10 Personal Relationship
10 Personal Relationship
10 Personal Relationship
Personal
Development
Jahariah P. Cerna
Instructor
At the end of the lesson, the students must be able to:
SECURE ATTACHMENT
AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT
ANXIOUS-AMBIVALENT
ATTACHMENT
When the primary caregiver is
not consistent in terms of presence and
in meeting a child’s emotional needs.
Often, a person who experienced this
style of attachment in childhood may
develop separation anxieties with a
loved one, or may have mixed feelings
between hesitancy and commitment
when entering into meaningful
relationships.
What drives attraction?
Stages Of Falling In Love
(Fisher)
1. Lust- is described as the desire phase, is the craving for sexual
satisfaction which is a feeling that evolved in humans to motivate
union with a single partner.
1. Transference Effect
2. Propinquity Effect
3. Similarity
4. Reciprocity
5. Physical Attractiveness
6. Personality Characteristics and Traits
TRANSFERENCE EFFECT
There are times we meet people who we immediately like or
dislike. Usually, these people remind us of someone in the past
who has affected our sense of self and our behavior (Anderson,
Reznik, and Manzella 1996).
PROPINQUITY EFFECT
A research conducted by Festinger, Schachter, and Back in 1950
points to proximity as another possible factor why we like a
person. We often develop a sense of familiarity with people who
live close to us, work with us, or go to school with us, which leads
us to liking them more.
SIMILARITY
We often like people who we have similarities with such as social
class background, religious beliefs, age, and education.
1.Intimacy
2.Commitment
3.Passion
When people are being sexually or
personally intimate, they may perhaps
also be sharing their feelings and wants
openly with each other.
It is an absolute human certainty that no
one can know his own beauty or
perceive a sense of his own worth until
it has been reflected back to him in the
mirror of another loving, caring human
being.
It is the key component in developing intimacy, where self-disclosure
is practiced which leads no profound and meaningful conversations
that nurture and strengthen intimacy.
It is an act of deciding to consistently fulfill and live by
agreements made with another person, entity, or cause,
and where the values of integrity and respect serve as a
guide to one’s behavior and thinking.
It is the intense state of being that drives and consumes a
person to pursue an interest, a vision, or a person.
1. Criticism
2. Denial of the existence of conflict
3. Contempt
Spoilers in Married Life
(Rozenberg Quarterly)
1. Criticism
3. Contempt
Like criticism, contempt is present when someone who
looks down on the party as inferior does not give
unconditional positive regard, and aggravates the
situation by expressing superiority over the other.
Responsibilities in a RELATIONSHIP
1. Be responsible for what you think and say to the other person.
2. Be responsible for what you promise to do or not do.
3. Ensure the relationship is mutually beneficial.
4. Respect the other party or parties involved.
5. Be ready to provide support when needed.
1. Describe how you express your attraction for
someone.