Durham LGBTQ

Youth Resource
Guide Duke Human Rights Center
Pauli Murray Project
at the Franklin Humanities Institute

Design by Kade O’Connor for the Pauli Murray Center, 2014. Contact at kajocon@gmail.com
Durham LGBTQ Youth
Resource guide
Duke Human Rights Center
Pauli Murray Project
at the Franklin Humanities Institute

This guide was compiled by Dolores Chandler, MSW and the Pauli Murray Project.
The goal of the Durham LGBTQ Youth Resource Guide is to provide human service agencies,
community organizations and adults who are in contact with youth (ages 13-24) in Durham
with information and resources to assist young people who may identify as LGBTQ, gender
non-conforming, same gender loving, and two-spirit.

Hopefully, this guide is incomplete. If your organization is not listed and you feel like you
provide affirming services and support to young LGBTQ people living in Durham or you would
like to receive training and education about LGBTQ youth, please contact Dolores Chandler at
dchandler83@gmail.com or (919) 444-1717.

Table of Contents
Finding the Right Words ............................................................................................. 5
A Durham Community That Cares ........................................................................... 10
Youth-Led & Youth Focused Organizations ........................................................ 11
How to be an Ally to Trans Youth ............................................................................. 13
Schools ..................................................................................................................... 14
Fact Sheets, Tool Kits, Curricula, Posters ................................................................ 16
Open & Affirming Religious Congregations .............................................................. 17
Physical & Mental Health Resources ....................................................................... 18
Support Groups .................................................................................................. 19
LGBTQ Affirming Therapists ............................................................................... 20
Legal | Emergency Services ..................................................................................... 22
Beyond Durham: Chapel Hill .................................................................................... 23
Beyond Durham: Raleigh ......................................................................................... 24
LGBTQ Holidays and Important Dates ..................................................................... 25
More LGBTQ Online Resources ............................................................................... 26
The Struggle Moving Forward .................................................................................. 27

To learn more about the Pauli Murray Project visit us at www.paulimurrayproject.org

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The goal of this list is to provide an introduction to language used within the LGBTQ
community. No glossary could encompass diversity of ways that communities and
individuals identify. If you hear a term you don’t recognize, or feel like someone is using a
term in a new way, ask the individual what the term means to that individual.

Ally A person who supports and respects sexual diversity, acts accordingly to challenge
homophobic and heterosexist remarks and behaviors, and is willing to explore and
understand these forms of bias within him or herself. Often describes a heterosexual
individual who is nevertheless part of the LGBT community.

Asexual Someone who does not experience sexual attraction towards other people, and who
identifies as asexual. May still have romantic, emotional, affectionate, or relational attractions
to other people.

Bisexual A person who is emotionally, romantically, sexually, affectionately, or relationally

attracted to both men and women, or who identifies as a member of the bisexual community.

Cisgender A term for individuals whose gender identity generally matches with that assigned
for their physical sex. In other words, a person who does not identify as transgender.

Closet Used as slang for the state of not publicizing one’s sexual identity, keeping it private,
living an outwardly heterosexual life while identifying as LGBTQ, or not being forthcoming
about one’s identity. At times, being in the closet also means not wanting to admit one’s
sexual identity to oneself.

Coming Out To disclose one’s sexual identity or gender identity. It can mean telling others
or it can refer to the time when a person comes out to him/herself by admitting that his/her
identity is not what was previously assumed. In some situations, a heterosexual may feel the
need to come out about her or his identity.

Crossdresser Individual who dresses in the “opposite” gender clothing for a variety of
reasons. Crossdressing is not indicative of sexual orientation. This term replaces the
sometimes pejorative term transvestite.

FTM An abbreviation for female-to-male transsexual. This person most likely prefers
masculine pronouns.

Gay Male A man who is emotionally, romantically, sexually, affectionately, or relationally

attracted to other men, or who identifies as a member of the gay community. At times, “gay”

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(Gay Male cont.) is used to refer to all people, regardless of sex, who have their primary
sexual and or romantic attractions to people of the same sex. Lesbians and bisexuals may
feel excluded by the term “gay.”

Gender A binary sociological construct defining the collection of characteristics that are
culturally associated with maleness or femaleness: masculine and feminine make up gender
just as male and female comprise sex.

Gender Binary The idea that there are only two genders – male/female or man/woman and
that a person must be strictly gendered as either/or.

Gender Confirming Surgery Medical surgeries used to modify one’s body to be more
congruent with one’s gender identity.

Gender Identity How one perceives oneself – as a man, a woman, or otherwise.

Gender Role Norms of expected behavior for men and women assigned primarily on the
basis of biological sex; a sociological construct which varies from culture to culture.

Genderqueer A gender identity that rejects the notion that all genders can be described on
the masculine/feminine binary.

Gender Variant A person who either by nature or by choice does not conform to gender-
based expectations of society (e.g. transgender, transsexual, intersex, genderqueer, cross-
dresser, etc.).

Heteronormativity Processes through which social institutions and policies reinforce the
notion that there are only two possibilities for sex, gender, and sexual attraction: male/
masculine/attracted to women and female/feminine/attracted to men.

Heterosexism Prejudice against individuals and groups who display non-heterosexual

behaviors or identities, combined with the majority power to impose such prejudice. Usually
used to the advantage of the group in power. Any attitude, action, or practice – backed by
institutional power – that subordinates people because of their sexual orientation.

Heterosexual Privilege Those benefits derived automatically by being heterosexual that are
denied to homosexuals and bisexuals. Also, the benefits homosexuals and bisexuals receive
as a result of claiming heterosexual identity or denying homosexual or bisexual identity.

