Guidance and Leadership
Guidance and Leadership
Guidance and Leadership
Guidance
&
Leadership
Merkaz Anash
Table of Contents
8. Preface
10. As a Father Cares for his Children
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Preface
A bochur once wrote to the Rebbe, outlining his plans for the future year. In the letter, he mentioned that he
had asked his mashpia for permission to go to college, and that his mashpia had indeed given him the necessary
permission.
The Rebbes answer to the mazkirus was brief. "l'varer me hu hamashpia" (determine who is the mashpia). Upon
investigation, the following story emerged. Apparently, the bochur had asked a friend of his to act as his mashpia,
and had asked this mashpia whether he should enroll in college. Evidently, the mashpia, not very impressed with
this scheme, retorted to the bochur "tu vos du vilst" (go do what you want). Armed with such a clear directive, the
bochur subsequently had written a letter to the Rebbe, claiming that his mashpia had given him permission to go
to college.
The story is humorous, and yet, at the same time, can very well cause one to rethink his or her approach to having a
mashpia. We can all see how misguided the Bochur was in his understanding of what a mashpia is all about. However,
how well do we understand the role of a mashpia? Do we truly appreciate the superiority of the mashpia and value
his guidance? Or are we perhaps, in some way, similar to the bochur, choosing someone just to fulfill an obligation
to "have a mashpia" and then follow them irrationally, being that this is "what my mashpia said".
So what is a mashpia?
The Rebbe, on occasion, expressed disappointment when people would excuse themselves for not turning to a
mashpia. Can these people not find someone who has more Ahavas Hashem and Yiras Hashem then them? asked the
Rebbe1. We see that a mashpia is first and foremost a spiritual guide, someone to look up to in matters of ruchniyus,
a person whose devotion to the values of yiddishkeit and chassidishkeit earn our respect. A mashpia is someone who
we can learn from when it comes to our own service of Hashem.
A great example can be taken from the world of business. Someone who is new to a field of business will naturally
feel lost, unable to make decisions, unsure of which direction he should be moving toward. The best thing, under the
circumstances, would be to learn the business from an older, more experienced businessman. Through watching the
experienced businessmans dealings, the newcomer will learn how to go about his own business affairs. And before he
makes a decision, the newcomer will want to know how the older, seasoned businessman feels about this deal. Even
though it is his own business, still, the young businessman values the advice that his older colleague shares with him.
Every bit of advice contains years of knowledge and experience. What the older businessman had to learn the hard way,
through trial and error, can now be learned by merely listening and understanding, through appreciating the wisdom
behind the advice.
In spiritual matters, things are no different. A mashpia is meant to be a person with years of experience and
knowledge. Someone who has the knowledge to guide, and at the same time, has actually worked on himself, who
1. Simchas Beis Hashoeivah 5713 (Lekutei Sichos vol. 24 p. 106). See Sefer Hasichos 5747 p. 71 that even the residents of S'dom recognized the need to appoint a
Rav who is spiritually greater than themselves (Lot, from the family of Avrohom Avinu).
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2. See Sefer Hasichos 5747 p. 48 that a mashpia should be greater than oneself in Torah knowledge and actual experience of serving HaShem.
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But the shock was yet to come, ten days after the
histalkus, on Motzoei Shabbos, 2 Adar, 5748.
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Chazal say that one should regard the current chachomim just as those from the
previous generation. One should not say, "If Rebbi Akiva would be with us, I would
learn from him; if Rebbi Zeira and Rebbi Yochanan were alive, I would learn with
them." Rather, he should consider the chachomim of his own generation with the full
respect. This is the meaning of Shlomo Hamelech's words, "Do not justify yourself by
saying that the earlier days were better than these."
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At the farbrengen of Simchas Torah 1928 ))", the Frierdiker Rebbe was
speaking of the need to be connected to the "head" (the Rebbe), when he turned
to Reb Chatshe Feigin and said, "This is your job, to see that there should be
mashpi'im in every town."
Reb Chatshe asked if he should find someone locally who could serve as a
mashpia, and the Frierdiker Rebbe replied, "Yes, with this they will be connected
to the head."
Reb Chatshe then asked, "Is that because the mashpia is closer to the head?"
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Surviving Golus
4. Sanhedrin 94b.
5. See, for example, Sanhedrin 17b.
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Chassidishe Mashpi'im
This aspect of the role of the communal leader took on
a new dimension with the revelation of Chassidus. The
specific needs that had to be met by the chassidishe
communities, as well as the winds of change in the
world outside, demanded that his guidance be upgraded
to pioneer fresh modes of leadership and inspiration.
