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She december ‘09

homespun
christmas
in every issue contributing writers
14 Letter from the Editor 22 Melodie Griffin
Accidental Tradition
16 She mail feature stories
28 Paige Self Thomas
25 Style File Blend Well 76-77 Faye Nissen
34 Wee She 30 Melia Flowers Berry 78-79 Joyce Guffey
Raelyn Emily Ott How Christmas Came to
Martha Law 80 Melissa Brock
42 She’s Closet
32 Ferebe Gasque 82 Carolyn Moore
46 Chicks of the Month Of Christmases Past Atkinson
Girl Scouts of Eastern South
Carolina in Florence 36 Jumana A. Swindler 84 Aron Cannon
‘Tis the Season Smith
48 Annie at Home
38 Anna K. Pitts 86 Sue McBride
52 Wings for the Spirit In the Wedding Spirit at
Sherry S. Page Atkinson Christmas 88 Alexis Tyson
Permenter
60 There She Goes 44 Beth Grant
All I Ever Wanted 90 Betty Ann Darby
67 The World According to
Dana Breazeale 62 Cookie Cawthon 92 Folly Carter
All I Want for Christmas
68 Shop Talk 94 Jean Leatherman
Venable’s 98 Marti Miller
Stealing Christmas 96 Victoria Harrington
70 Women at Work
Blanchie J. James, 102 Ouida K. Page, RN, LPC
MA, LPC, NCC It’s Christmas...Enjoy the Fruit
cake, Don’t Become One!
annual gift guide
100 In His Own Words 108 -116
Dennis Bankson 132-133 Sandra Dail
Readying Heart and Home for
118 Purse Strings the Christmas Season
Linda H.Weatherford
136 Suzanne Rowe
122 She Wants to Know Simplicity

126 Shero 140 Sharon Bixler

Gerdien Koppenaal A Labor of Christmas Love

128 Beauty Buzz

medical experts
134 The Sir-Vey
26 Dr. Lesley Kirby, AuD
138 Chick Lit Do You Hear What I Hear?
Virginia Leggett
58 J. Marshall Dent, III, MD
142 Mary Unmarried A Natural Cure for Migraine
Mary R. Dittman, MBA Headaches

144 Who’s That Girl? 104 Dr. Michael Rose

Katie Elizabeth Pierce Raising the Awareness of
Anemia
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A Homespun Christmas
letter from the editor
DECEMBER 2009

It’s here! The most wonderful time of the year – Christmas! Actually, as I write this letter, it’s just a few days
before Thanksgiving; so, one might argue that the Christmas season is not officially here. However, a drive around most any neighbor-
hood confirms the Christmas season is definitely upon us. Many homes are decorated; and, as soon as this issue is sent to press, I will
get busy on mine, as well.
Back in my day, Christmas officially began the day after Thanksgiving. Nowadays, the poor pumpkins and scarecrows barely get
settled on the store shelves before being cleared to make room for holiday merchandise. When I was little, it felt like an eternity
between trick-or-treat night and Thanksgiving night – the night my mother and I always put up our tree. I can remember the anticipa-
tion and excitement I felt as the boxes were taken down from the attic. We had this star that went atop the tree that I thought was
the most beautiful thing in the world. I remember searching through all the boxes until I found that star and holding my breath as I
plugged it in. Waiting for the lights to come on, I would hold it in my hands and marvel at the way the lights flickered and danced.
My mother and I always decorated the tree together, and I can still see how pretty she looked as the lights illuminated the
shadows of her face and reflected off her blue eyes. She was so particular about the way she decorated a tree. Each ornament had its
special place on the tree, and there was nothing she disliked more than sloppily-placed icicles. I can hear her saying,“Have you ever seen
an icicle hanging sideways on a tree?” “No, Ma’am,” I would nod. “Then, don’t hang them that way, Darling,” she would lovingly coax.
Slowly and meticulously, we would decorate the tree together, adjusting and primping it to perfection. Then, I would lie on the
floor, mesmerized by its beauty, wishing time would stand still and forbidding myself to think about the day when it would have to come
down. From that moment, Christmas was in full swing, and I was in heaven.
That little girl is still very much alive inside of me. I still get excited about bringing down the boxes of decorations and plug-
ging in the lights for the first time. Even the thought of it still makes my heart flutter. And, just as my mother, I take decorating the tree
seriously. Although I haven’t used tinsel in years, I’m just as careful about hanging the ornaments.
“Have you ever seen an angel flying sideways?” I ask my children when they help me. “Then, don’t hang it that way, Darling.”
Actually, I suppose an angel can fly any way it chooses, but that’s not the point. When my children were little, it was a different story.
Our Christmas tree looked as if a strong wind from the North Pole blew in and nearly took all the ornaments with it. Those precious
little fingers would hang the decorations every-which-way-but-straight and the majority of them hung around the bottom of the tree –
the only height they could reach without being picked up. It was a glorious sight, and I wouldn’t have changed it for the world.
I still decorate a tree with all the ornaments we had from those years. My favorite tree decorations are the ones that my children
Decorating our pink tree made – the paper snowflakes, Popsicle-stick trees and, of course, their little faces glued onto cutout shapes of bells and Christmas trees
in the She office that hang from little ribbons. Those are among my most precious possessions. Opening the box that keeps these jewels will bring, with-
out fail, a timeout for crying. The sight makes me miss those days when Santa was real, and they all wore matching paja-
mas on Christmas Eve Night. I miss them so much that I can barely breathe. A bit of sadness mixes in with the joy.
In the past, I have written about the little cedar tree that grew on my DaDa’s farm when I was a little girl.
One of the most tender memories of all my Christmases involves that little tree and the year my DaDa and I
decorated it together. Last Christmas Eve, just a few weeks after my DaDa died, my children and I went to the
farm and cut some branches from it to place on his grave. As I stood under its towering shadow, I sized it up,
guessing it had grown to over twelve-feet tall. My memory danced back and forth from the huge tree before
me to the small Christmas tree that DaDa helped me decorate. I could hear the tapping of the old-fashioned
glass lights – the kind with the big bulbs – as he held the strand in his hands. I could see those rough,
calloused hands, and I could feel the love he had for me in that moment. We cut the branches and I tied them
simply with a ribbon, knowing he would have liked it very much. On the drive from the farm to the ceme-
tery, I searched my memory for every detail of that experience with my DaDa, reliving it over and over
again and immersing myself in the moment so deeply that I could smell the distinct scent of his skin – a
mixture of ivory soap and sawdust, which is the way he always smelled when I was little because, as a logger,
he was always working.
Even amidst the pain of grief, as God promises, there is good. (Romans 8:28: “For all things work
for good for those who love the Lord and are called according to his purpose.”) For me, that good has
come in the way of a new appreciation for the blessings of family and friends and love. My DaDa was so
full of love and he lived out his life that way. At Christmas, we celebrate the Birth of
the God of Love. Love truly came down when Jesus was born, leaving Heaven to
dwell among us.
In contemplating this Christmas issue, I wanted to give you something
special. With much thought, the idea for A HOMESPUN CHRISTMAS was born.
This issue is all about celebrating the season with family and friends, creating wel-
coming homes filled with HOMESPUN decorations, good food, love and laughter
In our feature stories, you will meet eleven women who love Christmas and have
their own unique way of celebrating – the HOMESPUN way.
Christmas is my favorite time of the year, and I am so blessed to be able to celebrate it
through She Magazine with you, our readers. It is my prayer for each of you that your Christmas is filled with the
warmth and love that only Jesus, our Savior, can give. Merry Christmas!
I hope you enjoy this issue. It’s a woman thing!

Melia Flowers Berry

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This month, some of our Contributors tell us

“What I look forward to most this Christmas.”
contributors DECEMBER 2009

1. Dr. Lesley Kirby “Last year around this time, my mother unexpectedly passed away. 13.Linda Weatherford What I love most about Christmas is celebrating the birth of
Needless to say, my holiday season was more grief than joy. This year, I really wanted to turn my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. I love the music, the celebrations, the decorations - everything
it around – especially for my children – and provide them with a joyous, lighthearted and that reminds us of the greatest gift ever given. It is my favorite time of year!
cozy Christmas. My best friend’s mother, Brenda Gaddis, decorated my entire house for
Christmas, inside and out! And, yes, it was already done by mid-November. That was the 14. Erika Chapman loves her husband, Mark, and she loves living in Florence. Her pas-
most perfect way to kick start the holiday season. I was able to relax with my family and sions include raising her three boys, serving as a KidSpring Volunteer at NewSpring Church and
truly be in the moment this Christmas season. reading just about anything she can get her hands on. “I’m looking forward to enjoying
unscheduled time with my boys and my husband over Christmas. There’s nothing like experi-
2. J. Marshall Dent, MD is Board Certified in Family Practice & Obstetrics and encing the gift of the Christ Child through the eyes of a child.”
Gynecology and also holds an Advanced Certification in Menopausal Medicine. He can
be contacted at Complete Women’s Health Care in Florence. 15. Cheri Jordan absolutely loves seeing the excitement on her children’s faces on
Christmas morning and spending the day with them as a family just enjoying one another’s
3. Paige Thomas Paige Self Thomas lives in Florence with her husband, Joey, and two company.
Sheltie children,Timmy and Buddy. Together, Paige and Joey have seven grown children. She
works part-time as Business Administrator for the Francis Marion University Center for the
16. Sharon Bixler What I love most about Christmas is Everything! It’s just so fun to
Child and is a Licensed Realtor with Prudential Segars in Florence. “I am especially looking
give! However, when I think about what Christ gave to me, the little trinkets I give are nothing
forward to Christmas because all three of my boys will be at home for the holidays for the
in comparison. How awesome He is.
first time in three years! The recession and job losses have their silver linings.”

4.. Melodie Griffin is a public speaker, a writer, a musician and a homemaker. She 17. Suzanne Rowe is the Children/Family Minister at the Woodmont Hills Church in
is a master communicator who makes the truth of God’s Word come alive.Visit her Nashville,TN and holds a Degree in Elementary Education. Her greatest joy is her three-and-a-
website to learn more. www.melodiegriffin.com half-year-old daughter, Catherine. Suzanne was blessed to adopt Catherine from China in 2006.
Suzanne enjoys reading, shopping, a beautiful fall day, lunch with friends and anything she gets to
do with her daughter. She’s a recent fan of She Magazine thanks to a handsome CPA from
5. Marti Miller She ponders that the end of our worldly calendar year marks the renewed Marion, South Carolina, who has stolen her heart.“This Christmas, I’m mostly looking forward
beginning of our hope in a life beyond these earthly walls.What a gift to unwrap again and again.
to embracing the delight in my daughter’s eyes every minute of the season and kissing that
She prays that the brightest Light of this season continues to shine amidst the to-do lists and
handsome CPA from Marion under the mistletoe.”
shopping trips and frightening family gatherings. Just one slightly northern question from an other-
wise joy-filled Marion transplant:Why fireworks in December and silence in July?
18. Angela Crosland enjoys celebrating Christ as it has been her family’s tradition to
6. Ouida K Page is a Licensed Professional and National Board Certified Counselor attend church on Christmas Day. She has committed to demonstrating His love at a greater
with a Bachelor’s Degree in Nursing and is a member of the International Honor Society of level during the season through giving. Purposing to give more would certainly
Nursing. She specializes in families and issues relating to children, adolescents and women qualify as her favorite aspect of Christmas.
of all ages. She also writes for She.
19. Emmie Lynch I love knowing that I’ll get to see my family. We sit around a fire out
7. Cookie Cawthon is wild about her family. She totally digs serving as a in the country & tell stories we’ve all heard before –but that never get old. And, we always
greeter at NewSpring Church every week, and she flat out loves reading, writing, remember to thank our Father for giving us another year to celebrate His goodness. Not Pictured
speaking, teaching, and blogging www.cookiecawthon.com.

8. Jumana Swindler is the Director of Marketing and Public Relations for

McLeod Health. Her personal favorite pastimes, reflected in her writings, are RV'ing,
movies,Theater, fishing, reading and spending time with her son and family.
Artist Spotlight
9. Ferebe Gasque loves meeting new folks and getting reacquainted with friends 20. Ashley Rogers, a Graphic Designer for She Magazine is an FMU Alumni
of days gone by through writing for She Magazine and through her Pampered Chef holding a B.A. in Visual Arts with a Graphic Design specialty. She and her husband,
business. She is in awe of God's blessings through her work as Music Therapist at William, have 2 children, Brock William (2) and Lexi Brooke (1). This month’s
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ACCIDENTAL
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I accidentally started a new family tradition last Christmas. It hap-
pened when the hubby and kids and I were in the NC mountains enjoying
by Melodie Griffin
You know, I’m plenty relieved to know that my ornament doesn’t
resemble me, but this “resemblance” scenario sparked a thought for me. I
beautiful serenity and solitude. A full five minutes of serenity was quite certainly hope that when people observe me, they see a true reflection of the
enough for my little offspring and then came the inevitable, “I’m bored! One that I am striving to mirror. When others observe my actions, my reac-
There’s nothing to do here!” Ah, but I had planned ahead (the experienced tions, and my interactions, do they see an accurate picture of the God Who
maternal force to be reckoned with that I am). Weeks earlier, while perusing lavishes grace, or is the representation far from the image that Scripture
a crafty family magazine, I spotted a fun project. It didn’t take me long to paints? The fact that I am human sort of rules out that I can be a perfect
quickly gather all the necessary supplies, which included kitchen staples like reflection of the Savior, but there should certainly be a “family resemblance”
flour and salt, and enough Mod Podge to put Humpty Dumpty back together – without unibrows. This Christmas season, I plan to keep those ornaments in
again. My my, what FUN we had in making Christmas ornaments that were the forefront of my mind as I strive to accurately reflect the Messiah. I will
supposed to resemble each family member. And again I say, “supposed to.” especially keep this in mind when some manic Christmas shopper takes my
We laughed hysterically at how our creations turned out and just how little parking place at the mall. I will even try to remember this lesson when all 412
they looked like each of us. What fun to get them out of the box this year and of us are waiting in the checkout lane at Wal Mart. You know, when there are
place them on our tree! We giggled all over again at Daddy’s larger-than-life countless checkouts on site, but only 4 of them will be open? Yes, then. But
nose and lips, and at my disturbingly bushy eyebrows. The kids can hardly if Humpty Dumpty happens to fall, I will get back up again and thank God for
wait to see what kind of ornaments we will make this year, but I don’t know His grace – God’s Mod Podge.
how I can top the unibrow.

Here is the recipe for those fun ornaments. I hope that they bring as many 2.To make each ornament, roll the dough into a golf ball-sized ball and flat-
giggles and God-lessons to your little family as they did to mine. Merry ten it with your palm. Use small pieces of dough to make noses, lips, hair,
Christmas and happy Mod Podging! and the like. Affix each to the face with a drop of water and smooth away
any creases. Use the skewer to make eyes and to poke a hole through the
* 3 cups flour * 1 cup salt ornaments about 1/2-inch from the top.
* 1 cup water * Wooden skewer 3.Heat the oven to 275 degrees. Bake the ornaments on a foil-lined cook-
* Paintbrushes * Acrylic paint ie sheet for 2 hours. Allow them to cool completely.
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Instructions: minutes), paint the remaining details.
1.Using an electric mixer, beat together the flour, salt, and water on medi- 5. Once the paint is dry, seal the ornaments, front and back, with a layer of
um speed until a ball forms, then remove the dough and knead it until it is Mod Podge. Let them dry, then add a ribbon loop to each.
smooth. Source, www.familyfun.go.com

Melodie is a public speaker, writer, musician and homemaker.Visit www.melodiegriffin.com to inquire about having her come and share about the personalities at your next event.
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Do You Hear
What I Hear? by Dr. Lesley Kirby, AuD

T his Christmas season will find most families coming together to enjoy each
other’s company, to catch up on each other’s lives over the past year and to discuss
goals and opportunities for the coming New Year. The holidays are meant to be a time
dens me to see people stop enjoying life because they have a difficult time hearing,
especially now that treatment is so easy to obtain.
So, this year, be vigilant and see if Uncle Larry is quiet at Christmas dinner or
of thanks, celebration and joy. But, for many people, it’s a time of year when unaddressed other holiday get-togethers. Maybe he’s having difficulty understanding speech clearly.
hearing loss can cause feelings of isolation and depression. Even when surrounded by Signs and symptoms of hearing loss include not being able to hear well in a crowded
loving family members, one with a hearing loss can feel cut off from his family. room or restaurant, having trouble hearing children and women, keeping the television
Imagine sitting around the dining room table. All the children are so excited and radio turned up to a loud volume, needing to ask family and friends for repetition
about Santa’s upcoming arrival, and they are excitedly making their final wishes be and experiencing ringing in the ears (tinnitus).
known to all who will listen. Jane and Donald are busy bringing all their deliciously If your loved one has not sought help for his or her hearing loss – or is even
homemade food from the kitchen out to the table to share with their siblings, children in denial about it – you can use the spirit of the season as an opportunity to discuss
and parents. Everyone looks happy – except for Jane’s father. He has a “lost” look on treatment. The good news is that there are solutions to help loved ones with hearing
his face. It almost appears that he is uncomfortable. He so wants to join in on the loss regain the gift of sound so they don’t need to withdraw. Hearing loss can be eas-
conversation, yet he is afraid that he may answer incorrectly. It’s best (and easiest), he ily diagnosed, and hearing aid technology has drastically improved over the past sever-
feels, to just sit and smile. He will “silently” participate, yet he is not participating at all. al years. Most patients comment on how comfortable the aids are and how they are
Hearing loss is one of the most commonly unaddressed health conditions in able to once again understand their loved ones. Also, Beltone’s new open-ear hearing
America. In fact, it affects more than 31 million Americans. (One out of every ten peo- technology is so cosmetically appealing, nobody will even know you are wearing a hear-
ple that you pass on the street today has a hearing loss!) Also, it is an absolute fallacy ing aid (unless you show it to them!).
that hearing loss affects only seniors. More than 65 percent of all people with hearing Finding the right solution for hearing loss can make all the difference in com-
loss are younger than retirement age. munication with family, friends and co-workers. No one needs to miss a minute of the
The number one cause of hearing loss is excessive noise. This may explain holiday action this year, thanks to modern hearing aid technology. Life is too precious
why fifteen percent of people age 45 to 64 – the first generation to grow up listening and short not to be able to hear all of it.
to loud rock music – have hearing loss.The age demographic in my office continues to If you suspect that someone has a hearing loss, I recommend that they be eval-
get younger and younger. I attribute the majority of this reason to everyday noise such uated by a Licensed Audiologist. This professional will be able to determine the type
as traffic and hair dryers, as well as to MP3 players where people are not monitoring and degree of hearing loss that is present. Many offices will offer complimentary hear-
the sound level of the music entering into their ears. Unfortunately, once the hearing ing aid demonstrations in their offices so that an individual can actually see what a hear-
nerve becomes damaged, the resulting hearing loss is permanent. This is true for chil- ing aid looks like, as well as listen through it. Most of our patients are completely
dren, as well as adults. shocked at what they have been missing and are literally upset with themselves that
When a family member experiences untreated hearing loss, it silently and they did not seek treatment sooner.
painlessly erodes their quality of life. It undermines family relationships, can interfere Here is to a blessed holiday season with wonderful communication between
with short-term memory and eventually creeps into virtually every aspect of their daily you and your loved ones. After all, family is one of our most precious gifts.
living. Prior to receiving hearing aids, many of our patients stop going to church Merry Christmas!
because they have such a difficult time understanding what the pastor is saying. It sad-

Lesley Kirby, AuD, is the first Doctor of Audiology in the Florence area and the only Audiologist in Private Practice.
She owns Lifetime Hearing Services, Inc., at 522 West Palmetto Street in Florence, with satellite locations in Hartsville and Lake City.
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Just
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by Paige Self Thomas

Blend Well
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“Why can’t I be like everyone else?” I’ve asked myself this question most of My husband and I have seven children between us. I have three children and
my life, and I had a friend ask me this same thing just the other day. If you don’t come four stepchildren, and he has four children and three stepchildren. We would love to
from what may be considered the “traditional family” – with a mom and a dad who have see them all during the holidays. Two temporarily live in the same city as we do. Four
been married to only each other and siblings who are your natural brothers or sisters, live in the same state, and there are hundreds of miles between us and the seventh one.
then you probably have faced that same realization. Or, if you did have the stability and One of them is married. There are four grandchildren, and due to a divorce, different
blessing of being raised in a core family, you may have experienced it later in life due to sets of in-laws.
death or divorce or some other misfortune. Then, one day, the reality just seems to hit My parents are no longer living; but, my husband, fortunately, can still enjoy
you like a rock that your life is different. At some point in time, there seems to unfold time with his mom and dad, and we would love to have them in the mix. He has a sis-
a stark realization that stops you in your tracks, and you realize that your family and tra- ter and a brother, and I have two sisters and a brother. Of those five siblings, two live
ditions are not mainstream. For some reason, you often feel out of place. This can be in the same city, two more are in the same state, but one lives thousands of miles away.
especially hard when the holidays are around the corner, and families and friends are If I were to add to the pot the spouses of the siblings and the nieces and nephews on
preparing their traditional gatherings. What is the other kind of family supposed to do? both sides – well, Jack’s house would never be built.
Just recently, my husband and I went out to eat breakfast – for supper. He This sounds kind of humorous, and I kind of giggle like I do when I read the book;
loves breakfast foods, but I can’t eat that much so early in the morning, so we go out but, this is real life! Why can’t I be like everyone else? Why can’t we just have one big
for breakfast occasionally at night. That breaks a little tradition, doesn’t it? While we happy family that gathers on holidays and everyone bring a pot dish to share? Why?
were waiting for our food, several families came in and out. After some moments of I have to stop and realize that it will go on and on – if I keep trying to make it
watching (which is my husband’s favorite hobby in public places), he asked if I wanted to fit. This is like the dog that worried the cat that killed the rat that ate the malt that lay
know the story of the family sitting across the aisle? A woman and her teenage daugh- in the house that Jack built.
ter had come in to eat together, and he said that she was divorced and her daughter We’re all connected. All the people I mentioned are part of my life because of
had been to visit her dad over the weekend. The mom had most likely gone to pick her family. I have some direct connection to all of them that makes me want them all to be
up, and they were enjoying supper together on the way home. Now, this may or may part of my traditions. Yet, their connections to each other are somewhat distant. My
not be true; but, this was the perception of a man who has been through a divorce and firstborn son, who is very special to me, may never spend a holiday with one of my hus-
raised four children on his own. Therefore, we don’t see things through traditional eyes. band’s grandchildren. My husband’s parents and my in-laws may not see my own chil-
As I thought about what he said, again realizing that it may or may not be true, dren very often. But, this is the reality of the family I call my own. It doesn’t mean I
I did think that it was nice that the two of them were sharing time together. Whether can’t hold traditions; and, that in some ways, I can’t be like everyone else.
married or divorced, on the way home from a weekend with Dad, or perhaps just on We learn new traditions in the little things like eating breakfast for supper on
the way home from church or shopping, it is nice to spend some uninterrupted time a Sunday night, and I’m learning to make holiday traditions every day throughout the
with those we love and to create traditions. With a smile, I thought how nice it would year. It may take that long to touch base with all those I love and who mean a lot to
be if this were something this mom and daughter did every Sunday night. me and my life.
Sometimes, I think we try so hard – especially during the holidays – to fit our Most of our traditional recipes end with the instructions to blend well – and
nontraditional lives into the traditional mold that we may miss out on many blessings. I’m taking that into the holiday season and New Year. I want to mix the family and
When I think about trying to make that work, it sounds like The House That Jack Built. friends that make my life special and blend them into tried-and-true traditions, making
This was a favorite book of mine as a child, and it’s kind of humorous because it never good memories.
seems to end, and one thing leads to another. That’s the correlation – and the dilemma. From my house to yours, I wish you wonderful times and traditions with fam-
ily and friends during the holiday season and New Year and a very Merry Christmas!

