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ABRAHAM MASLOWS’ HIERARCHY OF NEEDS ⮚ Acknowledge them and truly believe in them.
Have confidence in the positives and know how
Self- great you really are.
Actualization(Self- ⮚ Put all of your energy into them.
fulfillment, Realization Don’t afraid to try anything until you find what
of one's potential)
makes you happy.
⮚ Keep developing them.
Self-Esteem
(Achievement, The sky is really the limit. Every day is a
Approval, Confidence, chances.
Competence)
⮚ Take them into account when making career
Love & Belongingness decision.
(Friends, Love, Acceptance by
the Others) Choose a career path that doesn’t heavily rely on
being strong in that area.
Safety Needs(Security, Being out of
Danger) ⮚ Look at the other side.
Be straight to the point. Honesty.
Physiological Needs(Cloths, Shelter, Food,
Sex) ⮚ Don’t be too hard on yourself.
Everyone has weaker areas. Don’t beat yourself
LESSON 1: KNOWING ONESELF up about it.
⮚ KNOWING ONESELF - How to understand and 10 WAYS TO BELIEVE IN YOURSELF AGAIN
admit our weaknesses and strengths. 1. ACCEPT YOUR CURRENT SITUATION.
⮚ FULGENCIO (2006) - “The Barriers in knowing Accept your current life situation.
oneself are lack of awareness, egoism and fear “First, accept sadness. Realize that without
of change”. losing, winning isn’t so great”. Alyssa Milano.
⮚ SELF-AWARENESS - It is important to realize 2. THINK ABOUT YOUR PAST SUCCESS.
one’s potential. Understanding your own needs, If you are feeling down and out, use your past to
desires, failings, habits. get motivated again.
⮚ INTROSPECTION – It is define to examine your “Every day is a new opportunity. You can build on
feelings and thoughts. 3. yesterday’s success or put its failure behind and
⮚ GURUS- Means “Teacher” Professional. start over again. That’s the way life is, with a new
game every day”. Bob Feller.
IMPROVE YOUR SELF-AWARENESS WITH A 4. TRUST YOURSELF.
FEW EXERCISE This is one of the most important things that can
⮚ Learn to look at yourself objectively. help you get that belief and confidence back.
Study and criticize your decisions. “Everything in the universe is within you. Ask all
⮚ Write your own manifesto. from yourself”. Rumi.
Make sense that you need to have a goals. Push 5. TALK WITH YOURSELF.
yourself into figuring out what you want. We are the ones who create who we will become.
⮚ Keep a journal. “If you tell yourself that you cannot, what can the
Document anything of what you are doing and only outcome be?”. Shad Helmstetter.
where problems might be coming from. 6. DON’T LET FEAR STOP YOU.
⮚ Perform a self-review. Face your fears and don’t let them stop you from
Examine yourself how to improve. achieving your goals.
⮚ Owning it: Identifying your strengths and “Always do what you are afraid to do”. Ralph
weaknesses. Waldo Emerson.
It’s really easy as opening up, thinking about it a 7. LET YOURSELF OFF THE HOOK.
little, and most importantly listening to those You have to look at the future and stop living in
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8. GO WITH A POSITIVE ATTITUDE. ⮚ ADOLESCENCE: “Teen Ager”; “Youth”;
Be thankful for whatever you are and whatever the time of life between puberty and maturity.
you have. Always have a positive approach. ⮚ PHYSICAL DEVELOPMENT: Experience growth
9. LET A LIFE COACH HELP YOU. spurt. Which involves rapid growth of bones and
A life coach is a professional that helps, supports muscles.
and guides you. A life coach can help you ⮚ For GIRLS, 9 to 12 and for BOYS, 11-14.
recognize your abilities and skills. ⮚ SEXUAL MATURATION (PUBERTY): It is define
10. KEEP MOVING FORWARD AND NEVER LOOK to maturation of the sex organ of an individual.
BACK. Especially, Adolescent.
Be strong and keep moving on. Never give up on TYPES OF EATING DISORDER
yourself. You have to keep on going and ● ANOREXIA NERVOSA: Physical and Mental
eventually you will reach your destination. disorder of young female who is FEAR OF
“If you can’t fly then run, if you can’t run then BEING FAT.
walk, if you can’t walk then crawl, but whatever ● BULIMIA: Physical and Mental disorder of young
you do you have to keep moving forward”. Martin female who is eat a large amount of food and
Luther King Jr. they vomit it.
11. LET LIFE MOVE YOU. ⮚ CULTURAL DIFFERENCES: Ethnic identity
Let your life follow its own natural flow. Allow it to includes the shared values, traditions and
let you move in the direction you are meant to go, practices of a cultural group.
and you will find success. ⮚ COGNITIVE DEVELOPMENT: Dramatic shift in
THE JOHARI WINDOW thinking from concrete to abstract gives
⮚ Useful tool for helping you build self-awareness adolescents a whole new set of mental tools.
and gain an understanding of how others MOST DEVELOPING ADOLESCENTS WILL:
perceive you. ✔ Argue for sake of Arguing.
