Life-Span Adjustment of Children To Their Parents' Divorce
Life-Span Adjustment of Children To Their Parents' Divorce
Children to Their
Parents Divorce
Paul R. Amato
Abstract
Children who experience parental divorce, compared with children in continuously
intact two-parent families, exhibit more conduct problems, more symptoms of
psychological maladjustment, lower academic achievement, more social difficulties,
and poorer self-concepts. Similarly, adults who experienced parental divorce as
children, compared with adults raised in continuously intact two-parent families,
score lower on a variety of indicators of psychological, interpersonal, and socioeconomic well-being.
However, the overall group differences between offspring from divorced and intact
families are small, with considerable diversity existing in childrens reactions to
divorce. Childrens adjustment to divorce depends on several factors, including the
amount and quality of contact with noncustodial parents, the custodial parents
psychological adjustment and parenting skills, the level of interparental conflict that
precedes and follows divorce, the degree of economic hardship to which children
are exposed, and the number of stressful life events that accompany and follow
divorce. These factors can be used as guides to assess the probable impact of various
legal and therapeutic interventions to improve the well-being of children of divorce.
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How Do Researchers
Study Children and
Divorce?
This research literature does not always lead to firm conclusions. Many gaps
exist in our knowledge, and weaknesses in
study methodology mean that many findings are tentative at best. Nevertheless, a
consensus is beginning to emerge among
social scientists about the consequences
of divorce for children. And, in spite of
its limitations, this knowledge can help to
inform policies designed to improve the
well-being of children involved in parental
marital dissolution.
How Do Children of
Divorce Differ from Other
Children?
Those who delve into the published literature on this topic may experience
some frustration, as the results vary a good
deal from study to study. Many studies
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Figure 1
Typical Distribution of Well-Being Scores for Children in Divorced and Intact Families
Divorced
Intact
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Low well-being
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Average well-being
on pooled data from 80,000 adults, suggest that parental divorce has a detrimental impact on the life course.24 Compared
with those raised in intact two-parent families, adults who experienced a parental
divorce had lower psychological wellbeing, more behavioral problems, less
education, lower job status, a lower standard of living, lower marital satisfaction, a
heightened risk of divorce, a heightened
risk of being a single parent, and poorer
physical health.25
The view that children adapt readily to
divorce and show no lingering negative
consequences is clearly inconsistent with
the cumulative research in this area. However, several qualifications temper the
seriousness of this conclusion. First, the
average differences between children
from divorced and continuously intact
families are small rather than large. This
fact suggests that divorce is not as severe a
stressor for children as are other things
that can go wrong during childhood. For
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This finding suggests that more recent cohorts of children are showing less
severe effects of divorce than earlier cohorts. Two explanations are worth considering. First, as divorce has become more
common, attitudes toward divorce have
become more accepting, so children
probably feel less stigmatized. Similarly,
the increasing number of divorces makes
it easier for children to obtain support
from others in similar circumstances.
Second, because the legal and social barriers to marital dissolution were stronger
in the past, couples who obtained a divorce several decades ago probably had
more serious problems and experienced
more conflict prior to separation than do
some divorcing couples today. Furthermore, divorces were probably more acrimonious before the introduction of
no-fault divorce. Thus, children of divorce in the past may have been exposed
to more dysfunctional family environments and higher levels of conflict than
were more recent cohorts of children.
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Parental Absence
According to this view, divorce affects
children negatively to the extent that it
results in a loss of time, assistance, and
affection provided by the noncustodial
parent. Mothers and fathers are both considered potentially important resources
for children. Both can serve as sources of
practical assistance, emotional support,
protection, guidance, and supervision.
Divorce usually brings about the departure of one parenttypically the father
from the childs household. Over time,
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sumption was that the children were usually better off under the custody of their
mother. Recently, society has moved toward a dual-earner family, and child developmentalists have emphasized the
importance of both parents to the child.
These changes are currently reflected in
the law which emphasizes the importance
of maintaining relationships with both
parents.66 The result has been an increased interest in joint custody, which is
now available as an option in most states.59
Joint physical custody provides legal rights
and responsibilities to both parents and
is intended to grant children substantial
portions of time with each parent. Joint
legal custody, which is more common, provides legal rights and responsibilities to
both parents, but the child lives with one
parent.66 (See Table 1 in the article by
Kelly in this journal issue.)
