Christian Couples Coping with Childlessness: Narratives from Machame, Kilimanjaro
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This book explores in depth how childlessness is perceived, dealt with, and coped with in two Christian communities in Machame on the slopes of Mt. Kilimanjaro. Childlessness is approached through narratives of the spouses concerned and the members of their communities. Their stories reveal pain and courage, brokenness and strength, faithfulness and betrayal. Christianity presents itself in an ambiguous light, on one hand, pressuring spouses to keep up facades supporting oppressive structures. On the other hand, Christian faith provides childless couples with personal hope in the afterlife that the African traditional culture offers only to those with children.
This study proves that childlessness is not only a personal but also a communal problem. Childlessness and the fear of having no children contribute to family structures and sexual behavior. In this way, they have a considerable impact on the spread of HIV/AIDS in Africa. However, this study reveals that the attitudes and practices towards marriage and children need not be petrified, but rather that traditions can, and do, change.
Auli Vahakangas
Auli Vahakangas is Lecturer in Pastoral Theology at the University of Helsinki, Finland. She was previously teaching theology at Makumira University College, Tanzania.
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Christian Couples Coping with Childlessness - Auli Vahakangas
Christian Couples Coping with Childlessness
Narratives from Machame, Kilimanjaro
Auli Vähäkangas
American Society of Missiology
Monograph Series
4
2008.Pickwick_logo.jpgCHRISTIAN COUPLES COPING WITH CHILDLESSNESS
Narratives from Machame, Kilimanjaro
American Society of Missiology Monograph Series 4
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Christian couples coping with childlessness : narratives from Machame, Kilimanjaro / Auli Vähäkangas
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1. Infertility—Africa. 2. Infertility—Religious aspects. I. Title. II. Series.
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Table of Contents
Title Page
Preface
Introduction
Chapter 1: Research Procedure
Chapter 2: Narrative of a Committed Union
Chapter 3: Narrative of Desertion
Chapter 4: Two Narratives of Polygyny
Chapter 5: Life of Childless Couples in Machame
Chapter 6: Sense of Coherence as Wholeness
Conclusion
Appendix A: Sample Interview Questions
Appendix B: Direct Quotations in Swahili
Glossary
Bibliography
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Preface
During my research, I have been privileged to meet many people in the Northern Diocese of the Evangelical Lutheran Church in Tanzania. I would like to express my special thanks to all of them. I would like to remind them, however, that they will not find authentic life stories of their friends and neighbors in this study.
The advice of the late professor Cuthbert Omari to properly focus my field research was valuable in the planning stage. My warmest appreciation goes to my advisor, Professor Eila Helander, for her wise supervision and cheery encouragement. Professor Arvi Hurskainen has gifted me with the knowledge of language as well as culture, and has examined my text during the final process of its approval as a doctoral dissertation.
Päivi Hasu, whom I met while she was conducting her own field research among the Chagga of Kilimanjaro in the 1990s, has contributed much more to my dissertation than she can believe. Discussions with her in different parts of the globe—London, Finland, Tanzania—have contributed much to my understanding of the Chagga culture. She has also tirelessly read and commented on various manuscripts.
One important community that has given me both constructive criticism and faithful support has been the Tanzania Theological Colloquium group. My Tanzanian colleagues’ criticism of my interpretations has aided me in correcting some of them and in giving stronger supporting evidence for others.
Marvin Kananen and Helen Davico have adeptly revised my English, and I want to thank them for this great work. Professor Ishmael Mbise checked the language of the Swahili quotations. If there are any mistakes or stylistic faults, they are certainly due to my lack of attention.
My sincere gratitude goes to my beloved husband Mika and to our three daughters Irinja, Eliisa, and Pauliina, who had to cope with my heavy workload. Mika, a systematic theologian, challenged my interpretations during our daily walks in the neighboring coffee farm.
My name giver, Irinja, turned ten while I was finalizing this research project. This ten-year period has taught me a lot about my identity in the African community, as well as about the identity construction of Christian couples in Machame. The research process has been much more than just an academic exercise; it has been part of my own life story.
