Chinese Customs
Chinese Customs
Chinese Customs
There are many habits and customs that are particular to China and Chinese people. Because of
the powerful influence that China as exerted on neighboring cultures, some of these customs are
echoed in other Asian peoples- including Japanese and Korean. The following observations are not
Introductions
Unlike Westerners, Chinese people do not usually greet people who they have not been introduced
to or are not familiar with. It would seem odd if a person would offer a "Hi" or "Hello" when
passing on the street. It is also standard practice to have a name card or business card to give
to people when introduced. Handshakes are not customary among Chinese for first meetings.
Conversation topics for people newly acquainted also differ from that of English speakers. It is
not impolite to ask about a person's job, annual salary, marital/dating status, or age. In fact,
these issues which Westerners may find uncomfortable are very typical. On the other hand,
Gift Giving
Giving gifts and treating people to dinner is a common practice, especially during festival days.
When a gift is given, it should be offered with two hands. Any gift offered with two hands
should always be received with two hands. Even such a trivial matter of giving a name card
should, to be perfectly polite, be given and received in this manner. While this isn't a strict
practice and in more informal settings can be overkill, in polite company or formal settings this
Chinese people are big on treating people to dinner. It is common for a person to take a friend to
dinner or lunch, just as in many Western cultures. Chinese people often vie to be the one to pay
the bill. Chinese also invite other people or families to their residence to eat quite often.
Eating
Rice or noodles are served with virtually every meal. For breakfast, Chinese people generally eat
congee (over-boiled rice), fresh bread from a local bakery, or a leftover rice dish. You won't see
bacon, eggs, and toast or cold cereal. At lunch a Chinese person generally eats a single rice or
noodle dish themselves. In some areas boxes of rice with vegetables, bbq pork, chicken or duck,
etc. is very popular. Dinner is a family affair. In Chinese dinners, all the dishes are placed on a
center table. Each person is given a bowl of soup. After the soup is finished, the bowl is filled
with rice and everyone takes what they want from the dishes on the table. Other than hot tea,
When one is invited to a person's residence they should 1) eat at least two bowls of rice 2) eat
all the rice in a bowl 3) eat some of each dish. Burping or slurping soup, actions which are
considered impolite in Western culture, are part of Chinese eating and are generally interpreted
as complimentary signs.
There is also a special eating custom among Chinese called "drinking tea". While tea is served
with the meal, the phrase can be misleading as the central activity is not drinking tea but rather
Dim sum is Chinese specialty foods served from early in the morning (as early as 6am) until around
noon. It is mostly breads, meats and vegetables wrapped in pastry noodles, and other foods that
can be picked up individual for a plate. At a tea house where dim sum is served, the patrons sit
around a large table and are served tea. Hot water is also provided to wash the plates, bowls,
and eating utensils (chopsticks and a ladle-like spoon.) In some restaurants different dishes are
carted around and patrons can pick and choose what they want from the cart. As with dinner,
dishes are shared among all persons in the group. In other places a list of the different dishes
are provided and customers can tick what dishes and the quantities desired. While "drinking tea"
a group socializes.
families have followed patriarchal lines. The Chinese extended family tends to be more
significant in life than that of Western cultures, and thusly the different relationships are
further distinguished than they are in English. When speaking for siblings, Chinese people almost
always refer to them in respect to being older brothers and older sisters or younger brothers
and younger sisters. The same differentiation occurs among aunts, uncles, cousins etc. Chinese
relatives are even further divided by paternal relatives and maternal relatives. Grandparents,
uncles, aunts, in-laws etc. on the father's side have different tittles than grandparents, uncles,
Chinese names are given in the reverse of Western names. The surname is said first, and then
the given name. For example, Bruce Lee's name rendered in Yale Cantonese romanization is
/Leih/ /Siu/ \Luhng\. /Leih/ (Lee) is his surname and spoken first. The given name (Little
Dragon) is spoken secondly. Professional, social, and family tittles always follow the name as well.
The titles Doctor, Master, Professor, or Teacher would follow the surname or full name. Dr.
Wong would be Huang Yi Sheng (Huang Doctor- Mandarin pinyin). Master Man Fa Kwok would be
Gwok Mahn -Fa- /Si/ /Fu/ (Yale Cantonese romanization.) Likewise Xiansheng (Mr.) and Taitai
Familial terms can also be added to the surname of someone not related to impute to them a
special closeness or relationship to the speaker. Little children are often told to address elders
as "older brother" "older sister" "aunt" or "uncle". In this case the family title can either be
used alone, or be added to a person's surname. (If a person is known by an English name the title
is said after the person's given name. For example, Michael gege <older brother>)
In Chinese culture, there symbols have a different significance than in European based cultures.
The color red is one of good luck and prosperity. Gold is the imperial color. White is the color of
death (and is the color traditionally worn at funerals). Black symbolizes misfortune.
The Concept of Face
The concept of "saving face" or "losing face" originates from China. This is a complicated subject
and not easily set down as a rule or principle. Certain behaviors or actions are done in an effort
to save face or to not cause another to lose face. For example, a person might tell you "maybe",
or agree to something they fully intend not to do in order to avoid completely rejecting a request
or proposal, which would cause one to lose face. Often, "face" is given or lost in accordance to
rules of etiquette or respect. Therefore it is important to follow customs and understand polite
behavior in order to avoid causing someone else to lose "face". Always accept a gift when offered
(this principle does not extend to bribery), even if you normally refuse the gift. Always attend