HIV-phobia The irrational fear or hatred of persons living with HIV/AIDS.

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Homophobia The irrational fear or hatred of homosexuals, homosexuality, or any behavior or
belief that does not conform to rigid sex role stereotypes. It is this fear that enforces sexism
as well as heterosexism.

Homosexual A person primarily emotionally, physically, and/or sexually

attracted to members of the same sex.

Intersex Person Someone whose sex a doctor has a difficult time categorizing as either male
or female. A person whose combination of chromosomes, gonads, hormones, internal sex
organs, gonads, and/or genitals differs from one of the two expected patterns.

Lesbian Term used to describe female-identified people attracted romantically, erotically, and/
or emotionally to other female-identified people. The term lesbian is derived from the name of
the Greek island of Lesbos and as such is sometimes considered a Eurocentric category that
does not necessarily represent the identities of African-Americans and other non-European
ethnic groups. This being said, individual female-identified people from diverse ethnic groups,
including African-Americans, embrace the term ‘lesbian’ as an identity label.

LGBTQI A common abbreviation for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer and intersexed
community.

MTF / M2F Abbreviation for male-to-female transgender or transsexual person.

Outing Involuntary disclosure of one’s sexual orientation, gender identity, or intersex status.

Packing Wearing a phallic device on the groin and under clothing for any purpose, including:
(for someone without a biological penis) the validation or confirmation of one’s masculine
gender identity; seduction; and/or sexual readiness (for one who likes to penetrate another
during sexual intercourse).

Pangendered A person whose gender identity is comprised of all or many gender

expressions.

Pansexual A person who is sexually attracted to all or many gender expressions.

Passing Describes a person’s ability to be accepted as their preferred gender/sex or race/

ethnic identity or to be seen as heterosexual.

Queer 1. An umbrella term that embraces a matrix of sexual preferences, orientations, and
habits. Queer includes lesbians, gay men, bisexuals, transpeople, intersex persons, the
radical sex communities, and many other sexually transgressive (underworld) explorers.

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(Queer cont.) 2. This term is sometimes used as a sexual orientation label instead of ‘bisexual’
as a way of acknowledging that there are more than two genders to be attracted to, or as a
way of stating a non-heterosexual orientation without having to state who they are attracted
to. 3. A reclaimed word that was formerly used solely as a slur but that has been semantically
overturned by members of the maligned group, who use it as a term of defiant pride. ‘Queer’
is an example of a word undergoing this process. For decades ‘queer’ was used solely as
a derogatory adjective for gays and lesbians, but in the 1980s the term began to be used
by gay and lesbian activists as a term of self-identification. Eventually, it came to be used
as an umbrella term that included gay men, lesbians, bisexuals, and transgendered people.
Nevertheless, a sizable percentage of people to whom this term might apply still hold ‘queer’
to be a hateful insult, and its use by heterosexuals is often considered offensive. Similarly,
other reclaimed words are usually offensive to the in-group when used by outsiders, so
extreme caution must be taken concerning their use when one is not a member of the group.

Questioning The process of examining one’s sexual orientation and/or gender identity. Can
be used as an adjective.

Same Gender Loving A term sometimes used by members of the African-American / Black
community to express an alternative sexual orientation without relying on terms and symbols
of European descent. The term emerged in the early 1990’s with the intention of offering Black
women who love women and Black men who love men a voice, a way of identifying and being
that resonated with the uniqueness of Black culture in life. (Sometimes abbreviated as ‘SGL’.)

Sex 1. A biological term dividing a species into male or female, usually on the basis of sex
chromosomes (XX = female, XY = male), hormone levels, secondary sex characteristics, and
internal and external genitalia. 2. Another term for sexual behavior or gratification. Sex is a
biological fact or a physical act.

Sexual Orientation The direction of one’s sexual interest toward members of certain sexes.
Can involve fantasy, behavior, and self-identification; a person’s general makeup or alignment
in terms of partner attraction. Includes (among others) a same-sex orientation, male-female
orientation, a bisexual orientation, and a pansexual orientation.

Sexuality A person’s exploration of sexual acts, sexual orientation, sexual pleasure, and
desire.

Stealth This term refers to when a person chooses to be secretive in the public sphere about
their gender history, either after transitioning or while successful passing. (Also referred to as
‘going stealth’ or ‘living in stealth mode’.)

Straight Another term for heterosexual.

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Stud An African-American and/or Latina masculine lesbian. Also known as ‘butch’ or
‘aggressive’.

Top Surgery This term usually refers to surgery for the construction of a male-type chest, but
may also refer to breast augmentation.

Transgender An umbrella term for those individuals whose gender identity does not match
with that assigned for their physical sex. Includes, among others, transsexuals, genderqueer
people, and crossdressers. Transgender people may identify as straight, gay, bisexual, or
some other sexual orientation. Sometimes shortened as trans.

Transgender (Trans) Community A loose category of people who transcend gender norms
in a wide variety of ways. The central ethic of this community is unconditional acceptance of
individual exercise of freedoms including gender and sexual identity and orientation.

Transition This term is primarily used to refer to the process a gender variant person
undergoes when changing their bodily appearance either to be more congruent with the
gender/sex they feel themselves to be and/or to be in harmony with their preferred gender
expression.

Transman An identity label sometimes adopted by female-to-male transsexuals to signify that

they are men while still affirming their history as females. Also referred to as ‘transguy(s).’

Transphobia The irrational fear of those who are gender variant and/or the inability to deal
with gender ambiguity.

