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    15 Effective Communication Skills

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    In our toddler years, we start learning how to speak. In our childhood years most of us are going in school learning
    how to read and write, but after all of this, we still need to apply almost a lifetime to learn how to acquire effective
    communication skills.

    How to communicate with one another is a very important asset in our everyday lives.

    You know how to speak correctly, but what about listening properly? Ask yourself this, are you able to listen so you
    that may really, sincerely understand another person?

    If you are like any other human being on the planet, and even if you don’t do it all the time, you find yourself wanting
    to first get your point across and be understood.

    And by doing so, you pretend that you are listening, but in reality you ignore the other person. And by choosing to
    hear only portions of the discussion, you miss the meaning completely.

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    The Reason Why It Happens
    The major reason is that you listen not to understand the other person but with the intent to answer and say what
    you think of. And you find yourself answering a phrase as familiar as:

    “I had the same stuff happening to me.”


    “Let me tell you what I did.”
    “Yeah, I know just how you feel.”

    It happens to all of us! I just did sound like that this morning as my girlfriend in Ukraine called me to tell me that in
    the middle of the night, the earth under them moved, shaking the dishes in the kitchen cabinet and making the clock
    fall of the wall.

    I thought to myself “A small earthquake in Odessa, Ukraine…wow!”, but then I told her “Well, yes, I know how it
    feels, I lived in Los Angeles California for 8 years and there are many of them out there.”

    I had not even taken the time to silence myself to ask her how she felt, or if she was okay.

    I had analyzed her experience based on my own experience without really listening to her.

    So is it bad to relate to the other person by drawing on your own experiences?

    No, but it depends on the matter at hand, such as when someone explicitly did not ask you for your thoughts.

    The 10 First Effective Communication Skills


    Communication is an essential element of leadership as well as of everyday life, and so here are the similarities that
    most mentors have in effective communication skills.

    1. Silent listening: Sit down and listen to people. Listen carefully to their story until they are done telling it. Find
    a positive under silver lining or give them a solution if you have one.
    2. Beliefs leading to positive mental replicas: You need to understand your choices. But in choosing positive
    mental replicas like a mentor, you draw on the extraordinary ability of your brain to provide a creative positive
    result.
    3. Inquisitive but not critical: You need to be open to and inquisitive. When a situation arises, just inquire and
    prudently explore what is happening without making any prompt judgement. To do this, you have to put your
    own emotions aside and focus on the matter.
    4. Never put the blame on others: Take accountability for your state of mind. Do not put the blame on others
    for how they feel. You must learn to master your emotions, and make a choice on how to feel a certain way or
    how to react to a situation.
    5. Reliance on own body’s intuition: You have to develop a high level of self-awareness that helps you
    identify a feeling or an emotion in another person. Daily meditation is intricately linked with all internal and
    external sensations to develop your perception.
    6. Solid and focused: You need to be stable. You have to be like a 1000-year-old baobab standing unchanged,
    even in the roughest storms. Imagine what it must feel like by getting into someone else’s shoes. You are
    feeling at ease and do not need to try pleasing other people.
    7. No fear of being authentic: Get the courage to open yourself up on front of others. You have to acquire an
    equivalent amount of self-assurance and humility to be as authentic as possible so as to help people realize
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    that you are a real person.
    8. Take note of emotions behind the words: You have to pay more attention to the emotion behind the
    message than the words themselves. Make sure to recognize any underlying reaction so as to rapidly get
    through what stands between you and the person’s essential concerns.
    9. Strong about boundaries: Articulate your needs clearly. You do not need to feel guilty when you want
    something. But likewise, you must be respectful of what other people want.
    10. Understanding patterns: You must listen with one ear on what people are telling each other and use the
    other ear for the relation process. You have to scan constantly to pinpoint any changes.

    The 5 Last Communication Skills


    While the above 10 effective communication skills do relate to other people’s needs, these last 5 relate more to tips
    suited to your needs to make a better impact.

    1. Name addressing: Start addressing a person by name when meeting someone for the first time, even if you
    know that you will never see them again after your acquaintance. It creates a friendlier and more trusting
    relationship from the beginning.
    2. Invisible control: When you need to work with the general public for example, you can add a mirror behind
    you. Most people will pay more be more self-alert and well-mannered when conversing with you, since people
    do not like or feel uncomfortable seeing themselves in a mirror.
    3. Instinctive look: Pay attention when a group of people are laughing, usually people are by instinct looking
    toward the person(s) they feel closest to or desire to be closest to.
    4. Eye Color: Make an effort to observe the person’s eye color when you encounter them. They usually like to
    some extent the increased eye contact.
    5. The ‘You’ word: If or when in an argument with someone, avoid at all cost using ‘you’ as this word always
    resonate as an accusation and will barely benefit the situation at hand. Better that you formulate words like ‘I
    think’ or ‘it seems to me’.

    Put it all together, and you will have a set of effective communication skills. If you need coaching or some courses
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    these thoughts should help you in any of your next endeavors.

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    You might ask “Who is Sergeï” Well, let me tell you…My friends call me “Ice Man” and it just kind of stuck.
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