'Paige Self Thomas lives in Florence with her husband Joey and two Sheltie children,Timmy and Buddy. Together they have seven grown children.
She works part time as Business Administrator for the FMU Center for the Child, and is a licensed realtor with Prudential Segars in Florence. "
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As told to Melia Berry

by Lisa Castles and Daryl Strickland

HOW CHRISTMAS CAME

to Martha Law
Two decades ago, in the cul-de-sac of Martha Law, a subdivision located in Lake Lisa Castles was one of the children who grew up in the cul-de-sac at Martha

T
City, South Carolina, a Christmas tradition was born that would bring indescribable joy to Law. She wrote to She Magazine to tell us about her memories of the tradition that began
the hearts of hundreds of small children and create memories that would last a lifetime. when she was a child and that still impacts her Christmas today. “The children all gath-
This is how the tradition began. ered in a cul-de-sac of a subdivision called Martha Law under four tents. It would be real-
When Daryl and Connie Strickland, residents of Martha Law, began putting lights ly cold and I remember a few bond fires with mostly parents gathered for warmth and con-
all about their home, one of the children (now, SC State Trooper, Sonny Collins) took versation. A few of the children slowed down long enough to roast a marshmallow or
notice of the tremendous display and told his parents,“Santa must live there.” From that two. It felt like all of Lake City was in Martha Law.
innocent statement, the idea was born. The Stricklands decided to have a party for the I remember running around, as kids do, but with such anticipation, I could hardly
neighborhood children, complete with Santa Claus himself. As the years went by, what contain myself. Just when I thought I couldn’t take it another minute, a loud siren could
began as a small neighborhood party grew into a grand event that (from what I’m told) be heard. Then, I could see lights flashing coming towards me. As the vehicles stopped
could rival a shindig at the North Pole. and children gathered, the yells of glee became a lot louder than the original noise of the
The Shriners got in on the fun, appearing as Disney characters and giving each siren. Then, there he was! Santa stepped out with a joyful,‘Ho! Ho! Ho!’ and made his
child a go-cart ride. Santa was brought in on a Fire Engine provided by South Lynches Fire way through the children and under the tent to a large chair waiting there just for him.
Department (thanks to Chief Keels Brockington). Lake City State Bank (now, First The toys were already wrapped, tagged and waiting for his arrival.”
Citizens) would put up hundreds of dollars for fireworks and firework permits. Lake City “One by one,” Lisa says, “Santa would call each child’s name to come sit on his
Police Department and Lake City Fire Department, along with South Lynches Fire lap. With a smile, he would give an encouraging statement like,‘You continue not to fight
Department, would always be on hand to help watch the children and make sure every- with your brother and do well in school.’ Then, he presented the child with a toy with his
one had a great time and everything was safe. Parents of the children always brought a gift or her name on the package. I remember running off, ripping through the paper and being
for their children, and Daryl and Connie always had extra gifts in case a child showed up amazed that there was a toy I had on my list. ‘How did he know? He got my letter!’ I
without one. would yell. Then, I would dream of Christmas morning.”
What began with about twenty children grew to over 150 as other neighbor- Four years ago, Lisa Castles, along with three other “Martha Law children,” Jill
hoods and churches would learn about it and call to see if their children could come. Of Hunt, Deborah Lynch and Jeanette Altman, came together as the Christmas season
course, everyone was always welcome. Diane DeVaughn, a local television news person- approached, reminiscing about Christmases past and the events that made Christmas so
ality was there almost every year, and the celebration was always on the news, which special to them and all the other children. It was from that reunion that the women
meant an extra thrill for the children as they loved seeing themselves on television. decided to bring the tradition back alive for the children that now live in the cul-de-sac.
The Martha Law Estates ladies would make and serve up plenty of snacks, pop- “So, this year will mark the fourth year Santa will make an appointment in Lake
corn, hot chocolate and coffee to feed some 400 to 500 people.The Stricklands are quick City about a week before Christmas. There, our families and friends (over 100 people)
to say that this incredible event would not have been possible without the help of these will gather with great food, hot chocolate and roasted marshmallows. Then, the lights and
ladies and all the other residents who came together to put joy in the hearts of many, many sirens will come and Santa and Mrs. Claus will appear,” says Lisa.
children of Martha Law Estates. Repeating the tradition, each child will get one present from Santa that comes
So, what motivated Daryl and Connie Strickland to go to all the trouble? “Love. from their list. The night will end with a large firework display and more energy and antic-
Love and children and Christmas. We could see what it meant to each child when that ipation that can be contained. Christmas long ago will continue to be enjoyed today.
Fire Engine came in blaring sirens and lights, and the children knew that Santa was on the “When these kids called and told us that they were going to start this tradition
Engine,” Daryl explained, giving credit to his wife, as well. “My wife is indescribable, the again, we were extremely proud that we had such an impact on them. All those kids
love of my life, and the love of my children’s lives. She, without a doubt, kept pushing me remember going to the Strickland’s house at Christmas, and if we never accomplish any-
to do this every year. Without her beside me, I probably would have quit because it took thing else in life, this has made us happy – incredibly happy. Can anything make you any
hundreds of hours every year to prepare for and clean up afterwards.” more proud?” Daryl asks.
That’s how Christmas came to Martha Law.
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"I heard the bells on Christmas Day of those experiences. (And, by the way, you snuff candles, you don’t blow them out. If
Their old familiar carols play, you don’t know how, I’ll be glad to show you. Dr. Byrd taught methat and other things
And wild and sweet with more spiritual depth, as well, that still impact my life today.)
The words repeat Christmas morning was always special. We didn’t get lots of “things.” That was

I Of peace on earth, good-will to men!”

~ Longfellow

I love bells. Christmas Bells. Sleigh Bells (not that I’ve seen many of those
except in movies). Dinner Bells. Handbells. Those of you who know me know that I
particularly love handbells. Whether it’s ringing in the Handbell Choir at First Baptist
Church in Florence or ringing solo or listening to a really good group ring, I’m hooked
on handbells. I started ringing in the mid-1960s when FBC Florence got a three octave
set of Schulmerich bells. In 1977, as a student at New Orleans Baptist Theological
Seminary, I was privileged to attend a Handbell Seminar in Nashville,Tennessee. There,
OK. We always got something. And, most often, it was the something for which we had
longed. There was the three-quarter sized guitar I got in sixth grade, which I still have
today. My sister tried to “tune” it for me, however, and managed to pop a string. So, I
taught myself how to play guitar with five strings. You couldn’t buy guitar strings (nor
anything else) on Christmas day back then. Then there was the year I found my album
of the Singing Nun (no comments here, please) in my parents’ closet a couple of weeks
before Christmas. That was not nearly as much fun as being surprised.
My favorite memory of Christmas morning, however, was breakfast. We always
had country ham and grits and eggs. I’ve tried to carry on that tradition each
year, no matter where in the world I have found myself. It’s not always been
I saw a young lady ringing bells all by herself. Heretofore timid little me came back to possible. But, most Christmases have found me eating country ham and think-
New Orleans and said, “If she can do it, I can do it better!” And, my new alter-ego was ing about simpler days.
born. I still can’t believe I was quite so bold. And, for the record, I’m good but I’m My most exotic Christmas was the year I was in Suriname,
not better than she was, I don’t think. South America. It was warm (since it is, after all, located in the
I love Christmas, too. But, I must admit that I’ve had difficulty writing this tropics). There was a wonderful Candlelight Service on Christmas
month’s article BEFORE THANKSGIVING. I know it has to be done for publication Eve in Paramaribo. Christmas morning was spent at the Lewis home,
deadlines; but, I have a personal vendetta against doing anything Christmas before where Martha informed me Santa Claus had found me and left me a
Thanksgiving. I have such happy memories of Thanksgiving and I feel like it’s an impor- beautiful piece of Javanese batik. Lunch was with the mission family
tant holiday that’s gotten lost in the shuffle of the retail gods. Sorry, I’ll get down from at the home of Fred and Janice Day. Memories of that special
my soapbox now and continue with all things Christmas. Christmas are still vividly etched in my mind and in my heart.
I have so many wonderful childhood Christmas memories, as well. Christmas I’m not sure how nor where I’ll spend Christmas Day this
Eve was always reserved for the Candlelight Service at our church. My Aunt Eugenia year. I do know, however, that it will be filled with prayers of
was the Secretary to the Pastor for at least a hundred years. And, she was in thanksgiving for Christmases past and those who have helped
charge of getting things ready. So, every year, little Ferebe had the privilege (?) me become the woman I am today. Many of those folks will
of spending at least one day of Christmas vacation from school at the church be spending Christmas with Jesus. How glorious that must
stuffing candles in square cardboard holders. These were not those flimsy, buy be!
in a packet of 5000, little-round-precut-hole-thingys that are used in lots of Longfellow’s poem “Christmas Bells,” was penned
churches today. Nosirree. These were hand-cut and scissor-punched. I may on Christmas Day, 1864, during the height of the War
still have scars to prove it, too! After that, I would ride with her to deliver Between the States. I didn’t know that when I fell in
her famous pecan brittle. I looked forward to finishing my chores as deliv- love with the last two stanzas. I always felt they relat-
ery girl because then I would be allowed to take some of the delicacy ed to me in my personal battles. That’s just one more
home. I didn’t realize until years later that we got all the scorched ones. thing I love about Scripture and hymns, God can use
However, to this day I think they were better because they didn’t stick to them in our individual lives to minister to us just
your teeth as much as the “good” batches did. Ah, childhood memories! when and where we need them most. He’s like
I learned how to snuff that, you know.
out candles at the
Candlelight Services, “And in despair I bowed my head;
too. I can still see ‘There is no peace on earth,’ I said;
Dr. Byrd standing ’For hate is strong,
in the pulpit And mocks the song
demonstrating Of peace on earth, good-will to men!’
the process
before the lights Then pealed the bells more loud and deep:
were dimmed. ‘God is not dead; nor doth he sleep!
As we sang, The Wrong shall fail,
“Silent Night,” The Right prevail,
and as the candles With peace on earth, good-will
were raised our to men!’”
voices lifted
“Darkness flies, all
is light,” the room Merry Christmas!
was lighted with
the candlelight. Ferebe Gasque loves the honor of being Music
I still get Therapist at McLeod Hospice House. She also
g o o s e has way too much fun for a grown up while
bumps thinking writing for She Magazine.
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“ Raelyn is the child that will have a dress on with a

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We didn’t find out if our baby was a boy or a girl dress-up part of being a girl; however, she equally loves personalized golf tees for Christmas so she won’t have to
while I was expecting. But, I wanted a girl so badly. On the same things as her eight-year-old brother. She was a use her daddy’s anymore.
May 22, 2003, I was elated to finally be able to put a face princess for Halloween this year, but she has already Raelyn is involved with the Children’s Ministry at
with the name that I had picked out as a child myself. informed me that she wants to be Padme Amidala from First Baptist Florence. She loves the Children’s Choir and
Raelyn Emily Ott was the sweetest baby. Star Wars next year. singing songs about God. She also loves to dance. In her
Raelyn is a very thoughtful person. She loves her She adores her brothers. There have been times fourth year of taking tap and dance classes, she says her
family, but she is always sure to remind us that she loves that she wants to take her own money to buy them
favorite part about dance is being able to dance on a stage
God more. She is a caregiver and loves to give to others. things. She once waited to eat a piece of candy that she
at the recitals.
When asked to give to charities, she wants to give her had gotten at school until she had earned two more
As Raelyn’s mom, I see in her future her dreams
own money instead of us helping her. She’s easy-going pieces so she could share with her brothers.
of being a mommy and having her own family to take care
and very laid back but also extremely out-going. She loves Nevertheless, she asks us to give her a sister quite often!
In first grade at The Byrnes Schools, she loves of coming true. She already does a great job of helping
to meet new people, make new friends and wants to
make sure everyone is happy and part of what’s going on. school. I think she enjoys the social interaction more me with her little brother and with other “Mommy
She’s also very confident. She’s been at a new school for than anything, though. Her favorite subjects are math and duties.” She has an appreciation for stay-at-home Moms.
the past three years and always walks in with a huge smile music. She made the All-A Honor Roll this past nine She recently told me that her daddy has one job, but I
on her face, eagerly waving goodbye to us. weeks. Raelyn always tries her best. have two, telling me,“You have to help Daddy with his job
Raelyn is the child that will have a dress on with At home, she loves to sing and make up new and take care of us!”
a bow in her hair while she’s outside, digging in the dirt songs, dress-up in costumes and ride her bike. She also She never fails to bring joy into my life. I love her
and running around with the boys. She loves the whole loves to play golf with her daddy. She has even asked for so much!

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‘Tis the
Season
Sincerely Yours, Jumana A. Swindler
camels on the sides two Christmases ago. Using recycled gifts may require a little
more effort, like creating a system for cataloging who they first came from.And, you
can be sure, these folks will remember that they gave you those unique items, since
most of them foraged them out of their own gift closet for recycling.
I also learned in recent years that buying and actually serving fruit-
cakes at Holiday social events is another faux pas.The best place to keep those
brown blocks of confection is in your secret gift closet or as door stops during
the warmer spring months.
Another Holiday faux pas I learned about last Christmas -- stay clear
of over-personalizing and giving repetitive gifts to the family.It was casually mentioned
during a recent family get-together that my brother, his wife and in-laws, and my sister, her
husband and in-laws and all my relatives really were not extremely impressed last year when
I provided them each with the framed 8 and 1/2 by 11 digital photo of me in front my RV
beside the Japanese Maple during a fall mountain adventure. All 22 photographs were