Transsexual A person who identifies psychologically as a gender/sex other than the one
to which they were assigned at birth. Transsexuals often wish to transform their bodies
hormonally and surgically to match their inner sense of gender/sex.

Transvestite Someone who dresses in clothing generally identified with the opposite gender/
sex. While the terms ‘homosexual’ and ‘transvestite’ have been used synonymously, they are
in fact signify two different groups. The majority of transvestites are heterosexual males who
derive pleasure from dressing in “women’s clothing”. (The preferred term is ‘cross-dresser,’
but the term ‘transvestite’ is still used in a positive sense in England.)

Transwoman An identity label sometimes adopted by male-to-female transsexuals to signify

that they are women while still affirming their history as males.

Two-Spirit Contemporary term chosen to describe Native American and Canadian First
Nation people who identify with a third gender, implying a masculine and a feminine spirit in
one body.

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that cares
Community Partnerships, Inc.-Youth Employed & Succeeding (YES) Program
www.communitypartnerships.org/youth-employed-and-succeeding
The YES program works to keep disenfranchised young people from continuing in a cycle of poverty,
crime, and hopelessness. The YES program helps youth improve basic math and reading skills, earn
their high school diplomas or GEDs, earn professional certifications and licenses, develop leadership
skills etc.

El Centro Hispano
www.elcentronc.org
https://www.facebook.com/pages/El-Centro-Hispano-Inc/132854053415670
Follow El Centro on Twitter @ElCentroHispano
(919) 687-4635
600 East Main St., Durham, NC 27701
LGTB Support Group El Centro organizes & facilitates bi-monthly support groups in Carrboro, Chapel
Hill & Durham for Hispanic/Latinos who identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender
HIV/STD Prevention El Centro holds educational courses about HIV & STD prevention for the Hispanic/
Latino communities in Durham, Chapel Hill & Carrboro. El Centro also provides HIV/STD testing in
collaboration with other organizations.

Durham Bike Co-op

www.durhambikecoop.org
www.facebook.com/durham.coop
contact@durhambikecoop.org
(919)-675-2453
715 Washington St., Durham, NC (lower level and around back – follow the gravel driveways)
LGBTQ and Allied Folks Open Shop-Second Tuesdays of every month from 7-10pm

Durham Teen Center

http://durhamnc.gov/ich/cmo/Pages/Durham-Teen-Center.aspx
(919) 354-2730
1101 Cornell St., Durham, NC 27707
Hours: 2:30 pm to 7 pm Monday – Friday, 1 pm to 6 pm on Durham Public Schools early release days.
The Durham Teen Center provides middle and high school youth (ages 13-19) with high quality
programming. The center encourages youth to express themselves, transcend personal boundaries,
learn the value of service to their community, and develop individual assets that foster healthy and
meaningful lives

Infinity Diamond Club

www.infinitydiamondclub.com
www.facebook.com/infinity.diamondclub
Infinity Diamond Club is an inclusive social empowerment organization solely dedicated to fostering
Unity, Fellowship and Friendship within the community. It allows individuals to come together across
racial, cultural, economic, and religious and other stereotyping labels to create safe places and
empowering atmospheres where we can share and learn from each other. We intend to be a vehicle

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that cares
that empowers individuals to take back their lives, dignity and power regardless of their age, race, sex,
religion, sexual orientation, ethnic background or disabilities. We are reaching people through friendship
& love and empowering them for change. We welcome singles, couples and families, because
“We Are 1”.

LGBTQ Center of Durham

www.facebook.com/lgbtqcenterdurham
www.lgbtqcenterofdurham.com
We’re in the midst of working to bring together LGBTQ people and our allies from Durham and its
surrounding communities in the northwestern Research Triangle Region to build a center that reflects
who we are, serves all our people and provides us with a place to just be.

SpiritHouse NC
www.spirithouse-nc.org
www.youtube.com/SpiritHouseNC
www.facebook.com/spirithouse.inc
Follow SpiritHouse on Twitter @SpiritHouse_inc
SpiritHouse Inc is a cultural arts and organizing organization that works with low-wealth families and
community members to uncover and uproot the systemic barriers that prevent us from gaining the
resources, leverage and capacity for long-term self-sufficiency.

Youth-Led & Youth Focused Organizations

InsideOut180/Upsidedown
www.insideout180.org
www.facebook.com/groups/insideoutgroup
Youth Board: boardinsideout@gmail.com
Adult: Amy Glaser, insideoutamy@gmail.com, (919) 923-7884
iNSIDEoUT is a youth-founded, youth-led organization that provides leadership opportunities & a safe
space for North Carolina’s LGBTQISA-queer youth, both in & out of schools. By providing educational-,
social-, & activism-oriented programs, iNSIDEoUT strives to form, strengthen, & network Gay-Straight
Alliances while connecting & empowering youth, seeking to expand beyond the Triangle. iNSIDEoUT
encourages you to become a part of our family & community.

QORDS – Queer Oriented Rap/Rock Day School

www.qords.org
www.facebook.com/Qords
www.qordsinfo.tumblr.com
qordsinfo@gmail.com
QORDS is a week-long overnight summer camp for queer youth or youth of queer parents. Young
people ages 12-17 form bands and write songs to perform at the end of the week. The performance
is for family and friends to attend at a showcase venue. Campers attend workshops on issues related
to creative expression, gender identity, and sexual orientation as well as engage in other recreational
activities.

