Losing Your First Love by MELVIN NEWLAND

Revelation 2:1-5
MELVIN M. NEWLAND, MINISTER
CENTRAL CHRISTIAN, BROWNSVILLE, TX
ILL. Edmund Burke said that very seldom does a man take one giant step from a life of virtue & goodness into a
life of vice & corruption. Usually, he begins his journey into evil by taking little steps into the shaded areas,
areas tinted & colored just a bit, almost unnoticed by those around him.
Until one day, hardly aware that he has made the journey, he finds himself firmly entangled in a life of vice &
corruption.
A. We see that same kind of journey pictured again & again in scripture.
ILL. In the book of Judges we read about Samson. Almost everybody knows his story. Samson was a man of
God. From birth to manhood, his life was dedicated to God. He started the morning with God. He spent the day
with God. He ended his day with God.
But then gradually, Samson started flirting with evil. And little by little, evil came into his life. And then, in
Judges 16:20 we read one of the most startling verses in all the Bible. It says that the Lord had departed from
Samson, & Samson didnt realize it.
Isnt that sad? Samson had become so deeply enmeshed in sin that God couldnt stand to stay around any
more. So God left him. And Samson, once a great man of God, was so insensitive to the presence of God, that
when God left, Samson didnt even realize it.
ILL. That was true of King Saul, too. The sun comes up on his life & we see a cloudless sky, a beautiful
beginning for Saul. He is a man whom God loves, & who loves God.
But gradually, he turns his back on God, & the storm clouds begin to collect. Finally, he cant see the sun
anymore because God has left him. And the Bible says that Saul ended up slinking off to the witch of Endor,
seeking help from the powers of evil because those were the forces that were now controlling his life.
APPL. It isnt the giant step from virtue into corruption that we need to fear. Its the little steps that ultimately
lead us away from God.
B. It must have happened that way in the church in Ephesus. In Rev. 2:1-5, as Jesus looked at that church, He
saw many positive things. Listen as I read the first 3 verses:
"These are the words of Him who holds the 7 stars in his right hand & walks among the 7 golden lampstands: `I
know your deeds, your hard work & your perseverance. I know that you cannot tolerate wicked men, that you
have tested those who claim to be apostles but are not, & have found them false. You have persevered & have
endured hardships for my name, & have not grown weary."
Isnt that a great description of a church? Wed be proud to have Jesus say something like that about us,
wouldnt we? But Jesus doesnt stop there. He goes on in vs. 4, "Yet I hold this against you: You have forsaken
your first love."
I dont imagine that their forsaking their first love happened in one giant step. It wasnt that just one day they
decided not to love God any more. It was a gradual thing.
For a while their love for God was so great & so infectious that people were drawn into their fellowship. Great
sermons were preached, & wonderful things were happening. And they were known far & wide for their
steadfast faithfulness, even in the face of persecution.
But then, people who used to pray a lot gradually stopped praying. People who may have been giving a lot
gradually stopped giving. People who used to witness to the lost gradually stopped witnessing. Until finally,

when Jesus looks at this church, He says, "This I have against you. You have forsaken your first love."
PROP. Now, I have 3 questions that I want us to consider this morning.
I. WHAT IS FIRST LOVE?
A. The first question is, "What is first love?"
ILL. A while back I listened to someone reminiscing about his first love. He recalled tree-lined streets, & long
summer evenings when he & his girl friend walked down the street holding hands & dreaming of their future
together.
They envisioned themselves living in a little cottage built for two in their blue heaven somewhere. When
practical questions arose concerning money, they answered it in what seemed to them a most logical way. They
said, "Well live on love."
SUM. Thats the way first love is, isnt it? It loves the object of its affection without reservation. It is being
totally head over heels in love.
B. Now what is "first love" in Gods eyes? It is the love that first brought you to God. It is the love that you
experienced when you saw the cross as it really was. It was when you realized that the blood of Jesus Christ
was shed for your sin & you were overwhelmed with His amazing love.
So you became a child of God, & you experienced His forgiveness. Thats first love.
First love looks at mountains of troubles & sees them as hills to conquer. First love looks at rivers of grief &
worry that may arise in life & says, "Thats nothing. God & I together can swim through that."
First love looks at stumbling blocks & sees them as stepping stones that prove the power of God. First love cries
out, "Just give us a mountain to climb. Give us a river to swim. Give us something to do to prove the greatness
of Gods love & how powerful He really is." Thats first love.
C. But first love is vulnerable. It needs to be protected. It needs to be reinforced. Because love, you see, when
it really loves, stretches out its arms & rolls up its sleeves to help the hurting multitudes. It isnt selfish. It gives
itself totally & completely.
ILL. Paul is an amazing example of that first love. Paul recognized that he owed everything to God. Again &
again he said, "I am the chiefest of sinners. I dont even deserve to be called an apostle." He was always very
much aware of who he was & what he had done. And he is overwhelmed that God could love someone like him.
And when he thinks about that he calls himself a "debtor" to God & a debtor to the Jews & to the Greeks & to
the barbarians. In other words, because he had been so wondrously loved by God, he owed it to God to share
that wonderful love with others.
That wonderful first love caused Paul to write these amazing words in Romans 9:1-3. "I speak the truth in Christ
- I am not lying, my conscience confirms it in the Holy Spirit - I have great sorrow & unceasing anguish in my
heart. For I could wish that I myself were cursed & cut off from Christ for the sake of my brothers, those of my
own race."
Do you hear the heartbeat? Do you hear what he is saying? He is so much in love with God, & consequently in
love with his brothers & sisters, that he was willing to be cursed & go to hell himself, if it would mean that they
would be saved.
ILL. Moses prayed the same kind of prayer in the wilderness, after the people had rebelled against God. We read
these words in Exodus 32:31-32. "So Moses went back to the Lord & said, `Oh, what a great sin these people
have committed! They have made themselves gods of gold. But now, please forgive their sin - but if not, then
blot me out of the book you have written."
In other words, Moses was saying his love for God was so great & his love for the people was so deep that he

