Lavender Issue 390
Lavender Issue 390
Lavender Issue 390
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Contents | [ Minnesota's Gay-Lesbian-Bisexual-Transgender Magazine ]
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32 On the Townsend New Lavender Digital Edition.
Celeste & Starla Save Todd & Win Back the Day
• Cats • Our Country’s Good • South Pacific•
Puppetry of the Penis • Bright Ideas • Queens
of Burlesque
34 On the Record
Jónsi • OK Go • Dosh • She & Him
FLIP
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26 Big Gay News
National and World News Top Headlines
Two Journalists Arrested in Indian
28 FIERCE Activists Gay Professor Suicide Case
Rikke Mananzala and Ash Hammond Advocate Man Arrested for Killing Six Men in
GLBT Youth Issues Gay Sex Games in China
30 Making a Difference Is a Walk in the Man Charged in Transgender
Prostitute Murder
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Volume 15, Issue 390 • May 7–20, 2010
Editorial
Editor Emeritus Ethan Boatner 612-436-4670
Editorial Director Russell Remmick 612-436-4671
Editorial Associate George Holdgrafer 612-436-4672
Podmaster Bradley Traynor 612-436-4669
Contributors Kolina Cicero, Meryl Cohn, Carla Continenza,
Julie Dafydd, Heidi Fellner, Terrance Griep, Ed Huyck, Steve
Lenius, Casey Merkwan, Jennifer Parello, Todd Park, Kevin
Quinn, Sara Rogers, Amber Schadewald, Elizabeth Stiras, John
Townsend, Carla Waldemar
Advertising
Sales & Advertising Director Barry Leavitt 612-436-4690
Senior Account Executive Suzanne Farrell 612-436-4699
Account Executives Jonathan Halverson 612-436-4696,
Michael Ladzun 612-436-4697
Sales & Advertising Traffic Coordinator
Linda Raines 612-436-4694
Advertising Associate George Holdgrafer 612-436-4672
Classifieds Suzanne Farrell 612-436-4699
National Sales Representative Rivendell Media
212-242-6863
Creative
Creative Director Hubert Bonnet 612-436-4678
Creative Assistant Mike Hnida 612-436-4679
Creative Intern Andy Scott
Photographer Sophia Hantzes
Cartoonist Rodro
Lavender Studios Hubert Bonnet, Mike Hnida
Administration
Publisher Lavender Media, Inc.
President & CEO Stephen Rocheford 612-436-4665
Vice President & CC Pierre Tardif 612-436-4666
Chief Financial Officer Carolyn Lima 612-436-4664
Administrative Assistant Austin Lindstrom 612-436-4661
Founders George Holdgrafer, Stephen Rocheford
Inspiration Steven W. Anderson (1954-1994), Timothy J. Lee
(1968-2002), Russell Berg (1957-2005), Kathryn Rocheford
(1914-2006)
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Community Dialogue > A Word in Edgewise [ by E.B. Boatner ]
They’re Broadcasting they reach critical mass of seeking divorce—as but equal” thing been done before?
Through My Tinfoil Hat do more than half the legally fettered hetero-
Are other people’s sexuals—cannot claim the same relief? “This Is Alabama; We Speak English”
computers beaming in the Are they considered married till that No, I’m not going to touch that one with
same news stories that I’m point? Does Texas figure it can’t dissolve any length pole.
receiving? Lately, my usu- something that isn’t real in its blinkered Has Alabama’s Republican Governor,
ally docile laptop has been eyes? Or does Texas Attorney General Greg Tim James, really adopted that line as a cam-
channeling Tim Burton Abbott simply enjoy punishing queers? He paign slogan to argue that the state driver’s
mingled with the spirits of Federico Fellini currently is working to invalidate divorces license exam be given in English? Only in
and Ernie Kovacs. I pass this sample along already granted by other judges in Austin English? “This is Alabama; we speak Eng-
for a reality check. and Dallas. lish. If you want to live here, learn it.”
Research seems to bear out Option Two: I only can point out that “Alabama” de-
Texas Hold ’em—Till Death Do You Part The state feels it can’t grant a divorce for an rives from the indigenous population’s Mus-
It seems that the Lone Star State—Grand illegitimate marriage. But the couples didn’t koegan language, not from English, which
Guignol theater with a drawl—not only marry illegitimately in Texas—they legiti- the original natives well might have added to
won’t let same-sex couples marry within its mately are married elsewhere. To complicate the 13—Chinese and Farsi among them—
borders, but also won’t let same-sex couples things, Abbott has decided that these same which the Governor wishes to drop.
legally married in other states or countries gay marriages can be voided legally in Texas.
get divorced within its borders, either. Perhaps if the Attorney General pushes Australian Restaurant Fined After
Does this mean that, like California, with the envelope a bit more vigorously, he can Employees Refused To Admit a Blind
its 18,000 legally married same-sex couples find a way for gay marriages also to be… Man, Thinking His “Guide” Dog Was a
forming a peculiar archipelago of legally sanc- um…validated, creating new “V & V” legis- “Gay” Dog
tioned islets in a heterosexual ocean, Texas will lation for creation and dissolution of Texas At this point, I logged off, and opened a
accumulate married gay couples who, when same-sex nuptials. But hasn’t the “separate Jules Verne novel.