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that cares
SaySo (Strong Able Youth Speaking Out)
www.saysoinc.org
sayso@ilrinc.com
https://www.facebook.com/sayso.out
http://instagram.com/sayso_inc
(919) 384-1457
411 Andrews Rd., Suite 140, Durham NC 27705
A statewide association of youth aged 14 to 24 who are or have been in the out-of-home care system
that is based in North Carolina. This includes all types of substitute care, including foster care, group
homes, mental health placements and kinship care. SaySo’s mission is to work to improve the substitute
care system by educating the community, speaking out about needed changes and providing support to
youth who are or have been in substitute care.

Youth Organizing Institute

http://wakeyouth.wordpress.com
www.facebook.com/YouthOrganizingInstitute
The YOI is a popular education leadership development program centered on empowering the lives and
experiences of young people.

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How to be an ally
to trans youth
DO:
ASK your client how you can be a good ally – Some good questions are: “Would you like me to correct other
peoples’ pronoun usage?” “When do you want me to stand up for you?” “When do you prefer to stand up for
yourself?”

TAKE YOUTH AND THEIR GENDER IDENTITY SERIOUSLY. It’s highly likely that you’re the first and maybe
only person in their life to do so.

ASK your client what pronouns they use, if you’re unsure. Then RESPECT their decision.

BE SENSITIVE. Years of hostility and abuse can take a toll on youth. Many trans youth have social and
emotional difficulties resulting from this. In addition, many trans youth develop unhealthy coping mechanisms
such as substance abuse, eating disorders, self-harm, etc.

ASK youth about what support systems they have in place (chosen family, friends, lovers, mentors, etc.) and let
them tell you who their family is. For many transgendered people, the most important relationships in their lives
are not with their family of origin.

CALL your client by the name they go by in your interactions with them. You can do this even if you still have to
use their former names for legal transactions such as paychecks or insurance.

RESPECT that there are many ways to be transgendered. Nontraditional gender expressions are valid. Some
trans youth’s ideal for gender is to be gender-fluid, genderqueer or androgynous.

UNDERSTAND that transgender people can and do lead healthy sexual lives, whether that means respectful,
loving long-term relationships, or satisfying short encounters. There are plenty of people, transgender or non-
transgender, who find trans people desirable.

EDUCATE YOURSELF on transgender issues – it’s not your transgender clients’ responsibility to educate you.

DON’T:
Out anyone (or allow their peers to do so) without their consent – this can create dangerous situations and too
many trans people have been assaulted or killed because they were outed. Always ask before you out a trans
person to anyone.

Ask what a trans person’s former name was. Most do not disclose former/legal names unless absolutely
necessary and prefer to keep this information confidential.

Second-guess what gender someone “really” is. This is disrespectful. Birth sex or anatomy isn’t always the same
as gender.

Assume that passing means success, and not passing means failure. It is not every trans person’s priority or goal
to conform to gender stereotypes.

Assume that all transgender people are heterosexual.

Make assumptions about religion. Many trans folks belong to religious traditions that support their identity and
contributions, while for others spirituality may not be important.

*This page has been adapted from a resource developed by Aidan Dunn, Brooklynne Thomas and Simon Knaphus for the Youth Gender Project © 2004.

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Schools
High School
Achievement Academy of Durham
www.achievedurham.org
www.facebook.com/achievementacademydurham
gerdheim@AchieveDurham.org
(919) 956-8918
400 West Main St., Suite 103, Durham, NC 27701
Achievement Academy of Durham teaches and supports young adults who have dropped out of school
in order to reconnect them to the opportunities an education provides.

Communities in Schools of Durham

www.cisdurham.org
Communities in Schools of Durham provides one on one support for students at risk of dropping out of
school, school wide services to help students graduate and move on to post-graduate life. CIS Durham
also provides a parenting program for parents of elementary age students; and a teacher program for
NC Pre-K teachers, as well as a summer literacy program for elementary school children.

High School Gay/Queer Straight Alliances

C.E. Jordan High School
Adviser: Daniel Miller - daniel.miller@dpsnc.net

City of Medicine Academy

(919) 560-2001

Durham School of the Arts

(919) 560-3926

North Carolina School of Science and Math SPECTRUM

Adviser: Kim Howell - (919) 416-2819

Riverside High School

(919) 560-3965

Colleges & Universities

Duke University Center for Sexual and Gender Diversity
www.studentaffairs.duke.edu/csgd
www.facebook.com/DukeCSGD
Follow on Twitter @DukeCSGD
The Center for Sexual and Gender Diversity provides education, advocacy, support, mentoring,
academic engagement, and space for lesbian, gay, bisexual, pansexual, transgender, transsexual,
intersex, questioning, queer and allied students, staff, and faculty at Duke. The Center for Sexual and
Gender Diversity also serves and supports Duke alumni and the greater LGBTQ community.

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Schools
Durham Technical Community College: Spectrum
https://www.facebook.com/groups/101905799849652
Contact: Ashe, Harrisa8560@connect.durhamtech.edu
Spectrum is Durham Technical Community College’s (DTCC) Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual,
Transgendered, Intersexed, Queer, Questioning, and Allies (LGBTIQQA) society or
simply The Gay Straight Alliance (GSA). We meet on the first and third Monday of every
month from 2:00PM - 3:00 PM, in the Verizon Conference Room of the Educational
Resource Center (Library Building). We are getting some great ideas together of fun
things the club can do inside and outside the school community. So come check out
Spectrum.

North Carolina Central University LGBTA Student Resource Center

http://www.nccu.edu/lgbta/index.cfm
LGBTA@nccu.edu
tdoxey@nccu.edu
(919) 530-5545
Alfonso Elder Student Union, 1801 Fayetteville Street, Durham, NC
The LGBTA Resource Center provides direct services to students as well as staff,
faculty, alumni and community members

Safe Schools NC
www.safeschoolnc.com
https://www.facebook.com/pages/SafeSchoolsNC/87005348718
Follow on Twitter @SafeSchoolsNC
Safe Schools NC is a statewide non-profit organization dedicated to creating a safe
and positive learning environment for all students and educators in North Carolina,
with an emphasis on actual or perceived sexual orientation and gender identity.

