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I Am In Love With A Single Mum by oziegbep(m): 3:43pm On Jan 08
Greetings All,

Please I need serious advice.

I am currently dating a lady that I truly love. She is caring, enduring, financially stable etc. The truth is that this lady really loves me. But she's a single mum and its like an extra baggage to me. Am single and planning to get married to this lady, but the single mum status gives me sleepless nights.

I have asked her several times about the baby daddy, but she keeps telling me the dude abandoned her and the baby long ago and that she doesn't know he's whereabout.

Please I need advice on how I can cope. Because I truly love this lady alot

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Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by Namaster: 3:51pm On Jan 08
I have commented EXHAUSTIVELY on the perils of marrying or dating a single mother.

Check my profile for them.

But the summary is that single mothers are BAD NEWS.

They are FIT to fuuuccck because their bastards are walking testaments to their LOOSENESS. They CANNOT form when you have evidence they had been viciously RAWDOGGED in the past.

They are UNFIT for dating or marriage because, again, their bastards are walking testaments to their LOOSENESS.

Single-motherhood also points to a LOW IQ and STUPIDITY.

Because said woman not only CHOSE an irresponsible man who was willing to ABANDON his child. But ALSO chose to fuccck him WITHOUT condoms or other forms of birth control.

That stupidity would be a TAINT in the gene pool if both of you have children. Dumber kids will result.

There is a reason a LOT of the children of single mothers end up as Yahoo Boys and Hookup girls (future single mothers).

It's NOT just about the upbringing, or lack thereof, but also the STUPIDITY and IRRESPONSIBILITY inherent in their genes asserting themselves.

Also WHEN the father eventually shows up, the child you raised with your money, time and energy will DISCARD you without a second thought.

Chances are equally high the mother will do the same.

Fuccck her, if you must.
But NEVER marry a single mother!

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Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by Elegantspiker(m): 3:59pm On Jan 08
You won't have peace of mind because your mind is already in trouble.

Back out!

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Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by budaatum: 4:02pm On Jan 08
You don't truly love her enough or you'd love her child too. And if you can't love her and her child more, please move on and go marry someone else instead of making her miserable in future.

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Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by GanagiBitrus: 4:03pm On Jan 08
You are in the best position to advise yourself, because you have all the facts, all the pros & cons, & you will be the one to live with the consequences of your decisions.

Nothing anybody tells you here will make you change your mind, especially now wey you don fall inside love.

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Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by Celestialsword: 4:27pm On Jan 08
oziegbep:
Greetings All,
Please I need serious advice.
I am currently dating a lady that I truly love. She is caring, enduring, financially stable etc. The truth is that this lady really loves me. But she's a single mum and its like an extra baggage to me. Am single and planning to get married to this lady, but the single mum status gives me sleepless nights. I have asked her several times about the baby daddy, but she keeps telling me the dude abandoned her and the baby long ago and that she doesn't know he's whereabout. Please I need advice on how I can cope. Because I truly love this lady alot
If both of you love each other, there's nothing wrong in setting down with her.

Don't allow your mind to trouble you,take care of the child as if he or she is your own, you do not know what that child will become tomorrow.

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Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by GOFRONT(m): 4:44pm On Jan 08
Another Simp has gone to fall in love with a single mother again..

Only today, about 3 different simps has fallen in love with different babymamas.

Upon all we preach here everyday. Kai, these guys will never hear word again.

A single mum whose baby daddy is late is Manageable.

But so long as he is still alive, OKAFOR'S LAW of ConGodynamic must take place

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Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by Macnnoli4(m): 4:59pm On Jan 08
I don't see any issue there with the lady, she has no links to the baby daddy anymore. I guess you are worried that the biological father might take the child after you invest on the child financially and emotionally as the father figure. No worries, the child won't forget your sacrifices even if the dad is richer than you now. Just focus on being a good father not the Strong man definition of father (the one that only pays for the child's upkeep).

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Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by gasparpisciotta: 5:11pm On Jan 08
If she can love you more than you do to her then you are free to settle with her otherwise flee while there is still time.