Ok. Here's a question for all of you. When did Christmas start
coming before Thanksgiving on the yearly calendar? Did I
miss something? What happened to the pilgrims and who silenced the fans of Miles
allegedly shoved in drawers. But, they used the frames for photos of their own children or
pets. I caught on when I visited each family throughout the year and spotted the frames
sans me and the maple.
My family continues to amaze me. Besides their callous disregard for the cultural
Standish or Pocahontas? This year, it appears that Holiday decorations and lights have
been hung out all over town well in advance of the typical Tryptophan overload from influence that Japanese maple may have brought to their lives, they also sent out emails
two to three heapings of turkey on Thanksgiving Day. requesting that I show stewardship and make an effort to save trees in other ways this
Somehow, our society has moved into the Christmas Holidays this year well holiday season. "Dear Sis, don’t use the Sunday Newspaper comics as wrapping paper this
before those Halloween costumes were even put in the closet. Why do we constantly year. We've all chipped in to send you some gift boxes….We're still trying to get the ink
strive to rush things along only to be sorry that the occasion we've been anticipating off our fingers. Love ya'." Yeah right!!!!
with great delight has passed? Everybody seems to be getting in on the act of acknowledging their concern
For me, however, prolonging the Christmas Season only adds to my stress. for my Holiday misdemeanors -- like my neighbor who came by yesterday asking about
It happens every year about this time and I say I will never do them again. my yard theme for Christmas '09. "Are 'ya going to mix your messages out front again,"
Those Holiday blunders. Those teeny, tiny errors that discriminate between social he said disdainfully. Confused, I explained that once again, I was indeed featuring the
correctness and inappropriate etiquette that would have made Emily Post's hair stand multi-colored blinking sleigh, and moving reindeer blow up yard ornament with the
on end. motion detector that allows the cute mammals to repeat the "Rudolph" song when
And, you better not say that at least one of the following doesn’t hit you someone passes. And there's one new addition this year, I explained enthusiastically. A
straight between the eyes. At least I have the courage to 'fess up, like admitting to the family of country bears with blinking scarves and cheerful faces blowing out Christmas
fact that I, too, have a special gift closet - a graveyard of trinkets and neat little gifts pur- tunes through their honey jugs. How cute is that? I asked my scowling neighbor.
chased all year long and stored up in preparation for Holiday distribution. As a matter But this year, plans are in place for a more peaceful holiday season around our
of fact, among these cute items are some gifts I may have received along the way that block. I assured the entire Neighborhood Association that I had learned my lesson last
may not have matched my taste. year. This season, I would not forget to put the sand in the luminary bags during our
So what better purpose could these presents serve than to be recycled gifts neighborhood "Night of Lights."
that would provide delight to someone else? The problem is remembering who gave you And if those cute little firemen do have to come back for some reason, they
what - especially as your collection of these gifts in the closet grows. That's when the can have their choice of a fruitcake or a picture of a Japanese Maple neatly tucked away
potential for disaster occurs. Recycling gifts back to the original giver is an absolutely in my gift closet - just in case.
scandalous Holiday faux pas, specifically when the acquaintance recognizes that they Merry Christmas to All! Luke 2:14
gave you the feather lined wrap or pink and green Istoner slippers or vase with the
Jumana A. Swindler, a resident of Florence, is the Director of Marketing and Public Relations for McLeod Health.
Her personal favorite pastimes, reflected in her writings, are RV'ing, movies,Theater, fishing, reading and spending time with her son and family.
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This year my wayward family is coming home. The singing of familiar songs at Christmas, the smelling of the tops of my
My oldest daughter and family are South Carolina bound! The best part is they are grandchildren’s heads, as well as the delightful smells of chocolate and cinnamon will
moving in at the farm, with us (BeeGee and PaPa that is)!!! As soon as we received the sooth my soul. Having my family all gathered together reminiscing past antics and new
news they were coming I knew this Christmas was going to be the best one yet! life experiences will be the best present ever.
Christmas memories will begin with homemade candies carefully placed in the Home is really where you are completely yourself--you can be quiet or you
same tin containers that are used every year. As soon as they are placed on the count- can talk. You can use bright colors or pastels, antiques or modern furniture. It’s you
er the children know what’s inside. The familiar smell tempts the taste buds as the and your family together choosing your surroundings. At the end of the day what real-
shiny chocolate coating delights their eyes. This treat among others is reserved for ly matters is that you are welcomed and safe and loved. Don’t forget to give the best
Christmas at our house and I’ll keep making them until the torch is passed some day. of yourself at home, too. Try not to wear yourself out doing for others and forgetting
This year I will have all I ever wanted--which is to stand beside my grandchildren that your own family needs you too. Make sure you show them you love them--you
(who are standing in kitchen chairs) and bake. Even the most tedious task can become a can’t over do it. May this Christmas bring you new memories of a special Christmas
blessing when it’s shared with special “grandangels”. I can just hear the questions as we at home with those you love.
measure and mix the wonderful ingredients together. This will most assuredly lead to Just being together and reading the Christmas story together is a blessing.
some taste testing along the way. Oh my goodness, I can just see the tips of their fingers The remembrance of the lowly stable from which came great joy can sustain us forev-
all covered in chocolate now, not to mention my kitchen. It’s OK when that happens with er, unlike the tokens that come and go.
your grandchildren. Remember you are a child of God and that He cares for you so much that He
I fondly recall the good ol’ days at cotton picking time when our children would gave the most precious gift He had, His Son. He gave Him for us because we are sin-
play in the giant pile of cotton seeds at the family gin house. Their jeans would be “pegged” ners. Be reminded that even if someone breaks your heart or destroys your trust, you
because that was the style in the 80’s and that meant cotton seeds would be tracked every- can come to Him and he will give you peace. Lift up your pain and heartache and He
where in the house afterwards. I didn’t seem to mind it so much because everyone had will fix it in His perfect way. This is a season of peace and great joy. Take all the sad-
such a delightful time together. I wish my grandchildren could experience this but the gin ness and anxiety and leave it at the foot of the cross and begin this next year with a
house was torn down several years ago now. Now, cotton modules dot the landscape. renewed spirit,
I am reminded of the fun our children had jumping into piles of leaves and riding Remember as you are doing your Christmas baking that “Jesus Loves You, this
in the back of the farm truck. Those simple moments that created such special memories I know.” I am going to put into practice all the things I’ve mentioned that would make
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Beth Grant is an Artist, Interior Decorator and Writer. She and her husband, Don, live on their family farm in Lamar, South Carolina. They own and operate Mantissa Row in Hartsville.
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an American by default makes you richer than the vast
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Sometimes, I don’t wonder at all why people in
and I could look through them, and we even put on red sive. The most helpful article I found is called other countries don’t like us. We sit here in all our com-
sweaters for pictures. This year, however, I put it off as “Understanding Poverty in America” at fort and wealth and complain about the most trivial non-
long as possible. It was hard to do, since the day after www.heritage.org. In summation, people who are life-threatening things while they can’t feed their children
Halloween, all the retailers started putting up their holi- Americans and the Census Bureau label as “poor” still or find clean water to drink.
day decorations. They really do market this Christian have a home that is not overcrowded, enough food to Let us humble ourselves this holiday season and
holiday more than any other. They must know that one eat, heat and air, television, phones, cars and modern ask God to make us aware of how rich we truly are. And,
of the “respectable sins” that many Christians deal with appliances. Obviously, this is not the case for poor peo- let us find ways to simplify our celebration of Christmas.
is materialism, buying into American dream agendas to ple in countries like India, China and even Europe. I think
have it all and be able to give it all to our children. Sure, the Census Bureau may consider us
we collect some shoeboxes for Operation Christmas poor, although I’ve never bothered to
Child, but each of those represents just a fraction of the find out. All I know is that I feel so rich,
total amount of spending we do around the holidays. and I can only do more to simplify my
We have informed our three-year-old, who life, live with less and give more away.
already struggles with materialism (wanting more when Let’s get back to Christmas. I
she has everything she needs and not being satisfied with really do love this holiday, although I
what she has), that we will be giving her and her sister am kinda old school and like to thor-
one special present. If she receives more gifts from oth- oughly enjoy Thanksgiving before I
ers – and she will – she is to be very grateful for what start listening to Christmas music.
the Lord has provided and enjoy what she has been But, when the time comes, I look for-
given. We have also asked her to help us get the shoe- ward to picking out a fresh-cut tree,
boxes ready for children overseas as her gift to us. I decorating with my family and listen-
explained to her that it is all about Jesus and not about ing to our favorite Christmas albums
her, because it is His Birth we are celebrating. She really from Andrew Peterson, “Behold the
grasped that since she felt very special and celebrated on Lamb of God,” and Sojourn
her own birthday. Community Church, “Songs of the
Though this may sound a little bit harsh, we Advent.” I love making Mimi’s
want to set a precedent for our family for the years to Molasses Cookies and planning a
come. No matter how much or how little God has given healthy but fully-satisfying Christmas
us, we should always be grateful and seek to live with as dinner. I love stockings and a fire
little as possible. So, if God has made you a steward of burning in the fireplace. I anticipate
much, seek Him and His Word to know what He wants creating more traditions as our chil-
you to do with your abundance. And, if God has given dren grow – some the same and
you just what you need, and not a penny more (and some different than the ones we had
sometimes it seems a penny less), then trust in Him and growing up.
pray for His continued provision and guidance, and seek And, I plan to fully avoid the
ways to give and serve others. things I don’t love about Christmas
I did a little research on poverty in America ver- – like the pressure to spend an inor- Maddy, Annie and Phoebe enjoying a trip to the mall.
sus poverty in the rest of the world, and it’s very eye- dinate amount of money, the chaos
opening. I knew the general concept already that being and crowds every time you go in a

Originally from Orlando, Florida, Annie Collins now resides in Marion with her husband, Dan, a Youth Minister, and their two daughters, Maddy and Phoebe.
She is a 2004 graduate of Columbia International University with a Bachelor’s Degree in Psychology. Annie looks forward to your feedback. You may contact her at [email protected].
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Wings for the Spirit

the best
Gift
by Sherry S. Page Atkinson

h How blessed we are to have another Christmas! This celebra-

tion of Jesus’ Birth is a season of great joy to all. What a special time of
showing love by sharing with others. As we give and receive gifts on this
happy holiday, we are reminded of the best gift of all – salvation with
eternal life in Heaven through Jesus Christ, our Lord.
In Luke 2:7, Mary gave birth to her first child, a son. It was
extremely significant but simple, humble and precious, as God had
planned it all to be. Mary wrapped the Christ Child in warm pieces of
fabric to keep Him warm and laid Him in a manger. This was His only
bed – a feeding trough. Imagine Him wrapped warmly and surrounded
Jesus and a personal relationship with Him. Suppose there’s no tomor-
row. Think about it. We could only have today – or possibly only the
next second. Don’t wait! Jesus is standing at your heart’s door, wanting
you to ask Him in. Come to Him just as you are and receive the free
gift of salvation from sin with the promise of eternal life in Heaven.
Won’t you make room in your heart and life for Jesus – the best gift!
My prayer for anyone reading this: Dear Heavenly Father, we
want to come into Your Presence and worship You for who You are.
Thank You for Your unconditional love for us and for all the many bless-
ings You have given us. Thank You for sending Jesus,Your only Son, to be
by His earthly parents and animals to help keep Him warm. Think about born in a lowly manger and for His death on the cross for our sins.
it. God’s only Son, the King of all Kings was born in the lowliest of Praise You, Jesus, for dying in our place that we could be saved from our
places. It was a cold, dark, dirty stable for animals. The humbling, sins and have eternal life in Heaven with You. Jesus, speak to the hearts
unimaginable circumstances reveal the love of our Heavenly Father and of any who are unsaved and prepare their hearts to receive You as their
Savior, Jesus Christ. God loves every human being, regardless of how Savior. Holy Spirit, I pray You comfort and encourage those who feel
cold, dark and dirty their lives are or have been. The dark past (or pres- unloved. Minister to them as only You can and surround them with Your
ent) of someone’s life – the cold, hardness of heart and dirty sin – will Presence. Touch with Your healing hand those who are physically sick,
never keep Him from coming into a person’s heart and life who wants emotionally hurting, financially hurting or spiritually hurting. Bless those
Him in. He will also be there for us in difficult times – if we will make who are doing their best to live for You and serve You. Bring revival to
room for Him. As God manifested Himself to the shepherds, He will for our nation, Lord, and continue Your blessings and protection on us. We
you and me – if we seek Him. pray for our President and every person in office, Father God, that You
In our culture, strong emphasis is placed on the materialistic would give them wisdom and that, most of all, they would seek You and
view of the Christmas holiday. The incarnation of God was the focus of determine to live for You more than they ever have. Send the fire of
the early church on Christmas. As loving and thoughtful as gifts are, the revival to our churches, Lord, and let every church be filled to overflow-
most expensive gift received at Christmas will not give the fulfillment of ing with people hungry for You. Fill us with Your Spirit, and use us for
helping those who cannot help themselves or enjoying the gathering of Your glory that others who don’t know You will want to know You.
loved ones. God’s best gift to us is Jesus – Who came to save us from Forgive us of our sins. Wash us clean in the blood of Jesus and help us
our sins and give us eternal life in Heaven. Still, many reject the best gift to be the Christians You would have us to be. Help us, Lord, to forgive
we could ever receive. Although we treasure our possessions, they those we need to forgive because this can bring healing to us. We are
don’t bring lasting satisfaction. Only a personal relationship with Jesus so needy of You, Jesus. Protect our troops, Father God. Sustain them
can give ultimate fulfillment. and their families while they are giving of themselves to protect our
Have you received the best gift – the free gift of salvation from freedom. We cry out to You, Father God, to be with our families, to
sin with the promise of eternal life in Heaven through Jesus Christ? send Your angels to surround them and cover them with the precious
Jesus is no longer a baby in that little manger. As a result of His death blood of Jesus for protection. Help us to open up our spiritual eyes and
on a cruel cross and His rising again, He is alive today! He is patiently ears and teach us Your Word and Your ways. Help us to lay aside petty
waiting for you to ask Him into your heart and life, if you haven’t already differences, pride or anything that would distract our realization of the
done so. He loves you just as you are and He wants to help you. You’ve times we are living in. Father God, Jesus and Holy Spirit, we love You!
tried almost everything, and it hasn’t filled the emptiness in your life. We worship and adore You! We ask You, Jesus, to come into our hearts,
Satan tells people to wait because there is plenty of time and afresh and anew. Forgive us of our sins. Fill us to overflowing with the
they are a good person like they are. Don’t fall for this nonsense from Holy Spirit. In Jesus’ powerful and precious Name. Amen.
our enemy. Nothing and no one else can fill the void in our lives but

Sherry S. Page Atkinson lives in Marion with her husband, Jimmy.

Those wishing to contact her may do so at the following address: 6526 South Highway 41. Or, you may e-mail her at: [email protected].
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A Natural Cure
for Migraine Headaches by J. Marshall Dent, III

I I recently wrote an article on the importance of hormone balance and its

effect on weight loss. In my clinical experience, I realized a long time ago how impor-
tant hormone balance is to the general well-being of women. With that being said, the
balance of sex hormones is essential to the prevention of migraine headaches.
What’s even worse, migraine headaches seem to be increasing worldwide over the last
50 years – and particularly in women. What could be the cause of this sudden increase
in migraine headaches? One theory for the increased incidence is the increase in birth
control pills since 1960, the progressive exposure to estrogen over the past 50 years
Depending on what statistic you use, migraine headaches are found in about and worsening dietary habits of the last 25 years.
10% of the population. Women have a three- What is the real cause of migraines? The primary cause is a hormone called
fold increased incidence compared to progesterone. It is actually a deficiency in progesterone or an imbalance in the
men. The number of migraine ratio of estrogen to progesterone that appears to be the root cause of migraine
headaches in women approach headaches in women. Progesterone is a sex hormone produced largely by the ovaries.
18% of the female population. It has a counter-balance effect to estrogen. Every cell in the body has progesterone
As a woman approaches age receptors and, in particular, the brain. Women who have progesterone deficiency have
35, the peak incidence of numerous problems, ranging from menstrual irregularity, severe premenstrual symp-
migraines increases to toms, heavy cycles, infertility and obesity.
nearly 35% - nearly one in There are many factors that enhance treatment of migraines, including the use
three! Furthermore, offi- of magnesium, vitamin D supplementation, fish oil tablets and fine tuning the thyroid
cial statistics indicate hormone level. The magnesium must be the type that is well absorbed and not typical-
that 60-70% ly what is found on the shelves of your local drug store. The use of over-the-counter
of women magnesium will only lead to diarrhea if the dose is increased to that needed to prevent
experience migraines. The fish oil must be a high-potency grade with the proper ratio of EPA and
“hormonal” DHA. The vitamin D level should be obtained first in order to prescribe the proper
headaches dosage regimen to achieve therapeutic levels.
based on their A plan of treatment for the menstruating woman is to first, stop your birth
monthly control pills. The dosage of bio-identical progesterone is 50mg twice daily from days
cycle. fifteen until onset of menses. The use of 400-500mg of long-acting magnesium every
day with the essential fatty acids, two capsules twice daily every day of the month, has
shown to be very effective in the prevention of the migraine. The treatment of
migraines includes the use of 1000 IU of vitamin D daily if your levels are close to 40,
and increased doses if you have lower levels. This plan will require two menstrual cycles
to pass to get the full benefit of the treatment.
The plan of treatment for the non-menstruating or postmenopausal women is
the use of bio-identical progesterone twice daily every day of the month, taking a three-
to seven-day break, depending on return of symptoms. The use of well-absorbed mag-
nesium on the order of 400-500mg a day will make the progesterone work better. The
use of essential fatty acids, 1000mg twice a day, is an important component to the treat-
ment plan. The use of vitamin D contingent on your individual level is an essential com-
ponent to the treatment of the headache. I like to increase the progesterone dosage
for the first ten days to achieve better serum levels initially. The dosage can then be
adjusted to achieve resolution of the migraine.
Some women will experience breast fullness or soreness when they start tak-
ing progesterone. This is seen with higher doses and is a temporary effect and
should resolve in several weeks. The goal is to use the lowest doses that will
resolve your migraine. Sometimes, I will add bio-identical estrogen during the
worse headache days of the month if I am not achieving complete resolution
of the headache with progesterone alone. In the peri-menopausal patient,
the use of progesterone will sometimes increase her menopausal symp-
toms since the progesterone is an estrogen antagonist. In that patient,
the use of low dose bio-identical estrogen is warranted.
The cure rate should be on the order of 80%. For the remaining 20%,
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mone deficiency. The reason for correcting the hormonal imbalances or
deficiencies is for an overall positive effect on your health and well-being.
You will feel better. Your body will function better. You will stay younger
longer. Your weight will be easier to maintain. The bottom line is this; it’s all good.
So, if you’ve tried all that is available to you in the form of prescriptions, and
you have not achieved resolution of your migraines, consider this natural approach. You
have nothing to lose but the migraine.

If you have questions about the information in this article, you may contact Dr. Dent at Complete Women’s
Health Care in Florence. Dr. Dent is Board Certified in Family Practice and Obstetrics and Gynecology and also
holds an Advanced Certification in Menopausal Medicine.
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All I
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by Cookie Cawthon

L
Last year, about this time, I
remember thinking – as I struggled
to catch my breath – things will slow
down in the new year. Spring is not
as busy as the fall. And just a few
short weeks after that I remember
thinking, summer. Things will slow down in
the summer. And just a few short weeks after that, I stopped lying to myself. I want to love big this year and worship big and celebrate big. I want to hum while I
As another busy fall approached, I didn’t stop speeding through life in a blur of shop and listen to Christmas music 24/7. I want to wear the perma-grin and give lots of hugs. I
lunacy, but I did acknowledge that the pace was not going to slacken on its own. I need a want to sleep under the cozy glow of the lit Christmas tree, and I want to be released from the
governor on my time to keep it from racing away with record-breaking rapidity, and that pressure and even desire to ensure that my children receive everything on their lists. This
governor looks like me making difficult choices. Choices to reduce and eliminate hurry Christmas I want less of what commercial America wants me to have and more of what Jesus
from my life. Choices to limit my involvement in certain activities. Choices to exercise wants me to be. I want to resist the urge to cuss at tangled tree lights and be unaffected by rude
restraint. Choices to simplify rather than complicate. and harried shoppers and retail employees. I want my house to smell like apple cider every day.
I already hear you grumbling and groaning and rolling your eyes at the loftiness It’s simple, really; I want life to be simple, Santa – just for the month of December. It’s
of my afore-listed fragments. Or I see you sagging beneath the weight of guilt induced by a tall order; I get that, but if you can pull off that whole up-the-chimney stunt, I think this is small
the mere mention of simplifying. Easier said than done, I KNOW! I’m still trying to get a potatoes.
handle on running my life instead of it running me, and most of the time I am losing the Oh yeah, please overlook all of those times I yelled at my children for the sake of hur-
battle. rying us somewhere we didn’t even need to be going, all of the times I made life more complicat-
You see, I am guilty of believing that I need more, that I need to do more, that ed than it needed to be, and all of the times I failed to be generous in my day-to-day living.
my children need to be involved in more, that I need to dabble in this and that, that I need Thank you, and stay jolly and fabulous!
to start this, that I need to train for that, that I need to sign-up for this, that I need to vol- Warmly ;-)
unteer for that, that I need to register for this, that I need to apply for that, and the list Cookie
goes on – to quote the ever sagacious Buzz Lightyear – to infinity and beyond.
But simplicity is what I want for Christmas. Even if for just this month. So, here So, we’ll see how that goes.
goes… Unfortunately, it does feel like a simple Christmas would require magic or a mir-
acle. Does my Type A, perfectionist self even possess the ability to wind down when the
Dear Santa, world around me is going full throttle and beckoning me to do the same? I don’t know.
I want to chill out for Christmas this year. I want to revert to an attentive and inten- That’s why I’ll be asking Him every day to fill me with His joy, to enlarge my wonder of
tional pace that allows me to pause and reflect on the blessings of this year and the meaning of His gift, to break my heart for those who are hurting and those who are without, to help
this season every day for the month of December. I want to make peace with the dust in my me delight in the simple and pure, and to leave me unmoved by the loot of the season.
house and laugh more with my family than perhaps I have done all year. I want to make crafts And His raise-peeps-from-the-dead deal is way more impressive than flying rein-
with my girls (even though I am ultra not-crafty) and enjoy baking yummy cookies and cakes with deer. I’m just sayin’, I’m in good hands.
them even if our cookies are ugly and misshapen. I want to give a lot this Christmas – choosing And I’ll be asking the same for you and your family – for broken hearts and sim-
thoughtful gifts that express affection and appreciation without causing financial strain, and I want ple goodness.
to say no to commitments that may kindle unnecessary stress. “Mercy, peace, and love be yours in abundance” (Jude 1:2).

Cookie Cawthon is deckin’ the halls with boughs of holly, bursting into “Joy to the World” without a moment’s forewarning, and dreaming of a white Christmas in Flo-town.
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shop
talk

Venable’s
Billy and Marie Venable, owners
ABOUT US: In 1989, Venable’s had a store in Georgetown very similar to the stores WHAT WE DO: We have evolved into a Retail Jewelry, Gift and Accessory Store. We
Marie and I now have in Florence; however, Hurricane Hugo put about five feet of water try to stock items you might not find elsewhere. My wife is the buyer, and she has a knack
in that one. Needless to say, we were forced out of business. I moved to Florence to for finding the next hot thing. In our repair department, we can do almost any jewelry
work for one of the local jewelers and was there for two years. It became abundantly clear repair. We do ring sizing, stone setting, chain soldering, as well as costume jewelry and
that I needed to make a change. After much prayer and consideration, I decided to try my watch repair. We can also supply watch bands and batteries while you wait. Our engrav-
own business in Florence. The problem – Marie and I had no money. Nevertheless, the ing is done on premise, and it’s done fast.
Lord put us in the path of a smart businessman who had faith in our vision. He started
off as a limited partner for an investment in our first store. After a few years in business, OUR GOAL: It is our goal to offer quality work with a short turn around time.
he was gracious enough to let us buy him out. Only the Lord could arrange the things that
put us in business with such a small investment. We opened our first store in March 1991 WHAT MAKES US UNIQUE: The unique thing about our store is that we don’t buy
in Magnolia Mall. My greatest fear for our new business was a long-term lease. When I dozens of anything.You won’t see ten other people with the same item you bought from
approached the Mall with my business plan, they said okay, with the stipulation that I would us. The jewelry items you buy from us can most often be sized or serviced by us. We are
have to pay month-to-month. They wouldn’t offer me a lease. They told me a few years always glad to size, repair or engrave items bought elsewhere, as well. You can also be
and a few leases later that the reason they didn’t offer a lease was because they were sure assured that the money made in our businesses will be faithfully tithed upon. I doubt if that
I wasn’t going to make it. “Ain’t God good!” can be said of any of the big box stores. Another thing we do that the bigger stores won’t
do is look for a specific item for you. When we go to market, we always have a list of spe-
HOW WE STARTED OUT: Our store started out as a jewelry repair and engraving cial requests from our customers. Sometimes, if we can’t find the jewelry item you want,
business. We didn’t have enough money to buy any inventory, so we made a few things to we may be able to make it.
put in our cases. At the time, Marie was working for an attorney and had nights and week-
ends off. The mall store had to be open 70 hours a week and we couldn’t afford any help, MOST POPULAR FOR CHRISTMAS: This Christmas, we expect the hottest items
so we worked all in Sterling Silver to be the Charleston Gate Collection and Shelia’s Lowcountry Designs.
the hours by our- Both lines are created right here in South Carolina. We also have a large variety of gifts
selves. At the and jewelry that can be monogrammed.
time, we were in a
Christian rock FIND US: The larger of our two stores is located at 1608 Second Loop Road. It offers
band, and one of us the ability to stock larger items like luggage and some ladies apparel from time to time.
our band mates The Second Loop Store will be open Monday through Saturday, from 10:00 AM to 6:00 PM,
told me he want- Thanksgiving until Christmas Eve. The Magnolia Mall Store will be open seven days, accord-
ed to work on ing to the Mall schedule.
Sundays for free
so I could have a Billy Venable and his wife, Marie, have two boys, Elliott and Will. Billy grew up in Myrtle Beach, and
day off. Marie is originally from Georgetown; however, presently, they live in Florence. Marie works in both
stores, as well as being a Fourth Grade Assistant at Carver Elementary. They attend church at
Cornerstone Church. Their relationship with God is the foundation of their family. Cornerstone has
been a blessing to them.