Quick Resources
Know Your Rights! A Quick Guide for LGBT High School Students
https://www.aclu.org/lgbt-rights_hiv-aids/know-your-rights-quick-guide-lgbt-
high-school-students
Tips on Starting a Gay Straight Alliance
https://www.aclu.org/lgbt-rights/how-start-gay-straight-alliance-gsa
Becoming and Anti-Racist GSA and other wonderful resources
http://insideout180.org/gsasqsas/resources
Making Your Student Club Trans-Inclusive
http://www.glsen.org/download/file/MzE4Ng==

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FactSheets ToolKits
Curricula Posters
Freeing Ourselves: Published by the Brown Boi Project, Freeing Ourselves is a
powerful resource and health guide for masculine-of-center, gender nonconforming,
and transmen of color: https://brownboiproject.nationbuilder.com/health_guide
Safe Schools Coalition: http://www.safeschoolscoalition.org/RG-posters.html
Donnelly/Colt: www.donnellycolt.com
Gender Poster: http://www.crimethinc.com/tools/posters.html
Reach & Teach: www.reachandteach.com/store
Gay is K Poster Series: The Attic Youth Center: http://www.atticyouthcenter.org/
community/featured-projects/2012-safe-schools-kit/gay-k-poster-series
American Medical Student Association: http://www.amsa.org/AMSA/Homepage/
About/Committees/GenderandSexuality.aspx
American Psychological Association: Lesbian & Gay Parenting: Theoretical &
Conceptual Examinations Related to Lesbian & Gay Parenting: http://www.apa.org/pi/
lgbt/resources/parenting.aspx
Bending the Mold: An Action Kit for Transgender Students: www.lambdalegal.org/
publications/toolkits
The Center for HIV Law & Policy: In 2010 CHLP released Juvenile Injustice: The
Unfulfilled Rights of Youth in State Custody to Comprehensive Sexual Health Care.
Download the full report at www.hivlawandpolicy.org/resources/view/565
NRCPFC: LGBTQ Children and Youth in Child Welfare: Sexual Orientation LGBTQ
Youth Issues: www.nrcpfc.org/is/LGBTQ-Children-and-Youth-in-ChildWelfare.html
Gay and Lesbian Medical Association: Population specific health care information:
http://www.glma.org
Groundspark: Respect for all Project: http://groundspark.org/respect-for-all
GSA Networks: How to start and sustain GSAs: www.gsanetwork.org &
www.gaystraightalliance.org
The Leadership Conference: The nation’s premier civil & human rights coalition:
www.civilrights.org/lgbt/youth
National Black Justice Coalition: www.nbjc.org
The Network LaRed: Survivor-led Organizing to End Partner Abuse: Open Minds
Open Doors is a manual to help domestic violence providers become more inclusive
of LGBTQ survivors. It contains information on LGBTQ communities, partner abuse,
assessments, policy recommendations and resources. http://tnlr.org/resources/#sheets
National Gay and Lesbian Task Force: Injustice at Every Turn: A Report of the
National Transgender Discrimination Survey (2011) http://www.thetaskforce.org/
injustice-every-turn-report-national-transgender-discrimination-survey/
Hidden Injustice: Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Youth in Juvenile Courts
http://www.equityproject.org/pdfs/hidden_injustice.pdf

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Religious Congregations
Imani MCC of Durham First Presbyterian Church
www.imanimcc.org http://firstpres-durham.org
(919) 251-6275 https://www.facebook.com/
3602 C-View Street, Durham, NC groups/50604253500
27713 s.finbow@firstpres-durham.org Youth
Minister: Sara Finbow
Eno River Unitarian Universalist (919) 682-5511
Fellowship 305 E. Main Street, Durham, NC
www.eruuf.org 27701
(919) 489-2575 First Presbyterian Church welcomes
4907 Garrett Road, Durham, NC all who worship here. We honor and
27707 celebrate the human diversity and
ERUUF is a UUA “Welcoming unity that God gives us in Christ.
Congregation” and is committed We welcome individuals of every
to the inclusion of every person. All age, race, nationality, gender, ability,
are welcome without regard to race, sexual orientation, and economic
ethnicity, gender, sexual orientation or circumstance to participate fully in
economic status. the life of the church. Worship on
Sundays at 11:00 am.
All Souls Church, Unitarian
Universalist Saint Philip’s Episcopal Church
www.allsoulsdurham.org http://st-philips-durham.dionc.org
neal.shepherd1@gmail.com https://www.facebook.com/
(919) 972-8197 stphilipsdurham
Meeting at Walltown Children’s 403 East Main Street, Durham, NC
Theatre: 1125 Berkeley St., Durham, 27701
NC 27705 (919) 682-5708
Worship on Sundays at 11:00 a.m. St. Philip’s exists to share the love of
Jesus Christ with our community and
Pilgrim United Church of Christ the world
www.pilgrimucc-durham.org through worship and service. We
(919) 489-1381 welcome individuals of every race,
3011 Academy Road, Durham, NC nationality, gender, age, ability,
Worship on Sundays at 10:30 a.m. sexual orientation, and economic
followed by fellowship at 11:30 a.m. circumstance to participate fully in the
life of the church.
Calvary United Methodist Church
www.calvarync.org
www.facebook.com/calvarync
(919) 668-7138
304 E. Trinity Ave., Durham, NC 27701
Worship on Sundays at 11:00 a.m.

