No More Mr. Nice Guy Cheatsheet
No More Mr. Nice Guy Cheatsheet
No More Mr. Nice Guy Cheatsheet
NICE GUY
CHEATSHEET
Dwelling in reality
I deserve/have permission to be happy
In the end I want intimacy, woman are just
people
Have integrity
Asking what feels right, and then doing it
Set boundaries
Being good or doing it right doesn't insulate you
from the chaos that is life.
Set Boundaries
You can let people move closer because you are
confident that you can stand up for yourself.
Use 2nd date rule + Healthy male rule.
Rules 2 try:
1. If it frightens you, do it.
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Don't settle. Every time you settle, you get exactly what you settled for.
Put yourself first.
No matter what happens, you will handle it.
If you do what you have always done, you will get what you have always got.
You are the only person on this planet responsible for your needs, wants, and
happiness. (#1 nice guy mantra)
7. Ask for what you want.
8. If what you are doing isn't working, try something different.
9. Be clear and direct.
10.Learn to say "no."
11.Don't make excuses.
12.If you are an adult, you are old enough to make your own rules.
13.Let people help you.
14.Be honest with yourself.
15.Do not let anyone treat you badly. No one. Ever.
16.Remove yourself from a bad situation instead of waiting for the situation to
change.
17.Don't tolerate the intolerable ever.
18.Stop blaming. Victims never succeed.
19.Live with integrity. Decide what feels right to you, then do it.
20.Accept the consequences of your actions.
21.Be good to yourself.
22.Think "abundance."
23.Face difficult situations and conflicts head on.
24.Don't do anything in secret.
25.Do it now.
26.Be willing to let go of what you have so you can get what you want.
27.Have fun. If you are not having fun, something is wrong.
28.Give yourself room to fail. There are no mistakes, only learning
experiences.
29.Control is an illusion. Let go; let life happen.
Custom rules:
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