⮚ Developed by American Psychologist ✔ Become more Independent.
JOSEPH LUFT & HARRY INGHAM in 1955. ✔ Jump to Conclusions.
⮚ Mnemonics: ✔ Be self-centered.
A-rena: Which is known to ALL. ✔ Increased responsibilities: babysitting, summer
F-acade: Area that is known to YOURSELF but is job.
hidden from others. ✔ Look to peers and media for information and
B-lind Spot: Area that is known to OTHERS but advice.
not to yourself. ✔ Begin to develop social conscience: concern in
U-nknown: Area that is BLIND to BOTH yourself global warming, racism, discrimination.
and to those around you. ⮚ SOCIAL DEVELOPMENT: Adolescent take place
TIPS FOR USING JOHARI WINDOW FOR in the context of all their relationships.
SELF-AWARENESS TWO MAJOR INFLUENTIAL PER itSON IN
✔ REVEAL YOURSELF: Share your thoughts and SOCIETY OF AN ADOLESCENT
feelings with others. ● Peers
✔ SEEK FEEDBACK: Never be afraid to ask for ● Family
feedback from others. ⮚ YOUNG ADOLESCENCE: Ages 9 – 13.
✔ TEST YOUR LIMITS: Testing yourself in new PEERS: Center of social world shifts from family
situations and surrounding yourself with others. to friends. Peer group tends to be same-sex.
Strong desire to be conform to and be accepted
LESSON 2: DEVELOPING THE WHOLE by a peer group.
PERSON FAMILY: Increasing conflict between adolescents
“Growth doesn’t just happen. It has to be on and their parents. Family closeness most
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important protective factor against high-risk LESSON 3: DEVELOPMENTAL STAGES
behaviour. IN MIDDLE AND LATE ADOLESCENCE

⮚ MIDDLE ADOLESCENCE: Ages 14 – 16. ⮚ DEVELOPMENTAL PSYCHOLOGY: Concerned

PEERS: Groups gradually give way to one on with both physical and psychological changes
one friendships and romances. Peer group tends throughout life from conception until death.
to be gender-mixed. Less conformity and more
tolerance of individual differences.
FAMILY: Increasing conflict between adolescents
and their parents. Family closeness most
important protective factor against high-risk
behavior.
⮚ LATE ADOLESCENCE: Ages 17 – 19.
PEERS: Serious intimate relationships begin to
develop.
FAMILY: Family influence in balance with peer
influence.

ADOLESCENT’S COMMUNITY CAN ALSO

HAVE A GREAT IMPACT ON HIS/HER SOCIAL
DEVELOPMENT. ⮚ ADULTHOOD: It defines fully grown, developed,
● Neighborhood not childish and sensible. Life span is more than
● Schools 70.
● Religious organizations ⮚ EARLY ADULTHOOD: Concerned with
● The media developing the ability to share intimacy, seeking
⮚ BEHAVIORAL DEVELOPMENT: Changes that to form relationships and find intimate love. Long
adolescents experience prepare them to term relationships are formed and marriage and
experiment with new behavior. children result. Work/career choice.
⮚ EMOTIONAL DEVELOPMENT: New cognitive ⮚ MIDDLE ADULTHOOD: Develop a genuine
skills of maturing adolescents give them the concern for the welfare of future generations and
ability to reflect on who they are and what makes to contribute to the world.
them unique. PSYCHOSOCIAL DILEMMA by ERIK ERIKSON
✔ SELF CONCEPT: Set of beliefs about oneself,
including attributes, roles, goals, interests, values
and religious or political.
✔ SELF ESTEEM: Also known as “Self-confidence” /
Develop relationship skills that allow them to get
along well with others and to make them friends.
⮚ GENDER DIFFERENCES: Boys and girls face
different challenges in our culture and may have
different emotional needs during adolescence.
GIRLS tend to have lower self-esteem. Need
help learning to express anger and to be more
assertive.
BOYS it’s okay to express emotions other than
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stable base from which one can act in the
world.
THREE MAJOR STYLE OF PARENTING
● Competencies – Abilities that enable people
⮚ AUTHORITARIAN PARENTS: view children as to effectively perform roles, complete complex
having few rights but adultlike responsibilities. tasks, or achieve specific objectives.
“BOSSY” “STRICT TO THEIR STANDARDS”. RESPONSIBILITY - All children need opportunities to
⮚ PERMISSIVE PARENTS: parents require little demonstrate that they are responsible for their actions,
responsibilities behavior from their children. school works, chores, and relationships. The act or
Rules are not enforced, and the child usually get responsibility involves being trusted, making decisions,
his or her way. “COOL MOM/DAD” and answering for one’s behaviour.