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As noted above, studies show that childrens contact with noncustodial parents
is harmful if postdivorce conflict between
parents is high. To the extent that joint
physical custody maintains contact between children and parents in an atmosphere of conflict, it may do as much (or
more) harm than good.74 Joint custody,
therefore, would appear to be the best
arrangement for children when parents
are cooperative and request such an arrangement. But in cases where parents are
unable to cooperate, or when one parent
is violent or abusive, a more traditional
custody arrangement would be preferable.
Does research suggest that children
are better adjusted in mother- or fathercustody households? From an economic
perspective, one might expect children to
be better off with fathers, given that men
typically earn more money than do
women. On the other hand, children may
be cared for more competently by mothers than fathers, given that mothers usually have more child care experience.
Studies that have compared the adjustment of children in mother- and fathercustody households have yielded mixed
results, with some favoring mother custody, some favoring father custody, and
others favoring the placement of the child
with the same-sex parent.36
A recent and thorough study by
Downey and Powell,75 based on a large
national sample of children, found little
evidence to support the notion that children are better off with the same-sex parent. On a few outcomes, children were
better off in father-custody households.
However, with household income controlled, children tended to be slightly
better off with mothers. This finding suggests that the higher income of singlefather households confers certain advantages on children, but if mothers earned
as much as fathers, children would be better off with mothers. The overall finding
of the study, however, is that the sex of the
custodial parent has little to do with childrens adjustment. In general then, it does
not appear that either mother or father
custody is inherently better for children,
regardless of the sex of the child.
Child Support Reform
It is widely recognized that noncustodial
fathers often fail to pay child support. In
a 1987 study by the U.S. Bureau of the
Census, about one-third of formerly married women with custody had no child
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programs operate at government expense, they are cost-effective to the extent
that women and children become independent of further public assistance. Furthermore, many single mothers are
penalized for working because they lose
government benefits, such as health care
and child care. Welfare reform that removes work disincentives by allowing
women to earn a reasonable level of income without losing health care and child
care benefits would be desirable. In fact,
changes in these directions are being implemented as part of the Family Support
Act of 1988.83 Given that the employment
of single mothers does not appear to be
harmful to children and can provide a
higher standard of living for children
than does welfare, and given that economic self-sufficiency would probably improve the psychological well-being of
single mothers, it seems likely that these
changes will benefit children.
Therapeutic Interventions for Children
According to Cherlin, there are still no
firm estimates on the proportion of children who experience harmful psychological effects from parental divorce.2
Research suggests that, in many cases,
children adjust well to divorce without
the need for therapeutic intervention.
However, our current understanding is
that a minority of children do experience adjustment problems and are in
need of therapeutic intervention. The
clude private individual therapy. However, many single parents are unable to
afford private therapy for their children
and may enroll them in programs in which
counselors work with groups of children.
Typically, in these sessions, children
meet on a regular basis to share their experiences, learn about problem-solving
strategies, and offer mutual support. Children may also view films, draw, or participate in role-playing exercises. Small
groups are desirable for children of divorce for several reasons. Not only can
they reach large numbers of children, but
the group itself is therapeutic: children
may find it easier to talk with other children than with adults about their experiences and feelings. Most group programs
are located in schools; such programs have
been introduced in thousands of school
districts across the United States.
Evaluations of these programs have
been attempted, and in spite of some
methodological limitations, most are favorable: children from divorced families
who participate, compared with those
who do not, exhibit fewer maladaptive
attitudes and beliefs about divorce, better
classroom behavior, less anxiety and de85
pression, and improved self-concept.
Although much of the evidence is positive,
it is not entirely clear which components
of these programs are most effective. For
example, improvement may be brought
about by a better understanding of divorce,
newly acquired communication skills, or
the support of other students. Although
more evaluation research is needed, the
evidence is positive enough to warrant further development and introduction of
therapeutic programs for children.
In addition to child-focused interventions, there are family-focused interventions
including both educational and therapeutic programs. These programs are aimed
at divorcing parents, with the intention of
either improving parenting skills or reducing the level of conflict over children.86 In
principle, therapeutic interventions that
improve parental child-rearing skills or decrease the level of conflict between parents
should benefit children, although this effect has not yet been demonstrated.
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4. For examples, see the articles in The child in his family: The impact of disease and death. E.J.
Anthony, ed. New York: Wiley, 1973.
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6. The cross-sectional and longitudinal designs are used widely in adjustment research and
other developmental research because they are suited for studies in which there are one
or more nonmanipulable independent variables. In this instance, the researcher must select subjects who already possess different levels of a particular characteristic. Examples of
nonmanipulable independent variables include age, sex, marital status of parents, and socioeconomic status. The use of nonmanipulable independent variables in a study usually
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