Attitude - January 2015
Attitude - January 2015
Attitude - January 2015
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and nightclubs, thrilling theme parks, trend-setting restaurants, bustling ethnic
neighborhoods, wicked comedy clubs, and more.
There is not just one gay neighborhood in this glittering metropolis of 15 million
people. You could explore a different gay enclave every day and night of the week:
Downtown, Silver Lake, Hollywood, Studio City, Venice, and, of course, West Hollywood.
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FEATURES
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THE A-LIST
CULTURE CLUB: OUTSIDE
MUSIC & FILM REVIEWS
GRATUITOUS NAKED: BARCLAY BEALES
EASTERN BOYS
JOE STONE IS ON IT
PAUL FLYNN IS OVER IT
PARIS IS BURNING
JUST KEEP SINGING
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REAL BODIES
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STORY: THE BETTER YOU LOOK
MOST STYLISH READER
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CONTEXT
IAIN DALE
DATING
R U COMING OUT?
LIFE LESSONS
TRAVEL: ZURICH
TRULY MADLY DEEPLY
PROPERTY
HOW GAY? ASHLEY JENSEN
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one of the people who writes to Joe Kort this month who
respond by withholding sex from partners. Those people may
end up living out their sexual lives through pornography. Sex
is a-maaazing when it works but the key question is, is the
kind of sex you are having making you happy?
Also this month we delve into the controversial realm of
open relationships. Its hard to get reliable figures about
what percentage of gay couples are monogamous but I
think its safe to assume the figure is a lot lower than that
of those who are labouring under the illusion that they are
monogamous. So what is the answer? To all rush headlong
into open relationships because its not even worth trying
to be faithful? That seems unnecessarily negative. As our
feature this month shows, there are plenty of examples of
successful monogamous and open relationships. The ones
which flounder, open or closed, are the ones where there is
not an honest dialogue between both partners. That applies
to safe sex too. Surveys from the U.S. and Holland in the last
few years have shown that more than half of HIV infections
have come from main sexual partners. This is no time to be
throwing away condoms while blinded by love or lust.
Talking of honesty, this month also features the neverknowingly undersold Spice icon, Mel B. Shes the perfect
accompaniment to our Sex Issue having spoken openly about
her relationships and desires for men and women and her
choice to not be labelled. Sounds fair enough to me. Human
sexuality is a complex and thrilling subject which is unlikely
to be adequately covered in its entirety by the letters L, G, B
and T. Have a great, sexy Christmas and stay safe.
Andrew Fraser
Deputy Editor
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KEVIN MCDAID
Former Attitude cover star Kevin
McDaid has made a successful move
from Noughties boybander (remember
V?) to celebrity photographer, working
his pop connections and natural
Geordie charm to put the likes of Jessie
J, Cheryl Cole and Cher Lloyd at ease
in front of the camera. For this issue he
shot Stereo Kicks chief hunk Barclay
Beales, thus passing the boyband baton
to the next generation. Aw.
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Travis is an award-winning
filmmaker whose films focus on gay
men and intimacy. He is best known
for I Want Your Love, and Interior.
Leather Bar, which he created with
James Franco. Promoting the latest
instalment of film series In Their
Room, he enriches this sex issue with
his thoughts on the different sexual
behaviours of gay men in capital
cities around the world.
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EDIT_OPINION
COMING OUT TEXT CONVOS
Whether its between a father and a son
or two 13 year old bros, its been a right
old month for it.
HARRY STYLES
Says gender doesnt matter to him when
choosing a parter. #halfwaythere
TAYLOR SWIFT
Basically became queen of the world this
month, on tcover of TIME and all sorts.
UP
DOWN
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lets be honest, and on top of
it people have just realised
the whole things a bit
patronising and smug.
SLAMMING IN GENERAL
Yeah, stop doing that.
QATAR
Theyre going to find creative solutions
for LGBT visitors of the 2022 World
Cup. So generous of you guys!
CLASS WARFARE
In which taking photos of houses in a
smug manner is the greatest crime.
KLASS WARFARE
Who died and made
Myleene leader of the
opposition of the opposition?
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Stone
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HISTORIC LANDING ON
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Paul
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IS OVER IT
MY FAITH IN WATCHING LIVE MUSIC IS RESTORED, COURTESY OF SLEAFORD MODS
GREEK GODS
Male same-sex
relationships are
littered across Greek
mythology, with
studs like Achilles,
Zeus and Hercules all
engaging in a bit of
howsyerfather.