was willing to offer himself in their place. "Blot me out, but forgive them."
SUM. Thats the unselfish quality of first love.
II. HOW DO YOU LOSE SOMETHING AS WONDERFUL AS FIRST LOVE?
A. Now, how do you lose something as exciting & as wonderful as first love? I would think that we would take
very good care of it, & never take a chance on losing it. But we can lose it. Sometimes it just disappears,
vanishes, goes away. But how does that happen? Let me offer some suggestions.
In the 24th chapter of the Gospel of Matthew Jesus is talking about the end of time, & here is what He says in
vs. 12, "Because of the increase of wickedness, the love of most will grow cold."
Did you hear that? That is the way sin works. Not by taking giant steps from virtue to corruption, just little
steps. And as wickedness increases, this once wonderful, warm, unselfish, vibrant love in your life begins to
grow cold like an ember that is all alone, no longer a part of the fire. And soon it will die.
B. Scripture often uses the marriage relationship as an illustration, & I want to do that too.
ILL. Two people meet & fall in love. So they spend precious time with each other, talking to one another, sharing
their hopes & dreams. And when theyre apart, theyre thinking about each other, wishing they were together
again.
Their love just seems to grow & mushroom. Then one day they become husband & wife. They build a cocoon of
love about themselves & they say, "We will always be together. And life will be so wonderful."
But there are jobs to go to, & appointments to be kept, & stresses to be dealt with, & arguments & problems &
family feuds & fusses. And all of these things pull on us, until soon the demands become so overwhelming that
the love relationship begins to suffer.
Then one day you look across the table at each other & you think, "Thats not the person I married. Youre a
stranger. I dont know you anymore." And whats happened is that your love has been starved. It didnt receive
the daily nourishment it needed to grow healthy & strong.
ILL. A modern song writer sings, "Doesnt anybody stay together anymore?"
SUM. Thats kind of the way it was in Ephesus, wasnt it? So many good things & yet they had forsaken their
first love.
III. HOW DO YOU FIND A LOVE THAT IS LOST?
A. Now, how do you find again a love that is lost? Well, in Rev. 2:5 Jesus gives us a prescription that is very
simple & very direct. "Here is what you need to do," Jesus says, "Remember the height from which you have
fallen!"
Do you know where something is that you lose? It is always wherever you left it. You lose your car keys or your
glasses. Guess where they are. They are where you left them. Wherever you had them last, if you can
remember where that was, youll find them there.
SUM. And it is that way with your love for God, too. If you have lost it, guess where it is. It is wherever you left
it.
APPL. That is what Jesus is saying. He is saying that if you have lost it then remember where you had it last, go
back & find it again. Was it in a church service? Was it in a moment of dealing with temptation that you felt His
overwhelming power & you were able to resist & gain the victory?
Where was the last time that you were touched by the wondrous love of God? Wherever it was, if youve lost it,
it is still there. God hasnt moved, & He is waiting for you to come back, to become reacquainted with Him.

B. Secondly, Jesus tells us how to do it. He said, "Repent and do the things you did at first." And that word,
"repent," is a greatly neglected Biblical word.
ILL. When John the Baptist started to preach, the first word out of his mouth was the word "repent." When
Jesus sent the 70 out 2 by 2, the first word out of their mouths was to be "repent."
Go back & read the prophets. Every time they stood before the rebellious nation of Israel, they spoke with the
authority of God & they commanded the people to repent.
Its a strong word, & it has lots of implications. When you repent you look at your sin & you see how ugly &
horrible it is. And you dont try to deny it. You dont blame it on someone or something else. It is your burden.
You made it, & you face the reality of it.
Finally, you come with no pretense before God & say, "God, I cant carry it. Its too heavy for me." And God
says, "Welcome home, my child." And He reaches down & lifts the burden & begins to carry it for you. Thats
when healing takes place & thats when love is restored.
ILL. There is something about a ghost town that captures the imagination. As you walk the streets you can
almost hear the echoes of the past. But the buildings stand empty as mute reminders of life that is gone.
With every passing season more buildings collapse, more weeds grow up, more animals take over the ruins
where a thriving town once stood. A ghost town is natures testimony that once something has been emptied,
destruction & death follow, unless the void is filled.
CONCL. In the parable of the empty house, Jesus tells us that it is not enough for a man to be freed from the
power of Satan. His life must be filled with the Spirit of God or Satan will get hold of him again. Like the ghost
town, if a person is not filled with a life in Christ, he will be filled with something else, & the end result is death
& decay.
That is why we thrill at the words of Jesus when He said, "I am come that you might have life, & that more
abundantly."
Thats Gods invitation. We offer it in His name & we pray you will respond to it as we stand & sing.