The Savvy Bride's Guide: Simple Ways to a Stylish & Graceful Wedding
By Alicia Young
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Be a Savvy Bride!
Who gets a marriage proposal in the middle of a job interview? Alicia Young did. Really.
Then she nearly derailed her own wedding when she got flustered with the vows. Gazing into the eyes of her handsome groom, Jon, she declared, “I, Alicia, take you, Father Patrick. . . .”
She had almost married the priest.
While ring shopping, she breezily remarked, “Studies show, the bigger the diamond, the stronger the marriage.” Jon didn’t buy it (literally or figuratively). But years later, they’re still happily married—even without a rock the size of an ice cube.
Tips and Tales from Around the World:
Hear from other brides, glean advice from wedding experts, and be inspired by colorful customs from different cultures.
The Savvy Bride's Guide: Simple Ways to a Stylish & Graceful wedding will help you:
* Trim the guest list, control your budget, and still enjoy a decadent celebration.
* Speak fluent “bride,” from boutonnières to bomboniere.
* Sort the key elements, solve the little details, and surprise your parents with heartfelt touches they will cherish.
* Handle family dynamics with the polish of a seasoned diplomat.
See also The Savvy Bride’s Guide: Your Wedding Checklist for a handy countdown to the final three months.
Alicia Young
Alicia Young is an Australian international TV journalist with more than fifteen years’ experience as a medical reporter, foreign correspondent, and news anchor. Prior to journalism, she was a social worker and crisis counselor. Alicia was once told off by Mother Teresa for not having children and has volunteered at a hospice and leprosy hospital in India. Outside work, Alicia handles parasols and power tools with equal ease (not really). She lives in the US.www.savvylife.net
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The Savvy Bride's Guide - Alicia Young
INTRODUCTION
Getting married is a universal ritual—yet how, when, and where we pledge I do
is a wickedly fun, deliciously personal choice. While a wedding is a joyous occasion, it also takes planning to navigate many decisions in an often compressed time. This book will guide you through myriad options, from the moment you’re engaged to the time you comb the confetti from your hair. Whether it’s tips on choosing your bridal party or the key elements to look for when you scout your location,
you’ll find it here.
Even before pledging your vows, the way you are proposed to—or the way you pop the question yourself—is rich with possibility. Have you always dreamed of a classic down-on-bended-knee proposal? Does your heart race at the thought of your loved one asking you on a stadium jumbotron screen before forty thousand people? How about during a hot-air balloon ride or atop the gorgeous hill you hiked on your first date, with a carpet of wildflowers at your feet?
My husband, Jon, proposed in the middle of a job interview we both attended. Really. We had been living together when he was offered a position as a live-in housemaster assistant at a boarding school. We met with the principal, who told me, I’d love to have you here too, but you can’t live in sin. I’ll give you a month to get married.
I began to retort, "I think not … (with … my best arched eyebrow), when next to me I heard,
Sure, we’ll see you in a month. I swung around to see Jon smiling and shrugging,
Why not?" So we had two weddings. First came a small legal ceremony on a cliff top overlooking the ocean. This idea might sound lovely—it was—but we forgot about the wind factor: my hair billowed above me in a cylinder, and I vaguely resembled Marge from The Simpsons.
Later, we had a traditional church service. And somewhere between the two, we enjoyed a honeymoon safari on a shoestring. As you can see, I’m open to doing things out of order if it works.
Oh—a little confession up front: I almost derailed a crucial part of our church ceremony. Vows tend to be rather straightforward, but mine took an unexpected turn. When the time came, I gazed lovingly into Jon’s eyes and declared, I, Alicia, take you, Father Patrick…
Jon was stunned, but laughed and graciously overlooked it. The priest was speechless, though he later said it was the best offer he’d had. I would hope so! How many brides end up proposing to the clergy?
