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    Stop Freaking Out About Retirement
    Stop Freaking Out About Retirement
    Stop Freaking Out About Retirement
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    Stop Freaking Out About Retirement

    By Carolina Osorio

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    Are you worried that leaving your career is a road riddled with misery? Discover an uplifting guide to help you enjoy life after work.

    Have you recently retired and found yourself emotionally unprepared? Are you anxious about how this new stage will affect your health? Are you concerned you'll lose purpose and meaning in y

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherInner Growth Lab
    Release dateAug 7, 2020
    ISBN9781734113013
    Stop Freaking Out About Retirement
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    Carolina Osorio

    Dr. Osorio is a board-certified psychiatrist, specializing in adult and geriatric psychiatry now turned executive coach. She is also a published, peer-reviewed author in the area of epigenetics and brain disorders in aging. Now partnering with Dr. Stoletniy, together they founded Inner Growth Lab to offers tools for personal growth based on research, positive psychology, clinical experience, and her own personal journey. As a psychiatrist, she works with individuals struggling with mental health disorders, and as an executive coach, she works with healthy individuals by been their thought partner. Her life passion is to optimize human potential with a focus on health span rather than life span. With years of experience, she has developed a philosophy and approach for creating and sustaining a successful life no matter people's age. She specializes in working with people 50 years of age and older transitioning into a life of constant growth. She is excited to bring her expertise through this book to the public world and to those who want to pursue a life of meaning, purpose, freedom, and joy.

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      Stop Freaking Out About Retirement - Carolina Osorio

      "Do not let your fire go out, spark by irreplaceable spark in the hopeless swamps of the not-quite, the not-yet, and the not-at-all. Do not let the hero in your soul perish in lonely frustration for the life you deserved and have never been able to reach. The world you desire can be won. It exists. It is real. It is possible. It is yours."

      —Ayn Rand

      YouAndYouAlone

      What brings you to this book?

      My best bet is that you are here because you are either considering retiring or you are into your first year of retirement and you are feeling anxious—as if you will lose your mind if you cannot control the feelings you are having about this big transitional time. It may be that your expectations about retirement have not been met. Or it may be that now, when you have the time to do everything you once thought retirement would bring you—traveling or spending time with friends and family—you find yourself wanting to do the opposite, and just be alone.

      Perhaps you feel alone because other people in your circle have retired and you have never heard them talk about how difficult this has been for them. Maybe you shared these feelings with one or two of your closest friends without getting reassurance from them. You are probably feeling there must be something wrong with you. And perhaps you feel ashamed to be experiencing these thoughts and feelings.

      But you are also here because you feel that time is short—I mean, time does not wait, right? You know this very well. Every hour, every day, every month is precious. They will not come back to you and you are losing some hope about how retirement can look for you. Perhaps you are missing out on grandkids, or golf tournaments or whatever you once enjoyed or were looking forward to, because you’re spending too much time worrying. In spite of having a good relationship with family members and friends who have been very supportive to you, now you may be finding that you just want to be by yourself. Your life has been all about work (the average person spends 90,000 hours at work over a lifetime)—days filled with a busy schedule, time off catching up, your mind always on the go-go-go. For some, it included raising kids, taking care of family and, for many, helping with grandkids as well. So now, having been left idle with no structure and no schedule, you may feel you are in totally new and unknown territory.

      You may be thinking that you have all that it is needed in life—your basic needs are covered and a little extra is left to enjoy other things—or perhaps finances start to become a bigger concern to you. You don’t quite feel right. You may find yourself unable to sleep at night (a study conducted by Dave Ramsey showed that 56 percent of Americans lose sleep thinking about retirement).¹ Sleeplessness, then, can make you feel impatient and perhaps snappy from time to time. Then you feel guilty for doing that to people who care about you. You feel guilty because your family and friends request your presence and you do not feel up to it. You are home with a lot of time left to do nothing and that can make anyone spiral down the rabbit hole. This can launch a vicious and negative cycle and as time passes it can begin to feel more intense and much more unpleasant. But again, reaching out feels impossible because someone might pass judgment, and you really think no one else has felt the same. Or you might start noticing that things which never bothered you before are now making you emotional and wanting to isolate yourself because you do not want others to see your vulnerability. There is nothing wrong with this feeling. Many people experience it. But it is actually not healthy and can lead you to remain stuck.

      In the midst of anxious feelings, it is easier just to stay where we are because even though it is uncomfortable, it is our comfort zone. But growth does not happen here. It requires personal strength to put your wishes for change into action. The fact that you have decided to read this book and take on the work of continuing to develop yourself, however, shows enormous strength and determination, and I am very proud of you!

      Let me be clear, there are many others in the same boat. I know them, I have worked with them. I have empowered them. There is no reason why you cannot do it as well. No matter how you are feeling today.

      You may not feel like this time in your life is blissful, but I believe that you can get there. I 100-percent believe that you can transform a retirement that feels lonely and empty into something meaningful, enjoyable, and peaceful—into a time when you can build your resilience because, regardless of age and time, the fact that we are alive is all that is necessary to face adversity. Age may bring some more challenges, but age also gives us something precious that no other thing in life can give us, and that is wisdom. I plan to help you tap into your own wisdom, bringing it into your awareness, in order to help you create a retirement life where everything you do has a purpose and is meaningful because it aligns perfectly with your values. Each one of us is unique and wonderfully made. That is why there is not a one-size-fits-all for this process.

      So many people think they have dealt with their past but later are surprised to find thoughts and emotions re-emerging and flooding them. It is very common for this to happen during the transition to retirement. Often, we don’t realize the impact something has had on our lives because we are so busy, and actually many times we use that busy-ness as a coping mechanism to avoid the discomfort of experiencing the pain from prior negative experiences. Traumas from the past are not necessarily nightmarish. They can be experiences that appear small to others, or patterns of experiences that accumulate over years, but these may have a huge impact on our experience—things like strict parents, being a latch-key child, deaths of loved ones through the years, and experiences during military service are just a few. But there are two things the past is good for: to learn from and to remind you of the good times.

      ButYouAreNotAlone

      In our society, there is a general belief that once you hit retirement you are leaving your best days behind. This idea alone causes a great deal of existential anxiety as we approach retirement age. The concept that an individual’s life progression culminates in a phase called old age is a relatively recent development that began in the second half of the 19th century, when older individuals were lumped into a single category of the aged. Prior to this time, many different cultures viewed growing older on an individual basis that did not necessarily correlate with a set age. I believe we need to go back to that. I have seen people retire in their 50s while others do so in their 70s, and there are many different reasons why one chooses to retire sooner or later.

      The belief that one’s best days are over at retirement derives in part from the fact that careers give us purpose and a sense of meaning. So, retirement might mean leaving that purpose behind. Like you, I have worked hard during a meaningful career, and I understand how leaving this behind may spur an identity crisis. In my career as a psychiatrist working with older adults, I have heard the same themes expressed by many people in the early days of retirement. I’ve brought these themes together in this book to validate the feelings of readers going through similar things, and to suggest a way out of anxiety and into an even greater enjoyment of life.

      I have had the privilege of working for the past eight years with older adults with all different kinds of problems—some with severe problems and some with problems that

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