JOE DALLESANDRO
Andy Warhol took
this gorgeously
chiselled nobody
and made him
into a legend of
gay subculture in
films like Flesh,
Trash and Heat.
TOM OF FINLAND
This Finnish artist
took his homoerotic
festish drawings of
well hung beefcakes
in leather uniforms
and made them a
gay institution in the
second half of the
20th century.
PEDRO ALMODOVAR
Not Pedro himself,
bless, but rather for
the ream of steamy
gay sex scenes hes
delivered, including
Antonia Banderas
getting bummed in
Law of Desire.
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EDIT_music reviews
4/5
4/5
4/5
TOVE LO
Charli XCX
VARIOUS ARTISTS
S ucker / A sylum
In 2014 Charli XCX fast went from having
a bit of a moment to finally getting some
much-deserved recognition - catapulted
into the charts from LA to Tokyo when she
provided vocals to the catchiest chorus of
the summer in her collaboration with Iggy
Azalea on Fancy. She went on to chart on
her own with the breakthrough single she
penned for The Fault in Our Stars soundtrack
Boom Clap.
The iconic Clueless inspired music video
for Fancy certainly flagged how Charli meant
to go on. Should she make a thing of writing
for movie soundtracks, Sucker lends itself
perfectly to a rescore of the 90s cult classic.
Shes skipping school in Break the Rules,
crashing parties in Famous, seeing dollar
signs in Gold Coins and unapologetically
casting off a mate in favour of some self
love in Body of Mine, the most explicit track
of Charlis much preferred explicit rethink
of the LP.
Born and raised in Hertfordshire, Charli
addresses how she never thought [shed] be
living in the USA, doing things the American
way in London Queen, and as she gears up to
tour with Katy Perry in February 2015, it feels
like a very modest sentiment considering the
superstardom coming her way. at
5/5
WHITNEY HOUSTON
L ive : H er G reatest P erformances / S ony
Despite being considered the greatest
voice of her generation, Whitneys live
recordings have never before been
released. Now, this compilation of her
greatest performances curated by
Clive Davis is a must have for all music
lovers. I defy the goose bumps not to
bristle as she joyously belts How Will I
Know at the 1987 BRITs, or as she croons
You Give Good Love in her earliest TV
appearance pure perfection. bk
Just shabby
Hot Mama
Shabby chic
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2/5
BIRDMAN
M ichael K eaton , E dward N orton , N aomi W atts
Everyones going gaga for Keatons comeback as
an ageing movie star trying to recapture public
attention by staging a highbrow play. Frankly,
though, hes the least interesting thing in this
surreal black comedy. Its the supporting cast that
makes Birdman soar (plus nifty camerawork that
makes the film appear to unfold in one breathless
take), including Norton as a nightmare A-lister,
Watts, Andrea Riseborough as an insecure
actresses and Emma Stone as Keatons brusque
daughter. They stop this backstage satire from
becoming an over-indulgent wallow.
R eleased on 1 J anuary .
2/5
3/5
MEN, WOMEN & CHILDREN
A dam S andler , J ennifer G arner , A nsel E lgort
Chad Kultgens 2011 novel offered a frank,
unjudgmental take on the internets vast
hypersexual landscape. This adaptation by
Jason Reitman (Juno, Up In The Air) is less
frank, drearily cautionary and as incisive as an
afterschool special, exposing a gaggle of suburban
Americans in various stages of sexual distress
and disconnection due to their naughty cyber
habits. The young cast fare better than the old, but
this is destined for an afterlife as a disapproving
schoolmarms favourite.
R eleased on 5 D ecember .
4/5
FOXCATCHER
4/5
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Eastern Boys is the story of Marek (Kirill Emelyonov) and Daniel
(Olivier Rabourdin). It opens in a recognisably unfeeling Gare Du
Nord, with a group of mostly street-cast refugees touting themselves
out with glances and nods at punters, a gay code tutored by the man
nominally understood to be pimping them out, Boss, a terrifying
and real performance from Daniil Vorobyov. Daniel, a middle-aged
man in business attire makes an advance to Marek, a beautiful
teenager cut from similar physical cloth to Girls Adam Driver or a
very young Keanu Reeves, in what may or may not be a nod to Gus
Van Sants filmic poem to rent boys, My Own Private Idaho. When
Daniel invites Marek to his apartment the next day, a succession of
calamitous dramas, in which the older protagonist puts himself in
wilful personal danger over and over, builds to a grim climax where
he must confront the Eastern street gang in the cheap hotel theyre
staying in.