THE SAVVY BRIDE
You might wonder: what differentiates a Savvy Bride from all others? In short, a graceful approach to this special day. She delights in a good celebration as much as the next girl, but knows this wedding is just the beginning of her and her spouse’s lives together, not the destination itself. And she gently understands that curious paradox of weddings: that they’re both unique and commonplace. When this bride-to-be weds her beloved, it’s special because it’s their day, but because many of us marry, she doesn’t behave as though she’s the first or only woman ever to go through it. This lends a healthy perspective to both cherishing the delights and accepting the challenges (familial, budgetary, faith based, or otherwise) that might lie ahead.
A Savvy Bride is also aware of MY-itis. You know, as in it’s MY day. MY dream wedding. MY dress (okay, we’ll give you that last one). She refers to OUR wedding. OUR day. OUR honeymoon, at least some of the time (written with a smile).
SIDESTEPPING COMPETITION
Are you planning a wedding around the same time as a friend, relative, or colleague? Keep in mind how a little fun comparing notes can lead to competition. You’ll want the relationship to last long after your respective celebrations, so resist rivalry, however subtle. Be happy for the other couple and toast their choices.
When it comes to receiving advice from friends and relatives, listen respectfully and sort the wheat from the chaff. Stay open to what they’re saying, then discard what doesn’t work for you. Keep some pleasant, noncommittal stock phrases up your sleeve.
YOUR BRIDE BRAND
Relax. I’m not using the word brand
here to suggest you view your wedding as a cold business decision. But whether you know it or not, we each have a brand that broadcasts to others how we see ourselves. Imagine sitting at your favorite outdoor café and enjoying people-watching as you sip. You probably can sum up in one or two words the feeling you get about people as they saunter, stride, or bustle past. Edgy? In command? Creative?
Now turn the focus on yourself. Consider your walk, your speech, your general dress in everyday life, and the message that they broadcast to the world about who you are.
Many women find the type of bride they want to be is a natural extension of that essence, while others want to adopt a more dramatic departure. Some of the most easygoing girls want to feel like Queen for a Day or a princess. I once worked with a mousy administrative assistant who dressed in quiet neutrals and never initiated conversation. She shocked everyone by strutting down the aisle as a 1930s vamp, with a striking diamante headpiece and her thick, sensible spectacles replaced by lashings of dramatic liquid eyeliner.
A WORD ON GROOMS
When planning her wedding, the Savvy Bride may ponder the issue of how much to involve her groom. Many men today take an active interest and want to help with the planning and organizing of their nuptials. They might design rings, pen the vows, or contribute compelling ideas on music and menus.
But I say with affection, those with a Y chromosome have generally less stamina for wedding-related details than we do. I teased Jon, Be at the church at three o’clock. I’ll be the one in white.
Sure, he was involved in the planning, but my advice would be to avoid saddling your groom with too many details if he’s a little resistant. He likely won’t care if the dinner napkins match the bridesmaids’ dresses. It might be more his thing to organize the cars and the honeymoon, which are traditionally male duties anyway. And if your partner is also a bride, bear in mind she might be equally nonplussed.
So, with an open mind, let’s get started on your wonderful journey!
PART I
SHARING THE NEWS
Chapter One
YOU’RE ENGAGED!
Congratulations!
The truth is, I’d love to pin you down right now and demand to know all the details of how you came to be engaged and what type of wedding you have in mind. I’ve been known to stop strangers in the street to inquire as to how they met their loved one and who asked whom and how. Well, almost.
Did you have any clue that a proposal was brewing? Did you leave hints, or did he? Did you find a little velvet box stashed away, a la Movie of the Week, and graciously feign surprise when the moment arrived? Or did he go for maximum drama and punch? Maybe you saw the viral video of the man who made a complete movie trailer
about meeting his love and then screened it at a local theater where his unsuspecting sweetheart had gone to watch the latest blockbuster. Or perhaps you heard about the doctor who organized an elaborate fake photo shoot for his model girlfriend, only to gate-crash it and get down on bended knee? Not to be outdone, a different model got the surprise of her life. She glided down the runway in bridal couture, only to find her boyfriend waiting at the end of it, ready to propose. Creative, for sure, but the sweetest and most romantic proposal can be simple and secluded.
Was yours a private occasion, or were you asked in front of family, or a packed restaurant, or through the glass of a prison visit? (Only joking.)
We’ve all seen the good, the bad, and the truly shocking