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Health Resources
Becoming Durham
www.becomingdurham.org
www.facebook.com/becomingdurham
Follow BECOMING on Twitter @BECOMINGDURHAM
414 E Main St., Durham, NC
(919) 651-8400
BECOMING- Building Every Chance of Making It Now and Grown Up is a System
of Care SAMHSA grant funded initiative administered through Alliance Behavioral
Healthcare that focuses on assisting youth, 16-21 years old to make a positive
transition to adulthood. BECOMING invests in the lives of disconnected young
adults to empower them to take control of their futures. BECOMING serves emerging
adults with behavioral health conditions, who are struggling to make the transition to
a productive adulthood and have become disconnected from important community
services and supports such as education, families, mentors and employment
opportunities. Youth in BECOMING may be pregnant or parenting, have had a criminal
justice encounter, be transitioning out of foster care, unemployed or underemployed,
not enrolled in school, or have unstable housing. BECOMING hosts several youth
support and youth leadership groups to assist youth in making connections to various
resources and further developing leadership and advocacy skills.
For more information on these groups, please contact Garron B. Rogers at
919-651-8831.

North Carolina Harm Reduction Coalition

www.nchrc.org
robert@nchrc.net
www.facebook.com/groups/ncharmreduction
www.twitter.com/NCHarmReduction
Follow NCHRC on Twitter @NCHarmReduction
www.ncharmreduction.tumblr.com
(336) 543-8050
North Carolina Harm Reduction Coalition engages in grassroots advocacy, resource
development, coalition building and direct services for those made vulnerable by drug
use, sex work, overdose, immigration status, gender, STIs, HIV and hepatitis. NCHRC
provides free non-judgmental education and resources for both individuals and groups
in the Durham area on safer sex, safer drug use, transgender support, syringe access,
and overdose prevention & naloxone use.

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Physical i Mental
Health Resources
Carolina Outreach
www.carolinaoutreach.com
2670 Durham-Chapel Hill Blvd., Durham, NC 27707
(919) 251-9001
Carolina Outreach provides mental health services Durham and other counties.
Carolina Outreach advocates a families-first approach, where in-home strengths-
based services could help families become self-sufficient and remain intact. Services
for children & youth include home-based, school-based, and outpatient therapies in
English and Spanish. Carolina Outreach also runs an Independent Living Program
for young people ages 15-21. The Independent Living Program utilizes a continuum
of community support, independent living skills classes, vocational and educational
opportunities, and need-based financial and housing supports.

Triangle Empowerment Center, Inc.

www.facebook.com/TriangleEmpowermentCenter
triangleempowermentcenter@yahoo.com
(919) 423-8902
Triangle Empowerment Center, Inc. is a nonprofit community-based organization
that has a variety of services that include HIV/AIDS testing, counseling, prevention,
education, and outreach. TEC also provides referrals and has various programs for the
LGBT community including a poc men’s group and an MClub. MClub is a program that
can be in one-one-one or group sessions that is behavior-based to teach Gay/Bisexual
men, ages 16-29, about safer sex and reduce the risk of HIV/STD infection.

Support Groups
Durham Alateen
Duke Memorial United Methodist Church
504 W. Chapel Hill St., Durham, NC
This is a closed meeting for English speakers that meets every Sunday at 8 PM.

Durham Gender Alliance

https://groups.yahoo.com/group/durhamgenderalliance
Contact: Lea Salas, Community Trans-Advocate & Consultant
soy_lea@yahoo.com
Durham Gender Alliance is a moderated gender-issues support group serving the
Durham, Cary, Chapel Hill, Raleigh and nearby regions of North Carolina. Please join
the group to receive information about meeting days and times.

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Physical i Mental
Health Resources
(Support Groups Cont.)
GLBT Alcoholics Anonymous Meeting
Duke Episcopal Student Center
505 Alexander Avenue, Durham, NC
Meets every Monday at 6:30 PM.

Transforming Family
andrea@transformingfamily.org
Support group for trans* children and their families. Alternates last Saturday of each
month between Durham and Greensboro.

Triangle Chapter of Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG)

www.pflagtriangle.org
1st Thursdays, 7:30 pm
Pilgrim United Church of Christ
3011 Academy Rd, Durham, NC
Triangle PFLAG supports families by working to keep families in loving relationships
and helping them understand and affirm their gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgendered
family members.

LGBTQ Affirming Therapists

Meredith Hancock, LCSW
www.mhancocktherapy.com
(503) 680-0763
Works with clients (ages 15 and up) on a range of issues including sexual orientation,
relationship challenges, and dealing with discrimination. Affirms transgender and
gender non-conforming identities and can assist with exploring prospects of
transitioning and connecting clients to resources. Also offers transgender evaluation
and recommendation letter for hormone replacement therapy and gender confirmation
surgery.

Kenny Levine, LCSW

www.kennylevine.com
(919) 475-3068
1502 Highway 54 West, Ste. 505, Durham NC 27707
Provides psychotherapy for adults, adolescents and couples around issues such as
anxiety, depression, substance abuse, sexuality etc. Works with LGB couples and
individuals. In-network provider for Blue Cross and Blue Shield of North Carolina.

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Physical i Mental
Health Resources
Eli Ogburn, LCSW
eliogburnlcsw@gmail.com
(919) 322-9355
819 Broad St., Durham, NC 27705
As a trans-identified clinician, Eli serves primarily transgender and gender
nonconforming clients as well as clients who identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, or
queer. Eli has a particular passion for working with trans adolescents, adults, and
their support systems on a range of issues related to gender identity. Eli uses an anti-
oppression framework and a variety of theoretical approaches such as CBT, DBT, CPT,
and mindfulness-based therapy.