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Community Dialogue >
Queer As Folks
HENNEPIN THEATRE
TRUST ANNOUNCES
2010-2011 SEASON
nepintheatretrust.org>.
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Big Gay News >
[ Written & Compiled by Bradley Traynor ]
NATIONAL
LOUISIANA LEGISLATURE
REJECTS GAY ADOPTION
EXPANSION
The Louisiana State Senate Judiciary
Committee voted 3-1 to reject a pro-
posal that would have allowed unmarried
and same-sex couples the right to adopt
children jointly in the state. Louisiana
currently allows only married couples or
single individuals to adopt. Senate Repub-
licans on the committee opposed the bill,
which also was opposed by Republican
Governor Bobby Jindal.
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WORLD
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> News & Politics
May 7-20, 2010
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FIERCE ACTIVISTSRIKKE MANANZALA AND ASH HAMMOND
ADVOCATE GLBT YOUTH ISSUES
[ by Ed Huyck ]
F
or Ash Hammond, coming to the United States
from Zimbabwe was more than a chance to get
an education—it allowed her to be herself at last,
and come out of the closet. For Rikke Mananzala,
coming out meant a complete change in his life.
Mananzala says, “When my parents found a pair of development internships.
out I was queer, I was asked to leave our house. Hammond states, “There are not
From age 16 on, I was figuring out things on enough services for people like me.”
my own—like how to go to high school, and FIERCE provides outreach at the
still have food, a place to stay, and to go to street level and with gay-straight alliances
college. I had to endure a lot of unsafe situ- throughout New York City.
ations, and a lot of things I didn’t expect or Hammond explains, “We’re trying to get
think I deserved as a young person.” people involved with different issues, from
Both Hammond and Mananzala found homelessness to police brutality. We try to get
themselves in New York City, where they end- the young people organized, and make them
ed up at (FIERCE), an organization geared to aware of systems of oppression, the history of
GLBT youth of color ages 13 to 24. social-justice movements, and what they went
The two were in the Twin Cities in April through, so we can use them now.”
to speak at a community event at Pillsbury Beyond that is an effort to take FIERCE’s
House, as well as at PFund’s annual Moxie operations to a nationwide level. In sur-
Awards, where the local group awarded veys of dozens of communities around the
scholarships to local youth and grants to a country, the organization found that the
number of organizations. top three concerns were transphobia and
What activists have found is that while gender-based violence; homelessness; and
services exist for GLBT youth, they have mental-health and wellness programs.
less of an emphasis on creating a political Mananzala remarks, “Across the country,
voice—vital if the victories gained in the they are getting services, but not power. It’s
courts or legislatures are to continue be- scary if we are becoming depoliticalized.”
yond the initial passage. The organizational force is there. Youth
Mananzala notes, “There are places for organizations have been instrumental in
youth to go to have basic needs met, like gaining support for same-sex marriage
health care and housing, but there wasn’t across the country. It’s a matter of keeping
any kind of political organization.” the eye on the key issues for GLBT youth.
A decade ago, a group of young activists While FIERCE is organizing chapters
in New York organized FIERCE to create a in other communities, it plans to work with
stronger political voice for that part of the already-existing services in the Twin Cities,
community. according to Mananzala.
Mananzala recalls of his association As Mananzala puts it, “If winning was
with FIERCE, “I felt isolated. But here, I easy, everyone would do it. We have to get
met a lot of people, and that is where my other people into the fight, and to change
consciousness was opened up. There were the system. The moments that are most
things that we could do, and things we could profound to me are when I see a member
change. It’s kind of like a union. We fight for who has come in, and thinks that change
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the rights that we collectively want.” is impossible. Then, they see a victory that
That commitment and radical spirit they made possible. They know that change
drew Hammond to FIERCE, which she is possible, and then bring other people into
learned about at a conference, followed by the fight. I’m in this for the long haul.”
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Arts & Entertainment | [ by John Townsend ]
Art-A-Whirl
Features Remarkable GLBT Artists and Works
T
he 15th annual Art-A-Whirl in Northeast Minneapo- person to be able to afford a piece of my
work if it inspires them.”
lis, presented by the Northeast Minneapolis Arts
Association (NEMAA), features some remarkable GAIL WALLINGA
GLBT artists and queer-oriented work. Over the Casket Arts Building • 681 17th Ave. NE
Another lesbian-identified artist is Gail
weekend of May 14-16, check out various studios and gal- Wallinga of the Rain Collective. As a per-
leries at your own pace for a vast range of new painting, cussionist, she feels connected to rhythm
photography, sculpture, mixed media, mosaics, and more. and beat. That musical concept informs
her painting, and vice versa. Her work is
CODY KISER reminiscent of sand paintings from tribal
Northrup King Bldg. • 1500 Jackson St. NE cultures of eons ago and of geological lay-
Van Gogh meets Picasso in Cody Kiser’s ering—with the look of elements under a
lush brushstrokes and vibrant colors. Even the microscope. It definitely has a sense of na-
mundane—for instance, a rocking chair by a ture’s unity and tranquility.