Young and old single mums are unstable in all their ways

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Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by Kobojunkie: 5:22pm On Jan 08
oziegbep:
➜Greetings All, Please I need serious advice. I am currently dating a lady that I truly love. She is caring, enduring, financially stable etc. The truth is that this lady really loves me. But she's a single mum and its like an extra baggage to me. Am single and planning to get married to this lady, but the single mum status gives me sleepless nights. I have asked her several times about the baby daddy, but she keeps telling me the dude abandoned her and the baby long ago and that she doesn't know he's whereabout. Please I need advice on how I can cope. Because I truly love this lady alot
You need advice for what exactly? You would rather base your choice more on what people say rather than what your heart wants for you to have. undecided

Better yet, I would advise that you leave that lady so she can go find herself a man who would love her without caring what others say or whether she is a single mother or not. Life is too short for anyone to be in a relationship that they are truly not committed to. undecided

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Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by AKWATGOLD1(m): 5:29pm On Jan 08
She cannot say that she does not know the whereabout of his baby father. Even what about the baby father nuclear or extended families.
oziegbep:
Greetings All,
Please I need serious advice.
I am currently dating a lady that I truly love. She is caring, enduring, financially stable etc. The truth is that this lady really loves me. But she's a single mum and its like an extra baggage to me. Am single and planning to get married to this lady, but the single mum status gives me sleepless nights. I have asked her several times about the baby daddy, but she keeps telling me the dude abandoned her and the baby long ago and that she doesn't know he's whereabout. Please I need advice on how I can cope. Because I truly love this lady alot

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Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by LIVINGICONREBOR: 6:24pm On Jan 08
Will you die if you begin your life on a "clean" slate rather than carrying baggage around? Or is it an abomination for a young gal with no child to love you? Let the "dead" mingle with the"dead". Single fathers should marry single mothers.Oh boy use your head e too early in the year to dey mumu.

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Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by delkuf(m): 6:48pm On Jan 08
Kobojunkie:
You need advice for what exactly? You would rather base your choice more on what people say rather than what your heart wants for you to have. undecided

Better yet, I would advise that you leave that lady so she can go find herself a man who would love her without caring what others say or whether she is a single mother or not. Life is too short for anyone to be in a relationship that they are truly not committed to. undecided
kobo how I wish u were like this
Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by DonEd(m): 8:11pm On Jan 08
So are we saying that all single mothers are bad news?

We guys can sweet mouth a lady to make her believe she has found her heaven on earth o ly to abandon her after childbirth.

I really hope we stop this bashing for mistakes made by women who were given assurance by men.

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Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by Lifestone(m): 8:18pm On Jan 08
Namaster:
I have commented EXHAUSTIVELY on the perils of marrying or dating a single mother.

Check my profile for them.

But the summary is that single mothers are BAD NEWS.

They are FIT to fuuuccck because their bastards are walking testaments to their LOOSENESS. They CANNOT form when you have evidence they had been viciously RAWDOGGED in the past.

They are UNFIT for dating or marriage because, again, their bastards are walking testaments to their LOOSENESS.

Single-motherhood also points to a LOW IQ and STUPIDITY.

Because said woman not only CHOSE an irresponsible man who was willing to ABANDON his child. But ALSO chose to fuccck him WITHOUT condoms or other forms of birth control.

That stupidity would be a TAINT in the gene pool if both of you have children. Dumber kids will result.

There is a reason a LOT of the children of single mothers end up as Yahoo Boys and Hookup girls (future single mothers).

It's NOT just about the upbringing, or lack thereof, but also the STUPIDITY and IRRESPONSIBILITY inherent in their genes asserting themselves.

Also WHEN the father eventually shows up, the child you raised with your money, time and energy will DISCARD you without a second thought.

Chances are equally high the mother will do the same.

Fuccck her, if you must.
But NEVER marry a single mother!
Why are you so hateful?

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Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by almarthins(m): 8:55pm On Jan 08
Namaster:
I have commented EXHAUSTIVELY on the perils of marrying or dating a single mother.

Check my profile for them.

But the summary is that single mothers are BAD NEWS.

They are FIT to fuuuccck because their bastards are walking testaments to their LOOSENESS. They CANNOT form when you have evidence they had been viciously RAWDOGGED in the past.

They are UNFIT for dating or marriage because, again, their bastards are walking testaments to their LOOSENESS.

Single-motherhood also points to a LOW IQ and STUPIDITY.

