Emotional Intelligence and Empath Mastery: A Complete Guide for Self Healing & Discovery, Increasing Self Discipline, Social Skills, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, NLP, Persuasion & More

Emotional Intelligence - Life Mastery

Practical Self-Development Guide for Success in Business and Your Personal Life-Improve Your Social Skills, NLP, EQ, Relationship Building, CBT & Self Discipline.

By Ewan Miller

Table of Contents

Emotional Intelligence - Life Mastery

Table of Contents

Introduction

Chapter 1: Understanding Emotional Intelligence

Emotional intelligence versus intelligence quotient

Emotional intelligence versus social intelligence

Emotional intelligence in psychology

A brief history of emotional intelligence

Other research and studies on emotional intelligence

Emotional intelligence framework

High and low emotional intelligence

Why developing emotional intelligence is crucial

Self and relationship management

Emotional intelligence in the workplace

Emotional intelligence and relationships

Chapter 2: The Application of Emotional Intelligence

Handling Impulses

Handling difficulties and setbacks

Handling stress and anxiety

In the workplace

Coping with trauma

Coping with reactions

Chapter 3: Recognizing Emotions

Envy

Worry or nervousness

Anger or aggravation

Dislike

Disappointment or unhappiness

Chapter 4: Improving Emotional Intelligence

Emotional intelligence in the relationship

Body language

Active listening

Mindfulness and relaxation techniques

Chapter 5: Emotional Intelligence and Leadership

Good leadership

Adaptation

Leadership and performance

The six styles of leadership

How to improve

The five components of emotional intelligence in leadership

Social skills

Conclusion

Empath – A Complete Healing Guide

Self-Discovery, Coping Strategies, Survival Techniques for Highly Sensitive People. Dealing with the Effects of Empathy and how to develop to Enhance Your Life NOW!

By Ewan Miller

Table of Contents

Introduction

Chapter 1: What is an Empath?

Are You Empathic or an Empath?

How Does It Feel to Be an Empath?

Most Common Traits of Empaths

Born Empaths vs. Learned Empaths

Are You an Empath? QUIZ

Chapter 2: The Empath’s Peace of Mind and What Hinders It

Common Problems as an Empath

The Narcissist and the Empath

What Are Energy Vampires?

Downsides to Being a Powerful Empath

Chapter 3: The Gift of Being an Empath

The Benefits of Being an Empath

Self-Awareness and the Awareness of Others

Healing and Helping Others

Possible Professions to Help You Thrive in Life as an Empath

Chapter 4: Healing and Balancing Tools for the Empath

What Are Spiritual Healing Tools and How to Use Them

Energy Clearing for the Self and Others

Awareness and Mindfulness Practices

Steps to a Grounding and Balancing Meditation

Chapter 5: How to Keep Unwanted Energy from Influencing You as an Empath

When Other People Are Negative: Ways to Protect Yourself

Grounding: Before and After

Communicating Boundaries

Chapter 6: Quality Space and Time

Why You Should Limit Time with Other People or Groups

Space and Time for Reflection and Rejuvenation

Relationships and the Empath

Chapter 7: How to Avoid Empathic Burnout

Guidelines for Maintaining Balance and Stability

Applications to Aid You in Times of Stress or Burnout

Conclusion

Introduction

If you were looking for a book on emotional intelligence that is highly practical and offers a guide for success in business and personal life than this is the right book. The book delves onto social skills, emotional quotient, relationship building, self-discipline and cognitive behavior therapy using simple to understand language. Using easy and relatable examples, the author introduces what constitutes emotional intelligence, why it differs from the intelligent quotient and offer ways of improving social skills at work and home using emotional intelligence. For this reason, this book is both a manual and a discussion of applicable emotional intelligence for beginners and seasoned individuals.

In uniformly spaced subtopics, the author guides the reader on how to apply emotional intelligence by handling impulses, managing setbacks, and handling stress and anxiety. The book walks the reader through applying emotional intelligence at the workplace, handling trauma, and coping with reactions. The reader is taken through ways of recognizing emotions especially the common and negative emotions at the workplace. Some of the common and negative emotions explored are anger, nervousness, unhappiness, and dislike. Emotionally intelligence is also applied in relationships and in leadership and the reader is exposed to how emotional intelligence affects leadership and relationships as well as how to enhance emotional intelligence.

Chapter 1: Understanding Emotional Intelligence

Emotional intelligence versus intelligence quotient

The individual ability to evaluate, identify, manage and express emotions is known as emotional intelligence. Persons with high emotional intelligence are likely to make efficient leaders and team players since they possess the ability to empathize, understand, and link with people around them. On the other hand, intelligent quotient evaluates academic abilities and identifies persons with mental challenges or persons with exceptional abilities. At the workplace, emotional intelligence is a widely accepted indicator of success to help acknowledge good team players, leaders, and independent workers.