“In our repair department, we can do almost any jewelry repair.”

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She Magazine • December 2009 • 69

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Blanchie J. James, I began with the South Carolina Youth Advocate Program (SCYAP) in 1997 as a

MA, LPC, NCC

Treatment Coordinator and was promoted to Supervisor and, subsequently, to my current
position as Regional Director since 2003. I’m responsible for the overall administration of
the Regional Office; however, my primary role includes the placement of children who have
REGIONAL DIRECTOR been abused and neglected into loving, caring foster homes that are appropriate to meeting
their critical needs. A professional treatment staff is assigned to the home once a child is
placed to ensure that the child and foster parent receive all needed support and services to
South Carolina Youth Advocate ensure success.
Another part of that process is recruiting and training suitable foster parents. All
Program (SCYAP) foster parents go through a training and licensing procedure as it is important that SCYAP
complies with all the requirements instituted by the state of South Carolina. Additionally, this
job requires a strong knowledge of the various issues facing children in therapeutic foster
care and the suitable approaches, including effective strategies/techniques and the use of Best
Practices Methods that will help the foster child to heal and move beyond the effects of the
abuse and neglect they have suffered, to help them to become happier and healthier children
and adolescents.
I was led to this line of work because of my desire to help others and just making a
positive difference in the lives of people. The most difficult thing about my work is managing a
child in crisis when it seems that all the techniques and strategies I’m employing to stabilize the
child seem to be ineffective.
The success stories bring me the most joy. It is so rewarding to me when a child
can successfully function within his environment – learn basic skills that we take for granted
(i.e. tie their shoestrings, learn to make a bed, take their first step or say their first word at
the age of 7, learn and use positive character), graduate from high school or get their GED,
attend college, family reunification, successful adoption, secure and maintain employment and,
finally, to be able to sufficiently take care of themselves independently and/or with some assis-
tance. It also makes me feel good when a former client calls and tells me or one of our staff
members, “Thank you for what you have done for me.” Those words are priceless!
South Carolina Youth Advocate Program provides services for youth (male/female)
ages birth to 21. Currently, our office serves approximately eighty children throughout the
Pee Dee region. Our children come into care as a result of neglect, physical, sexual and men-
tal abuse. As a result of the neglect and/or abuse, many of these youth exhibit behaviors such
as Oppositional Defiant Disorder, Psychosis, Bipolar Disorder, Attention Deficit Hyperactive
Disorder, Mental Retardation and sexually reactive behaviors. SCYAP places these children
in a supportive and loving home with highly-trained and caring foster families, along with a
variety of professional services, so that they may overcome their problems. In addition to
Therapeutic Foster Care, we offer Wrap-Around Services, Intensive Family Services,
Resource Mother, Supervised Independent Living and Temporary De-Escalation Care.
There are specific needs during the Christmas season. I want all children within our
program to experience joy and love on Christmas Day. As you can imagine, the holi-
days can be a very painful time of year for a foster child. We work hard all year to
ensure these children have a safe, loving home where they can begin to heal. One way
we try to help is to provide each child with a memorable and happy Christmas – one that
they may never have ever experienced. To do this, we need help.
She readers, churches and civic groups – even corporations and
small businesses – can help SCYAP by making tax-deductible donations of
money and/or gifts for Christmas for these unique youth. There are two
“Angel Trees” located in Florence for anyone wishing to sponsor a specific child. One is locat-
ed in the Food Court in Magnolia Mall; another is located in the Stein Mart store at Florence
Mall. We would love for the readers to either sponsor a child during the Christmas holidays by
pulling an Angel from the Christmas Tree from either location or by sending a donation directly
to South Carolina Youth Advocate Program. We also invite them to consider becoming a foster
parent. Those interested may contact us directly for any further information
on how they can greatly enrich a youth’s life.

Blanchie James and her husband of over twenty years, Kenneth Ray, have two sons, Barry and
Kristopher. They live in Florence County, Ray’s hometown. Blanchie loves to read when she has
the time, as well as cook. She also loves a good “drama” movie.
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She Magazine • December 2009 • 71

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A HOMESPUN
Christmas FEATURE STORIES BEGIN ON PAGE 76

This month, our feature stories – and the

women in them – are all about celebrating
Christmas in a HOMESPUN way.

Do you long for a time when celebrating the

Birth of Christ was simpler? Remember when
Christmas was about gathering with family and
friends, baking and decorating and making our
homes come alive with the sights, sounds and
scents of the season and less about the hustle
and bustle that has taken the place of
peace and love?

If you are ready to celebrate the

true meaning of Christmas –
the Birth of Christ – in a way that
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d A Homespun Christmas

Pictured (top) Faye with her siblings at Christmas

and (below) Faye and her Mama and Daddy

by Erika
Hearing the word “Christmas”
immediately evokes many powerful images and feelings in
Chapman
most people. For some, it brings to mind lights and glit-
ter, ornamented trees, festively-wrapped presents, joyful
carols and a crackling fireplace. For others, the word is them to treasure the season for its purpose – the Birth
associated with the stresses of busy shopping malls, sen- of the Christ Child. However, she also wanted to pass on
sory overload, self-indulgence and the drama of family the heritage of Christmas as a beautiful time for coming boxes at the same time, as usual. We all received fifty
get-togethers. As Faye Nissen describes the Christmases home and being with family and those you love. handmade white crocheted starched ornaments (angels,
of her childhood and the holidays she purposed to bless They developed some of their own traditions as stars, bells and Christmas balls, etc.) for our trees! As we
her children with, she paints a picture of a beautiful, a nuclear family. They would have family devotions each began that year to celebrate Christmas Eve with our
Southern, Christ-Centered, full-of-family Christmas. morning in December and follow an Advent Calendar to families, we would have ornaments to remember our
Faye grew up in a large family – the sixth of mark the approach of December 25th. They used this Mama’s Christmas tree and the wonderful times we had
seven children. She remembers Christmas as her mama’s time to teach their children how God loves them through at home.
favorite holiday. It was the day they all knew and treas- the gift of Christ’s Birth. Another fun family tradition was Mama and Daddy went to be with the Lord.
ured because it meant they would all be together. hunting for a Christmas tree. They always picked a live One of the grandchildren wanted to get together one
Everyone would come home and gather together with tree and tried to find the biggest one they could. One more time. We planned the event and gathered in the
lots of great food and great noise. year, Faye remembers, the tree was twelve-feet tall. And, homeplace one more time to remember and honor
On Christmas Eve, they would enjoy a bountiful some years, they had to cut the tree apart to remove it Mama and Daddy. We had our meal and sat and remi-
meal that was lovingly prepared by her mama. The from the house. They always made sure everybody was nisced of Christmas Eves with a house full of noisy chil-
kitchen counters were full as everyone enjoyed their home for the Christmas tree hunt, and then they would dren – grandchildren and great-grandchildren – and the
favorites. There were lots to choose from – barbecue, decorate while enjoying Christmas carols and oyster love of Mama and Daddy who made it all possible.”
fried chicken, chicken bog, red gravy, collards, turnips, mac stew. Faye’s mama also gave her three boxes with twenty-five
and cheese, seven-layer salad, butterbeans, peas, corn- The children enjoyed helping with decorating handmade white crocheted ornaments in them for each
bread, creamed corn and slaw. There seemed to be end- but became very particular about making sure each dec- of Faye’s children. “Mama knew she wouldn’t see her
less choices for dessert with every pie and cake imagina- oration went in the same designated spot every year. If grandchildren get married and she wanted me to give
ble – Chocolate, Pecan, Coconut, German Chocolate, Red Faye tried to move the family of carolers where the nut- them each a box so they would have them to start their
Velvet, Fruit Cake and Pound Cake. Then, there were crackers usually stood, the children would quickly remind own Christmas traditions.”
cookies for the children. her that – every year – it needed to remain the same. Those precious ornaments usually decorate a
After the meal, the fifty-plus-member family Just as Faye came to love the little traditions and holiday special tree in the Nissen home. Now that the Nissens
would gather in the living room. It was wall-to-wall fam- moments that were dear to her family, her children quick- have three grandchildren of their own, Faye has added
ily. Someone would play the piano as they sang Christmas ly became attached to the things that made Christmas pictures of her grandbabies to the middle of those pre-
carols together. Some years, there was stringed accom- unique to “their” family. cious ornaments made by their Great-Grandma.
paniment, as well. They would read The Christmas Story However, things can’t always stay the same for- Grandchildren have added other new traditions
from Luke, and the grandchildren would share songs they ever. Faye shares about one important Christmas. “I will to Christmas. The Nissens always had a train among
learned. Then, it was time for opening presents. The never forget the last time we had Christmas at Mama and their decorations, but now they have a Polar Express Train
room became a sea of ribbons, and wrapping paper was Daddy’s. When Mama and Daddy were 79, they said it and Village with its own table that they put out each year.
knee-deep by the time it was all over. The children would was time to make a change, and we, as children, needed (continued.)
play and compare gifts while the adults would visit over to start our own Christmas celebrations. It was sad, but
coffee and more dessert. our family had grown so large and Mama and Daddy
When Faye married Al Nissen and later could not physically do all this for Christmas. The next
became a mother to their three children, December, they invited all of their seven children and
Jenny, Andrew and Anna, Christmas spouses for dinner. We all offered to bring, as we always
meant spending time with even more did. Nonetheless, ‘No!’ was the answer. We had such a
family. The Nissens would spend good time. The tree was up and decorated with Mama’s
Christmas Eve with Faye’s family and beautiful handmade white crocheted ornaments, which
Christmas Day with Al’s family. we all admired. And, Mama had a twinkle in her eye. She
Faye wanted to pass on her began to give out gifts. Each couple received a box, and
mama’s love for Christmas to we opened the
her own children. She wanted
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FRED SALLEY PHOTOGRAPHY

Just as surely as the grandchildren run to see if the train Choose from 6
is set up, they also can expect new Christmas pajamas for everyone on Christmas different gift sets!
Eve, and every year, seeing the Christmas lights on the garden fence just as they
decorated Faye’s mama’s fence for so many years. Faye’s children look forward to
an amazing traditional meal of turkey and all the trimmings on Christmas Day. But,
when they are all home, the visit is filled with many significant meals. Her children
Pattie Hudson
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holiday memories and are now passing on the heritage of a Christ-Centered
Christmas to their own families.

Erika Chapman lives in Florence with her amazing husband and three busy little
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sharing her most recent adventures at www.erikaivory.wordpress.com.
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d A Homespun Christmas

On Christmas morning, while most of us are celebrating with family and friends and
opening presents around the Christmas tree, you’ll find Joyce Guffey busy in her church kitchen
preparing a homemade Christmas meal for the men of the Area Rescue Mission of Florence. It’s not
that Joyce has no family in town, or that she has nothing else to do with her time, this is what she
chooses to do each Christmas as an act of service and compassion to the people in her community. by Ch
Joyce, a Florence resident since 1978, and her late husband, Dean Guffey, started this tradi- eri
tion for their family eighteen years ago. And, it’s what she has done every year since that time. She
begins a few days before Christmas, preparing dishes complete with ham, turkey, salads, vegetable
Jordan
casseroles and desserts. Joyce gets up early on Christmas morning to cook the meal and then trans-
ports all the food to the mission. She creates a festive atmosphere with table decorations and place
settings. With the help of other members of her family, Joyce treats the men to a beautiful holiday
spread that they would otherwise not have. It’s her way of sharing Christ’s love with others on the
day that we celebrate His Birth. You can find her at the East Florence Mission every Tuesday – all year –
The Area Rescue Mission is a ministry in our community that houses men who need a little help get- preparing a good, nutritious meal for the children there. The meal is fol-
ting back on their feet. These gentlemen don’t have a home or a job. The mission provides them with lowed by a time of Bible stories and games where the children, like the men,
a place to stay, food to eat and the skills necessary to get back into society as productive citizens. In also have weekly opportunities to hear the message of Christ.
addition to training the men for future job opportunities, there are regular Bible studies that offer Those that know Joyce will tell you that she truly lives a life of service.
them hope and an understanding of the love that God has for them. “Joyce loves to serve and give. She is often the person behind the scenes
Not only does Joyce provide a beautiful lunch for these men on Christmas, she provides that you don’t see, but her service is invaluable,” says a friend of Joyce. “She
them with Christmas presents, as well. She begins her Christmas shopping in January for the follow- spends her life modeling the servanthood and compassion of Jesus, expect-
ing year and shops year-round. After her loving husband died, Joyce decided to turn his closet into a ing nothing in return. She just lives to give.”
“closet of joy.” She fills the closet through the year with gifts that she purchases. Joyce looks for sales Joyce does find time to celebrate the season with family, as well. She is
and said she can often find items for up to 90% off. She likes to purchase sweaters and coats for the gifted with a close-knit, loving family, and she enjoys having her children,
men at the Area Rescue Mission, as well as other necessities. grandchildren and great-grandchildren by her side. Joyce says that she has
In addition to her Christmas Day Ministry, Joyce is also involved with the East Florence too many good Christmas memories to choose her favorite, but her favorite
Mission. With the help of her daughter-in-law, Ellen Guffey, she puts together a Christmas party each tradition is just being together. She loves to feel the warmth and love
year for the children at the mission. She provides them with an early Christmas meal and party. The around her and to hear the joy and laughter in everyone’s voices.
children receive gifts of toys, clothes and school supplies. The two ladies have put together a gift drive It’s not about the presents or the decorations for Joyce; it’s about God’s
each year at their church, Trinity Evangelical Presbyterian Church. The members of their church love – first and foremost – and spending the day celebrating His love for us
“adopt” a child and purchase gifts for these children. The Guffey women then organize the gifts and by spreading it to others. In fact, one of Joyce’s traditions is that her family
provide the children with an exciting party during the holiday season. waits until nighttime to open gifts. This is their way of focusing on one
For Joyce, Christmas isn’t a one-day event in her mind. “It’s a season of the heart and, for another and others in their community rather than the gifts underneath the
me, Christmas is a year-round celebration.” tree. Joyce has come to love this tradition because it “extends the day out
This belief is evident by the fact that she not only donates her time at these missions on as long as possible” and gives her more time with the people that she loves.
Christmas, she is there We see many opportunities for service during the holiday season. There
all year volunteering her are toy drives and food drives. Children sing carols at the nursing homes
service and time. and we give blankets to the homeless. As the season ends, though, so often
(continued) does our awareness of the needs around us. It’s easy to become immersed
back into our day-to-day lives and give little thought to those around us.
How much better would our communities be if we all adopted Joyce
Guffey’s theory that Christmas is a year-round season? This remarkable
woman has truly modeled the life that God meant for us to live when He spoke of loving your neigh-
bor and serving others. When you come in contact with Joyce, you can’t help but to be inspired to
serve and give of your time and your resources. Joyce Guffey is only one person, yet she has impact-
ed the lives of so many that I do not dare to attempt to put a number to it.
As the holiday season approaches, be inspired by this woman in your community to not let
it end. Make Christmas a year-round event in your life, and watch how it impacts others, as well as
yourself. Joyce would be the first to admit that, although she is blessing others with her time, in the
end, she is the one who is most blessed.

TOGRAPHY
Cheri Jordan is a Florence resident and has been married to
ED SALLEY PHO her husband, Robert, for eleven years. She is a stay-at-home
FR mom to four children, Abbi, Luke, Savannah and Matthew.
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d A Homespun Christmas Photography by

Susan Griggs

Melissa Brock, center, enjoying a fun moment in the

kitchen with her mom, Sandra Turnage, (left) and
grandmother, (right) Grace Aycok.

In May of 2008, Melissa Brock’s grandmother, Grace Aycok, My favorite thing to cook with my grandmother is
was diagnosed with breast cancer. Just one month later, the same fate would No-Bake Oatmeal Cookies. With my mother, it’s Sweet Potato
fall to her mother, Sandra Turnage. The news was devastating to Melissa, as she Casserole. Melissa recalls the tradition that began in her childhood
feared losing both her mother and grandmother to cancer. and later influenced her decision to open her own restaurant, Olde Towne,
Grace and Sandra began receiving chemotherapy and radiation treat- in Chesterfield, which is a local favorite.
ments that would save their lives but left them weak and unable to enjoy the Although the tradition was interrupted the last couple years as Grace
Christmas traditions they had always loved so much, cooking and baking and Sandra put all their efforts in coping with the cancer treatments
together – grandmother, mother and daughter. and getting well, this year, the three women will once again gather at Grace’s
However, in the midst of the suffering and fear, the true meaning of home to bake and celebrate. Each family member has certain favorites they
Christmas was revealed to the three generations of women. Melissa like to bake. Some just act as “food critics.” Others just like to eat.
explains, “We learned the true meaning of Christmas. I was so scared And, although each has different favorite recipes, the mother-daughter-
that I would lose my mother and my grandmother. Then, I realized that grandmother trio has only one motto, “Just remember when baking,
family and being with the people you love is what Christmas is all about.” butter makes anything taste better.”
This Christmas will mark more than thirty years of baking for
Melissa Brock with her mother and grandmother. “I remember
them having to pull a kitchen chair to the stove so I could reach it. Two Favorite Recipes from the
Kitchen of Melissa, Grace and Sandra:

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• 3 Tablespoons of cocoa powder
• 3 Cups of sweet potatoes • 2 Cups of granulated sugar
• 1 Teaspoon of vanilla • 1 Stick of butter
• 1/2 Teaspoon of salt • 1/2 Cup of milk
• 1/2 Cup of milk • 1 Tablespoon of vanilla
• 1 Cup of granulated sugar
• 2 Eggs Add all ingredients together in a sauce pan.
• 1 Stick of butter (melted) Bring to a boil.
Remove from heat.
Mix all the ingredients below, and sprinkle
them on top of the casserole. Add:
• 1/2 Cup of peanut butter
• 1 Cup of brown sugar • 3 Cups of quick oatmeal
• 1/3 Cup of self-rising flour
• 1/3 Cup of butter (melted) Mix well.
• 1 Cup of chopped nuts Dip onto wax paper in
your desired size.
Bake at 350 degrees for 30 minutes.