Hence the role of the mashpia. In the words of the
Frierdiker Rebbe, Among chassidim, the mashpia plays a
primary role in creating a chassidisher lifestyle. The crown
of the chassidisher shtetl was the mashpia."6 Indeed, it is
impossible to imagine what chassidim or Chassidus
would look like, were it not for the input of chassidishe
mashpi'im, the elder chassidim, over the generations.
To begin with the first flowering of Chassidus Chabad:
When the Alter Rebbe published the Tanya in 5557
(1796), its Compiler's Foreword7 explicitly called upon
chassidim to consult with mashpi'im, whose task was to
clarify the teachings of Chassidus, and to help people
develop as chassidim by applying those teachings in
their lives. Indeed, for the last two hundred years, that
earnest call of the Alter Rebbe is closely studied by every
chossid, even before he begins the study of the Tanya
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itself!
The Frierdiker Rebbe describes in a historical essay the
early development of the position of mashpia as follows:
After the first fifteen years [of the Alter Rebbes
leadership, until 5540 (1780)], the community of Chabad
chassidim in White Russia numbered about 30,000. The
Alter Rebbe entrusted twelve individuals with the holy
task of traveling to the communities of chassidim in
cities and villages, in roadside inns and on the estates of
landowners.
"In addition to reviewing Chabad chassidic teachings in
public, these emissaries would farbreng with chassidim
to draw their hearts close to one another; they monitored
the conduct of the chassidim in their various places of
residence; appointed mashpiim and madrichim8; saw to
the organized collection of funds for the running
expenses of the Alter Rebbes household; and encouraged
Yidden to engage in agriculture. By 5555 (1795), those
emissaries estimated the number of Chabad chassidim in
White Russia and Ukraine to be 70,000.
(Apparently the Frierdiker Rebbe intended the article for
a wide audience of readers who would not be familiar
with the insiders' Chabad jargon. He therefore added
footnotes to explain the meaning of terms such as
farbrengen, maamad, and shadar. Interestingly, he
differentiates between the terms mashpia and madrich.
The footnote defining mashpia reads: It is the custom of
Chabad chassidim in every town, and in larger cities in
every shul, to appoint an individual to publicly teach
Chassidus both from a text and by repeating chassidic
discourses by heart. The footnote on the term madrich
reads: In the early years of the development of Chassidus,
there would be one elderly individual in every town who
would serve as the community's guide.)
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In some cases the Alter Rebbe himself would appoint mashpiim
in specific towns. For example he appointed R' Shimshon Melamed to be the
mashpia of Beshenkovitch (Sefer HaSichos 5700, p. 66).
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Sefer HaSichos 5702, p. 52.
10. Sefer HaSichos 5700, p. 155.
Chazal say that one who is knowledgeable in Torah but did not receive
guidance from talmidei chachomim is reckoned an ignoramus. Since he has
not been taught the principles according to which one should approach
Torah scholarship, he is likely to apply incorrectly that which he has learnt.
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Reb Chaim Klien, the director of The Heichal Shlomo Institute in Yerushalaim, had an interesting
yechidus with the Rebbe.
The Rebbe asked him, Who is the Rov of the shul, where you daven on Shabbos? Reb Chaim
answered that there was no official Rov. To this the Rebbe replied, If you seek my advice, then
on Friday nights, for Kabbolas Shabbos, take your son to a shul where there is a Rov. It makes
no difference which shul as long as there is an officiating Rov.
A Yiddishe child must know that at the end of davening, he approaches the rov to wish him a
gut Shabbos and the child will look forward to receiving a gut shabbos back from him
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(As told by Simcha Raz in his book Sipurei Tzadikim page 342)
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The Rebbe Rashab told his son, the Frierdiker Rebbe: One must spend time in the
close company of elder chassidim (raibn-zich arum eltere chassidim colloquially,
"hanging around elder chassidim"). When I was younger I would spend time with
Reb Shmuel Ber and Reb Chaim Ber during the few weeks that they spent in
Lubavitch. I then spent three-quarters of a year applying what they spoke about.