Dr. Molly Parks

www.drmollyparks.com
drmollyparks@gmail.com
(919) 937-8335
817 Broad St., Durham, NC 27705
Dr. Parks has a wide range of experience working with children and teens in multiple
therapeutic settings. She works with children and youth who are struggling with
anxiety, depression, social isolation, divorce, trauma, gender questioning and gender
variance, and school based issues. Out-of-network provider with a limited amount of
need-based sliding scale spots are available. Contact Dr. Parks if you would like to
discuss this option.

Dr. Frances Ulman

www.francesulmanphd.com
francesulmanphd@gmail.com
(919) 322-9838
911 Broad St., Durham, NC 27705
Specializes in treatment of eating disorders and body image concerns, working with
individuals who identify as transgender, transsexual, gender variant or gender non-
conforming, including providing therapy and letters for hormone treatment and surgery.
Out-of-network, with limited number of sliding scale fee spots available.

Duke Integrated Pediatric Mental Health

psychiatry.duke.edu/ipmh
Follow on Twitter @DukeIPMH
2608 Erwin Road, Suite 300, Durham NC 27705
(919) 668-0066, (919) 681-0036
Contact Integrated Pediatric Mental Health for referrals to culturally competent and
inclusive therapists.

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legal AND EMERGENCY
SERVICES
Legal Aid of North Carolina-Advocates for Children’s Services (ACS)
www.legalaidnc.org/public/learn/projects/advocates-for-childrens-services/default.aspx
201 West Main St., Suite 400, Durham, NC 27701
(919) 226-0052/ (919) 226-0053
ACS focuses on serving children in the public education system. ACS’ cases involve:
short-term suspension; long-term suspension; expulsion; involuntary transfers to
alternative schools; denial of enrollment; discrimination on the basis of race, national
origin, sex, sexual orientation, or disability; mistreatment by school security personnel;
special education; bullying; and academic failure. ACS attorneys also conduct “Know
Your Rights” presentations.

Durham Crisis Response Center

www.durhamcrisisresponse.org
www.facebook.com/DurhamCrisisResponseCenter
24-Hour Crisis Line: (919) 403-6562 (English), (919) 519-3735 (Español)
crisisline@durhamcrisisresponse.org
The Durham Crisis Response Center works with the community to end domestic and
sexual violence through advocacy, education, support and prevention. DCRC provides
comprehensive shelter and support services in the Durham area, providing counseling,
legal advocacy, support groups, and shelter to survivors and their families in the
aftermath of domestic or sexual violence.

Urban Ministries of Durham

www.umdurham.org
www.facebook.com/UrbanMinistriesOfDurham
(919) 682-0538
410 Liberty Street, Durham, NC 27701
Community Shelter (18+), Community Café (3 meals/day), Food Pantry, Clothing Closet,
Private Shower, Recovery

Community Consultants & Advocates

Dolores Chandler, MSW
dchandler83@gmail.com
(919) 444-1717

Lea Salas, Community Trans-Advocate & Consultant

soy_lea@yahoo.com

*Please contact Dolores Chandler at the info above if you would like to be added to this list of community consultants
& advocates

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BEYOND DURHAM
Chapel Hill
Planned Parenthood-Chapel Hill Health Center
(919) 942-7762
Planned Parenthood offers sexual and reproductive health services, as well as hormone
replacement therapy for trans men and trans masculine clients over the age of 18.

NC Harm Reduction Coalition: Trans Discussion Group

Contact: Loftinwilson@gmail.com
Every other Wednesday, 8 pm
Internationalist Books
New Location! 101 Lloyd Street, Carrboro
This is a support group for folks who identify as transgender, transsexual, genderqueer,
crossdresser, or otherwise in any way gender-nonconforming or gender questioning.
One night a month is open to anyone, and one is only for folks who identify as
transgender/gender-nonconforming/genderqueer.

Trans Talk Tuesdays

1st & 3rd Tuesday of each month, 6:15-7:15 pm
Caribou Coffee Community Room
1406 E. Franklin Street
lgbtq@unc.edu
(919) 843-5376
Join UNC’s LGBTQ Center’s peer support/discussion group for folks that identify as
transgender, intersex and genderqueer. This space is meant to provide community and
connection amongst folks on the basis of gender identity. The group is open to campus
and community members that identify as transgender, intersex or genderqueer. All
students, staff, faculty, community members are welcome.

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BEYOND DURHAM
Raleigh
Alliance of Disability Advocates
www.alliancecil.org
alliance@alliancecil.org
(919) 883-1117 (V/TTY)
505 Oberlin Rd., Stuite 148, Raleigh, NC 27605
Alliance is based in Raleigh, NC and provides services to people with disabilities living
in Wake, Durham, Franklin, Johnston, and Orange counties. A major need addressed
by the Alliance has been services for youth with disabilities. The Alliance hosts 2
youth groups, one for youth under 20 and another for young adults 20 and over. The
Youth Groups participate in educational and entertainment programs selected by the
members of the group, ranging from independent living skills to political awareness
rallies and from trips to the museum and theatre to movie nights.