Melissa Brock lives in Chesterfield. Her mother, Sandra Turnage,

and her grandmother, Grace Aycok, live in Cheraw.
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by Sharon Bixler
“Butterflies and buttons Carolyn was born in Georgia and moved to
and boxes and fairies, post Cheraw as a teenager. Art has been a part of her life “Childhood Christmas
from a very early age when her mother introduced memories bring back
cards and paints and papers
her to pastel drawing. This love of art continued into pictures of a Chatty Cathy
that vary; these are a few of college, where she earned a degree in art. Being a
her favorite things.”(Sung to the doll, a Barbie Dream House,
lifelong learner, Carolyn continues to grow and
tune of “My Favorite Things.”) a train set (for her brother)
expand her horizons. It was at a workshop a couple
“Her” being artist Carolyn Moore Atkinson. and a very tired Daddy.”
years ago where she was introduced to Collage Art.
One would never lack for sensory stimulation She said she “instantly fell in love with it.” Carolyn is the creator of couture cards. These
being around Carolyn. You are announced and Collage Art is a mixed media art form that cards are individually designed and hand-crafted
greeted by her canine family, Cody and Winston, incorporates many types of media into one picture. to fit any and all occasions and holidays.
respectively. Once welcomed, Carolyn shares the A person can choose paints, papers, magazine pic- Christmastime is a very special time in
various collections; each treasure organized and tures, photo pictures and any embellishments you Carolyn’s home. Childhood Christmas memories
beautifully displayed. can imagine. So, for Carolyn, it allows her to express bring back pictures of a Chatty Cathy doll, a
herself using not only the “art” she loves, but also Barbie Dream House, a train set (for her brother)
many, many of the things she collects. These collect- and a very tired Daddy. She explained that he
ed treasures include all the favorite things, plus bro- would stay up until the wee hours of the morning
ken pieces of jewelry, wallpaper scraps, post cards, putting toys together. She also recalls the delicious
wrapping paper and pictures she tears out of maga- Frozen Fruit Salad that her mother always made
zines. Now, you would wonder with all these odds for Christmas. Now, she and her husband host
and ends, how does she find anything? Meet Mrs. the family as traditions pass from generation to
Organization. Her studio is so organized, it would
generation. They also enjoy riding the roads
admiring the pageant of Christmas lights.
put Martha Stewart to shame.
But, her absolute favorite aspect of
The pictures that Carolyn creates are awe-
Christmas is the Christmas Eve Service at
some. They are extremely pleasing to the eye, but
church. The holiness of that event ushers
they also beg,“Touch me and experience me through
in the true meaning of Christmas for
more than your eyes!” You also need to listen
her. The placement of the Christ
because you might catch the whisper or faint sound
Child in the Manger on Christmas
from the past or even perhaps the soft flutter of a Morning is her very own special
butterfly’s wings. Unique to Carolyn’s pieces, each ritual. Carolyn’s love of Christ
one has a butterfly somewhere fluttering in it. Her is really the star atop her
art is nothing less than a sensory adventure. If you Christmas.
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It was Beth who urged Carolyn to design
collage-type cards. Carolyn finds this new avenue
very compatible with her mixed-media art.

Sharon Bixler is blessed to be the wife of Hal, mother of Holly (Stanley) and grand-
mother of Ian. She is a Member of Emmanuel Baptist Church in Hartsville.
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The Photo Tree

Decorating for Christmas is the wife of a photographer, we have a few photos of ended with a little crabbiness
something I start looking forward to starting around the children. Seriously, between Collin and me, we between my two little lovebugs.
the beginning of October. As soon as we have that pretty much document everything they do! It’s a lit- But, hey, it was all documented
first fall morning when you wake up to a cool crisp- tle ridiculous. The trouble is this; we never print these through photography. Memories for
ness in the air, my mind immediately goes to all things images out. Well, that’s not entirely true. We have next year’s tree, right?
Thanksgiving and Christmas. I want holiday-scented forty-inch wall portraits hanging all over the house. This tree means more to me than
candles burning, and I start to think about how I will But, you know those albums filled with 4x6 photos of I could ever put into words. It’s amazing to
decorate my mantle, my tree – even the color scheme family vacations and milestones? We have none of me how fast time flies with children. My
of the wrapping paper for the year. those. And, it made me sad. So, I started thinking and kids are already five and three, and I have no
Without a doubt, I get every bit of this from came up with the Photo Tree. idea how that happened. In the blink of an
my mom. The woman would start decorating on the I went back through all the photos we have eye, they have grown from babies to young
first of September if we would let her, with a tree in taken over the past year and picked my absolute children. Before I know it, they’ll be big
every room. Growing up, I would tease her about it. favorites. kids. Then, they’ll be teenagers! Wow! I
But, now, it’s one of those things I love about her. And, There were plenty of pictures from the usual want to hang on to every single moment
having children has made decorating that much more things like birthdays, vacations, soccer and ballet. And, with them at the ages they are. I wish I
fun. It’s all about how I can make Christmas more I love those. But, I think my favorites are from the could go back and hold them as babies one
special for them. random, everyday moments that were captured more time. Growing up is happening so fast. And,
Christmas is – without a doubt – my favorite throughout the year – Mak’s dirty croc feet hanging while I love it, it’s bittersweet. This tree helps me to
time of year! A million family functions and parties off the side of the clubhouse one hot summer day, slow down and remember. These everyday moments
every time you turn around. I love all of it! But, what Clara Beth potty-training her baby doll in the play- mean everything to me, and I am so glad that I now have
is Christmas to me, really? It’s when we celebrate the room, both of them with hot chocolate dripping off them in printed images to look at forever.
Birth of my Savior, Jesus Christ. God sent His Son to their chins as they drank from a mug for the first time. After the tree comes down (usually two days
the world in the form of a perfect, tiny Baby Boy. This It was so much fun reliving all those moments as I after Christmas -yes, I’m eager to put it up, but I’m
is the time we celebrate the Birth of that tiny, perfect chose the ones that I wanted to be displayed on the also eager to get it down!), I’ll put these images in a
Baby. But, it’s more than just His Birth that is tree. When I finally got it narrowed down to my photo album. Next year, there will be 300 new
Christmas to me. That Baby grew up, took on my sins favorites, I converted them all to black and white. I images. They will hang from a tree for several weeks.
as His own, was crucified and died. He rose again and love color photography, but there’s something about a Then, they, too, will come down to go in an album. I
lives today – all for you and me! This is the time that black and white photograph that gets me every time. can see us looking through these albums forever and
we celebrate my Savior. Think about all we do to make Collin added a border to them, we had them printed, ever. Goodness, gracious, I love photography!
the people we love feel special on their birthday. That’s and there they were at the post office a week later. This year, more than anything, I’m looking
Christmas – focusing on celebrating the Birth of Jesus! That box is my absolute favorite thing I have ever forward to another tree – The Jesse Tree! It’s some-
The idea of my Christmas Photo Tree came received in the mail. I strung red ribbon through thing that we will be doing with our children and
to me one night as I was looking back over all my blog them and they were ready to be hung from the tree! friends for the first time ever, and I am so excited! The
posts from the past year. As you can imagine, being The children were absolutely nuts over the Jesse Tree gets back to what Christmas means to me.
tree! We all decorated it together one evening “What is a Jesse Tree?” you ask. It’s a tree branch dec-
after supper. We cranked up the Christmas orated with symbols representing the stories of peo-
tunes, put them in pajamas (I’m a stickler about ple in Jesus’ family tree. In Isaiah 11:1, we read, “A
the kids being in their PJs while we decorate shoot shall come out from the stump of Jesse, and a
the tree) and made hot chocolate. branch shall grow out of his roots.”
They got to put the pictures wherever they Jesse was the father of David, Israel’s great-
wanted to. It was so much fun hearing them est king. And, it was from David’s lineage that Jesus
get excited when they pulled a photograph came. That’s where the idea of using a Jesse Tree to cel-
that triggered a memory for them. They ebrate Advent came from. Before a symbol is hung on
remembered swimming lessons, a daytrip to the branch, a Bible passage or a story from the Bible is
Edventure, Daddy building them a tree swing, read.
playing with their California cousins – they My sister-in-law told me about this, and I think
loved it all. And, I loved watching them it’s the perfect family project to keep our minds and
remember. Of course, the evening hearts focused on what the season is all about – Jesus.
Of course, we’ll document it. And, no
doubt, some of those images
will be hanging on next year’s
Photo Tree.

d
Aron Smith and her husband, Collin, live
in Florence. They have a son, Makgill
(5) and a daughter, Clara Beth (3).

otography
Collin M. Smith Ph
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Janet

Cindy Sue

My love for Christmas definitely it’s decorated for Christmas. I’ll decorate trees for several ways they contribute to the celebration. My daughter,
began as a child with my father being Santa at Sears & family members and clients, and I’ve been asked by two Cindy, inherited my love for decorating and is my right
Roebuck when we lived in Columbia, South Carolina, people to decorate a tree for them like the tree I did hand when it comes to decking the halls!
and Danville,Virginia. I grew up with Santa Claus! for the Festival of Trees that was the winning tree last The Christmas that my daughter, Janet, turned
My love of decorating for Christmas definitely year. It’s very gratifying and gives me a sense of pride five, Santa brought her an Easy Bake Oven. She and her
came from my mom and dad, as well. They always went and accomplishment. sister woke up before daylight – before anyone else
all out when decorating for Christmas – both inside and As children, our parents would take us some- was awake – and baked chocolate cake for everyone. I
outside the house. I remember us always having the where on Christmas Eve night. When we returned, won’t mention the mess because the fun they had was
most beautifully decorated house in the neighborhood Santa would have already been to our house. I think the well worth it! That sparked Janet’s love for baking that
and how special it always made Christmas for me. reason they always did this was because my dad just became not only a hobby but a business. She’s a won-
Therefore, it brings me a lot of joy to decorate couldn’t wait until Christmas Day to see us enjoy our derful baker and cake decorator. She decorates the
our home and to decorate for other people to make Christmas gifts. Since Christmas Eve was always impor- most beautiful cakes, which comes in handy for the fam-
their Christmas more pleasurable and unforgettable. tant to my siblings and me, it’s still a Christmas tradition ily business. She bakes all the cakes for the catering we
Because of this, I have been lovingly given the title, for our family to always spend Christmas Eve together. do at Avalon. Janet feels that her talent is a gift from
“Decorating Queen.” That designation mostly came When it became my turn to “set the stage” for God and is a way to make other people’s Christmas bet-
from my clients because I like to decorate in celebra- Santa, I understood the perils of pulling it off without a ter. She also bakes a lot of cupcakes at Christmas. This
tion of every holiday and season, not only at home but glitch. When my son was six, he caught us putting out year, she’s baking Santa’s Face Cakes and cupcakes for
our business, Avalon Therapeutic Massage & Serenity his gifts from Santa. It would have broken my heart to the McLeod Children’s Hospital’s Festival of Trees.
Spa, as well. They say they enjoy coming into the busi- know that he wouldn’t believe in Santa anymore, so I Even though the decorations and my dad being
ness to get services, but also to see what I’ve done to scurried him back to bed. That year, my daughters were Santa made Christmas special for me growing up, the
decorate the spa. getting skates with pom-poms on them, so I took the greatest thing about Christmas was our family sharing
I love seeing the way my decorations make pom-poms off the skates and went outside to his bed- time together and rejoicing in the Birth of Christ.
other people’s Christmas more enjoyable and memo- room window and shook the pom-poms, making the bells Despite all the decorations and the joy that my dad got
rable. However, I really started doing a lot of decorat- ring. They sounded like sleigh bells. The next morning from being Santa, my parents made sure we never for-
ing after my son, Lee, was killed in November of 1993. when he woke up, he excitedly told his sisters that he got the true meaning and value of Christmas. I wanted
It makes not having him here for Christmas easier to had heard Santa’s sleigh take off from the roof. The the same thing for my children.
handle if I’m busy. whole day, he continued to tell everyone that same story. I am so proud of
Being involved with McLeod Children’s This year, I have a strong sense of wanting to get back my family, and I am blessed
Hospital’s Festival of Trees by decorating trees, wreaths to the more traditional Christmas and focusing even to be able to share my
and mantle pieces for their auction makes Christmas more on the real reason we celebrate Christmas. Our love of Christmas with
very special for me. And, it helps raise money for the society seems to have gotten away from the true mean- them, as well as all of my
Children’s Hospital. This year, I’ve decorated two trees, ing of Christmas. I look forward to praising God more friends and clients. And, I
a wreath and two mantle pieces for the Festival. We for the Birth of His Son and my Savior and sharing that am honored to be called
also donate money to Angel Tree or another charity for celebration and love of Christ with family, friends and the “Decorating Queen.”
children in remembrance of my son. clients. To everyone, I wish a
I’ll decorate several trees at our home, and I’ll do Thankfully, I have two wonderful daughters very Merry Christmas!
a lot of decorating at Avalon – trees, mantles and more. who have my zest for Christmas. Each one is creative in
It’s such a huge, beautiful house, and it’s so beautiful when her own right, and that creativity is expressed in the

Sue McBride and her husband, Ron, own Avalon Therapeutic Massage & Serenity Spa. They have two daughters, Cindy and Janet, and a son, Lee (Lee is no longer with them but
rejoicing in Heaven with the Lord). They also have a stepdaughter, April, and a stepson, Damon. They have three grandsons, Corey, Jared and Matthew; a step-granddaughter,
Sierra; and a god-granddaughter, Courtney. They also have two puppies, Daisy and Pooh; and two Calico cats, Patches and Buffy. Sue’s hobbies are decorating and, of course, shopping.
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by Ferebe Gasque

Admit it. Bread (especially fresh-out- daughter has become a source of distribution in Marion County for such a company. Susan’s
of-the-oven-homemade-bread) is addictive. for her culinary delights once more. Sarah is background is in Respiratory Therapy and her
Just the thought of it is mouth-watering. now married and lives in Mount Pleasant. She mother was her first client. They continue to
Imagine being around 250 loaves of freshly and a friend of hers have started their own try to meet the needs of their clients as
baked bread. That’s what it’s like at Alexis business called YuDu Concierge Services. though they were family members. Alexis
Tyson Permenter’s home when she gets a large They do whatever anyone needs from grocery loves working there because of the personal,
order from friends or family. shopping to dog walking to gift buying. If peo- family-like atmosphere. No doubt the office
It’s not always been that way, howev- ple need things done that they would rather will have the smell of freshly baked bread
er. In 1986, when Alexis was home with two someone else do for them, they call YuDu. often, as well.
small children, her mom tried to give her some Check out their services at www.yudulist.com. If you would like to contact Alexis
sourdough starter. The only thing Alexis could As a child growing up in Florence, to learn more about her bread-making
think of at that time was the overwhelming Alexis and her family always had to visit the ventures… or if you have suggestions
feeling of feeding one more thing. That starter grandparents on Christmas Eve and then go to on how to get bread to Afghanistan
found itself being poured not into baking pans midnight services at All Saints’ Episcopal while it’s still fresh, she would love to
but down the sink. Church. She can remember being scared that hear from you. She can be reached
In 1990, after having lived away from they would somehow miss Santa or that he at [email protected].
the area for several years, Alexis and her hus- would come and wouldn’t leave goodies
band moved back to Mullins to be closer to because they weren’t home and asleep. Her
both of their families. When her mom died in parents always assured her it wouldn’t happen.
1992, Alexis started thinking about her moth- Every year, though, she KNEW that Christmas
er’s bread again and a new tradition was born. Eve must be the longest night ever.
She began in earnest about ten years ago when Today, what she enjoys most about
her daughter was a freshman at the College of the Christmas season is having her house full.
Charleston and her son was a junior at the She enjoys the time with her children when
Governor’s School for Science and they are at home. Every other year, Alexis
Mathematics in Hartsville. She made bread for and Donnie have the children at home
them and would take it to them on visits. (or at their homes). Sarah and her
Usually, she also ended up making large husband and Chris and his fiancé
amounts for roommates, suitemates, and other live in the Charleston area. This
friends. Some of those friends continue to will be their year. Next year will
reap the rewards of the school-time friend- belong to the in-laws. Rest
ships today in the form of bread from Alexis! assured, however, baking from the
While she typically makes sourdough Permenter kitchen will not be far from
or cinnamon bread and rolls, she’s game to try the children even in those alternate years.
almost anything. She also enjoys making topi- Family is important to Alexis. She remembers
cal baskets that relate to the recipient… cook- her parents enjoying Christmas as much as she
ing, sports, collectibles, etc. The bread is always and her three older siblings. She and Donnie
fresh, never frozen. Her latest project involves continue that tradition today.
researching how to send bread to Afghanistan While she is not baking, Alexis has
while keeping it fresh for delivery. recently started a new career as a Customer Ferebe Gasque grew up with the older siblings and
cousins of Alexis Permenter and has loved getting
Alexis enjoys baking bread mostly Service Representative for Home Therapy, a reacquainted. Ferebe has also applied for the
because it makes her feel good to know some- durable medical equipment provider in Mullins. taste-tester position anytime Alexis wants to try
one enjoys the bread she bakes for them. Of The company was started by her friend, Susan out a new recipe!
course, she has fun in the process, as well. Her Siders (another local girl), who noticed a need

Photography by Ricky Ford

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What I Love About Christmas

I love everything about Christmas! I love the sights, the sounds and the smells of Christmas
(although I do admit to not loving them right on the heels of Halloween). I go into Christmas mode right around
Thanksgiving.
I’ve just finished the letters that I enclose in my Christmas cards – one to families who live away and one
to friends who also live away and whom I seldom see. The letters are still in the computer; so, if anything dramatic
or exciting happens in the next couple weeks, I can add a P.S.
Immediately after Thanksgiving, I go into the “cooking mode.” This year, it’s Curried Cheese Pâté with
Chutney, a tasty cheese ball of cheddar and cream cheese, flavored with dry sherry and curry powder, topped with
chutney. There’s also “Weenie’s Cheese Biscuits,” which are thin cheese wafers, baked with a half pecan on top. These will
be my gifts for a number of family and friends. I (and most of my friends) have reached the point in life where edibles are
a good gift choice.
I particularly like the Cheese Balls and Cheese Biscuits because they’re useful for holiday entertaining, but they
may also be frozen for use at a later date. Add a bottle of wine and a package of cocktail napkins, and you have a real-
ly nice gift.
When it comes to Christmas decorations, I guess you’d call me a sentimental traditionalist. The Pride of Place
in my decorations for more than 50 years is my Thorn Tree. It’s a bare branch of a Mock Orange Tree – a tree with
strong, spiky thorns. It’s secured in a styrofoam base, lightly sprayed with snow and adorned with small red velvet bows.
It’s decorated with tiny ornaments that have been accumulated over the years, each with its own story and special
meaning. Several years ago, I had a picture made of it and used it for my Christmas card. Underneath the picture
were the words,“A Christmas Tradition.”
While I love tradition, I’m not bound by it. When I moved to the Methodist Manor in 2008, I brought many
of my Christmas traditions with me, including the Thorn Tree. But, as I prepare to celebrate my second Christmas
here, I can already see new traditions beginning to emerge. And, I couldn’t be happier.

Curried Cheese Pâté with Chutney

3 8-Ounce packages of cream cheese at room temperature
2 10-Ounce packages of extra sharp cheddar, grated
2 Teaspoons of curry powder
1/2 Teaspoon of salt
1/2 Cup of dry sherry
1 Cup of chutney, chopped
1/4 Cup of green onion, optional

• In a large bowl, combine cream cheese, grated cheddar, curry powder, salt and sherry.
• With electric mixer or food processor at medium speed, beat until smooth.
• Turn into prepared containers and refrigerate until firm (several hours or overnight).
• When ready to serve, invert onto serving dish and spread chutney on top.
• Sprinkle green onions around the edge.
• Serve with Harvest Wheat Crackers, very thin ginger
snaps or apple wedges.
The original recipe calls for this cheese ball to be
molded in a 7x6, 11/2 quart dish. I find that far too large
even for a large party. I use smaller plastic or glass dish-
es, preferably with flat bottoms because this is good for
spreading the chutney on when inverted. Line them with
plastic wrap for easy removal. This recipe
freezes well; just be sure to bring to room
temperature before serving.

