Own Your Feelings
Own Your Feelings
Own Your Feelings
Tolerance is your ability to deal with the disagreeable. It’s your capacity to withstand
the “yuck” in your life and other people. Sometimes, someone’s disagreeable nature can
simply be an annoyance, while other times, it may be much more intrusive.
The practice of tolerance, however, is more about your relationship with yourself
instead of with other people. Tolerance can be thought of as emotional or mental
perseverance:
How long are you able to deal with the disturbances that others cause you?
Are you able to do it with a spirit of grace and confidence?
Do you prefer to be indifferent, ignoring the person or situation?
If the behavior is unlikely to change, how do you deal with them?
These are questions that take time to consider. When you feel yourself intolerant of
someone else, remember the following insights. They can help you deal with yourself
and others in order to cultivate the benefits of a life filled with tolerance and stillness.
Keep in mind that your feelings are your own and that you have the right to self-mastery
in your life, just as the other person has sovereignty over themselves.
Look Within
Try to see past the person and situation into your own annoyance. Look within yourself
to find the source of your problem:
Meditate
Meditation can help cultivate tolerance. You can learn to tolerate some things about
others simply by discovering they’re just not that important. The things you take issue
with don’t have to define the person or the experience.
By calming your spirit, you can learn to check yourself before reacting. Start by
routinely checking in with yourself during stressful experiences or people. You will
begin to react with more grace and patience and be able to offer the best version of
yourself.
Be mindful of the fact that no matter how pestering an annoyance can be, it is only
temporary. The majority of people in your life are only around you in certain
circumstances or for a certain amount of time. Those closest to you only bother you at
times, but are otherwise agreeable, or they wouldn’t be around.
You have the power to control how much an annoyance affects you. Even if something
about a person bothers you, you can always shift your focus to more agreeable aspects
of the person or experience.
Learn to allow life to bug you and then go away, without any lingering effects.
Keep Perspective
No matter how likeable you believe yourself to be, someone out there is or would be
annoyed by you. With the numerous spectrum of thought and behavior among humans,
it’s impossible to be accepted by all. Chances are, somebody has put up with you at
some point. Ask yourself:
Practice Patience
Practicing patience with the disagreeable aspects of people in your life will help you
become more tolerant. The universe allows room for all of your decisions and behavior,
while working around them and through them. Seek to mimic this tolerance in your own
life. Cultivate centeredness that will be there inside you through everything and
everyone. It is empowering and noble.