Children and Trauma A YUEN
Children and Trauma A YUEN
Children and Trauma A YUEN
responsesa response-based
to trauma:
narrative practice
By Angel Yuen
DISCOURSES OF VICTIMHOOD
Contemporary discourses of victimhood can
contribute considerably to establishing long-term
negative identity conclusions. In Toronto, as in
many other major cities around the world,
discourses of victimhood are ever-present in the
media with regard to violence and other traumatic
events. For example, a few months ago the Toronto
community was shocked to hear of the murder of a
fourteen-year-old boy in his school in the middle of
the day. Almost instantly, the news was splashed
with headlines such as: The pain of the loss will be
A PROJECT OF DISCOVERING
CHILDRENS RESPONSES
Over the past year and a half in this project of
discovery, I have engaged in several conversations
with children and young persons, ranging from six to
seventeen years old. Half were children who were
currently experiencing or had experienced trauma,
and half were adolescents who had historically
faced significant trauma when they were children.
As I have become more purposeful about
discovering responses to trauma, I have begun to
explore what they did and how they responded
before, during, and after traumatic events.
The following questions have assisted my
inquiries:
How did you respond? What did you do?
What did you do when you were scared?
What did you show/not show on your face
during times of abuse?
Where did you hide when you were scared?
What did you do once you found a place
to hide?
Even though it was not possible for you to
stop the violence as a child, how did you
attempt to protect yourself or others?
How did you comfort yourself and
your siblings?
How did your brothers and sisters
comfort you?
What did you do/are you doing to lessen the
effects of abuse/witnessing violence/death of
your parent, etc?
ACTS OF RESISTANCE
Often open opposition, rebelling, or fighting
back would have posed danger to the children
who spoke with me about their experiences of
abuse and violence. Therefore, I have found it
useful to enquire about their acts of resistance by
asking questions that elicit descriptions of very
subtle and micro-level responses (Wade, 1997).
For instance, one eight-year-old boy described
and recollected his resistance to the upset and
unfairness of his ongoing abuse and mistreatment
when he was very little: I knew that I couldnt show
that I was really mad or else she would hurt me.
So I just kept a straight face and instead clenched
my hands tight inside my pockets. She couldnt see
my hands, but clenching them meant that I could
be mad without her knowing or seeing it. I wouldnt
give her the satisfaction of having a reason to beat
me! By learning about childrens acts of resistance
such as this, I also find out more about the
thoughts and actions that sustained them during
difficult times.
RE-MEMBERING9 MAX
Angel: What would Max do when he knew you were
hurt or sad? How did he try to comfort you?
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DOUBLE-STORIED MEMORIES
With an enquiry into responses rather than
effects, Billys associations of the trauma of the
abduction were now not only about the harm done
to him, but also about how he and Max helped,
comforted, and cared for each other through
dangerous and fearful times. This conversation
created double-storied memories, with full
memories rather than half memories of the
trauma10. For quite some time, Billy had not thought
of Max. Through remembering Max as a loved pet,
the period of trauma was restored to full memory.
Having developed a second story of goodness
and caring, an alternative territory of identity was
provided for Billy to stand in to begin to talk about
the bad thoughts which were stuck in his head.
At this point, I heard more details about the abuse
that he had been subjected to, including memories
of severe violence, tricks, and dishonesty. Billy
made it clear that he wanted to share with someone
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CONNECTION-MAKING QUESTIONS
AND CONVERSATIONS
In conversations with children and young
people, I ask questions in order to co-create
meaning. While I am not wanting to impose my
thoughts or assumptions, I still aim to be influential
by asking what I call connection-making questions
to assist children in attributing their own meaning
or significance to an event or action.
In the conversation with Billy, I discovered that
he responded to trauma in many different ways.
These included acts of comfort, feeding Max, and
recognising a certain hungry bark. In naming these
responses, I was interested in the significance Billy
gave to them, so I asked the connection-making
question, Do you think you had some skills in
knowing how to take care of animals even though
you were really little? Billy became wide-eyed and
eagerly replied, Yeah! I guess I did!, and he
immediately made links between his taking-care
skills and knowledge of himself as a smart boy.
Providing children with a summary to reflect on
their new meaning of hidden experiences, followed
by a connection-making question, can also be very
helpful in helping children attribute meaning to
events that might otherwise have been neglected.