Betty Ann Darby lives at Methodist Manor in

Florence. She is retired from the Florence
School District after 39 years of being a Music
Educator. She was born and raised in Florence
and raised in Florence schools. A graduate of the
University of South Carolina, she still serves on the Board at
USC for Friends of the School of Music. She has served on
the Boards of the Florence Symphony Orchestra and
Florence Little Theatre and currently serves on the Board of
The Performing Arts Center Foundation.
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Home for the

Holidays with
“Christmas on Campus”

‘ Twas the season of Christmas As a special treat this year, Dr. Carter said he faculty members who have bond-
by Angela
and throughout the house are dried-and-gilded foliage
and festive garlands. Cherished memories of yuletides
is looking forward to having his 86-year-old mother-
in-law join them for the holidays.
ed over the years. The entertain-
ment for many of these gatherings is Crosland
feature homespun scenes – baked goods cooling on the For this couple, the season means spending FMU’s Cut Time Show Choir.
kitchen counter, freshly clipped pine boughs perfuming time with family and friends and recognizing the Birth For dinner at each occasion, you
the air and ornaments fashioned by hand in the compa- of a Child more than 2,000 years ago. In the words will find turkey, homemade dressing or stuffing, cran-
ny of family and friends. of Folly’s favorite Christmas song, “O Come, All Ye berry sauce and much more. On Christmas Day, the
This may sound like the beginnings of a fairy- Faithful,” lie what she calls the true meaning of family enjoys a fried turkey donated by longtime FMU
tale; but, for the first family of Francis Marion University, Christmas. The President’s favorite Christmas songs supporter, Grady Greer, and a baked turkey and cran-
the FMU faculty, staff, students and the many citizens of include, “O Christmas Tree,” “The Little Drummer berry sandwiches prepared by Folly.
the Pee Dee region, this scenario is very real. Boy” and “Silent Night.” “When you reach a certain age,” Dr. Carter
The first family consists of FMU President, It’s early December. The air is crisp, colors explains, “gift-giving ceases to be about what you
Luther F. Carter; FMU First Lady, Folly Carter; thirteen- have changed and cozy sweaters have re-emerged receive. I derive immense satisfaction out of doing
year-old son, Luke; and Bryan, the Carters’ oldest son, into the wardrobe’s rotation. And, the Carters have things for others,” said Dr. Carter, who hand-delivers
and his wife, Adele, who will be home for the holidays begun decorating their home. Most of the Garden bonus checks each year to his employees who quali-
with their year-old twins, Max and Chloe. Clubs in the Pee Dee area help decorate the house fy. “I don’t think they enjoy receiving them nearly as
“It is truly going to be wonderful having them each year. “This has become a tradition, and it’s fun much as I enjoy delivering them. It is the one day I get
(grandchildren, son and daughter-in-law) with us over to see the faces of those old and new,” said Folly. to feel like Santa on the campus.”
the holidays,” said Folly, who recalls her first Christmas “Each club brings a unique talent and a willingness to The Carters also give generously to the
after Luke was born. “He was a month-and-a-half-old work together for the FMU community,” she added. Salvation Army. “Among the family, we keep the
and our house felt more like a home to me. We also Among the most cherished decorations are exchanging of gifts quite simple,” said Folly.
had Christmas at my brother and sister-in-law’s house the Christmas tree ornaments made by Luke. They’ve The only item on the family’s wish list this
with our son, Bryan.” also enjoyed those given by others in the community year is that everyone will receive their heart’s desire
and throughout the state. The Carter for Christmas. Not only because they deserve it, but
tree boasts ornaments from every because it would help the economy.
governor since they arrived nearly
eleven years ago. Hugh and Jean
Leatherman have also given the couple Author’s Note: “When I first came to work at Francis
an ornament each year. Marion three years ago, I thought I had the most
What has also become a tradi- unique story to tell about the positive impact the
tion is a donation of the tree for the Carters have had on my life – both personally and
first family of FMU by Taylor Garden professionally. What I soon learned is, my story can
& Gift Shop. No glitter adorns the and has been told numerous times by various people
tree – just fresh greenery, fruit, the world over. Not only were they present in the
berries, pinecones and ribbon. times when I seemed to be most prosperous, they
Once the decorations are up, have made themselves available
during the most challeng-
the family hosts parties for faculty;
ing times of my life and
staff; a children’s party where chil-
the lives of count-
dren from surrounding shelters and
less others. A true
daycare centers are able to visit
demonstration of
with Santa, as well as those of fac-
the love God has
ulty and staff members; a
charged us all
community party and an with displaying.”
“Old Timers’ Party” for Angela Crosland
former and current

Pictured Above: Members of the Garden Clubs in the

Pee Dee area help decorate the house each year
Left: . Poinsettias and garland adorn the living room
of the Wallace House .
The Carter family on the lawn of their home (Wallace House).
(L-R): Luke Carter, Dr. Luther F. Carter and Folly Carter along
with one of the family dogs, Jake.

Angela Crosland works with Francis Marion University

FRED SALLEY PHOTOGRAPHY in the Office of Public and Community Affairs.
She and her son, Daniel James II (9) reside in Marion.
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I love the feeling I get when I’m sitting by the fire, drinking a cup of hot cocoa
and reading a good book. I’m relaxed, warm and comfortable. Jean Leatherman is the
human equivalent of that experience. As she regales stories of togetherness with her
friends and family during the holidays, it grows evident that it is impossible for me to
by Emmie
be the only person that feels that way about her.
Jean exudes the true spirit of Christmas, which stems from her faith in Jesus
Lynch
Christ. Her definition of the Spirit of Christmas is “having the Spirit of Christ,” which
means loving people and giving of yourself. It also means “sharing God’s love with
others,” which is where Jean excels.
“Christmas is a spirit” isn’t just a saying for Jean, but rather a
reminder of how she spent many Christmases as a child. Jean and her
three siblings were raised by their single mother in Jean’s great-grand-
mother’s home in Jefferson, SC. She admits it was nothing fancy, but
it was all they needed because they had each other. Just because
money was tight didn’t mean that they couldn’t celebrate
Christmas. Each year, they would venture out into the woods
and find a cedar tree. As a family, they would cut the tree down
and drag it back to the house. Once they had it standing, they would decorate
the tree with glass lights, silver tinsel and garland.
The one gift that stands out most in Jean’s mind is the Chocolate-Covered
Creme Drops that her mom gave them every year. To this day, whenever she sees a
Creme Drop, she remembers those childhood Christmas mornings from long ago. And,
it never mattered how much or how little they had because they always celebrated the
Birth of Christ as a family.
In commemoration of her childhood, a few weeks before Christmas, Jean calls
a local shelter and asks for the name of a family that needs help. As a family, the
Leathermans gather all the details and set to work on a plan. They go shopping for the
family, purchasing everything from toys to clothes to food. On Christmas Eve, they get
together at the Leatherman home and set out to deliver the goods to the needy fam-
ily. According to Jean, this really gets everyone in the Christmas Spirit. The holiday is
“so meaningful when you know you are helping people,” she smiles.
After delivering all the gifts, the family begins preparing dinner. “Family” is a
loose, yet well-defined term in Jean’s home. She typically has about twenty people
Jean always has two trees decorated in her house. She has one tree that
in her house on Christmas Eve, but opens her door to anyone that wants to cel-
is designated strictly for memorable ornaments. Every year, she buys a collectible
ebrate the true meaning of Christmas. It’s evident that Jean’s loving spirit has
ornament for each child that includes the year on it. When the family arrives, they are
had an impact on her family and friends. A number of them have the same open-
always anxious to see this tree, and they rush to find all of their favorite ornaments.
door policy. She truly has the gift of love, and her warmth is a like a blanket
One of Jean’s traditions is putting together a special centerpiece for
that welcomes all who cross her threshold.
Christmas dinner. Once she has dinner cooking and under control, she walks out-
Bringing family together is a very important part of
side and looks for interesting pieces of local greenery. She takes her collection of
Christmas for Jean. Her family members come from all over the
greenery and combines it with pieces of fruit to create an original centerpiece to
state, and parts of North
adorn the dinner table.
Carolina, just to be able to
With traditions being a central theme in her holiday plans, it’s no surprise
celebrate together. This
that her children get upset when things change at all. For years, Jean had always put
makes the celebration
fruit in the children’s stockings. One Christmas, however, she was simply too busy
even more special, and as
to run out and buy fruit. Since the children were older, she figured it wouldn’t be
Jean puts it, “When family
a big deal. That turned out to definitely not be the case! Her children treasured
comes together, there is
the memories of always having fruit in their stockings. When it wasn’t there, they
just a richness that you
felt that their tradition had been broken. Although her children were grown, they
can’t find anywhere else.”
missed the fruit. Needless to say, Jean hasn’t made that mistake again.
Once dinner is cook-
ing, the entire family
When asked for tips on how to make my own Christmases as
goes to church togeth-
warm as hers, Jean offered the following suggestions:
er. Typically, they occu-
• Get Festive! “Christmas is a spirit. You can decorate anything
py two or three pews
that stands still long enough.”
at Central United
• Be willing to adjust your schedule to accommodate family
Methodist. For Jean,
members that have to work.
“the importance of
• Start your own traditions. “It’s important for young
being together is
families to establish their own traditions.”
C h r i s t m a s .”
• Have an Open-Door Policy. Not everyone has family
When they
close by and Jean believes that everyone deserves
return home
to celebrate Christmas with family. She opens her
from church,
door to all friends and family and can always find
they say grace
an extra place setting when the need arises.
and share a
meal together.
Over the years, Jean has had a few people tell
her,“There is nothing quite like Christmas at the Leatherman’s.”
I would have to agree.

Emmie Lynch was born and raised in the Pee Dee. She is a graduate of the
University of South Carolina and lives in Florence. Her favorite things are writing, the
FRED SALLEY PHOTOGRAPHY outdoors and spending time with her family.
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ambert
len W. L
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by

Being one of eight children As children, I don’t think we realized how these tree-trimming
(yes, I said eight!), you can imagine how hectic – parties would continue on and how special our memories would
yet exciting – our holidays can be. Nonetheless, my mom, become. Now, as our family keeps growing, it’s so wonderful how we’ve
Victoria Harrington, always manages to make them so special. kept up the tradition.
Every year, for as long as I can remember, we have our The simple days of the holidays have always been our experi-
famous “tree-trimming party” where all eight children get ence. My mom made everything from scratch – and still does. Every
together at Mom’s house just a few weeks before Christmas year at our tree-trimming party, we begin by cutting all the limbs and
to decorate the Christmas tree. And, our Christmas tree is branches off the tree so it will fit in the tree stand. Mom takes all these
no ordinary Christmas tree. Every single ornament was branches and makes a huge wreath to go on the front door. She wraps
handmade by all the children, and most have managed to sur- some ribbon around it and, within minutes, it looks like something on the
vive over the last three decades. There are candy canes and cover of Southern Living magazine! (Not to mention, the ribbon is more
miniature Christmas trees cut from construction paper, bell- than likely some old sheet or pillow case she cut into ribbon-like strips.)
shaped wreaths, colored We also made homemade gingerbread men to hang on the
glass balls with the differ- tree. Now, the smell brings back such fond memories. Our family has
ent years painted on grown tremendously over the past several years, adding six grandchil-
them, pine cones sprin- dren to the mix to carry on the tradition. Baking gingerbread men is a
kled with glitter and rein- favorite with the kids. If you’ve ever made gingerbread men, however,
deer antlers made from you know it’s a tough and messy job. Mom just pours some flour on the
little hands. table and lets the children go at it. They cut out the little gingerbread
The oldest orna- men with their cookie cutters and place them on the baking sheet and
ment of all, however, is into the oven they go. Once they come out, you have to let them cool
the star that tops the for just a few minutes. While they are still warm, we take a toothpick
tree. It has been our tree and make a tiny hole in the heads in order to string some thin ribbon
topper every year for through them so that they can hang on the tree.
thirty-two years. Anna, Mom makes this delicious icing to go on the gingerbread men,
my oldest sister, made it and she lets us paint little vests on them. They are so cute! (And, I say
when she was in first “us” because the big children and the little children join in.) The funny
grade. She cut it out of thing is, after about two weeks (it never fails), the only thing left hanging
cardboard, which has on the tree are the little gingerbread men’s heads. It’s still fun to have
amazingly kept most of edible ornaments.
its shape for this long. Not only does Mom bake gingerbread men, she bakes apple pie, cherry
I’m sure that at one pie, pecan pie, pumpkin pie and sweet potato pie. And, she gives them
time it was a shiny and all away as gifts.
sparkly cardboard star My very favorite – and I probably won’t be wrong if I say it’s
with glitter on both everyone’s favorite – is Mom’s homemade sourdough bread. My mouth
sides. But, over the waters every time I think about it. People ask me all the time for some
years, after packing and unpacking the of my mom’s homemade sourdough bread. Anyone who knows about
star, it has lost a lot of its shine. sourdough bread knows that making it is an ongoing process, and Mom
Nevertheless, it still shines on top of makes it all year. During the holidays, however, it’s a specialty.
the Christmas tree. My mom has always gone out of her way to make everything
special – whether it’s big or small. My entire family appreciates her
more than she will ever know.

Ellen Ward Lambert was born and raised in Florence, SC. She graduated from Francis Marion University and works at
Carolinas Hospital System in Human Resources. She has been married to her wonderful husband, Chris, for two
years. She enjoys snow skiing, swimming, watching movies and spending time with her friends.
FRED SALLEY
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by Marti Miller
Let’s just admit it straight off, resides within us. When the fruit of the Spirit is evident in how we breathe and stand
why don’t we? It’s not just the Grinch who had such a tiny hardened and walk in this life, Christmas remains. It cannot be stolen from us.
heart for Christmas that he felt compelled to make it disappear for So, as a reminder (mostly to myself), here is a complete ingredient list for the
everyone in Whoville.There are seasons when we want to just shoot best holiday salad of this or any other season, with generic and name brands, along with
out all the twinkling lights and crawl into bed until well after the a good place to shop for them:
New Year arrives. Some grandmas actually wish to get run over by
a reindeer so they can be relieved of all the to-do list burdens.And Agape Love John 3:16

Ebenezer Scrooge continues to bah and humbug all over our lives Chara Joy I Peter 1:8-9

during some Christmas seasons. Eirene Peace Philippians 4:6-7

Every year brings the threat of a holiday season marred by Makrothumia Patience James 5:8-9

the loss of loved ones – with empty chairs at our family tables. Chrestotes Kindness Proverbs 11:16-17

Sometimes it is death that removes them from our lives. Agathosune Goodness Psalm 23:6

Sometimes it is by wrong choices made or hardened hearts. Pistis Faithfulness Proverbs 3:3

Each of us knows at least one family for which this Christmas Prautes Gentleness Philippians 4:4-5

may not be a joyful celebration. It gets stolen in so many ways. Egkratea Self-control I Peter 4:7

Forgiveness can’t be found. Work schedules require obliga-

tions to be “on the clock”, especially for healthcare workers Christ was not born on December 25th, but we mark the date near the end of
and public servants and troops protecting us on our shores our worldly calendar year so that we may remember always the beginning of our hope.
and on others. Job loss and mounting bills steal the “happy” The birth of Christ heralds the promise of the indwelling of the Holy Spirit, the second
from our lives, especially in these difficult times. covenant, that we may bear the fruit of His Love for us no matter what the season. My
Personally, I have allowed the meaning of Christmas prayer for all of us is that we remember Him as we hustle and bustle and bake and wrap
to be stolen many times. As a small child, it was stolen by and sing carols and watch Love Actually and Elf and It’s a Wonderful Life for the
older sisters insistent that I give up the myth of Santa long umpteenth time. Every time a bell rings…? Maybe. But certainly, every time we pray His
before I was ready (one of the downsides of being the baby, name, joy remains.
I guess?). In true teenaged fashion, Christmas got spirited
away by self-centered choices and me-centered focus.As a Dear Lord:
young adult, it was stolen by stress and the career climb
and colossally bad decisions. Parenting allowed the loss of Let me find the joy in the promise of this season without concern for how things are wrapped
Christmas within unmet expectations. I still have that little or baked or celebrated. May I spend less time in the efforts of which recipe to use and which
nightmare about waking up on December 25th without having stuffed the stockings or cookies to bake and more time in gratitude for the many gifts received and in fervent prayer
trimmed the tree or baked even a single cookie.The horrified looks on my little angels for those less fortunate. Let me sing joyfully and probably off-key to Your glory more often than
faces haunts me even today. It never actually happened, but, oh how many times I feared I raise my voice with Jingle Bells. Christmas may fall at the end of our earthly calendar, but it
it would.And let’s not even discuss the shrieking of awful words when the cookie dough heralds the beginning of hope renewed that the Holy Spirit dwells in our lives and keeps us in
wrapped itself around the rolling pin for the eighth time. Most recently, and most pro- the company of your Love. Please help me to not let this promise and hope be stolen away by
foundly, Christmas was stolen by the grief of loss known to those who lose a spouse, grasping only for the perfect holiday season and the most beautiful tree in the neighborhood.
and most piercingly to widows who must witness the loss with their children. But even Let your Light alone shine in me.
in that seemingly endless sadness, hope remains – but only if we choose it.
All things considered, no one and no thing can steal what is not ours to own Amen. And merry Christmas!
in the first place. Hope and love cannot be purchased and hoarded. If we truly believe –
when we know that we know that we know – there is no burned cookie or wrong
Marti Miller lives and writes in
sweater or forgotten gift that can rob us of the true joy of the promise that is Christmas. Marion, SC, knowing that
Take away the jolly old elf and the eight tiny reindeer. Remove the tags and brush away Christmas won’t be stolen this
year, as long as she remembers
the tinsel. Flush the eggnog and the mistletoe. Wipe away the carols sung merrily and patience while rolling out of the
extinguish the scented candles’ flames. Discard the biggest sale of the year flyers and all sugar cookie dough.
the BOGO banners. Who cares? When all the trimmings are gone, when all the gift
exchanges are banned, it will still be Christmas.We can never truly be robbed
of the simple joy of Christmas when the spirit of God
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Tree Man

DENNIS BANKSON
In 1834, Charles Dickens wrote of a man whose priorities As a Christmas tree broker, traveling from our North Carolina farms to meet
were tragically misaligned. Mr. Ebenezer Scrooge thought that life was for get- retailers in the South, I began noticing all the churches that were fund-raising by selling
ting, for accruing and keeping more and more stuff. He saw Christmas as illogical – truly pumpkins by the roadside. It’s funny how the mind wanders while driving. I just remem-
a fool’s holiday. In a way, I guess he was right; Christmas isn’t logical. ber hearing my voice, “Pumpkins, pumpkins, everywhere pumpkins!” Right then and
When She Magazine asked me to write a short piece explaining why I consid- there, I had an epiphany.
er myself a “Christmas Person,” I thought of my family, my work and my God. In a Grinch-ish heart-expanding moment, I asked, “Why not Christmas trees
I am a proud father of two children. My daughter, Adelyn Noel, was born the and wreaths? Why don’t I allow schools and churches to raise funds with Christmas
week of Christmas almost six years ago. The day I met Addie, I fell in love for the sec- trees?” Thus I discovered my passion for helping non-profits realize their financial goals.
ond time. She is smart, kind and thinks her daddy can do no wrong. (I love that part.)
By cutting out the middleman (oops, I guess that’s me), churches, schools and clubs are
I am so proud of her! My son, Benjamin Elijah, was born just before Christmas two years
finally putting the profit of the Christmas industry to good use!
after his sister. Not long after he learned to walk, I knew we had our work cut out for
To implement the idea, however, I had to confront the Scrooge in me, whose
us. Have you ever seen a toddler strut? He is the sweetest little tough guy I have ever
known. And, I owe all of this – this gift of fatherhood – to their mother, Michelle. priorities were tragically misaligned. Like me, Ebenezer was not a callous man, nor did
Michelle and I met when we were just kids in high school. It’s strange, but I he lack depth of feeling; but, we both had been living under the false premise that more
have difficulty remembering what life was like before loving her. She’s a businesswoman, was better. I know it seems illogical, but a bigger house, a newer car and more fashion-
a selfless mother and intoxicating wife. She literally accomplishes more before 9:00 AM able clothes do not equal a better life. They don’t equate to happiness. I know that
than I do all week. And, while we didn’t meet at Christmastime, life with her has been because I know a Man who had all of that and more.
Christmas morning every day. He was the Master of the universe, yet He chose to give it all up. He chose
I’m a Christmas tree grower and broker, so I think about Christmas almost to humble Himself for love. He chose a birth – not of privilege – but a birth to facili-
every day of the year. I love the smell of a Fraser Fir. It always reminds me of the many tate a sacrificial death. And, He is why Christmas seems so illogical to us. Because love
carefree Christmases of my childhood. As a grower, I care for the Christmas trees that doesn’t demand; it serves. Because love doesn’t take; it gives. And, because more is not
I know will some day stand regally in someone’s home. That fact fills me with pride and better – especially at Christmas – it’s just more.
a sense of duty. So, when the time comes for selecting trees for harvest, I only want
the best. I select each one as though my children will be decorating it, and perhaps
remembering its majestic beauty years from now.
Dennis Bankson, and his wife, Michelle, have two children, Adelyn Noel and Benjamin Elijah. They live in Florence.
If you would like Dennis to help your church or organization raise funds, you may e-mail him at [email protected].
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It’s Christmas...
Enjoy the Fruitcake,
Don’t Become One!
I have lots of first and second cousins, but my family of origin is small now. then we head back for a movie at the theatre in Florence. After the movie is over, we
There’s my mother, my husband, myself and our son. Because we’re a small group, we go back home and usually have a nap. Sometimes, we reverse the schedule and nap first,
have lots of options for celebrating Christmas. and then head over for a movie afterwards.
For the last two years on Christmas Eve, we open up Christmas gifts. Then, My father passed away in February of 2008, so it helps to have a busy day with
my mother comes over on Christmas Day, and she opens her gifts. We show her ours structure. Knowing what we’re doing for the day is good and keeps us from sitting
and open the gifts from her. We have coffee and juice and ham biscuits. Then, we get around and thinking negative thoughts.
on the road to Columbia. We go to a very nice hotel in Columbia where they have a My husband and I have already purchased and wrapped all of our Christmas
huge buffet and a very talented man playing the piano. We have a leisurely meal, and gifts. The best way for me to handle the stress of the holidays is to be organized and
plan ahead. I make a list of who I need to buy gifts for in October – usually the first
week – and start purchasing them right away. When there are sales or I’m traveling and
see something I think would be nice for one of the people on my list, I get it then. My
husband and I work together and order some gifts online. A plus in purchasing gifts