Illustrations
Table 1 Interviewees in two study parishes
Table 2 Distribution of Age
Table 3 Place of Birth
Table 4 Code Categories Used in Atlas-ti© Program
Table 5 Interviews Used to Construct Model Narratives
Table 6 The Differences between Two Polygynous Marriages
Table 7 Comparison of the Lives of Three Second Wives
Table 8 Construction of Male Identity of Men of Model Narratives
Table 9 Construction of Female Identity of Four Childless Wives
Table 10 Insults about Childless Wife
Table 11 Inner and Outer Resources of Childless Individuals
Table 12 Individual and Joint Coping Strategies
Introduction
Why Don’t You Have a Child Yet?
I unexpectedly encountered the issue of childlessness in Tanzania shortly after my arrival in 1990. I was frequently asked: How long have you been married? Why don’t you have a child yet?
The implication of the latter question was that there was something wrong with me, since I was married, in my twenties, and still childless. Those questions and their implications followed me constantly. They tainted my time in Tanzania.
Three years later when back in Tanzania, our first child was born. Her presence in my life changed my status in Tanzanian society. No longer was I looked upon as being abnormal, immoral, cursed, or whatever the full implication of their question might have been, but I was then known as Mama Irinja. I was no longer called by my own name but by the name of my firstborn.
It was in the transition of my social status in Tanzania that I began to see the incredible social pressure that is put on women who are childless. It is this aspect of society I wish to address in this study—the problems and the pains of childlessness as seen in two specific Christian communities in the Kilimanjaro region of Tanzania.
Childlessness is not only a problem for an individual woman, but also a concern of the whole community. The number of infertile women in Tanzania, especially in the northern region, is not very high when compared to international figures. In 1996 the percentage of childless women was 4 percent in urban areas and just two percent in rural areas. Included in this data are women who have been married seven years or more and remain without children. Larsen and Raggers note that primary infertility in urban areas is higher in Tanzania than in most of the countries analyzed.¹ The fact that Western infertility cures are often unavailable further complicates the life of infertile couples. Many infertile women will stay infertile for the rest of their lives. Infertility is not a primary concern for national health policy. The main interest of Tanzanian health policies is limiting fertility and teaching family planning, not helping those who have problems bearing children—even though children are highly regarded in the culture.
Children have high economic and non-economic value in Tanzania. Their economic role in a country without a functioning social security system is very important. Children are the financial security of their parents and an important labor force.² The non-economic value of children corresponds to the psychic satisfaction parents derive from them. Through children individuals gain a respected status in the community—people are only defined as adults after they become parents. The desire for children also includes the aspects of seeking immortality and improving quality of life. Immortality through procreation is an important traditional value in various ethnic societies of Tanzania. The quality of life is expected to come from the joy children bring into a family. Because both aspects of the value attached to children are important in Tanzania, the problem of childlessness is an even deeper personal and communal problem than in Western countries.³ Although the value of children in an urban setting differs from that in a rural agrarian community, the desire to have children has not declined even in urban communities of Tanzania.
Infertility can lead to stigma. Perhaps unfairly, it is women who are the most stigmatized in Tanzania because of infertility, but it is also a serious problem for men.⁴ Not having children is considered deviant behavior for both women and men. Children continue to be important for strengthening the marital and kinship ties in a changing society. The desire to have children has not decreased in the process of social change and urbanization,⁵ a dynamic that will be discussed below.
The Crisis of Marriage in a Changing Society
Social, Political, and Religious Changes in Tanzania
In the past ten years Tanzania has experienced profound political, economic, and social changes. The change from a one-party system to a multiparty system and the rapid economical and social changes have deeply influenced its society. Urbanization is rampant in various centers around the country. Tanzania is living in a time of transition from rural agrarian community to urban market economy.⁶ At the moment, both traditional agrarian communities and large urban cities are found in the same country. Most of the young people migrate to towns from rural villages. In towns they face a new set of values and a completely new way of life.