window—teems with energetic life. He has Wallinga states, “Nature has her own
been with his partner for more than a decade. pulsing intricacies. I spent years taking
Kiser calls his work “a bridge between the close-up photographs, studying the shapes
perceptions of what it means to be gay and in and textures, fascinated by the exquisite de-
a relationship in a home you have created.” has made me more spiritual. Some people signs present in that world. Nature is where
talk or write about their spirituality. I use I feel most whole and at peace. In painting,
JON O. ERIKSON color and symbols to communicate, which I narrate stories of internal and external re-
Svedberg Studio • 3359 Tyler St. NE I consider to be a universal language. And I lationships, and connect them to a sense of
Sculptor Jon O. Erikson draws from his use geometrical forms in my work, because well-being. There is the freedom to depict
experience as a props maker, much of it at those forms speak to me.” the illusive shadow side as a part of light,
the Guthrie Theater. Human and organic the life force in us all.”
forms combine. He makes soft sculpture KARL REICHERT
more rigid in the gay-themed A Nice Young California Building • 2205 California St. NE CAITLIN KAROLCZAK
Man... with drapery fabric, resin, and wood. Diaz’s partner is photographer Karl Re- Rogue Buddha Gallery • 357 13th Ave. NE
According to Erikson, his style is “an- ichert, whose subject is Miss Richfield 1981. Those who want their art to be bold and
thropomorphic realism from a homocentric The artist shares that he has been buds with edgy must catch Caitlin Karolczak, who is
vantage point.” Russ King, Miss R’s alter ego, since college in process of creating a GLBT series. She
days in Bemidji in the mid-1980s. cuts the edge with stark, despairing images
REYNALDO DIAZ that reflect intersex themes, as well as issues
California Building • 2205 California St. NE RACHEL RODENBORG of torture and rendition.
Reynaldo Diaz created the stained-glass Eastside Food Co-op • 2551 Central Ave. NE Karolczak remarks, “My paintings ex-
design Awakening at the Loring Park Com- Ecologically conscious Rachel Roden- plore the fragility of the human mind and
munity Arts Center. He paints primarily borg started collecting mismatched blue and body, often inspired by my collection of
with acrylics. white china when she was in high school, in vintage medical photographs in regard to
Diaz says, “Through my paintings, I hopes of learning to create mosaics. That sexuality and gender. I attempt to confront
strive to create inner harmony. I use col- interest has evolved notably. Whether it’s the viewer with an intersection of beauty
ors, symbols, and indigenous features that a female torso—as in Pastiche—or a simple and distress, hoping that they can get past
come from my heritage growing up in Ni- ball, she casts a magic spell with her mosa- the initial stigma of what I’m portraying to
caragua. I feel a close connection to Mayan, ics. Rainbow families may want to make a find a personal connection with the indi-
Aztec, and Spanish heritage. Throughout point of seeing her work, because she cur- viduals in my paintings.”
my life, being gay has helped me to connect rently is launching an in-school art pro-
gram for K-6 kids. Art-A-Whirl
more easily to my inner feelings, which
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Arts & Entertainment > On the Townsend [ by John Townsend ]
CATS
May 14-16
Orpheum Theatre
910 Hennepin Ave., Mpls.
(612) 339-7007
<www.HennepinTheatreTrust.org>
us with crossgender performances in Tim- rapher Joe Langworth observes that Chris- penises is a very universal thing, I’m learn-
berlake Wertenbaker’s moving play about topher Gatelli’s choreography caters to the ing. The show is probably least attended by
Australia’s penal colony past. different dance backgrounds of the actors straight men, but the same can most likely
Director Richard Jackson felt “our fi- playing the hunky sailors. be said of all theater. In my experience, the
nal show should make a statement to our As Langworth explains, “Our goal was girls and the gays come expecting to love it,
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and they do, but the straight man whose
wife dragged him to the theater is usually
the one who will be showing dick tricks to
his buddies at the bar the next weekend.”
BRIGHT IDEAS
Through May 23
Sabes Jewish Community Center
4330 Cedar Lake Rd. S., St. Louis Park
(612) 396-2025
<www.urbansamuraipro.org>
QUEENS OF BURLESQUE
Through May 23
History Theatre
30 E. 10th St., St. Paul
(651) 292-4323
<www.historytheatre.com>
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Arts & Entertainment > On the Record [ by Ed Huyck ]
So, what can be expected To open album number three, Dosh’s latest album may have A collaboration between ac-
from the first solo album by OK Go get all sleazy on arrived at the beginning of tor/singer Zooey Deschanel
the Sigur Ros frontman? The “WTF”—well, not quite like spring, but it really is meant and neofolk superstar M.