So, you plan ahead and follow

through on the goals and plans
that you establish for your special
holiday time and you won’t turn into
a fruitcake this Christmas, either.
early and not all at one time is that, financially, your money is stretched out over a peri-
od of several months, and you’re not paying out a large chunk all at one time in
December (which is also around the time taxes are due for your cars and house). Also,
you’re not hectically running around at the last minute and trying to remember where
you saw a particular item that you want to purchase. There is no standing in long lines
nor dealing with drivers that are driving in a more-than-usual crazy manner and not
watching where they’re going because they have way too much on their minds.
After my shopping is done and my gifts are wrapped, I enjoy going out with my
family and looking at the different lights and decorations in different nearby towns. I
also enjoy looking around in the stores to see the decorations and special displays that
they put out. Because I’ve already bought all my gifts, I don’t feel tense and stressed
about the upcoming holiday, and I don’t wonder how I’ll get everything done because
it’s already worked out. (I do get stressed about accomplishing goals and trying to fit
everything in on a regular weekly basis, but that’s another story entirely.)
Anyway, back to Christmas. The reason I’m organized about Christmas is
because I don’t want to turn into a fruitcake and not be able to enjoy the Reason for
the Season (Jesus) if everything is wild and crazy and I’m stressed like I see lots of oth-
ers get. I plan ahead because I can’t stand being like that.
So, you plan ahead and follow through on the goals and plans that you estab-
lish for your special holiday time and you won’t turn into a fruitcake this Christmas,
either. A lot of things may try to draw you away or distract you, but stick to your plan
and have a happy and healthy holiday!

by Ouida Page, RN, LPC

Ouida K. Page is a Master’s Prepared Licensed Professional and National Board Certified Counselor. She has a Bachelor’s Degree in Nursing and is a member of Sigma Theta Tau (International Honor Society of Nursing).
She has been in private practice in the Hartsville and Florence areas for over 15 years, specializing in families and issues relating to children, adolescents and women of all ages. You may contact her by e-mailing
[email protected] with “Ouida” as the subject matter, or call 843-398-0915.
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McLeod Physicians
& Nursing Staff

RAISING THE
AWARENESS
OF ANEMIA Dr. Michael Rose
Vice President of
Surgical Services at McLeod

B lood is the "fluid of life," delivering oxygen and nutrients to

tissues with every heartbeat. Simple in its function and elegant
in its design, blood has never been duplicated by scientists.
Many of us are aware of the importance of blood in disease and as a
life-saving treatment in trauma and surgery, but few realize how critical it is
“Anemia in pregnancy is definitely on our radar,” says
Dr. John Browning, lead obstetrician on the McLeod task force.
“We know that a pregnant woman needs 30 percent more blood in order
to supply the developing baby in the uterus, and anemia in the mother can
lead to growth restriction.” The evidence is that the majority of women will
that we have normal levels of blood in the circulation in order to maintain require iron and folate supplements throughout pregnancy to keep up with
good health and have excellent quality of life. A multidisciplinary team of this higher production of blood.
doctors and nurses at McLeod are working to draw awareness to the Patients that are scheduled for major surgery are another group of
problem of anemia, or the problem of having too few red blood cells. particular interest and attention.The average patient presenting for joint
Anemia has been called the “silent epidemic” because it is much more replacement surgery has a significant anemia found on preoperative blood
common than most people know, and its symptoms can be so subtle initially. tests. Dr. Barry Clark, an orthopedic surgeon, and Dr. Ala’ Abdel Jalil, a
Fatigue, lack of energy, and muscle weakness are all hallmarks of hospital-based internist (hospitalist) have headed up the research on these
anemia — but these are usually chalked up to lives that have become much patients, and are studying ways in which they can be managed. Patients that
too busy. are anemic before surgery will be even more anemic after surgery even with
According to Dr.Trey Bishara, Chief of Transfusion Medicine at precise surgical techniques. If it was just the blood count number that
McLeod, anemia is present in more than half of the patients cared for at changed we would be less worried, but we have found that wound healing
McLeod. “We began our work so that we could be good stewards of the can be delayed in severely anemic patients. At McLeod, the average decrease
blood supply, establishing guidelines to insure that patients received blood in blood count during surgery is 30 percent less than the national average,
only at the right time, and for the right reasons. We discovered that our but with nearly all patients being anemic at the start, it is not possible to
blood transfusion rates were better than national averages and appropriately prevent a worsening of anemia after surgery. Moreover, anemia interferes with
conservative. However, it was striking to us how many patients unknowingly optimal rehabilitation of the patient because of the poor exercise tolerance
live with anemia.” The rates of anemia that have been observed in this that is a hallmark of a low blood count. Dr. Abdel Jalil adds that the best
region approach rates seen in many developing countries. Because many practice requires a close coordination of the patient’s care before surgery,
types of anemia can be effectively treated with iron supplements and precise surgical technique, and close monitoring after surgery.
other inexpensive medications, recognizing anemia and treating it can have a Like the awareness that has led to dramatic changes in the approach
important impact upon the overall health of patients in the region. to high cholesterol as a way to improve overall health, awareness of, and
Women and seniors are most frequently affected by anemia: women treatment of anemia will attract a great deal of attention and interest in the
because of the monthly loss of blood with their cycles and the high demands years ahead. Having anemia co-exist with diabetes, heart failure, kidney
of pregnancy, and seniors because of poor nutrition and chronic diseases. disease — really any chronic disease — can lower survival and quality of life
In fact, blood transfusions have become the most common therapy for with these conditions. For those blessed with good health, a normal blood
elderly women above age 80 and the second most common above 70. count will insure that we have the “get up and go” for our dawn-to-dusk
Anemia is seen in up to one of every three pregnant women. Men are schedules. Women especially need to be aware. Ask your doctor for a
significantly affected as well, with anemia rates rising with each decade of life. screening blood test.

Dr. Michael Rose is the Vice President of Surgical Services at McLeod and the Medical Director of McLeod Blood Conservation Services.
Dr. Rose is board certified in Anesthesiology and Internal Medicine.
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Spend the day in Hartsville, SC for an

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Hartsville Christmas Parade 10:30 am •Good
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Burry Bookstore
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by Linda H.

PURSE
Holiday
Weatherford

strings Spending!
Avoid the Red & Save More Green
I love Christmas! The sights, the sounds, the smells, the shopping – it’s my favorite would enjoy, I purchase and store those for the holidays. One warning: Make sure you
time of the year. Like many, I can get caught up in the “feeling” of the season and find myself check your closet before you shop to avoid duplicates. It’s a great feeling to make your list
among the millions who overspend during the holidays. According to the National Retail and mark off names before you even begin Christmas shopping.
Federation,Washington, DC, holiday sales for November and December are expected to d Be a Quitter. When you hit your budget limit, stop! If you need hard-core support
be $437.6 billion. to keep yourself in check, leave credit cards at home and put each person’s budget in
“People tend to increase their spending around the holidays for a combination of an envelope, in cash. When it’s gone, it’s gone – and, you’re done.
reasons,” says Stanley J. Kershman, author of Put Your Debt on a Diet: A Step-by-Step
Guide to Financial Fitness. “Some may feel guilty about not spending as much time with d Lead by Example. If you have teens in the house, this is the perfect time of year to
their loved ones or friends and will compensate with a special gift. Others may feel they teach them the value of a dollar. A couple years ago, I gave my children their first check-
need to ‘keep up with the Joneses’ to match what friends, families, neighbors and even co- ing account and debit card for Christmas. While they weren’t thrilled about the small
workers are doing. And, some simply get swept away in the glitter package, they quickly learned the value of waiting. After Christmas, we went shopping.
of the season – overspending before they realize what they’re With each purchase, they were required to sit and record the purchase and deduct the
doing. For all these reasons, setting a budget and making a cost from their balance. This lesson proved invaluable in that they learned how quick-
list – and matching the two – can be really effective at ly the money disappears and also that price makes a big difference when you’re
reining in the ‘over’ part of holiday overspending.” spending your own money. In addition, they learned that waiting means better
value. After the holiday rush, they not only avoided the crowd, they also pur-
To help stay on track with holiday spending, chased more for their money with the great after-Christmas sales.
consider the following tips:
d Be Prepared. The best possible solution for the holiday
d Crunch the Numbers. Create a holiday season – or any financial obligation – is to be prepared.
budget listing all expenses, including small gifts Open a Christmas club account and set up automatic
to teachers, babysitters, newspaper carriers and others. Be sure deposits throughout the year. Not only will you be pre-
to include extras such as cards, wrapping paper, decorations and pared for your holiday spending, you will have earned
holiday clothing purchases. Set a spending limit for each person and interest on your deposits during the year.
item on your list. Make sure you write down all of your holiday pur-
chases, even when purchased with a credit card. By keeping a log of d Be Realistic. Most importantly, don’t spend beyond
dollars spent, you won’t find unexpected bills in your mailbox after your means. The reality of paying large credit card
the holidays. bills for months after the holiday leaves us feeling
anything but joyful. Consider the example of a
d Avoid Money Matching. Holidays are about more than just giving $2,000 credit card balance at 18% interest. If your
and receiving. Most people feel the stress of the dollar-for-dollar minimum payment is 2% of the balance due each
matching competition, so talk with the people on your shopping list about set- month, it will take you about 19 years to pay it off, and
ting limits. Set limits for your children! In our house, the rule has always been you’ll pay $3,862 in interest.
three gifts. It helps teach your children that there are limits and makes them con-
sider what they really want. Many times, my children would change their list over The special feeling about the holidays doesn’t always come wrapped in a box
and over, getting it down to those three items. One final rule, once it’s in writ- and tied with a bow. Make the holidays more meaningful by spending time with
ing to Santa – it can’t be changed! That helps Mom and Dad do their early shop- those you love instead of spending money. Start a new family tradition rather
ping. If gift piles look skimpy, fill in gaps with homemade presents or make than giving gifts. Contact your local Department of Social Services or a local
coupons for babysitting, yard work, home-cooked meals or helping put away hol- charity and provide gifts for a family or children less fortunate. From the
iday decorations. time my boys were very young, we have always taken the time to go shop-
ping for children in need. It teaches them how important it is to be char-
d Start Early. Avoid the last-minute rush so you’ll have more time to comparison itable and reminds them of the real meaning of the holiday.
shop. If you’re in a rush to get out of a crowded mall or store, you’re more likely Christmas is the celebration of the birth of Jesus Christ. When we
to spend impulsively as a way of escape. I have an area of my closet designated for consider the gift of salvation that is ours through His birth, we are free
gifts. Throughout the year as I encounter sale items that I think my family and friends to celebrate, remembering that there is no greater gift than the one
that has already been given.

Linda H.Weatherford is the Director of

Marketing and Business Development with
SPC Cooperative Credit Union.
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(OM Ships International)

F For seventeen years, an elderly lady in New Jersey prayed for the pupils of her local
school, and she gave the students copies of John’s Gospel. After reading it, George Verwer
became a Christian during a Billy Graham crusade in 1955. He started distributing the
gospel in Mexico during holidays and, later, in Spain. In 1962, 200 young people spread
to a location on Pamplico Highway and OM Ships re-opened the bookshop in May 2009.
The sales of the books go straight back into the ministry of OM Ships
International. The bookshop is mainly to make the organization better known among the
people of South Carolina. OM Ships hopes this will result in more people getting to know
across Europe in small teams, distributing Christian literature. In 1970, they began to reach about their organization and for them to have their own opportunity to serve the organ-
out in the Middle East and India, as well. That same year, they bought their first ship and ization and God.
sailed around the world, bringing people the gospel. Today, the organization has two ships Currently, Gerdien is visiting her fiancé and volunteering her time in the book-
and over 3,000 full-time staff in 85 nations; thus, the beginnings of Operation Mobilisation shop. In January 2010, she will be going back to the ship, Logos Hope in Montego Bay,
Ships International (OM Ships International). Jamaica, to help the Book Fair Department onboard with the many crowds that are
Operation Mobilisation is an interdenominational, multicultural mission organiza- expected in that port. Jamaica is one of the high demanding ports in that they are expect-
tion. The ships are a big part of the organization. They sail mainly to Second and Third ed to receive over 50,000 people in Montego Bay within four weeks of being there. And,
World Countries to provide good and affordable Christian and educational books. All the staff in Kingston, they expect over 20,000 people in only five weeks.
are volunteers who are raising their own support through the church, family and friends. OM Ships hopes to have as successful a Christmas as they did in 2008. This year,
Twenty-eight-year-old Gerdien Koppenaal’s family lives in the Netherlands. Her they will have special offers on specific titles in the bookshop, including Dr. Gary
parents are Christians and raised Gerdien with Christian values. Missions have always Chapman’s book, The Five Love Languages, for only $5.00. They have a large selection of
been important in her life. Her parents have been missionaries themselves for five years educational and fiction books for children. They also have a children’s corner where the
in Transkei (South Africa) and have encouraged Gerdien to also see beyond the church children can look at some of the books they have in the store while the parents browse.
walls and into the world. OM Ships also has a program that is specified for children called Help Packs.
Gerdien joined the Logos II (replaced by Logos Hope later) in 2007 for two Throughout 2009, a number of different churches and schools all over America have been
years. On the ship, she works forty hours a week. She gets one day off and one ministry putting together these Help Packs that have been sent to the ships and then given out to
day where she must help in some kind of community-type work. Gerdien worked in the different children who have specified needs (orphanages, children’s homes). The Help Pack
Book Fair for the two years that she served. Other examples of ministry work include contains a soft toy, pencil, pen, coloring book, toothpaste, toothbrush, baseball cap, etc.).
working in a children’s program, doing a prison visit or taking part in a local church. Each pack also contains a copy of Most Important Story Ever Told. This booklet contains
Gerdien really enjoyed working in the Book Fair because of the contact with the local peo- the life story of Jesus Christ in cartoon format and is also available in the bookshop. All
ple that came onboard. proceeds of this booklet will go towards the Help Pack Ministry.
Gerdien always had a desire to have an experience in missions, and the ships were
one of her first choices. There are 45 different nationalities and 400 people on Logos The readers can also help in the following ways:
Hope. They believe in Jesus as their personal Savior and want to serve Him and tell about • Visit the bookshop on Pamplico Highway and learn more about the ministry of OM
Him to people that have lost hope. She found that amazing, and it is amazing to be a part Ships. You’ll hear about what’s happening in Florence and around the world and can also
of that. “What I liked, as well, is that with the ship, you are able to visit different countries receive information about serving onboard Logos Hope in 2010 on short mission trips.
and experience the different cultures,” she states. • Volunteer your time. Many volunteers have worked this year, including children from The
Bibles are a very popular seller on the ship. With an excitement in her voice, King’s Academy. The bookshop is always looking for more help during the week.
Gerdien says,“This year, the Logos Hope was in Trinidad for a month, and we sold a Bible • Visit the bookshop for Christmas presents, remembering that all the proceeds will be
every forty-five seconds.” going towards world missions.
Also, they sold educational books at very cheap prices. In some countries, the Operation Mobilisation International’s Mission Statement is to bring knowledge,
university study books are so expensive, some people can’t afford them. Because of the help and hope to the people of this world. They bring the knowledge from all the books
ship, they are able to buy them at more affordable prices and are, therefore, able to study. that they distribute in South Carolina, America and throughout the world. They provide
This is an investment for life. help in many different ways (i.e. Help Packs, working in orphanages, children’s homes and
On the ship, Gerdien met her fiancé, David Waugh. He works in the USA also helping the local pastors in having the literature they need to be more effective in
Literature Department for OM Ships. The main focus of the Literature Department is buy- their ministry). Finally, they provide hope. And, what better time of year is there to share
ing books for the two ships. The publishers know the organization and their purpose, so the hope we all have in Jesus Christ than the time people are celebrating His Birth.
they often sell the books at less expensive rates, or they may make donations to the OM The opening times for this Christmas season will be as follows: Monday through Saturday from
Ships Literature Department. 10 AM to 6 PM. They are closed on Sunday. They will open at 6 AM on Friday, November 27th, and their
Last year, OM Ships had an outdoor Book Market located next to Hobby Lobby. The last day open for Christmas will be Thursday, December 24th. The location is 131 Pamplico Highway at
decision was made to continue the market but have a location inside; therefore, they moved Coles Crossroads in Florence.

Cookie Cawthon is just plumb crazy in Flo-town these days – loving her life and her man – chasing her dream, her cheerleader, and her gymnast.
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It’s that time of year - Time to Sparkle

and Shine for all those fabulous party
invitations you’ll surely be receiving!
Dear She,
I am a devoted fan of She Magazine! I saw the makeovers in She, and, wow!
What great jobs! Thus, my unusual request. I would love to get a makeover for the holidays,
and I was hoping you could point me in the right direction. Could you give me some advice?

Thanks in advance, Jo Schulte, Florence

Dear Jo,
First, thank you so much for being a fan of She Magazine! Second, your request is by no means
an unusual one. In fact, we all want to look our best at holiday gatherings. It’s a very special time of year,
Angela and having that little extra spark about us certainly makes us feel prettier.
before And, your question couldn’t have come at a better time. In this month’s “Beauty Buzz,” we
asked A Stuart Laurence Salon and Spa de Vie, both of Florence, to show us two holiday looks.
Pick the look that’s right for you and enjoy yourself! I hope we’ve helped you out.
Merry Christmas!
She Magazine

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Model: Angela Harrell before
Angela has slightly longer-than-average hair. Our goal was to show
her how a quick change would take her from the office to an office party.

• We start by setting the hair on hot rollers. Even when we’re not look-
ing for curl, using the hot rollers will give us a smoother, more polished, fin-
ished look.
• Pulled smooth on the sides, we gathered the hair in the back just slight-
ly right of center. This look, rather than the more formal look of pulling
the hair to the center, is very popular.
• Wanting the final look to be less formal than a wedding design,
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styled her hair to show her how to go from a her eyes.
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Readying Heart & Home

for the Christmas Season
by Sandra Dail

W hile families are spinning in the hustle and bustle of Christmas

shopping, panic overcomes them as they think to themselves,“The house is a mess!”
The beauty of renovation occurs by turning the negative into a positive. In
our lives, we experience the usage of sandpaper or velvet. We all know people who
With the in-laws coming and hosting the Sunday school party, they suddenly look bring out the worst in us instead of the best – especially during the holiday season.
around their house and see it through new eyes – the company’s eyes. Before dec- They uncover our weaknesses rather than our strengths. They are like sandpaper.
orating for Christmas, they realize that rooms need painting, shelves need dusting, In contrast, God has given us others who are like velvet, whose words are comfort-
and the closet needs cleaning out. They are overtaken by the urge to wash curtains ing, supportive and an encouragement to us. They’re like soft velvety cushions we
and iron pillowcases. The far corner of the bathroom gets a good scrubbing, and the need when we’re scraped with the rough sandpapers of life.
drips and smudges are washed from the kitchen cabinets and appliances. The whole In decorating, you have to evaluate your space. Does it function and flow
house needs a makeover. properly? Does change have to be made? Sometimes, God’s will for our lives
If you could receive a home makeover this holiday season, what room requires change, whether it’s a career change, a job loss, the loss of a loved one or
would you begin with? Are there only a few issues or would you call the demoli- even a terrible disease. These changes are difficult for anyone – especially during the
tion crew to tear it all down and start over? holiday season. There’s always the unchangeable and irreversible mistakes that we
First, you must understand the bones of your home. Before embarking on want to go back an undo. Unfortunately, that’s impossible. When we use the crow-
a remodeling or redecorating project, take time to understand the architectural bar of life and pull out the nails of failures, the ugly holes remain. One thing we can
character of your space and be able to uncover a work of art. Proverbs 24:3-5 count on is that God will be with us during change and that He is unchanging. He
(NIV),“By wisdom, a house is built, and through understanding, it is established; is the same yesterday, today and forever. And, He also works on holidays.
by knowledge, its rooms are filled with rare and beautiful treasures. A wise Determining your layout is the next step. You may already have the perfect
man has great power, and a man of knowledge increases strength.” piece for a spot, but perhaps it needs a face-lift to fit your layout. Furniture is
the most visible element of any space and is the foundation for the ambience
of a room. During the holidays, remember, a simple smile and a cheery hello
can make a difference to others. Godliness and humbleness are part of a solid
foundation that can also create such a sweet ambience in a setting.
Find inspiration for your home. Designers draw inspiration from other
designers in their field. It may be artwork, an object or an heirloom. An inspi-
ration piece creates a point of reference you can be passionate about.
Inspiration in the Christian life comes from shared experiences. We can be
inspired by other’s stories. Shared stories build a bridge that Jesus can walk
across from your heart to others.
Have you ever looked for white in the color swatches in a paint section?
Do you know how many shades of white there are? Discovering color is sometimes
a challenge. A few years ago, I decided to use the bolder colors in my house. At
that time, it was an extreme moment of stepping out of the box. But, I did it, and
I’ve enjoyed it. While your friend might want red, exciting and bold, you may
find it’s unnerving or irritating. Color is a powerful tool in interior
design. The result is a personal choice, and you can control the out-
come. Have fun with color. You can also have fun in the Christian
life. Have fun composing your own concert of colors. Is your
house singing the “Hallelujah” chorus when you walk in, or is it
singing “Does Jesus Care?” The ultimate tune you want to hear
playing as you enter your home, “It Is Well With My Soul.”
Fabrics can be an inspiration. You should check to see if
it contains a soil-stain repellant. Applying a soil-stain repellant
in our lives is done by praying. Placing a bold or odd color in
a fabric scheme can also create a healthy setting and make a
room sing. Use geometric shapes and floral prints to reside
together. Think of how God weaves His children together even
though we are different colors, have different personalities and
come from different backgrounds. God’s children are the home-
spun fabric He weaves into His great tapestry. (continued...)
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P repare your walls, which is vital for good results. Many

walls have cracks and waves and nail holes to be filled.
Sometimes, our lives are very similar to walls. There are
scars and empty holes that need to be repaired. Only God can
do that repair service. Jesus has experience with nail holes and has
the scars to prove it. As a matter of fact, you and I were the cause of the nail holes
when He was nailed to the cross.
Artwork is the most exciting part of the decorating process. The presentation of
artwork in the entry hall draws visitors in and immediately gives them a sense of inspi-
ration and warmness as they enter. It adds drama and personality. Always hang art at
a level in which the eye can see it. As with your personality, eye contact is very impor-
tant. Looking at people and making eye contact are the first steps to long-lasting friend-
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Floral arrangements, wreaths and Christmas trees add character to a room. You
may just need simple greenery at times. Elegance or uniqueness also makes a state-
ment in the right setting. Floral designing is a hobby of mine, and I receive my inspira-
tion from the most well-known floral designer I know – God. Look around outside to
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ultimate gift.
Lighting is the most powerful tool in design. What is the point of investing in fur-
niture, fabrics, accessories and artwork if you’re living in the dark? Light transforms
objects it falls on, yet maintains a mystery, staying invisible until it reflects a surface.
Exposing ourselves to the light and presence of the Lord’s love not only will uncover
the dark places of our hearts, it will fill them with light so that “the glory of the Lord
rises upon you” (Isaiah 60:1). How do we expose ourselves to light? By leaving the
door to our heart open. Coming to God with an honest heart and willingness will
allow Him to change us by His wonderful and brilliant light.
As you decorate your home this holiday season, you never know when you may
have an unexpected guest. Of course, you want to have all things in order as that may
happen. The holiday season also reminds us that Christ gave up His heavenly home,
came down to earth and was born in a stable. He lived on the earth as His home, but
He then died and rose again to Heaven where He has gone to prepare a mansion for
you and me.
Realizing that homes and hearts have a lot in common, note the similarities that
apply to both. They are both places where you can be silent and still be heard. Homes
and hearts are where you can ask and find out who we are. Homes and hearts are
where you share, love and grow.
Jesus desires to have a home in your heart. Is it clean enough for Him to live in?