In detail, intelligence quotient captures abilities such as fluid reasoning, knowledge of the world, spatial and visual processing, quantitative reasoning, and working memory and short-term memory. On the other hand, emotional intelligence captures the way of relating to others, identifying emotions, assessing how others feel, managing individual emotions, and perceiving how others feel as well as employing emotions to enable social communication. Initially, intelligence quotient was seen as the fundamental determinant of success as persons deemed to have high intelligence quotient were seen as destined for accomplishments. All this led to a debate about whether intelligence is a product of the environment or gene factors.

With time critics started to acknowledge that high intelligence is not a guarantee for accomplishment in life. Additionally, intelligence quotient alone could not capture the full spectra of human abilities and knowledge. When it comes to academic achievement intelligent quotients is still accepted as a critical element of success. Persons with high intelligent quotients are likely to excel in school and earn more money as well as having a healthier life. Contemporary experts acknowledge that intelligent quotient is not the only determinate of success in life. Against this backdrop, the intelligent quotient is seen as integral of an intricate array of influences that include emotional intelligence.

Equally important is that the concept of emotional intelligence has had a significant impact in a number of areas especially the business domain. Most organizations now demand emotional intelligence training and employ emotional quotient tests as integral to the hiring process. Persons with effective leaders tend to exhibit high emotional intelligent insinuating that a high emotional quotient is a critical component of business leadership and management.

An illustration can be when you take an insurance company that realizes that emotional intelligence can play a critical role in the success of sales. It then emerges that sales agents that rank lower on emotional intelligence abilities such as empathy, self-confidence, and initiative tend to sell an average premium of $45, 000 compared to those agents that rank high on emotional intelligence scores that sell an average of $105, 000. 

Additionally, emotional abilities can be used to impact the choices that consumers make when faced with buying decisions. Most people prefer to deal with an individual that they trust and like compared to someone they do not and this implies paying more for an inferior product.

Indeed emotional intelligence can be learned. Some of the ways that emotional intelligence can be imparted are through character education, encouraging people to think about how others are feeling, modeling positive behaviors, and discovering ways to be more empathetic toward others. Like any other form of coaching, the candidate for training should be willing to gain knowledge and practice it. A person seeking to enhance his or her emotional intelligence levels should first do a self-evaluation of weaknesses that relate to emotional intelligence and then do more evaluation using the guideline of an expert. When coaching someone on emotional intelligence, it should be implemented gradually and adjusted to the individual needs of the candidate.

In overall, both intelligent quotient and emotional quotient play critical roles in impacting the overall success of an individual including wellness, health, and happiness. Learning to improve the skills in weak areas to more than average is important than just focusing on the gifted areas. The reason for this argument is that as an individual, your whole is more important than the specific strengths. Think of it this way, you are a highly intelligent worker but unable to handle disappointments which compromise your overall productivity. Alternatively, think yourself as a highly emotionally stable person and have the unique ability to engage others but have difficulties learning new technologies and systems at the workplace which ends up affecting your overall productivity. Ideally, having a balance of the intelligent quotient and emotional quotient is highly beneficial. Fortunately, there are proven methods to help work on your weak areas to make you whole.

Exercise

a. As part of the hiring team looking for a replacement of an Information Technology Officer at your company, you only managed to shortlist two candidates where one of the candidates is a sharp person with respect to academic accomplishments but appears temperamental. The other is average in academics but appears emotionally stable and warm to engage. How would you handle the hiring process to end up with the most suitable candidate for your organization?

b. Get any episode of Bing Bang Theory TV series and make a first impression of Sheldon Cooper character. Assume that only observation is enough to judge an individual, would you hire Sheldon Cooper? Why and Why not?

Emotional intelligence versus social intelligence

Emotional intelligence relates to the present and emotions manifesting. For instance, a mother knows how the baby is feeling. The mother knows if the baby is sad or hungry. Alternatively, think of a shy and scared teenager at a party. You managed to perceive this because you have emotional quotient applied appropriately. On the other hand, social intelligence concerns more about the future as you are relying on present knowledge to enhance the future by looking for the best pathway for you. For instance, a worker in an organization that looks for a different way to disagree with the boss on the new measures being implemented.

In this manner, social intelligence concerns comprehending the personalities and corresponding behaviors of people to understand how to best get along. The intent of social intelligence is to precipitate positive outcomes from interactions between people. On the other hand, emotional intelligence concerns helping an individual become aware of his emotional status and manage it to make him or her more relatable. Taking all this into account, emotional intelligence is a prerequisite of social intelligence where social intelligence is the derivative of the former.  Simply put, without a person having requisite emotional intelligence levels he or she is likely to perform poorly in social interactions. Think of Sheldon Cooper in the TV series Big Bang Theory.