With Billy, I provided the following brief summary:
Its nice for me to get to know Max and how you
helped each other during difficult times. And to
hear about how you took care of him by making sure
he was fed and how you played with him. After this
summary, I followed with the connection-making
question, If I asked Max what this might tell me
about the kind of boy you are, what do you think he
would say? Through this questioning, alternative
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DESCRIPTION OF FOUR
LEVELS OF ENQUIRY
QUESTIONS
LEVEL 1
DISCOVERING CHILDRENS RESPONSES
AND ACTIONS
In this level, we encourage children to name the
events (responses and actions) of trauma.
This level is the lowest, with questions that will
most likely be easier for a child to answer, such
as What did you do?
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DESCRIPTION OF FOUR
LEVELS OF ENQUIRY
QUESTIONS
Additional specific response-based
questions re:
Lessening the effects
After the abuse, was there anything you did
that helped to lessen the effects?
How did you make yourself feel better?
Is there anything you are doing now that helps
to get through it?
Skills of living
Did you have imagining skills?
Did you have a refuge of sanctuary?
Was there a place that provided you with
comfort and safety during difficult times?
Acts of resistance
Did you do things to resist or oppose?
Significant stuffed friends and pets
Did/do you have a stuffed friend/pet that
helped you?
How would your stuffed friend/pet try to
comfort you?
How did you and your dog help each other?
LEVEL 2
MAKING LINKS OF CHILDRENS RESPONSES
TO THEIR KNOWLEDGES AND SKILLS
When a response has been named, questions in
this level involve making links and associations
of the response to knowledges and skills.
By asking connection-making questions, there is
the assumption that all children and young
people have meaning-making skills. Even very
little children have meaning-making skills.
Provide a summary using the childs descriptions
and knowledge in order for him/her to reflect on
and give meaning to their responses to trauma.
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DESCRIPTION OF FOUR
LEVELS OF ENQUIRY
LEVEL 3
MAKING LINKS OF SKILLS AND KNOWLEDGES
TO PREFERRED WAYS OF BEING (SUCH AS
VALUES, BELIEFS, HOPES, COMMITMENTS)
When a skill or knowledge is rendered visible,
we can invite children to reflect on, evaluate,
and draw realisations from the meaning they
have made.
Personal agency is elevated when skills,
knowledges, and values are made known.
When a skill or knowledge has been identified,
we can provide a summary using their
descriptions for the child to reflect on and give
meaning, and make links to values and
intentions.
LEVEL 4
RICH DESCRIPTION OF RESPONSES
WHICH REFLECTS VALUES, SKILLS,
AND KNOWLEDGES
In this highest level, we want to richly describe
responses and what they may reflect.
We can trace the history of the knowledges,
skills, values, and commitments in life.
In this level, questions are asked to explore the
influence of significant figures in the childs life
on their skills, knowledges, and values.
QUESTIONS
Connection-making questions could include:
Why was that skill important to you?
What do you think of yourself as a little
boy/girl and knowing at an early age how
to focus / keep yourself safe?
What to you think this says about the kind
of person you are?
Provide a summary followed by a connectionmaking question:
Example:
Youve shared lots of times with me that you
used your distraction skills to keep your little
brother and sister away from the fighting. Why
was it important to you that they did not see or
hear the fighting? What do you think this would
tell me about you?
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REFLECTIONS
Discourses of victimhood can obscure the
cleverness, competencies, and knowledges of
children. These discourses can also influence
therapists. When working with children who have
endured significant trauma, counsellors sometimes
lose hope during the process of seeking ways
forward.
In this paper, I have tried to describe my own
project of discovery. In working with children and
young people who have had traumatic experiences,
holding onto the belief that regardless of the nature
of the trauma, children and young people always
respond, has opened significant possibilities. An
enquiry into the responses a child has made to the
traumatic experience (versus the effects of what
they have experienced) can make many things
possible. When we discover multiple actions,
multiple responses, links can then be made
between particular responses and childrens skills,
knowledges, and values. Rather than making
statements which imply the child will never get over
it, by exploring responses we can co-discover how
they are getting through it. In saying this, its not
my intention to avoid the facts of the trauma and its
effects, as I know that children may express that
ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS
I would like to acknowledge all of the children
and young people I have worked with who have
experienced trauma. It has been their stories that
have generated hope and passion in my work and
contributed significantly to the development of the
ideas in this paper. Many thanks to the following
people who all offered feedback on an earlier draft:
Ruth Pluznick, David Newman, Sue Mann, Heather
Johnson and Linda Brown.
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NOTES
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REFERENCES
Adams-Westcott, J., Daffron, T, A. & Sterne, P. (1992).
Escaping victim life stories and co-constructing
personal agency. In Gilligan, S. & Price, R. (eds):
Therapeutic Conversations (pp. 28-270). New York:
W. W. Norton.
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