LGBT Center of Raleigh-Youth Programming

www.lgbtcenterofraleigh.com/programs/youth-programs.html
(919) 832-4484
324 S Harrington St., Raleigh, NC 27603

El Pueblo, Inc.
www.elpueblo.org
www.facebook.com/ElPuebloInc
Follow El Pueblo on Twitter @elpuebloinc
(919) 835-1525
2321 Crabtree Blvd., Suite 105, Raleigh, NC 27604
El Pueblo’s mission is for Latinos to achieve positive social change through building
consciousness, capacity, and community action. El Pueblo engages Latino youth in
community-based advocacy, media literacy, health education, civic engagement and
positive youth development. Contact El Pueblo for more information about its youth-
led reproductive justice and health peer education program, Derechos Sin Fronteras.
El Pueblo youth are trained to deliver fun, interactive workshops for middle and high
school students. For more information contact Alex at Alexandra@elpueblo.org.

Dr. Keelee MacPhee, MD

Renaissance Plastic and Reconstructive Surgery
www.keeleemacpheemd.com
(919) 341-0915
4414 Lake Boon Trail, Suite 407, Raleigh, NC 27607
Dr. MacPhee performs FtM and MtF chest reconstruction surgery procedures in
Raleigh and also at Durham Regional Hospital. Consultation appointments are available
and a fee of $100 is charged.

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LGBTQ Holidays
and important dates
March 31 – International Transgender Day of Visibility

April – National Day of Silence (day varies from year to year)

www.dayofsilence.org
The National Day of Silence is a day of action in which students across the country vow
to take a form of silence to call attention to the silencing effect of anti-LGBT bullying and
harassment in schools.

June – Pride Month

June is celebrated as Pride in honor of the Stonewall Riots, though Pride events occur all year
round. For example, In North Carolina, Pride is celebrated in September.

September – North Carolina Pride www.ncpride.org

October – LGBTQ History Month

October 11 – National Coming Out Day

On this day we celebrate coming out as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, or as an
ally.

October 17 – Spirit Day

www.glaad.org/spiritday
On this day people wear the color purple to show support for LGBTQ youth who are victims of
bullying.

November 20 – International Transgender Day of Remembrance

The Transgender Day of Remembrance was set aside to memorialize those who were killed
due to anti-transgender hatred or prejudice.

December 1 – World AIDS Day

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More LGBTQ
online resources
www.ambientejoven.org - Spanish language website for Latino LGBTQ youth.

www.scarleteen.com - Sex Ed for the Real World: Inclusive, comprehensive, and smart
sexuality information and help for teens and people in their 20s.

www.ncpride.org/trianglelocalevents - Weekly local gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender

events in the Triangle of North Carolina

www.trianglegrrrls.com - Social events for LBT women in the Triangle of North Carolina. Find
them also on Facebook at www.facebook.com/TriangleGrrrlsAdmin .

www.nctgunity.org - This website provides information and resources for transgender people,
significant others, and friends of transgender people living in North Carolina.

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The struggle
moving forward
Durham NC was voted Americas most tolerant city in 2012 by the publication The Daily Beast,
citing the high numbers of same sex couples and low numbers of racially motivated hate
crimes reported.
The Daily Beast. (2012). America’s Most Tolerant Cities, From San Francisco to New York. Retrieved from www.thedailybeast.com

Research shows that LGBT youths “who experience high levels of rejection from their families
during adolescence (when compared with those young people who experienced little or no
rejection from parents and caregivers) were more than eight times likely to have attempted
suicide, more than six times likely to report high levels of depression, more than three times
likely to use illegal drugs and more than three times likely to be at high risk for HIV or other
STDs” by the time they reach their early 20s
http://www.buildingsafeplaces.org/index.php/topics/self-harm-and-suicidality/fact-sheet-suicidal-behavior-among-lgbt-youth.html

LGBT youth are twice as likely to experience sexual abuse before the age of 12.
National Alliance to End Homelessness. (2012). LGBTQ Homeless Youth Fact Sheet. Retrieved from www.endhomelessness.org

“More than 34,000 people die by suicide each year,” making it “the third leading cause of
death among 15 to 24 year olds with lesbian, gay, and bisexual youth attempting suicide up to
four times more than their heterosexual peers.”
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Suicide_among_LGBT_youth
http://www.speakforthem.org/facts.html

20-40% of homeless youth identify as LGBTQ. The most common reasons that LGBTQ
homeless youth cite for being out of their homes are family rejection and conflict.
Center for American Progress. (2010). Gay and Transgender Youth Homelessness by the Numbers. Retrieved from www.americanprogress.
org

Because LGBTQ homeless youth are more likely to resort to criminal behavior to survive,
they are also at greater risk of arrest, but LGBTQ homeless youth also face elevated risk of
detainment for crimes related to being homeless, such as curfew violations and sleeping in
public spaces, fueling the cycle that perpetuates homelessness.
Cray, A., Miller, K., & Durso, L.E. (2013). Seeking Shelter: The experiences and Unmet Needs of LGBT Homeless Youth. Center for American
Progress. Retrieved from www.americanprogress.org

A national survey of LGBT students conducted in 2003 4 found that, within the past year:
77.9% heard remarks such as “faggot” or “dyke” frequently or often at school (similar studies
have shown that the average high school student hears such epithets 25 times a day);
http://www.jasmyn.org/wp-content/uploads/2011/03/Lambda-Legal-LGBT-youth-in-schools.pdf

Research suggests that young people whose sexual identity is accepted and who have strong
social connections are less at risk than young people who are rejected by family, friends,
peers or their communities.
NCFY. Serving Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender and Questioning Youth with Open Arms. Retrieved from ncfy.acf.hhs.gov/book/export/
html/453

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Durham LGBTQ
Youth Resource
Guide
Duke Human Rights Center
Pauli Murray Project
at the Franklin Humanities Institute