Icelandic combo has made a early Prince/Rick James, but for late nights, gloomy morn- Ward, She & Him brings
career out of lengthy atmo- more like Beck circa Midnite ings, and stormy days. The plenty of simple charms.
spheric pieces held together Vultures. You know, guys who local electronic wizard, whose Volume Two is an unassuming
by the sprawling, otherworldly really aren’t all that sleazy, but collaborators have included collection of songs, featuring
vocals of Jónsi—often sung in kind of like pretending hang- Andrew Bird and Bonnie plenty of country-tinged folk
a language all his own. Instead ing out in tight leather pants “Prince” Billie, gives us a set for the listener. It’s not an
of going bigger on Go, he cuts in a city’s red light district is of atmospheric, almost entirely album that arrests you at every
to the chase. Here, we have a how they like to spend their instrumental, music that often turn, but—like a lot of good
collection of nine pop songs evenings. The band quickly evokes the quietest moments records—works its charms in
that embrace the whimsical goes back into poppier terri- of life in a busy city. Named the back of your mind. Taken
side of his musical nature. It’s tory, but the spirit of moving for Tom Cesario, a longtime individually, the songs make
aided by the shorter pieces—a beyond comfort zones remains friend who died two years ago, up a fine collection, from the
lot of the best Sigur Ros tunes throughout the collection. Tommy evokes the melancholy Jayhawks-like pop of “In the
clock in around 10 minutes— You’ll find expansive pop of loss without wallowing in Sun” to the swing of “I’m Go-
which don’t confine Jónsi as songs—tracks that seemingly it. Pieces like “Country Road ing to Make it Better.” Here,
much as compress the ideas. break down long before the X” and the closer, “Gare de a quieter, more desperate un-
That makes the music some- end, prior to regaining their Lyon,” are dense creations dercurrent comes out in tunes
what more accessible (e.g., composure—and others made that still allow the listener in like “Brand New Shoes.”
opener “Go Do”), though a up of more mood than melody. from the first go-around, but Still, it’s not the individual
piece like the circular “Tor- It all probably ties together open up with greater depth tracks that make this record
nado” probably isn’t going somehow (the title alludes to each time through. Bird also fly, but rather the overall
to end up on a pop station a 19th-Century book), but makes a pair of appearances feel of the 14 in all. This is
anytime soon. No matter the really, when I’m listening to an here. On “Number 41,” a music in touch with a quiet,
stylistic changes, the ear keeps act like OK Go, it’s just about dense opening eventually gives natural place in the world.
coming back to the singer’s the tunes. While sometimes way to a short, spare vocal. Deschanel’s often breathless
soaring falsetto vocals, which getting buried beneath all “Nevermet” plays as a more vocals play perfectly into it,
cut through the musical back- the other stuff, they ring out traditional, albeit sad, pop while Ward’s spare instrumen-
May 7-20, 2010
drops like something from a enough to make the album a song. It’s a fine album from tation only makes that mood
world far away. pleasure ride. beginning to end. all the more clear.
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Bar Advertiser Guide | Bartender Spotlight |
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490 N. Robert St., St. Paul
(651) 292-1844 PIANO LOUNGE WHAT
<www.camp-bar.net> 1415 University Ave. W., St. Paul Recipe: Push-up
An upscale but casual spot with great video, dancing, (651) 646-7087 1 part Stoli Vanil Vodka
cabaret, and the friendliest staff in town! <www.townshousebar.com>
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04 FUSION Fun neighborhood bar with a great mix of men and Splash of Orange Juice
2919 Hennepin Ave., Mpls women. Karaoke. Drag shows. Splash of 7UP
(612) 824-6300 Piano Lounge Splash of Cream
<www.fusionmpls.com> That’s entertainment! Friday: Karaoke (Twyla). Satur-
Daily Happy Hour 4-6 PM. 1/2 price beer, sushi, day: Lori Dokken & Friends. Sunday:
Serve over ice or shaken
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of wine! WHEN
05 GAY 90’S MEGABAR Wed., Thu., Sat. • 3-8 PM
408 Hennepin Ave., Mpls. Superior •
(612) 333-7755 WHERE
<www.gay90s.com> Wisconsin
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Upper Midwest’s Largest Gay Entertainment Com- 19 W. 15th St., Mpls.
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Wednesday-Sunday.
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Awesome DJs deliver latest in dance, techno, and hot 1612 Tower Ave., Superior WHY
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Newly remodeled. Open longest hours of any local
GLBT bar. State-of-the art sound/video. our 58th anniversary as a gay bar.”
La Femme Show Lounge WI THE MAIN CLUB
The Ladies of La Femme present the Twin Cities’s best 1217 Tower Ave., Superior
female impersonator show Thursday-Sunday. (715) 392-1756
Men’s Room <www.mainclubsuperior.com>
It’s a guy thing (ladies beware!). Hot men in a sizzling
scene. Best male dancers.
Retro Bar
Just what its name says. Fabulous DJs reprise the best
of the ’70s through ’90s.
May 7-20, 2010
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1111 Hennepin Ave., Mpls.
(612) 332-9963
<www.gladiusbar.com>
The New York Chic of Minneapolis. Gladius God-
desses Tuesday. Killer B's Karaoke Wednesday.