⮚ AUTHORITATIVE PARENTS: BALANCING HOW DO I BECOME A RESPONSIBLE PERSON
freedom and restraint, effective parents help ▪ Be Accountable – You are always responsible on how
children become responsible to their actions and you respond.
responsible adults. ▪ Stop Blaming - When you stop pointing the finger,
NORMAL CHILDHOOD PROBLEMS you have a control over yourself.
▪ Acknowledge what Happen – “How can I make it up
⮚ Sleep Disturbance - Including wakefulness, to you?” it makes people willing to forgive,
frightening dreams, or desire to get their Your integrity earns respect.
parent’s bed. ▪ Accentuate the Positive - Move through your day with
⮚ Specific Fear - Dark, Dogs, School, or a positive attitude. Remember, a small shift in
particular room or person are also common. focus turns a loser into a winner.
⮚ Overly Timid - Most children will be overly ▪ See yourself Clearly – A responsible person does not
timid at times, allowing themselves to be dismiss her/his own achievements.
bullied by other children into giving up toys, ▪ Say “Thank You” - Accept praise graciously.
a place in line and be like. Practice Healthy Self-focus - Thinking too much about
⮚ General Dissatisfactions – Temporary our problems, can worrying endlessly about the future.
periods, when nothing pleases the child. Take time to really what makes you happy. It is a way
⮚ General Negativism - Marked by tantrums, of beginning self-love
refusal to do anything requested.
⮚ Clinging – Children refuses to leave the side LESSON 4: THE CHALLENGES OF
of their mothers or to do anything on their MIDDLE AND LATE ADOLESCENCE.
own.
⮚ Sibling Rivalry – Jealousy, Rivalry. A limited ADOLESCECE (12 – 13 Years old) are
amount of aggression give and take experiencing all kinds of new changes in their bodies
between siblings. and in their feelings. As well, they often encounter
⮚ Rebellion – Some of them are against to the challenges such as struggling to leave behind their
rules and regulations of their parents. childhood and become adults.
THE FOUNDATION OF YOUNG ADULTS SUCCESS
CHALLENGES OF ADOLESCENT.
These factors capture how a young adult poised for Geldard and Geldard (2006) explain that
success interacts with the world. These three factors adolescence is a time in a young person’s life where
are more powerful. they move from dependency on their parents to
● Agency – The ability to make choices about independence, autonomy and maturity.
and take an active role in one’s life path. BIOLOGICAL CHALLENGES.
● Integrated Industry – Serves as an internal Adolescence begins with the first well –
framework for making choices and provides a defined maturation event called puberty. Included in
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due to the release of the sexual hormones that affect 3. Accepting one’s physique.
emotions. The beginning of puberty and the rate of body
COGNITIVE CHALLENGES. changes for adolescents varies tremendously.
Jean Piaget Cognitive Development Theory. 4. Achieving emotional independence from
SCHEMATA – Basic units of the intellect. parents and other adults.
ASSIMILATION – Taking in new information that easily Children derive strength from internalizing their
fits. parents’ values and attitudes. However, must
ACCOMODATION – Deal with knowledge from redefine sources of personal strength and move
environment by changing our own structures. toward self-reliance.
5. Preparing for marriage and family life.
Sexual maturation is the basis for this
developmental task. Achievement of this
developmental task is difficult because
adolescents often confuse sexual feelings with
genuine intimacy.
6. Preparing for an economic career.
In our society, an adolescent reaches adult status
when he or she is able to financially support
himself or herself.
7. Acquiring a set of values and an ethical
system as a guide to behaviour developing an
ideology.
PSYCHOLOGICAL CHALLENGES. Adolescent is able to develop his or her own set
The adolescent must cope with are moving of values and beliefs.
from childhood to adulthood. A new person is 8. Desiring and achieving socially responsible
emerging, where rules will change, maybe more behaviour.
responsibilities will be placed on him/her so that a The family is where children define themselves
certain standard of behaviour is now required to be and their world. Adolescents define themselves
maintained. ACCOUNTABILITY is becoming an and their world from their new social role.
expectation from both a parental and legal concept.
EIGHT DEVELOPMENTAL TASKS THAT ENABLE
ADOLECENTS TO CREATE AN IDENTITY
1. Achieving new and more mature relations
with others, both boys and girls, in their age
group. Adolescents learn through
experimentations to interact with others in more
adult ways.
2. Achieving a masculine or feminine social
role.
Male (Assertive & Strong)
Female (Passive & Weak)
Adolescents conform to the sex roles of our
cultural view of characteristics. We need to
encourage males to express their feelings and
encourage females to assert themselves more
than they have in the past.