The further explanation includes acknowledging that social intelligence is when emotional intelligence is applied in a group setting making everyone comfortable, accommodative and civil. For this reason, social intelligence has evolved to enable us to survive. Think of survival and accomplishment at your career requires more than just good grades. For instance, you might be highly qualified but respond poorly to questions seeking to ascertain your emotional stability. In other terms reacting rudely at your interviewers constitutes a signal that you have low social intelligence level. Lack of manifesting requisite social intelligence can increase the risk of losing jobs, opportunities or friendship.

An illustration of social intelligence may be the case of Richard who is a stereotypical office employee. Richard is socially intelligent enough to comprehend that his boss is offended at casual bad news. For this reason, Richard understands that it is socially intelligent to phrase negative news in a way that begins with positive aspects of the news to avoid triggering an emotional reaction from his boss. On the other hand, Richard understands that if he shares the news with Juliet that she will casually share it and does not think about the consequences of her actions when spreading the news. Against this backdrop, Richard employs socially intelligent and avoids telling Juliet to save when the news is wholly positive.

Additionally, Richard employs emotional intelligence in conference meetings. Now assume that everything is going well at his Tuesday meeting but suddenly he notices facial expressions on Juliet that indicates that she is feeling irked and agitated. Richard then adjusts the delivery and notices that Juliet is now calm and settled with the suggested project but remains mum. It is through emotional intelligent that Richard manages to seek the opinion of Juliet on the project. Juliet provides her opinion and this helps to constructively move the project forward as they both reach a consensus. The above two illustrations demonstrate the functional difference between emotional intelligence and social intelligence.

For further emphasis, emotional intelligence requires certain competencies that include the following; self-awareness that addresses emotional awareness, self-confidence and self-assessment. Emotional intelligence also requires one to possess self-regulation that includes adaptability, innovativeness, self-control, conscientiousness, and trustworthiness. The other component of emotional intelligence includes self-motivation that covers commitment, drive, initiative, and optimism. Emotional intelligence requires one to be exhibit social awareness that addresses service orientation, empathy, leveraging diversity, developing others, and political awareness. Finally, emotional intelligence requires exhibiting social skills that include leadership, communication, conflict management, change management, and cooperation. All these are the comprehensive areas of emotional intelligence training that one needs.

Finally, social intelligence concerns the competence that helps an individual relationship with others. Social intelligence can be split into relationship-management and social-awareness. All these sub-concepts can be studied differently from the main concept, social intelligence that has been dubbed emotional and social intelligence. Rightly, social intelligence is a derivative of emotional intelligence. In this manner, social intelligence extends emotional intelligence. The purpose of this emphasis is to enable trainers and candidates to understand what should precede the other. Emotional intelligence coaching should precede social intelligence training. In simplest terms, you have to understand and manage yourself before you can positively engage other people.

Exercise

a. How can you enhance your social intelligence at school or workplace?

b. Think of a politician that has difficulties relating with others and suggest five ways the politician can improve his or her social skills.

Emotional intelligence in psychology

Various researchers affirm the assertion that several personality disorders are mediated or moderated by the emotional intelligence of an individual. In the context of psychology, emotional intelligence concerns sets of skills to facilitate, acknowledge, comprehend, and manage emotions that allow the use of emotional knowledge to attain a higher adjustment as well as psychological wellbeing. By having a high emotional intelligence you are likely to have a positive frame of mind, are likely to redress your mood after adverse emotions as well as score lower on stress, anxiety, and depression.

Notably, the connection between emotional intelligence and psychology is supported by the realization that patients with several clinical disorders show deficits in emotional intelligence score. The assumption that we form here is that a low score in emotional intelligence suggests varied potency for clinical disorders. For instance, various studies assert that most attention deficit individuals show a deficit in any of these emotional competencies.  The other assumption that we make here is that emotional intelligence competencies contribute to the development and maintenance of the attention deficit. Patients with social anxiety show a strong correlation between the seriousness of the symptoms and the difficulty to sufficiently perceive emotions and employ them to facilitate their thinking.

Furthermore, individuals with pathological demand avoidance condition exhibit significantly lower scores in emotional understanding and management skills compared to the healthy control group participants. All these indicate that deficit deficits in emotional understanding and integration are integral in the phenomenology of panic disorder. Individuals with general anxiety disorder focus more on their emotions and have critical difficulties in addressing their negative moods. Persons with general anxiety disorder degree of symptoms are related to their difficulties to clearly differentiate between various emotional states. The implication of this assertion is that perceived incapacity to manage your individual emotions could be a susceptible factor in the development of generalized anxiety disorder.

Against this backdrop, challenges with managing emotional states are a critical indicator of potentiality for personality disorders. In some nonclinical subjects, pathological personality traits are linked to critical deficits in emotional intelligence such as schizotypal, psychopathic, and borderline traits. It can then be argued