Because said woman not only CHOSE an irresponsible man who was willing to ABANDON his child. But ALSO chose to fuccck him WITHOUT condoms or other forms of birth control.

That stupidity would be a TAINT in the gene pool if both of you have children. Dumber kids will result.

There is a reason a LOT of the children of single mothers end up as Yahoo Boys and Hookup girls (future single mothers).

It's NOT just about the upbringing, or lack thereof, but also the STUPIDITY and IRRESPONSIBILITY inherent in their genes asserting themselves.

Also WHEN the father eventually shows up, the child you raised with your money, time and energy will DISCARD you without a second thought.

Chances are equally high the mother will do the same.

Fuccck her, if you must.
But NEVER marry a single mother!

Omo u dey vex o!

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Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by seanery: 10:30pm On Jan 08
TAKE NOTE OF THE BOLDED


oziegbep:
Greetings All,
Please I need serious advice.
I am currently dating a lady that I truly love. She is caring, enduring, financially stable etc. The truth is that this lady really loves me. But she's a single mum and its like an extra [b][/b] GARBAGE to me. Am single and planning to get married to this lady, but the single mum status gives me sleepless nights. I have asked her several times about the baby daddy, but she keeps telling me the dude abandoned her and the baby long ago and that she doesn't know he's whereabout. Please I need advice on how I can cope. Because I truly love this lady alot
Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by Dshocker(m): 3:31am On Jan 09
oziegbep:
Greetings All,
Please I need serious advice.
I am currently dating a lady that I truly love. She is caring, enduring, financially stable etc. The truth is that this lady really loves me. But she's a single mum and its like an extra baggage to me. Am single and planning to get married to this lady, but the single mum status gives me sleepless nights. I have asked her several times about the baby daddy, but she keeps telling me the dude abandoned her and the baby long ago and that she doesn't know he's whereabout. Please I need advice on how I can cope. Because I truly love this lady alot

Anytime the baby daddy returns, they will continue from where they stopped 😁

Secondly, every single mothers are respectful and act loyal, until you marry them 🤣

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Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by Baronthecelebri: 6:28am On Jan 09
If she has a daughter go a head,when the daughter clocks 20, then you can Bleep her to fulfill the scripture that says the husbandman that labour must be the first partaker.

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Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by ChizzyBuna(m): 11:09am On Jan 09
Ok
Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by cutecommend: 11:09am On Jan 09
Marry her if God is leading you.
Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by Ancecoker(m): 11:10am On Jan 09
grin

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Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by AbokiWam: 11:10am On Jan 09
GOFRONT never even finish de talk am for the other thread one simp don come prove am right.

SMH

rest be assured the father of her child would always have access to her punnani

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Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by ImoleNaija: 11:10am On Jan 09
Do what pleases you, abeg.

Na person later realized say na him wife born the child wey dey call am 'auntie' for grandma's house. grin

Lots of teens in our society are carrying unwanted pregnancies, so there's no way some bachelors won't end up with single mothers, while some spinsters also end up with single fathers.

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Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by Apatapiti(m): 11:11am On Jan 09
Note that she won't be with you if she's not a single mother. Why should you be with her now?

Why you?
Why not her close friends?

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Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by omowolewa: 11:11am On Jan 09
What happens after the baby daddy and her reconnect matters.

You see, Sex, Love and Marriage are three different matter.

You can Love, You can marry but that 3rd one is the issue.
Even the culprit would look innocently and submissively downwards after the whole strong heads.

Get her commitment on Fidelity and adopt the child.

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Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by donleo92(m): 11:12am On Jan 09
Enjoy.

Anything that tinkle your fancy. Who am I ?
Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by emmabest2000(m): 11:12am On Jan 09
Negative comments full this thread

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Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by BareFacedLies(m): 11:13am On Jan 09
There is nothing wrong with marrying a single parent because it's not a disease.

Just be sure of the reason you're with her because I have a string suspicion that most single guys in Nigeria only profess love to single mothers who have a lot of money to burn

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Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by Christ4ever: 11:13am On Jan 09
Are we still discussing this in 2025?

Well, It's better people learn from their own personal experience sometimes.

I wish you goodluck young man.

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Re: I Am In Love With A Single Mum by BABANGBALI: 11:13am On Jan 09
Mtcheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeew

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