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Bar Scene > Bar Showcase [ Photos by George Holdgrafer ]
LUSH
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Bar Scene > Bar Calendar
For club addresses, phone numbers, and Web FRIDAY, MAY 7 Daina DePerez
sites, see “Bar Advertiser Guide” on page 36. Gary Collins 9 PM. Tickles.
For events not at bars, see <LavenderMagazine. 5 PM. Tickles. Total DiscTracktion
com/calendar>. Mia Dorr 9 PM. Town House.
9 PM. Tickles.
SATURDAY, MAY 15
SATURDAY, MAY 8 Hollyweird
58th GLBT Anniversary Celebration Imperial Court of Minnesota Benefit for
1 PM. 19 Bar. Minneapolis Community and Technical College
Old Timers Party Media Department Textbook Donations &
5 PM. Town House. Project for Pride in Living
Red Hot Drag Contest 5:30 PM. La Femme Show Lounge. Gay 90’s.
8 PM. Lush. Red Hot Drag Contest
TNT Show 8 PM. Lush.
9 PM. Town House. Mia Dorr
9 PM. Tickles.
SUNDAY, MAY 9
Hats Off To Mr. Ronn! SUNDAY, MAY 16
Benefits Dan Updike, Mr. Ronn’s Life Partner Singles Pool Tournament
5-9 PM. La Femme Show Lounge. Gay 90’s. 4 PM. 19 Bar.
9 PM-2 AM. Brass Rail Lounge. Jeff Olson
Mark Bloom 7 PM. Tickles.
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Jason Richards 6 PM. Tickles.
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THURSDAY, MAY 20
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Cuisine > Off the Eaten Path
KINDEE
SERVES SUPERLATIVE AUTHENTIC THAI CUISINE
[ by Heidi Fellner ]
ore than one legend surrounds the Thai the anxious but unskilled son-in-law threw together
“Son-in-Law Egg,” but I will do my best to a random, kitchen-sink type of dish made from very
M recount the version I prefer. Long ago, while simple ingredients: hard-boiled eggs, tamarind
a young man’s wife was out, her mother stopped sauce, and fried onions. To his surprise, the dish
by for an unexpected visit. Hoping to impress her, was a smash hit, and a culinary legend was born.
Kindee. Photos by Hubert Bonnet
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(Clockwise from upper right) Angry Crystal with red bell peppers and beef; Panacotta with Lychee; Son-in-Law Egg with crispy shallot and tamarind sauce; Fried Banana.
to authentic Thai cuisine. After all, why try to tional bite from chili peppers is optional— for an unexpected treat, along with cherry
reinvent an already-perfect culinary wheel? simply crumble your fried pepper garnish tomatoes, red onion, ground chicken, pea-
However, Kindee, where the dress code over the top, and enjoy. nuts, and fresh herbs. It’s satisfying, yet
is come-as-you-are, also respects its Minne- Next, my dining partner and I tried light and very refreshing.
sotan location. Yes, it does have the Asian- the very mild Tod Mun Goong ($6)—fried Our server explained that Kindee’s
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Yellow Curry with potato, cucumber, red onion. Angry Crystal with red bell peppers and beef.
menu changes each season, though it re- spiciness. I would describe myself as spice- ($5), served with berry coulis.
tains a significant portion of diner favorites indulgent, but I enjoyed it tremendously Come summertime, Kindee would make
in each category. I hope the summer menu, just as it was prepared. The “crystal” ter- the perfect late-night dessert for two on a
which is expected to debut in late May, still minology refers to the clear mung bean muggy evening. I’m sure its location oppo-
offers Yum Woon Sen. noodles in the recipe, which are prepared site the Guthrie beckons more than a few
For the true Thai experience, one re- to be somewhat chewy. Their calamari-like for an après-theater refreshment or two.
ally should try at least one imported Thai texture lends them a bit more substance and The heartier Fried Banana ($5), how-
beer. Singha ($4.95) once entirely domi- interest. They’re tossed with stir-fried bell ever, was my favorite. It is tossed deli-
nated Thailand’s market with its dry fin- peppers, broccoli, and mushrooms, along cately with coconut milk, then wrapped in
ish and uplifting flavor. However, Chang with fresh, invigorating Thai basil—plus a spring roll wrapper, and fried. The roll
($4.95) managed to push its way through as your choice of meat for an additional $1 to is presented prettily sliced, drizzled lightly
a worthy competitor, with a zestier inter- $2. I think it would be fair to say that this with honey and chocolate sauce. It’s pure
play between sweet and bitter. Both beers dish has a flair for taste-bud drama. heaven!
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are fairly light, which suits their climate of I shall have to return at some point to Along with your dessert, or perhaps as
origin. They are perfect to pair with spicier try one of the curry dishes, but both my a charming and unique substitution, sip an
items on the menu. dining partner and I barely had room for imported Thai iced tea ($3). A healthy infu-
Our Angry Crystal ($12) noodle dish the desserts. However, we did sample the sion of half and half helps release the tea’s
was served at a mild-to-moderate level of sweet and innocent Lychee Panna Cotta luscious vanilla and cinnamon notes.
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Sports & Leisure > Get Outta Town
Taj Mahal.