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In Our Generation
From the beginning of his nesius, the Rebbe constantly
encouraged the communal rabbonim and mashpi'im and
upheld their standing in the eyes of Anash. In Montreal, for
example, the Rebbe personally appointed R' Peretz
Motchkin as the mashpia in the year 5714 (1954), and
directed the community to give him a salary. The Rebbe
wrote: "If you ease his worldly burdens, he will be able to
help you in your ruchniyusdike life." In the remote chassidic
community of Melbourne, R' Zalman Serebransky set the
tone as its mashpia, and in Paris, R' Nissan Nemenov stood
When the Rebbe established Tze'irei Agudas Chabad in order to utilize the
energy of the young chassidim in spreading Yiddishkeit, he discreetly requested
some of the eltere chassidim to supervise their activities and offer advice.
The Rebbe writes to them in a letter: "If Chazal say that the 'demolition' of elders
is ultimately 'building,' how much more so the 'building' of elders. However, your
advice should be given in a gentle manner that won't make the young men feel
unimportant."
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Still, the Rebbe still felt that not enough was being
done. On more than one occasion, he took the mashpi'im
themselves to task, for not being sufficiently dedicated
to their mission. As one example of many:25
Personal Guides
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Dare to Emulate
Anyone who knows Kingston Avenue knows Reb Pinye
Korff. You can find him any day walking an elder
chossid, listening to a person in need, or simply walking
deep in thought, as one would imagine a chossid walks.
A legend in his lifetime, this exemplary masmid and
mekushar has served as the mashpia of the Oholei Torah
Yeshiva for the past forty years, and in that capacity has
taught most American Lubavitcher bochurim. He is
widely revered for his davenen and yiras Shamayim and
envied for the fact that he was once actually beaten for
teaching Chassidus.
Chassidim relate that when he was a bochur, he once
approached his mashpia, Reb Peretz Motchkin of
Montreal, to ask him for advice on a personal matter in
avodas HaShem. Reb Peretz later exclaimed to his
friends: "His questions remind me of the sincerity of the
bochurim in Lubavitch in the good old days." Indeed,
Reb Pinye's own live memories of pre-war chassidim
make him a rare baal mesora, a blast from the past.
To watch Reb Pinye daven is not something I can
transmit on paper. To hear him farbreng, youve also got
to be present to experience. However, one thing I
believe can be encapsulated in print his advice.
His acute intuition, his pure chassidisher chinuch, and his
earnest dedication to darchei haChassidus, all blend to
create a towering personality a genuine chossid
whose lifetime of intense avoda has produced a sharp
perception that is cloaked in an unassuming, even
simple, personality. Hundreds flock to him, not only for
his wellspring of chassidishe mayses, ideas and feelings,
but also for practical guidance on dealing with
contemporary realities. And despite his humble
demeanor, his opinions on these challenges ring loud
and clear.
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derech."
Indeed, observing chassidim and watching their davening
has always been a great thing. But still, in my day, the
primary time for guiding and inspiring chassidim of all
ages was always a farbrengen. There, an elder chossid
would open up and share his own feelings and thoughts,
and would often talk about chassidim of earlier
generations. The focus in all of this, the main reason for
our desire to come to a farbrengen, was to receive
instruction and guidance.
Q. How did this eagerness to hear from older chassidim
express itself
A. True, some were the prying and inquisitive type
(krichers). They would try probing and asking questions,
hoping to hear stories and recollections, and indeed
from time to time they did succeed in "squeezing"
In the winter of 1950 ))", the Frierdiker Rebbe discussed the necessity for
chassidishe guidance. He said: "Nowadays, many chassidim are completely off
track. It is often the loud youngsters, lightheaded and spiritually insensitive,
who arrogantly jump to the head table, and thus they remain naked without
a knowledge of Chassidus, and even without middos tovos and a geshmak in
davening. For, as the age-old chassidic saying goes, 'Everyone needs chinuch, even
a Rebbe who is the son of a Rebbe and the grandson of a Rebbe.' "
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The Rebbe Rashab told his son, the Frierdiker Rebbe: One must spend time in the
close company of elder chassidim (raibn-zich arum eltere chassidim colloquially,
"hanging around elder chassidim"). When I was younger I would spend time with
Reb Shmuel Ber and Reb Chaim Ber during the few weeks that they spent in
Lubavitch. I then spent three-quarters of a year applying what they spoke about.
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The Tzemach Tzedek once said, "The level of chassidishkeit has gone down."
He went on to explain that in the days of the Mitteler Rebbe, first the melamdim and
rabbonim were admitted for yechidus, and only then would the baalei-batim take their
turn. Now, he said, the baalei-batim enter first. (After all, they have important matters to
discuss; besides, they are the ones who support the rabbonim.) Only afterwards are the
rabbonim and melamdim admitted.