Religious changes have also been rapid. In the beginning of 1990s the national policy of Tanzania toward new religious groups became more open. Until recently, in northern Tanzania the historical churches, mainly the Lutheran and Roman Catholic churches, had dominated. Changes in the religious environment have greatly influenced families in Tanzania, especially in the urban areas. Family life in villages is still closer to the traditional form in which all members of a household—and often a whole village—belong to the same denomination. The urban situation is more pluralistic, where the members of one household often belong to various religious groups. People often still belong to official churches but attend services elsewhere where they find more meaningful beliefs and practices.
The rapid social shifts have changed the structure of Tanzanian society. The breakdown of traditional social structures has left some people isolated. In a traditional community there is always somebody older who can give advice and guidance on how to handle difficult situations,⁷ but the changing structures have led to the growth of individualism. The family is not as strong a source of support and control as it used to be in traditional communities.⁸
The loosening of communal control has led to an increase of venereal diseases and contributed to the rapid spread of Human Immunodeficiency Virus (HIV) and Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome (AIDS) in many parts of Tanzania. Infections from sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) have been found to be the major cause of infertility in sub-Saharan Africa.⁹ Research has shown that infertility may also be a risk factor for HIV and STDs.¹⁰ The spread of HIV/AIDS has greatly influenced the life of most families in Kilimanjaro. Many youngsters who work in towns become infected there. In all villages in Kilimanjaro there are AIDS patients to be cared for, and funerals have become the most common function in the Lutheran parishes there.
These social, political, economic, and religious changes in Tanzania have led to a growing number of personal identities. Identities shift in response to situational contexts. When people speak Swahili they call up their national identity as Tanzanian citizens. When they use their ethnic language they emphasize their ethnic and local identity. Similarly, religious identity might change depending on the situation; while visiting the villages people identify themselves with the historical churches where their families have belonged for generations, but when in the urban situation their religious identity might not be that strong or it might shift to a different denomination.¹¹ Education has also been a tool of social change in many parts of Tanzania. Professor Lawuo has criticized the system of church schools, which, he argues, have destroyed ethnic identities and strengthened imported religious identities.¹² This situation of the family and shifting identities in a changing society is discussed in more detail in the following section.
Chagga Family in a Changing Society
The setting of this study is in northern Tanzania, in the Machame cultural area of Chaggaland. Machame is located in western Kilimanjaro. It used to be an independent kingdom during German and British colonialism, whereas now it is not a separate administrative unit but forms a part of the Hai district of the Kilimanjaro region. Most of the inhabitants in this area share a common Chagga ethnic background. One patriclan forms localized clusters of patrilineal kinsmen. In indigenous Chaggaland, the patriclan is a group of people who share the same ancestry and are, therefore, related by blood.¹³ Usually one patriclan is identified by a common name. In the Machame area the most common family names are Swai, Nkya, and Shoo. Each clan is related to several others through marriages. The whole Chagga society is an interconnected web in which everyone feels closely related to everyone else. The community that has an interest in a family’s bearing of children is thus broad. In Kilimanjaro, clan members are in close connection with each other, and the community is understood to include the dead and those who are yet to be born into a clan.
In transitional society, the different cultural categories work side by side. In contemporary Kilimanjaro, three different systems of practice can be classified: kienyeji (traditional), kikristo (Christian), and kisasa (modern).¹⁴ Kienyeji refers to the Chagga traditions. Some of these remain now only as oral history, but others are still followed. Kikristo refers to imported Christian beliefs and practices, especially the teachings of the early missionaries—therefore, it does not refer directly to the teachings of the Lutheran church in the Kilimanjaro area. Kisasa is used in this research to denote those cultural practices and beliefs that result from education, modernization, and urbanization in Kilimanjaro. These historically motivated cultural categories help people find their way in the changing society, but they also lead to a tension between different frames of reference.
The Chagga construct their personal and social identities on the cultural categories discussed above. Usually one individual compiles his/her personal identity from at least two of these categories. The same individual can change his/her approach during the course of life. Older people tend to rely more on kienyeji, while the younger, urban Chagga rely more on kisasa. The situation is, however, much more complicated than just age or rural-urban differences, as will be analyzed later in this research.