A
I
t’s 3 AM and 107 degrees, as we arrive in Delhi, yet shuffling camels, the occasional elephant,
and tooting lorries fancier than circus wag-
construction crews are busy, kebab stands are doing ons. We stopped to hail Lord Shiva, with
a brisk business, and pious pilgrims are lining up at his trident, cobra, and white bull, the Mer-
Hindu sites. Smog bites our eyes. Our ears are as- cedes of godly transport, as well as, nearby,
Lord Krishna, with his girlfriend, Radha—
sailed by a cacophony of car horns, as we pass side- immense, gaily decorated statues that make
walk dwellers huddled under cardboard outside our fan- Disneyland look somber.
cy, marble-clad hotel. A doorman in a complicated turban On to Jaipur, the “pink city” of Rajast-
presses palms together, and intones “Namaste.” han—the fabled land of warriors, and home
of Maharaja Jai Singh, a learned ruler of the
Welcome to full-frontal India. It’s per- explosions. Delhi’s Jama Mosque of 1656, early 1700s, whose palaces today contain a
haps the most glorious and unsettling calm in the midst of chaos, is the Muslim museum dedicated to his gorgeous, gem-
country in the world, but one thing is easy, Moghuls’s stamp on this Hindu city—an studded clothing, and another to watch art-
and that’s packing. Simply bring a roomy amazement of pink stone and white marble ists compose exquisite miniature paintings.
suitcase and an open mind—the former to inlaid with words on onyx from the Koran, his open-air astronomical observatory still
hold the treasures you’ll amass in this shop- as majestic as the mighty Red Fort at its tells time to the millisecond, and accurately
per’s paradise, and the latter to relish the side. At the delicately fluted Qutb minaret records the paths of stars. He also built the
bombardment to your senses. of even earlier (1193), crowds of locals who lacy, lattice-windowed House of Winds
You’ll find sights from dump trucks knew no English nonetheless crowded near for the ladies of his harem to see but not
draped in gaudy tinsel to tides of saris in our guide to absorb his comments. be seen, along with the formidable Amber
popsicle hues; smells to take your breath At Mahatma Gandhi’s memorial, it was Fort, rich with graceful Islamic arches link-
away, from cumin-scented curries to streets our turn to stand silently, as devotees paid ing voluptuous round domes.
used as latrines; and sounds segueing from homage. On to the gold-domed Golden Nothing regal in the least about Bapu
serene temple chanting to the constant bleat Temple of the turbaned Sikhs, open 24/7, Market, the town’s sprawling shopping
of horns from cars, motor scooters, tuktuks, aside a soup kitchen for hungry indigents, bazaar. My bags now held bangles ($3 for
rickshaws, buses, and overloaded trucks, all whom we joined, barefoot and covered in a wristful), harem pants ($4), and embroi-
industriously obeying the only rule of the the obligatory blaze-orange bandannas, dered shoes of camel skin ($7)—too small
road that’s enforced—the “Horn Please” to hear a reading of the holy word. I still for my Nordic foot, but this vendor wasn’t
suggestion embossed on every rear bumper. am wearing a silver bracelet given there to going to miss a sale. He slid them on, and
Yet, in a land of 1.25 billion people, serve as a constant checkpoint for honor- stamped about the place until the leather
pockets of peace and quiet emerge. I fled able behavior. yielded. Silk scarves, pashminas, T-shirts,
the army of street vendors—“Hello, Mama, Those are the sites you’ll find in guide- carpets—all are yours for a song and a ru-
cheap price, where you from?”—to stroll books. But snake charmers and wandering pee or two. Wilting in the heat, we steered
amid the locals in green public parks. I monkeys also provided photo ops, as we for the hotel pool and a cold Kingfisher
slid off a camel, following a swaying ride made our way to Chandi Chowk, an an- beer before dinner.
through a village of a hundred mud huts cient maze of sloping shops held together, Dinner deluxe: Channeling my Inner
and a thousand waving children, to drift off seemingly, by an overhead tangle of elec- Maharani, I left the group to their wimped-
to sleep in a tent where only braying jackals trical wires that resembled a bad knitting down-for-American fare, and headed to
broke the midnight silence. project. Gas fumes, saffron, sandalwood, another of the maharaja’s palaces, the Ram-
I unwound with a yogi who instructed and cow dung scented the air, as our rick- bagh Hotel. Because water was scarce in
us in breathing exercises. I floated beneath shaws hurtled among lanes as narrow as our this arid region, regal dishes were cooked
a full moon on a barge in the Holy Ganges, shoulders, assailed by hawkers of every sort instead in cream and butter. So, of course, I
entranced by flames of funeral pyres. Then, of delicacy, from fans of peacock feathers to willingly followed suit with tandoor-grilled
as priests finished the evening’s blessings, it leather bullwhips. lamb scented with cumin, cardamom, and
was a return to pandemonium, as we made Leaving Delhi—past the suburban call bay leaf; corn poached with green chilies;
our way through throngs of worshipers to centers where your computer problems are okra with dried mangoes simmered in rich
our waiting rickshaws. As our guide, Sand- solved—it was back to Horn Please terri- yogurt gravy; and rice biryani flavored with
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eep, instructed, “You don’t simply visit In- tory, as we encountered six-passenger mo- morels—all abetted by piles of naan, roti,
dia—you experience it.” He got that right tor rickshaws crammed with 11 people (not and kulcha breads.
