyone outside of their community is the enemy they had to first just be there and be a part of their life. Let the kids eat, play and then allow them to approach the doctors. Bringing up their trauma to them when they are not ready to talk about it is far more detrimental than previously known. The patient needs to do it at their own pace.
You can never change the past, it is real and it has happened. The only thing you can do is to move forward, “Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could have been any different, it's accepting the past for what it was, and using this moment and this time to help yourself move forward.”
Great book, I didn't give it 5 stars only because I had hoped it touched a bit on some some less traumatic experiences.
January 31, 2024
I found it very insightful how past trauma affects your life moving forward, and how two people raised the same way can react in totally different ways. Oprah’s story in the epilogue of her mother dying and how she came to peace within herself by forgiving her and realizing that her mother was coming from a place of trauma herself, therefore rendering Oprah’s childhood traumatic as well. It was a very thought provoking book.
November 28, 2021
I read Bruce Perry's book, The boy who was raised as a dog when my first child was just born. It was a shocking revelation about how human identity is formed. Those who were not loved do not know how to love. This book carries the same message, but with a more popular tone, with the presence of Oprah Winfrey. Our life is a miracle, but it is also an experience. We have a responsibility to make our and others' experiences worthwhile. Hence, we must understand how our brain functions deeper, remove the primordial instincts and biases established before we know better, and work hard to achieve a better version of ourselves.
I am thrilled that I picked up this book, and I would suggest any young adults or parents give it a try.
I am thrilled that I picked up this book, and I would suggest any young adults or parents give it a try.
December 7, 2024
بسمه تعالی
آیا تا به حال به چیزی واکنشی نشان داده اید که خودتان را متعجب کند؟یا اینکه در مورد پرخوری عصبی و ترک آن احساس ناتوانی کرده اید؟
1.ذهن ما با تجربیات منحصر به فردی که در کودکی تجربه می کنیم شکل میگیرد.رمز گشایی از کد های خودتان.
2.شما نمی توانید با نداشتن دانش از نحوه عمکرد مغز آسیبهای روانی را درمان کنید.
3.یادگیری استراتژی های مثبت و ساختار یافته برای درمان آسیب روحی الزامی است.
4.کار کردن با ریتم آوای درونی مان کلیدی برای درمان آسیبهای روحی است.(آرامش درونی-ماساژ-مدیتیشن-تعطیلی یک روز در هفته)
5.آموختن ایجاد روابطی مثبت با مردم اطرافمان کلید دیگری برای درمان است.
6.مقدار مناسب و کنترل شده از استرس میتواند به تقویت آمادگی و سازگاری شما برابر حوادث کمک کند.
7.آسیب ناشی از نژاد پرستی سیستماتیک به نسل های بعدی نیز منتقب میشود.
8.ما با داشتن حمایت کافی می توانیم با تجربیات عصبی خود غلبه کنیم.
9.تجربیات آسیب زا بخصوص زمانی که کوچک هستیم ذهن ما را به کلی تغییر میدهند.آنها بر نحوه پاسخگویی ما به استرسو سرعت گزار از تجارب ناگوار به سوی زندگی عادی تاثیر می گذارند.
با وجود اینکه نمی توانیم تجارب آسیب زای خود را یه طور کلی از ذهن و زندگی پاک کنیم ! اما می توانیم سازگاری خود را در برخورد با آنها افزایش دهیم.
با گسترش روابط با دیگران و آموختن استراتژی های مثبت برای کنترل خود می توانیم ذهنمان را برای پاسخگوئی به محرک ها انتخاب کنیم مواجه با آسیبهای روتنی یک کسیر فردی نیست این نتیجه تجربیات مخرب از جمله نژاد پرستی و فقر است که به عنوان یک جامعه باید در کنار هم تاثیرات آن را درمان کنیم.
آیا تا به حال به چیزی واکنشی نشان داده اید که خودتان را متعجب کند؟یا اینکه در مورد پرخوری عصبی و ترک آن احساس ناتوانی کرده اید؟
1.ذهن ما با تجربیات منحصر به فردی که در کودکی تجربه می کنیم شکل میگیرد.رمز گشایی از کد های خودتان.
2.شما نمی توانید با نداشتن دانش از نحوه عمکرد مغز آسیبهای روانی را درمان کنید.
3.یادگیری استراتژی های مثبت و ساختار یافته برای درمان آسیب روحی الزامی است.
4.کار کردن با ریتم آوای درونی مان کلیدی برای درمان آسیبهای روحی است.(آرامش درونی-ماساژ-مدیتیشن-تعطیلی یک روز در هفته)
5.آموختن ایجاد روابطی مثبت با مردم اطرافمان کلید دیگری برای درمان است.
6.مقدار مناسب و کنترل شده از استرس میتواند به تقویت آمادگی و سازگاری شما برابر حوادث کمک کند.
7.آسیب ناشی از نژاد پرستی سیستماتیک به نسل های بعدی نیز منتقب میشود.
8.ما با داشتن حمایت کافی می توانیم با تجربیات عصبی خود غلبه کنیم.
9.تجربیات آسیب زا بخصوص زمانی که کوچک هستیم ذهن ما را به کلی تغییر میدهند.آنها بر نحوه پاسخگویی ما به استرسو سرعت گزار از تجارب ناگوار به سوی زندگی عادی تاثیر می گذارند.
با وجود اینکه نمی توانیم تجارب آسیب زای خود را یه طور کلی از ذهن و زندگی پاک کنیم ! اما می توانیم سازگاری خود را در برخورد با آنها افزایش دهیم.
با گسترش روابط با دیگران و آموختن استراتژی های مثبت برای کنترل خود می توانیم ذهنمان را برای پاسخگوئی به محرک ها انتخاب کنیم مواجه با آسیبهای روتنی یک کسیر فردی نیست این نتیجه تجربیات مخرب از جمله نژاد پرستی و فقر است که به عنوان یک جامعه باید در کنار هم تاثیرات آن را درمان کنیم.
April 8, 2024
Excellent book to read if you have a pulse. Considering to live is to suffer trauma.
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Intrauterine definition: within the uterus
We often use our belief in another person's resilience as an emotional shield.
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bringing strong images, memories, or feelings to mind.
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Their experiences took a serious toll on both of them
The saddest aspect of life right now is that science gathers knowledge faster than society gathers wisdom
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What my 👂 heard 👇
Intrauterine definition: within the uterus
We often use our belief in another person's resilience as an emotional shield.
evocative
OverviewSimilar and opposite wordsUsage examples
Dictionary
Definitions from Oxford Languages · Learn more
adjective
bringing strong images, memories, or feelings to mind.
"powerfully evocative lyrics"
Their experiences took a serious toll on both of them
The saddest aspect of life right now is that science gathers knowledge faster than society gathers wisdom
Extrinsic goals =materialism & status.
Intrinsic goals = community, meaning in life, affiliation
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December 11, 2021Não consegui continuar. O assunto é super interessante, no entanto achei meio que tem muita enrolação.
June 18, 2024
A long discussion on trauma.
September 29, 2024
Super informative but I wish they offered more concrete solutions for teachers to apply
November 20, 2024
Didn’t finish it. Couldn’t get into jt.
January 5, 2025
Headway
May 30, 2022
This was one of those books that i had to pace myself when I tried to read it. I have my own daughter but I also evaluated my relationship with my parents and that alone was enough to have me crying trying to understand a lot of what they did. We don't realize growing up how much it takes to raise children and how we cannot continue to carry those burdens from the past not just for ourselves but also for the rest of our generations.
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