When the elder mashpia, Reb Groinem, related this story, the temimim in Lubavitch asked
him why the Tzemach Tzedek did not reverse the order to the way it had been in the past. Reb
Groinem, in true chassidic tradition, explained with a story:
"There was once a villager, a simple yishuvnik, who would occasionally visit the rov of the
nearby town and ask him all his shaylos. One day he arrived at the home of the rov and found
him at a meeting discussing a serious matter with his colleagues. When the meeting ended,
the villager presented his shaylos, and then asked the rov if he could know what was the
matter of such great concern.
"The rov explained that since it hadnt rained for a while, they were deliberating whether they
should declare a day of fasting and davening for the much-needed rain, to save them from
possible famine. The villager, astonished, offered his counsel.
" 'I have a far simpler solution,' he said. 'Whenever my cat runs into the house and crouches
near the oven, rain begins to fall shortly after. All we must do is grab the cat, place it near the
oven, and the rain will surely follow!' "
The mashpia concluded: "In the days of the Mitteler Rebbe, the baalei-batim admired and
respected the melamdim and rabbonim and gave them precedence. But now that the situation
has declined and they no longer respect them, rearranging them in the correct order is no
more helpful than putting the cat near the oven to bring the rain."
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One day, during his early years in Homil, Reb Aizel Homiler farbrenged with
the local baalei batim and told them: "The true 'mizrach' is at the back of the
shul, where the melamdim sit. You should listen and learn from the words of
the melamdim just as you listen and learn from the Rebbe's words."
From that day on, the baalei batim began to appreciate the chassidishe
melamdim, and the town of Homil became bright.
When the Frierdiker Rebbe related the above, he added: "In the past, people
would study not only the words of a Rebbe but the words of a chossid. The
young people would listen to the old folk, the baalei batim would listen to
the melamdim and things were brighter."
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Clear Directives
Time and again the Rebbe would advise and demand of
the chassidim to seek counsel by Rabbonim.
In an instance of dispute between chassidim the Rebbe
wrote: "As is customary amongst Yidden to follow the
advice of the local Rov."
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Seeking Guidance
Throughout the generations of chasidei Chabad, chassidim
always understood that it was not enough to hear
Chassidus from the Rebbe and go into yechidus, it was
crucial to have an elder chossid to direct them in their
avodas HaShem. After hearing a directive from the Rebbe,
in public or private, the chassidim would review the
Rebbe's words with 'their' elder chossid, who would guide
them on how to apply it correctly. While everyone had
heard the Rebbe speak, the chassidim understood that
it was specifically the elder mashpi'im who understood
the full depth of the Rebbe's words and its appropriate
application.
Today, when we must draw guidance from the Rebbe's
words in the past, it is even more crucial for us to turn
to the elder chassidim today, to be guided on the correct
understanding and application of the Rebbe's words.
Receiving Hadracha
Chazal say that one who is knowledgeable in Torah but
did not receive guidance from talmidei chachomim is
reckoned an ignoramus. Since he has not been taught
the principles according to which one should approach
Torah scholarship, he is likely to apply incorrectly that
which he has learnt.
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In a letter to a certain elterer chossid, the Frierdiker Rebbe
pleads with him to farbreng with the younger chassidim:
"Guidance in Chassidus can only be transmitted from
one chossid to another, just as one candle is lit from
another. It has been the practice of Anash throughout
the generations to devote time to hearing a rich vort
from eltere chassidim.
"My father, the Rebbe Rashab, praised this practice
Guided Thinking
The Tzemach Tzedek would often direct yungeleit to the
eminent chossid, Reb Hillel Paritcher, to be guided in
the ways of Chassidus. Reb Hillel in turn would entrust
each newly-arrived yungerman to the hands of two elder
yungeleit, who in addition to explaining the basics of
Chassidus, would most importantly tell him sippurim
about the Rebbeim and about chassidim of earlier
generations. They would retell each story numerous
times, until it penetrated the yungerman and he knew its
details well. They would then ask him what lessons in
refining one's middos, in yiras Shomayim and hashgacha
protis could be learned from the story. They would
urge the yungerman to toil, as one does in serious study,
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Rava said: "How foolish are those people that stand up for a sefer Torah but not
for a talmid chacham" because of the degree to which the Torah empowers
them to interpret its words.
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