On every step of our two-week tour, art, counting those on the running boards), Another day, we were off to Rantham-
culture, and history collided with sensory sharing the highway with sacred cows, bore, a maharaja’s hunting preserve-
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House of Winds in the "pink" city of Jaipoo. Photos by Carla Waldemar Sunrise on the banks of the holy river Ganges, Varanasi. Lord Kviahna and his girlfriend, Radha, at his roadside temple
outside Delhi.
turned-game park—a two-fer featuring a ments, tablewear, scarves, and purses. restaurant—a scene of fountains, marble,
crumbling fort of 500 AD soaring above Back on the bus, our destination was a and strumming musicians. First, a patty
the jungle, where 50 tigers roam. They tent camp for the coddled—air condition- of green peas studded with paneer cheese,
are spotted easiest early in the morning, so ing (yes, it was still 107) and bathrooms dried fruits, and nuts. Then, crispy pap-
no complaints when the 5:30 wake-up call under our individual canvases. We gath- padum wafers to dip in a mélange of condi-
rang. Piling in a roofless truck, we patrolled ered at the fire pit, as village locals danced ments (mango, mint, yogurt with mustard
the park where two had been seen the day and drummed under the stars. But first, a oil, candied lemon peel) before a heaping
before. But on our visit, nada—well, not ex- camel ride through the village, where kids helping of murg dun biryani (lamb with
actly: wild boar, crocodiles, peacocks, para- tumbled out of mud huts to smile and wave. seasoned rice) and, compliments of the
keets, deer galore, and monkeys lunging at The group dined on the usual airbrushed chef, a plate of lamb tartare. No dessert, I
our backpacks. dinner, but I’d made friends with the chef, demurred, but he had other ideas, and sent
CARS, MOTOR SCOOTERS, TUKTUKS, RICKSHAWS, BUSES, AND OVERLOADED TRUCKS ALL
INDUSTRIOUSLY OBEY THE ONLY RULE OF THE ROAD THAT’S ENFORCED—THE “HORN PLEASE”
SUGGESTION EMBOSSED ON EVERY REAR BUMPER.
Never mind: Back to lounge at the pool, who proved delighted to deliver the real out a dish of mango ice cream atop rice
and chat up the Iranian families also on deal on my plate. pudding. Smart man.
tour, then regroup for an alfresco dinner Our usual predawn wake-up call was de- Now, we were on our way to Khajuraho,
highlighted by butter chicken, curried egg- livered by a strolling fellow who sang out, stopping for lunch in a tiny town’s 300-year-
plant, and lentil stew, along with rice pud- “Good morning.” It was off to Agra, honk- old hostel that yielded a surprise bonus. It
ding studded with grapes and almonds. Plus ing at the camel train we shared with the— was a festival day for Jain worshipers, so
another Kingfisher, of course. Gotta keep ahem—highway. We were en route to the what came our way but a spangled pair of
hydrated in this heat. vast red sandstone palace-fort built by Mo- dancing horses, men devoutly shouldering
The next day treated us to a snapshot of ghul emperors, including the luckless Shah a holy portrait, and a loudspeaker truck
village life, as we strolled the dusty paths Jahan, imprisoned there by his usurping son. booming tunes for the ladies in blazing
between thatched-roof mud huts, dodging In a love story for the ages, Jahan’s window saris behind them, all followed by an ava-
cows and hordes of children screaming, looks across the water to the Taj Mahal, the lanche of kids. We snapped their pictures;
“Hallo, wottis yor nem?” We followed them alabaster temple he’d built to honor his be- they snapped ours.
to school, eavesdropping as they recited loved wife. Yes, it’s the world’s most beautiful Khajuraho is visited for one reason only,
prayers to the goddess of learning, then set building—serene, symmetrical, and simply and it’s a great one: its collection of sand-
to work doing sums on their slates. Nearby, breathtaking. Yes, it was worth another 5 stone temples of 900 AD, sculpted to within
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a women’s collective workshop, enabling its o’clock wake-up call. an inch of their lives with erotic figures—
300 members to learn sewing and design, Back at our resort-hotel, set among 25 men screwing bare-breasted ladies; men
while opening microbusinesses and estab- acres of gardens, I again escaped from the screwing men; men screwing horses. Well,
lishing bank accounts. Gladly, we pulled fries and pasta of the “grand” buffet for din- you get the idea. And speaking of homo-
out our plastic to purchase their lovely gar- ner divine at Paatha, its Indian fine-dining sexuality—widely practiced by the Moghuls
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New Delhi, Chowk Market. Photo by Carla Waldemar
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Spring UnderBear Party. Spring is all about bears
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GLBT Host Home Program of Avenues for Home-
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mately 200 GLBT youth are homeless. With the help
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for only one night. To learn more about volunteer-
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[ by Meryl Cohn ]
SCI FI BINGO
APRIL 17
HYATT
MINNEAPOLIS
Mum’s the Word
Dear Ms. Behavior:
My boyfriend and I own a modest
little guesthouse that people often use for
spiritual retreats. We are thinking of buy-
ing another small inn from acquaintances
of ours.
