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    Good and Bad Communication

    Good communication has two properties: you express your thoughts and feelings openly and directly, and you encourage the other person to express his or her thoughts and feelings. The ideas and feelings of both people are important. The list of characteristics of bad communication below may help you recognize some bad habits you may have in the way you relate to people, and avoiding these behaviors may help you resolve conflicts. .. 1. 3. 4. 5. 6. 8. 9. :. .<. ... .1. .3. .4. .5. T ! " #$#"T!$%&T%"& '( )#* "'++,-%"#T%'Truth / 0ou insist that you are right and the other person is wrong. Blame 0ou say that the problem is the other person2s fault. Martyrdom / 0ou claim that you2re an innocent victim. Put-down / 0ou imply that the other person is a loser because he or she always or never does certain things. Hopelessness / 0ou give up and insist there2s no point in trying. Demandingness / 0ou say you2re entitled to better treatment but you refuse to as7 for what you want in a direct, straightforward way. Denial / 0ou insist that you don2t feel angry, hurt, or sad when you really do. Passive Aggression / 0ou pout or withdraw or say nothing. 0ou may storm out of the room or slam doors. el!;"lame / %nstead of dealing with the problem, you act as if you2re an awful, terrible person. Helping / instead of hearing how depressed, hurt, or angry the other person feels, you try to solve the problem or help him or her. arcasm / your words or tone of voice convey tension or hostility which you aren2t openly ac7nowledging. capegoating / 0ou suggest that the other person has a problem and that you2re sane, happy, and uninvolved in the conflict. De!ensiveness / 0ou refuse to admit any wrong;doing or imperfection. Counterattac# / %nstead of ac7nowledging how the other person feels, you respond to their criticism by criticizing them. Diversion / %nstead of dealing with how you both feel in the here;and;now, you list grievances about past in=ustices.

    ecrets o! Good Communication


    $istening s#ills .. Disarming% 0ou find some truth in what the other person is saying, even if you feel convinced that what they are saying is completely wrong, unreasonable, irrational, or unfair. 1. &mpathy% 0ou put yourself in the other person2s shoes and try to see the world through his or her eyes. a. Thought empathy% 0ou paraphrase the other person2s words. b. 'eeling empathy% 0ou ac7nowledge how they2re probably feeling, given what they are saying to you. 3. (n)uiry% 0ou as7 gentle, probing >uestions to learn more about what the other person is thin7ing and feeling* el!-e+pression #ills .. ,( !eel- statements* 0ou express your feelings with % feel statements ?such as % feel upset@ rather than with you statements ?such as 0ou2re wrong or 0ou2re ma7ing me furious@. 1. tro#ing: 0ou find something genuinely positive to say to the other person, even in the heat of battle. This indicates that you respect the other person, even though you may be angry with each other.

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