Florence resident, Sandra Dail, and her husband,Tim, have two children, Ashley, a junior at College of Charleston,
and Adam, a sophomore at South Florence High School. When she is not fulfilling her duties as Admitting Supervisor
at McLeod Regional Medical Center, Sandra spends her time singing, doing floral design, and, most importantly,
planning women’s retreats. She enjoys discovering and sharing new ways to experience spiritual worship.
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Can you explain the phenomenon that

happens on Christmas Eve when practically
every man can be found rushing the aisles
of stores, glaze-eyed and pale, searching for
last-minute Christmas gifts?

1 Chad Reel - Florence

“I don’t do that; but, I think men are so busy, they forget until
the last minute – even though they know Christmas comes
every year.”

2 Billy DeWitt - Hartsville

“I don’t think that it’s so much searching for a last-minute gift
as much as it’s trying to find the perfect gift. And, for some, it
just takes all year to find the perfect gift for that special some-
one.”

3 Ricki Ford - Marion

“Its because we want to find that perfect gift, and last minute we
don't have to worry about the crowd getting in our way. Just kid-
ding. We have a lot of things to do like go fishing, go hunting, watch
football and then shopping for Christmas. And there you have why
we are always rushing to find that gift for the ones we love. Men can
only think of one thing at a time. Forgive us!”

4 Charlie Rambo - Florence

“Time slips up on many men, and they go into a panic mode
about two days before Christmas. Then, I think there’s a cer-
tain group who just want to be in the last-minute crowds
because they get a high from shopping on Christmas Eve.”
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I’m crazy about Christmas! So, what does simplicity do? How does simplicity look, and what
I love decorating my home. I get such a thrill out of finding just the right gift does it possibly have to do with Christmas? “‘Tis the gift to be simple, ‘tis
for a friend. I have a three-and-a-half-year-old who is in awe of everything the gift to be free, ‘tis the gift to come down where we ought to be.’”
about the season. I listen to Christmas music year-round, and I’m a sucker Simplicity gives way to freedom – freedom to be who God created
for any Christmas movie. When my daughter and I are looking at Christmas us to be. I think it looks like watching for where God is at work and joining
lights, it’s hard to tell who “oohs and aahs” more. I love Christmas! I love Him, living within your means, embracing what you have, and most important-
this season. ly, whom you have in your life.
When reading the call for ideas for a “Homespun Christmas,” my
mind immediately thought that the idea of a Homespun Christmas is warmth Simplicity recognizes that the best kind of Christmas may be . . .
and welcome, compassion and peace, love and relationships, faith – and sim-
plicity.
... In lieu of exchanging gifts with friends, host a spaghetti dinner or
Simplicity. Okay, before you think I’m talking about hand-carving all game night at your home.
your gifts or growing your own Christmas tree (which either, or both, would ... A handwritten thank-you to someone who does a thankless job.
be astounding feats in my book), let me explain how I experience – or rather ... Purchasing an inexpensive flip-calendar and filling it with encouraging
– want to experience simplicity. Understand, for me, I think there’s a reason notes and Scriptures on different days for your spouse.
that word came to my mind and has taken up residence. ... Surprising the car behind you in a drive-thru line by paying for
I believe we were created for simplicity. Yet, I confess that, too often, their meal, but asking the person at the window to wish them a
I’m writing my own lyrics of complexity, allowing myself to be distracted by “Merry Christmas.”
the things that disguise themselves as urgent and important. I can get caught ... Deciding that any decorations that you don’t use in your home
up in the temporal and lose sight so easily of things that have eternal value. will not just be stored away; they will be given to a Nursing
Music is such a powerful teacher, and I’m grateful for the lyrics penned Home or Shelter.
by Elder Joseph Brackett, Jr., in 1848, to his one-verse song, “Simple Gifts.” ... The gift of your time more than the contents of your wallet.

‘Tis the gift to be simple, ‘tis the gift to be free, True simplicity cannot be just a decoration pulled out, dusted off and
‘Tis the gift to come down where we ought to be, enjoyed for one month out of the year. True simplicity sets the stage for living
And when we find ourselves in the place just right, Christmas year-round.
‘Twill be in the valley of love and delight. The most powerful display of truth, life and giving took place in the
When true simplicity is gain’d, humblest and simplest of places – a feeding trough in a stable. Emmanuel,
To bow and to bend, we shan’t be ashamed, our God is with us.
To turn, turn will be our delight, Simplicity. It’s definitely a She thing.
Till by turning, turning we come round right.

Suzanne Rowe is the Children/Family Minister at the Woodmont Hills church in Nashville,Tennessee. She has a precious three-and-a-half-year-old daughter, Catherine.
Suzanne is a recent fan of She Magazine thanks to a handsome CPA from Marion, SC, who has stolen her heart.
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A t ninety-three-years old,Theodora still lives in her family

home in Charleston – just like her mother and grandmother did
before her. Although her bones ache and her memory is not quite as
keen as it once was, she still has her faculties and wants to throw a
Christmas gala for her family like the ones her mom used to host back in
the 1920s. No one wants to attend; however, none dare disappoint
Theodora, the recognized family matriarch.
Thus, the disgruntled family invades Theodora’s Charleston home;
however, the gala is not anything like what she remembers. Stores did the
baking (prepackaged fruitcake is heresy) and the decorations came in
packages instead of the family making them. Even more significant is
where is Pearl, her grandmother’s long-deceased housekeeper, to serve
as a drill sergeant, making the hostile attendees behave and sing carols
while the servants sang gospels?
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YÉÜ Åx, the Christmas sea-
son begins on Thanksgiving morning. As our lives and
recipes decided and the shopping done – twenty-five-
plus pounds of flour, twenty-pounds of sugar and multi-
It blesses me to do this for others and, some-
times, it even makes me laugh, as it did recently. I was
situations have changed, so have some of the traditions ple bags of chips, coconut and nuts (to name just a few visiting a local nursing home where I once worked and
in our home. Born and raised in Upstate Central New items) – the Christmas bake-a-thon begins! still have strong ties to many of the staff members. One
York, Christmas time always brought family, friends and I use Thanksgiving morning before we leave to of the nursing assistants came up to me and said, “You
food together in a big way. go to our daughter’s house to mix up three or four know, last year when you brought our Christmas trays, I
My mother always had certain cookie recipes batches of cookies in preparation for the next day. With was off and didn’t get any of your Party Mix. This year,
and Party Mix that were reserved for “Christmas-Only Christmas music blaring, I start early Friday morning and will you please bring just a little bag of it with my name
Treats” – a tradition I continue. She also always made a bake through Saturday evening, making various types of on it in case I’m off that day?”
three-tiered cake covered with luscious fluffy home- cookies and quick breads. I usually leave the Party Mix How sweet of her! I was so touched by that!
made frosting, which was then blanketed in a thick layer to be done another evening. And, yes, she will get her own bag. What a humbling
of coconut and topped with a large wax Santa figurine. Some of my favorite Christmas-Only Cookies experience to know such a simple thing once a year
The cake was always the grand finale to our Christmas include the Star-Light Mint Surprise Cookie (which has touches someone. I pray that God always keeps my
celebration at my grandparents’ home where about thir- been in my family over fifty years). These cookies have heart tender.
ty of us would gather. a soft brown sugar outside with half a walnut on top and Passing on a legacy is also very important to
Time passed with marriages, births and deaths. in one bite, a “surprise” burst of chocolate mint fills your me. I have only one grandchild at present; his name is
Seasons of life changed, and the Christmas celebration mouth. Then, there’s the Double Chocolate Crunch Ian, and he will be six-years-old on December 2. He has
was moved to my parents with only our immediate fam- Bars. These are so yummy; they’re very difficult to helped me mix and bake many different things since he
ily. The coconut cake vanished, replaced by many differ- describe. They really are an experience that no written was big enough to hold a spoon and measuring cup.
ent desserts. I still miss the Santa and that luscious description can totally capture. The base is like a thin When he was two, he learned how to frost cookies – or
sticky frosting. New recipes started to make there way chocolate cake followed by a layer of melted marshmal- you might say, eat frosting from a frosting knife. I give
into our holiday celebration such as Shredded Wheat lows topped with a mixture of rice crispies mixed in him his own frosting and knife and let him go. Usually,
Rolls, Pink Squirrels and Buckeyes. Nonetheless, the tra- melted chocolate chips and peanut butter. These are the knife passes over his tongue as often as it does the
ditional Christmas-Only Cookies and Party Mix contin- just so great and a huge hit everywhere they go. And, of cookies; but, he loves it. He then gets to add sugar sprin-
ued to grace our table. course, there is the traditional cut-out Sugar Cookie kles of all sorts to his cookies. (I keep his cookies sep-
More time passed with more marriages, births, that’s frosted; these are my husband’s favorite. I vary arate from the others.)
deaths and a move to Hartsville, South Carolina. So, some of our other cookie favorites; and, every year, I try He also helps me make, frost and decorate
now, back to the beginning. Actually, I start preparing for two to four new recipes. So, what do I end up with? Jesus’ Birthday Cake. One of the cutest Christmas pic-
Thanksgiving Day usually around the first of November. Give or take a few dozen, usually around fifty-dozen tures I have of him was taken two or three years ago.
(The only thing is I’m not getting ready for Thanksgiving; cookies. And, lots of dirty dishes. (Thank you, Lord, for He was standing at the table by Jesus’ Birthday Cake,
I’m getting ready for Christmas.) Up until a few years a dishwasher!) carefully picking off the M&M’s that spelled Happy
ago, I always had Thanksgiving at my house. But, with Now, you ask, “What do you do with all those Birthday, Jesus.
family changes, the tradition has been passed to our cookies?” Well, most of them are given away to family, My legacy to Ian is to pass my love of baking on
daughter, which almost totally frees up my morning. The friends, co-workers, our veterinarian, dentist, former co- to him, and I pray he will also embrace the Jesus Birthday
first weeks of November are dedicated to reviewing my workers and my doctor. I love to do this; I just love to Cake tradition.
old recipes, a visit to my recipe library and also a visit to bake. I also still make the Shredded Wheat Rolls for our Merry Christmas! And, may our Gracious Lord
the public library, scouting out new recipes. With the Christmas dinner. mightily bless your New Year!

Sharon Bixler is blessed to be the wife of Hal, mother of Holly (Stanley) and grandmother of Ian. She is a Member of Emmanuel Baptist Church in Hartsville.
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UNMARRIED
`tÜç The Single Girl’s Guide
to Surviving the Holidays

by Mary R. Dittman, MBA

\ I’m not a big fan of the holidays for a lot of rea-

sons. Many of those reasons are due to ongoing drama in
my family. However, for many years, I felt the holidays
were for couples and families with children and that sin-
gles like me were sort of like the “misfit toys.” If you’ve
ever felt alone, lonely, let down, forgotten or disappointed
in your singleness during the holidays, this is for you.
We keep thinking if we “faith it” enough, God will
send us “our guy.” It doesn’t work like that. If it did, all
the tacky, dishonest, shifty girls you know would be single
and all the Godly, honest ones would be married.
So, here’s how to make it through the holidays
whether or not you meet someone special:
The bottom line is that if you want to be happy
during the holidays, you need to start living Psalm 37:3.
“Trust in the Lord and do good.” Not trust that if you do
good, He’ll give you what you want. Trust that He wants
you to be happy and He will send you the people and
things that will bring you closer to Him. (Maybe the Lord
already sent you a great guy, but you didn’t recognize him
Because this is a time of gift giving, I had this wish • Stop watching Christmas love stories on the Lifetime because you’re so hung up on the packaging – he has to
in my heart that God would look favorably upon me and and Hallmark channels. They’re not real; they’re fiction. be 6-feet tall with a full head of hair and baby blue eyes.)
send me my perfect soul mate. I tithed, I served, I read my They were created to sell you products during the com- “Dwell in the land and enjoy safe pasture.” Show up fully
Bible every morning. I prayed for others, I went to Bible mercials. in your life now. Enjoy where you are now.
study and prayer meeting. I celebrated with friends who • Remember that 100% of the images we see during the “I can’t be happy if I’m alone,” you say. Well, you
got engaged and married, and I kept believing it would be holidays are designed to sell us products and separate us better learn how to get happy while you’re single because
my turn eventually. from our money. Advertisers tell us we should get cars God isn’t going to reward your temper tantrum by send-
Don’t you love the people who tell you they prayed and jewelry and we should have a warm, happy feeling ing you someone. (Look for more on this and why you may
one prayer, “letting it go,” and then met their husband that inside. The truth is most people don’t have that experi- never get married in my January column.) Besides, if you’re
very night? I’ve prayed the “Thy-will-be-done-about-my- ence during the holidays. Most of my friends who are so unhappy, who’d want to hang out with you anyway?
marital-status” prayer 1,000 times, and guess what? married with children even dislike the holidays because of Here are some benefits to being single during
Here’s the truth; there is no magic formula to the extra stress, activities and expenses. And, their hus- the holidays. No one will witness you or judge you harsh-
unlock God’s timing or His plan for your life. In the late bands don’t even think to buy them something romantic ly when you eat the entire canister of Christmas cookies
70s through the mid 80s, there was a resurrection of the (like cars or jewelry) or even to thank them for slaving or holiday fudge you brought home from the office. You
idea that if you are sick, it’s due to “unconfessed sin in away all day on those homemade cookies and ornaments. can decorate your home (or not) anyway you like. You
your life.” I think most of us would agree that if someone • Your family is going to ask about your love life. They don’t have to buy gifts for a guy and his family (again, more
has cancer, you don’t really believe it’s because she does- may even make hurtful comments. I suggest a little money to spend on yourself). You don’t have to worry
n’t have enough faith to be healed. Shadrach, Meshach and strategic disinformation here. Two responses I have used that he’ll embarrass you at the office party. You’re free to
Abednego had to go through the fire; they didn’t get deliv- successfully are, “I’m dating around right now – just hav- flirt with every guy you cross paths with. (Do the ring
ered out of it. Being single isn’t punishment for not doing ing fun” and “I’ve been so busy with (career, work, home check, girls, so you don’t flirt with someone’s husband.
enough for God. renovations, etc.), I haven’t had time to even think about it.” Getting your car keyed is no fun during the holidays.) You
Your obedience to God will not necessarily give If they persist, I go on the offense by bringing up the down- can shop, eat, travel or rest anytime you want.
you what you want. Sometimes, we treat God like a cos- sides of marriage like the high divorce rate and infidelity. Most importantly, don’t buy into the commercial
mic vending machine, thinking, “ If I put in the correct Maybe it’s mean and un-Christian, but when someone message that Christmas is about romance. Remember,
amount of money (time, energy, prayer, faith), I’ll get a bag won’t take a hint and is trying to make me feel inferior the world’s message about Christmas is to buy stuff.
of boyfriend or a container of husband.” because I’m single, I have to stand up for myself. Don’t put your trust in Prince Charming. Put it in the
We quote Psalm 37:4: “Delight in the Lord and • Buy yourself a really great Christmas present. Not a Prince of Peace; He’s already here and He’ll never leave
He will give you the desires of your heart.” Back up to new Swiffer or a cordless drill, get yourself a nice gift you you. And, He doesn’t care if you pack on ten pounds of
verse 3: “Trust in the Lord and do good; dwell in the land would want from a special gentleman friend – jewelry, a holiday cheer.
and enjoy safe pasture.” Also check out one of my massage, facial, whatever. If you were dating someone, you
favorites (please indulge my editing; you’ll see how it would buy him a gift; so, take that money and buy yourself
applies), Psalm 146:3: “Do not put your trust in princes something.
Mary R. Dittman, MBA, is an Instructor of Marketing and Director
(in Prince Charming), in mortal men (in your dream guy),
of the Internship Program in the School of Business at
who cannot save.” Francis Marion University. She consults for a variety of local and
regional companies and is actively involved in the Florence community.
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Energetic, outgoing and a positive attitude are

some of the first words that come to mind when McKenzie Pierce was asked to
describe her sister, Katie, a junior at The King’s Academy. “Katie loves people –
especially children – animals and volleyball,” McKenzie went on to say.
Among many other impressive personal traits, we learned that perseverance is
an important part of Katie Pierce’s makeup. In September 2008, while serving as
the team’s captain, Katie injured her knee during a volleyball game. Since then, she has
undergone three knee surgeries to repair her meniscus and reconstruct her ACL (with
the last surgery in July 2009). Even now, Katie faces physical therapy twice weekly. Still,
she perseveres. Through her extensive physical therapy, she has realized God’s plan
for her – to pursue a college degree in Physical Therapy where she can help other ath-
letes that are dealing with similar injuries and rehab.
Katie had to miss the remainder of the volleyball season when she was injured
in 2008, and she had to miss the whole 2009 season. Nevertheless, she served as the
Team Manager this year, supporting her team, offering encouragement and cheering
the team on during practices and games. Last summer, in spite of the fact she couldn’t
participate, Katie attended volleyball camp daily to support her team members.
Little sister McKenzie has the highest respect for Katie, saying, “I play on the
volleyball team and know for a fact how hard it would be to sit and watch your team
play your favorite sport! Through all this, she has had such a positive attitude. Our
parents have always taught us to keep our eyes on Jesus, as all things are possible with
Him. Katie has certainly displayed this. I believe Katie is a role model to all, and I’m
proud to call her my sister.”
Katie’s positive attitude has been an inspiration to her family and friends.
Although she is certainly disappointed that she hasn’t been able to play volleyball this
year, she looks on the bright side, saying, “At least I’ll be able to play volleyball my
senior year!”
McKenzie can’t wait for that either and looks forward to the day Katie is back
on the volleyball court with her sister.
Katie Pierce’s talents go well beyond the volleyball court. She serves in the
children’s department at NewSpring Church every week, is Co-Editor of the Yearbook
Staff and works part-time at Young Chefs Academy. She is an Honors Student, Beta
Club Member and has served as a Class Officer. Katie also loves hanging out with her
horses, Poncho and Petey.

She Magazine learned about Katie Pierce from her sister, McKenzie Pierce, a sophomore at The King’s Academy. Katie and McKenzie reside in Timmonsville with their parents, Ricky and Gay Pierce.
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(On initial visit, valid thru Dec. 2009) and true calming methods. (New patients only, valid thru Dec. 2009)