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Michelle Laney
Professor Ditch
English 114A
09 December 2014
Relations to Gender
There are many misconceptions of gender and sex, such as the two being confused with
one another. Sex is what an individual is born with, either being female or male. Gender is
femininity or masculinity that the individual performs. In Western society, being a feminine
male or masculine female is rather frowned upon. In the readings Night to His Day: The Social
Meanings of Gender by Judith Lorber and Rethinking Womens Biology by Ruth Hubbard,
the authors both share a common idea on how gender is constructed; they both share a common
theme of: parenting and pop culture. Being a female with nonconforming parents, and being
exposed to the negative sides of media everyday, I can relate strongly to these common ideas.
The controversy of gender construction is based on the perspective of conformists and
nonconformists. Conformists of the western society have an ideal theory that men are masculine
and women are feminine, this is problematic to nonconformists. Nonconformists are accepting to
masculine women and feminine men. ... our concept of ourselves is socially constructed and
political because our societys interpretation of what is what is not normal and naturally affects
what we do Thus norms are self-fulling prophecies that do not merely describe how we are
but prescribe how we should be (47). Ruth Hubbard uses this to explain how Western society
views nonconformity and how some people in society naturally adapt to this way of thinking.
Not knowing the differences of a masculine man versus a feminine woman and a masculine
women versus a feminine man, my views were very nonconformist. I never understood the

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controversy of conformists and nonconformists.


Parenting is one of the few, but crucial, aspects of gender construction. It is one of the
earliest stages of gender identification, as parents, they have an idea of what they want their child
to be like; they modify the childs attributes for their desired gender. Judith Lorber explains in
Night to His Day: The Social Meanings of Construction, Most parents create a gender world
for their newborn by naming, birth announcements, and dress. Childrens relationship with samegender and different gendered caretakers structure their self-identifications and personalities
through cognitive development, children extract and apply to their own actions, the appropriate
behavior for those who belong in their own gender Many feminist parents who want to raise
androgynous soon lose their children to pull the gendered norms (25). That being said, Lorber
agrees that parenting is a crucial part of influencing children to act a certain way based on the
parents views. Luckily, my parents raised both sexes in the family. Growing up with two older
brothers, I always followed in their footsteps when it came to playing in mud, throwing back and
forth footballs and dressing as a tomboy. My parents never told me that what i was doing was
nonconforming but rather they accepted it and never second guessed my gender.
Social media is another major influence on gender construction in western society;
children, teens, and even adults are easily manipulated with things in media. Society adapts their
daily lives with things they find attractive in social media; that includes women being more
feminine and men being more masculine. In the reading Rethinking Womens Biology by
Ruth Hubbard, she quotes Different societies have different standards of beauty for women, and
many of these involve differences in desirable weight In our society changes in style not just
of clothing but of body shape are generated, at least in part, because in entire industries depend
on our liking of the way we look so that we will buy the products that promise to change it (48).

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Social media helps influence young adults to act outside their comfort zone. As a personal
experience, growing up I was not into barbies. I would ask for Legos for Christmas and my
cousins would always make fun of me calling me names such as boy. On television, I
remember watching a commercial of Barbies and little girls playing with them, and then I saw
only boys playing with legos. So instantly, I changed my whole pleasure of playing with legos
and started asking for barbies.
Parenting and pop culture can dictate gender construction but it is up to an individual to
determine if they want to be feminine or masculine. Growing up, you are not informed about
gender but as you grow older, gender is then socially constructed by your parents and pop
culture. Parents can have a negative outtake on teaching their children how to act, or they can be
nonconformists and teach their children equality. Pop culture can influence children to become
feminine or masculine by giving out the best advice or children can disobey their rules and be
their own individual. I have nonconformist parents and I am constantly watching television that
feeds me information about being feminine. I do not comply with their rules in order to feel
accepted in society.

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