Adding to the cultural category tensions, labor migration influences the life of the Chagga families. Many men migrate into towns and cities around Tanzania, leaving their wives in Kilimanjaro. Migration has increased both geographical separation and marital separation. The traditional gender roles are also changing through migration. The women who are left at the mountain have to take care of all household duties and make decisions within the family that were traditionally made by the men. The single parent situation has increased the freedom of women; however, at the same time, marital situations have become more unstable than in the traditional society.
In recent years there seems to be a growing trend not to leave the family behind. More often entire Chagga families migrate to towns inside and outside the Kilimanjaro region. Urbanization has decreased the need for larger family units because in towns there is not room for as many relatives to live with a family as in the rural community. However, even in the urban communities the African family is usually larger than the Western nuclear family.
Christian Marriage in the Northern Diocese
This study is carried out in the Northern Diocese of the Evangelical Lutheran Church in Tanzania (ELCT). The Northern Diocese is one of the oldest and, in previous years, one of the most financially well-off and stable of the twenty Lutheran dioceses in Tanzania. The Northern Diocese and its parishes follow the guidelines of the constitution of the diocese and also the constitution of the whole ELCT. Lutherans originating from the Northern Diocese area are nowadays influential in many other dioceses of the ELCT, especially in the Eastern and Coastal Diocese (Dar es Salaam) and in the East of Lake Victoria Diocese (Mwanza). Intensive labor migration has spread the influence of Chagga Christians across the whole country, into each area of the ELCT.
The Kilimanjaro area is strongly Christian. Lutheran and Catholic Christians make up the majority of the inhabitants in rural Kilimanjaro. In more urban centers, Islam and different types of Pentecostal churches also have a significant number of followers. In the Kilimanjaro area, there are very few people who are officially still followers of African traditional religions. However, many Catholic and Lutheran Christians also follow some of the practices and beliefs of the traditional religions.
Christian marriage in this study denotes the marriage between two Christians, namely, people who belong to the Christian church and identify themselves with it. Lutheran theology includes marriage as part of a secular sphere and does not make a theological distinction between a Christian and a secular marriage. To Lutheran Christians in Tanzania, however, there is a difference. In common discussions on marriage, people seem to distinguish between a Christian marriage, which in their understanding points to a church wedding and restrictions against cohabitation, and a purely secular marriage.
The constitution of the Northern Diocese uses the term marriage of a Christian.
¹⁵ The use of the singular is noticeable in this case; in marriage there are two people involved. The logic behind it seems to be that the man is counted to be the Christian who marries, while the woman is the one who is being married. The man has the active role in a Chagga marriage. Swahili terminology also expresses this active role; a man is the one who marries, a woman gets married. Patriarchal traditions on family life and roles of spouses continue to influence the life of Chagga Christians in the contemporary society.
The constitution gives additional requirements for a marriage in the Northern Diocese. The marriage age follows the Marriage Act regulations of year 1971.¹⁶ Both the man and the woman have to be full members of the Lutheran church, which means that they have to be baptized and confirmed in the church and not under church discipline.¹⁷ In a case where one of the engaged persons is a member of another Protestant denomination, there can still be a church wedding. In the constitution there is an expressed wish for Lutheran Christians not to marry Roman Catholics because children born into such a union would probably be baptized into the Roman Catholic faith. In cases where one is a follower of a non-Christian community, the marriage cannot be officiated in the church. This type of marriage can later be blessed in the church if the non-Christian spouse is baptized. If a Christian is under church discipline, he or she has to repent and welcomed back into the participation of Eucharist before the marriage can be blessed in the parish.¹⁸
The Northern Diocese follows a tradition derived from Matthew 5:9 requiring a marriage to have two sponsors who must be adult Christians who live in a proper Christian marriage themselves and are mentally fit.¹⁹ Usually these sponsors are a married couple. In the practice of the Northern Diocese, these sponsors are the first ones to counsel the young couple if there are any problems in the marriage. There is some debate as to how these sponsors should be chosen. At the moment, the practice is that the couple chooses their close friends to be sponsors if they meet the requirements of the constitution. Older people and church workers protest that these sponsors are not always well-equipped to counsel a Christian marriage in contemporary society.
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