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How to become emotionally intelligent at times of adjustment disorder?
Adjustment disorder, sometimes referred to as situational depression, is an abnormal and excessive

reaction to an identifiable life stressor. The reaction is more severe than would normally be
expected and can result in significant impairment in social, occupational, or academic functioning.
Causes: Adjustment disorder is caused by one or more life stressors. In adults, these stressors are
most commonly related to marital discord, finances, or work. In adolescents, common stressors
include school problems, family or parents' marital problems, death of a loved one, moving out or
new environment, financial difficulties, unexpected catastrophes, medical conditions, etc.
Signs and symptoms: 1)Significant changes in eating, sleeping, grooming, mood, socializing,
personality. 2)Difficulty carrying on normal conversation. 3)Significant performance changes in
academic, sports, co-curricular activities. 4)Explicit talk about hopelessness, death, or suicide.
5)Feeling out of control of one’s behaviors and emotions. 6)Racing thoughts etc.
How often you are feeling this sense of distress, how bad it gets, and how long it lasts?
To deal with this, learning Emotional Intelligence would be a great help in coping up adjustment
disorder? In relation to the four pillars of education, there are some guidelines to consider:
Learning To Know: Learn to Learn

 Concentration - Learn to understand issues of adjustments or changes for a short term
period. Don’t rush, observe and give yourself enough time to adjust and adapt. The concept
of ‘intrapersonal communication’ is more concerned with how we relate to, and interact with,
ourselves and can be a core concept of understanding the resulting behaviour. Internal
vocalization, or talking to ourselves, can help us achieve or maintain social adjustment. For
example, a person may use self-talk to calm himself down in a stressful situation, or a shy
person may remind herself to smile during a social event.
 Develop Critical Thinking - Do a self-evaluation, analysis and synthesis. What are your
weaknesses and strengths? Are you willing to accept that you're not perfect and that you
could work on some areas to make yourself a better person? Have the courage to look at
yourself honestly – it can change your life.
 Memory/Remembering – Retrieve, recall, or recognize knowledge from memory which can

be both happy and sad. Use nostalgia in a positive way to savor or cope with the present
instead of longing for the world that used to be. Memory is vital to experiences, it is the
retention of information over time for the purpose of influencing future action. Memories can
change as we evolve and create new experiences. But it may get lost if not recalled on a
regular basis.
Learning To Do: Skills and Behavior Development

 Interpersonal Skills and Aptitudes for teamwork - Those with strong social skills are typically
team players. Rather than focus on their own success first, they help others develop and
shine.
 Attitudes – You can influence your emotions. If you start off the day by saying it will be a
good day, then it will. It's all about your attitude and outlook in life. In the movie, Joy (one of
the emotions) says this, "All right everyone, fresh start! We're gonna have a good day, which
will turn into a good week, which will turn into a good year, which will turn into a good life!”
It’s all about the way that you view life.
Talk to someone about how you are feeling; you are not being a bother to them. It's ok to not be ok.
We don't have to have everything together. Do not hold everything inside and do not say that you're
fine when you are not. When used right, all your emotions are useful. There is nothing wrong with
being sad; it's even healthy at times!
Embrace all of your emotions. So, whether you like the emotion that you are feeling or not, embrace
it. It's ok for emotions to come and go. We aren't supposed to hold onto that feeling forever. For
example: When someone makes us angry, we need to forgive them, and let that emotion go.
Listen to emotions that keep showing up. If you keep feeling the same emotion over and over again
(sadness, anger, fear, and disgust) it’s a good indication that something is wrong. Listen to that
emotion and address the issue at hand.
Learning To Live Together: Peace and Harmony

 Social skills and values – respect and concern for others, social and interpersonal skills and
appreciation of the diversity of the world
 Take responsibility for your actions. If you hurt someone's feelings, apologize directly –
don't ignore what you did or avoid the person. People are usually more willing to forgive and
forget if you make an honest attempt to make things right.
 Examine how your actions will affect others – before you take those actions. If your decision
will impact others, put yourself in their place. How will they feel if you do this? Would you
want that experience? If you must take the action, how can you help others deal with the
effects?
Learning To Be: Satisfaction

The all-round development of the whole person, to fulfill his/her highest potential and be able to
think, decide and act independently.People with high Emotional Intelligence have a positive attitude
towards life, have the ability to motivate themselves and are not easily discouraged. Optimists
overcome fears and depression more easily and they do not avoid problems. They view difficult
cases as challenges and they postpone impulses until they have achieved their long-term target.
A good relationship with other people is an important characteristic of Emotional Intelligence. People
with high Emotional Intelligence have the ability to deal with acquaintances and people they do not
know. They can also manage other people’s emotions. They quickly build relationships, are good
collaborators and negotiators and they can create group synergy. This makes them popular and of
they are often good leaders.
Happiness is not just about joy, sometimes we have to experience sadness to achieve a deeper
form of happiness. All emotions- positive and negative must be experienced and managed
intelligently in order for growth to happen.
References:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/conditions/adjustment-disorder
http://p4s.pt/en/the-4-pillars-of-emotional-intelligence-and-why-they-matter/
https://www.slideshare.net/statisense/the-4-pillars-of-education

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How to become emotionally intelligent at times of adjustment disorder?

Adjustment disorder, sometimes referred to as situational depression, is an abnormal and excessive

Learning To Know: Learn to Learn

 Memory/Remembering – Retrieve, recall, or recognize knowledge from memory which can

Learning To Do: Skills and Behavior Development

Learning To Live Together: Peace and Harmony

Learning To Be: Satisfaction

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