Currently, the inn, which attracts a lot
of gay travelers, is reputed to have a sau-
na that’s used for sex. We plan to change
the name of the establishment, and to
convert the sex sauna into a meditation
room. We don’t want the purchase of a
place that’s known to be raunchy to taint
our current business.
How can we ask the owners of the inn
to be discreet without insulting them?
I want to ask for a binding confiden-
tiality clause in the contract, but my boy-
friend doesn’t want to risk insulting them
and/or giving them a reason to back out
of the sale.
How should we handle it?
—Mum’s the Word
my body.
I realize that it can look a little sugges-
tive when someone lies on top of you, lifts
your legs over your head, and presses
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> Ms. Behavior©
on every part of your body, but it is an an-
cient Eastern art form.
I wouldn’t give it up for anyone or any-
thing. It would be like asking a depressive
to go off her antidepressants. I’m sure you
can tell where this is going.
Recently, I got in a serious relationship
with another woman, Gina (also a made-
up name). She’s fantastic, and she practi-
cally has moved in to my home. We are
very happy, save for one item: Gina wants
me to give up Iris.
I have explained and explained and ex-
plained how good Thai massage is for my
mind, body, and soul, but Gina won’t hear
of it. I’m thinking of telling her I’ve quit,
but meeting Iris at her place instead.
Honestly, nothing illicit is going on, so
why do I feel so bad?
—Stretch
Dear Stretch:
You feel bad because you want to de-
ceive your girlfriend, rather than give up
your massage, and you’re not quite sure
that that’s a fair decision.
If you feel so committed to your Thai
Massage, you need to stand up to Gina.
Do so rather than lying to her about it,
and then sneaking off to do it in secret.
You’re at an important point in your
relationship with Gina, who apparently
practically lives with you. You have the
opportunity to face this conflict head-on,
rather than skirt around it, only to have
it come up in another way, like a pop-up
weasel in a carnival.
If Gina is jealous over your Thai mas-
sage, she also may be jealous over your
friendships with coworkers, or your
Wednesday night belly-dancing lessons.
Your ability to be truthful, even in the
face of Gina’s negative feelings, will be a
model for how you handle other situa-
tions that come up. If you think that lying
is a worthwhile shortcut to avoid conflict,
you’ll be shortchanging yourself, your re-
lationship, and Gina.
So, how can you convince Gina that
the Thai massage is OK?
Start by buying her one as a gift. Per-
haps trying it herself will persuade her
that nothing funny is going on. Or, invite
her to hang out and watch when you get
your next massage.
Please remember not to moan in a
way that sounds sexy, even if it feels really
May 7-20, 2010
good.
© 2010 Meryl Cohn. Address questions and correspondence
to <[email protected]>. She is the author of Do What I Say:
Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay and Lesbian Etiquette (Houghton
Mifflin). Signed copies are available directly from the author.
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May 7-20, 2010
Napoleon The Great suffered from Hmmm… I’m better off shooting an ice cube up my
hemorrhoids, and had a very little prick. Euh… butt, and get a penis enlargement. I’m not
Napoléon Le Grand avait des hémorroïdes planning on invading Europe!
et une toute petite queue. Je ferais mieux de m’insérer un glaçon dans
le derrière et de me faire allonger le pénis.
Je n’ai pas à sortir pour envahir l’Europe!
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Backtalk > Consider the Source [ by Julie Dafydd ]
“Bigger parts,” I scream. “You’re filler! like to try the specialty of the house—a zesty
You’d have to be a rabbit to want more Peas mound of raw chili powder?’” Bye for now
and Carrots! And the only rabbits around my Then, I get that settled and catastro- Kiss kiss
stew are in the stew—now, get outta here!” phe strikes.
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Lunch, Dinner
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Sat: 11 AM – 11 PM • Sun: 11 AM – 10:30 PM
SUBO $$
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Eclectic Southeast Asian dishes with bold, exotic flavors served on small
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Tues – Thurs: 4 PM – Midnight • Fri – Sat: 4 PM – 2 AM • Closed Monday
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Lunch, Dinner
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Mon – Wed: 5 PM – 1 AM • Thurs – Sun: Noon – 1 AM
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Backtalk > Dateland [ by Jennifer Parello ]
mouth was occupied chewing a Tiparillo. type of greedy hunger usually seen at early- “Beat it,” Grace Kelly said. And so I
“Aren’t you a sexy thing?” said another card bird specials. One of the women patted her made a reluctant return to my own mother
player whose voice sounded like it had been lap and motioned for me to sit on it. figure who was still in the condo, trying
marinating in whiskey for the past 80 years. “Sit in her lap and it will be the last lap to pry a plate out of the hands of a dying
“Aren’t I, though,” I responded huskily, you ever sit in,” a comely blonde hissed at woman.
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