It feels like a very post-gay film. That makes sense, says Campillo.
It almost comes from an old position of gay sexuality, one in which
it is clandestine. The shooting was educational if not exactly
enjoyable for Campillo. I was a bit afraid of what I was doing. It was
difficult when I was shooting the film to know exactly what would be
the result. Here are two characters, having sex, talking little; during
the shooting people were afraid it would be boring. But its not too
cruel. When its tough I feel the humanity of the characters. Theyre
trying to negotiate something together.
There are three key exchanges between Daniel and Marek. The
first is prostitution, he explains. I dont have a moral problem
with it but it is a subject that makes me embarrassed and so I tried
to shoot my embarrassment. This was the first of several crucial
choices made in developing the relationship. You are not used to
feeling embarrassment at sex on film. What results is gloomy
sex. Sex that is hard to take. The second sex scene, he says, is very
annoying sex. Not annoying, but sex without imagination. By the
third scene they know each other so well the embarrassment is quite
funny. I have always wanted to shoot someone who laughs as they
are getting fucked.
This is the complicated physical and emotional terrain Eastern Boys
tears across. The question throughout all this, says Campillo, is
what is a couple? I love the idea that the person you live with is the
biggest stranger in the world to you. Economic matters always make
their way into couples, even if there is not prostitution. There is a
fine line in some relationships between mystery and misery.
Robin Campillo was born in Morocco and grew up in France. He
is 52-years-old and has a multidisciplined CV across screen that
includes writing, directing and editing. He has a Palm Dor for
his last work, The Class, and The Returned or Les Revenants though
greeted with lukewarm critical appraisal as a film has attained a
cult status not far off Twin Peaks for its televisual life and will return
for a second season in 2015. He is an amiable, open interviewee
and throws the odd curveball into conversation, like the fact that
he is not a particularly ardent cinema attendee but a huge fan of
Coronation Street. His favourite character on the Mancunian soap is
Eileen Grimshaw. Todds mother, he clarifies. I love this woman.
Because he has a 13-year relationship of his own, Campillo was
tender and knowledgeable enough to attack to the thornier issue
of male sexuality and how it works out in relationships with the
scalpel-work of a master surgeon. He was more troubled by the
subject of how he would deal with the great European political
grenade of our times: immigration. When you make a film about
unpapered immigrants, he says, it is tempting to make angels out
of them. There is a definite risk in making them threatening. The
character of Marek took the most time to develop and cast. I was
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of young fans who like him but were getting more and
more mums interested in us now! They love us and they
are wicked! When they ask for a picture they grab my
arse. Thats the nice side of it! [laughs]
IF YOU WERE GAY FOR A DAY WHICH OF THE BOYS
WOULD YOU GO FOR?
Definitely Tom.
WHAT KIND OF BOYFRIEND WOULD HE BE?
I think a kind one. And I think he would actually be a
tender lover... [laughs]
WHICH OF THE STEREO KICKS' BODIES WOULD YOU
LIKE MOST?
Can I say my own?
BUT YOU DIDN'T LIKE IT EARLIER!
Yeah, but I think I like mine more than the others!
[laughs]
WERE YOU A HIT WITH THE LADIES IN SCHOOL?
Not at all! I was so ugly at school. Honestly. I didnt have
any girls after me. I kept myself to myself. My hair was
horrific. It looked like a Beatles member's but double the
size. I had good looking mates who always had girls after
them but I didnt. Then when I left school at 16 I reached
that stage of puberty where I came into myself and then
those girls wanted to talk to me.
SO WHEN YOU BECAME A BEAUTIFUL SWAN DID YOU
GO CRAZY WITH THE GIRLS?
I've never really been the kind of guy to sleep with
everyone. I had a girlfriend for nine months.
HAVE YOU GOT ANY GAY MATES?
I have loads of gay friends and we get on great. Some
have given me a hint that theyd like something more
from me. But I just say that I'm not interested.
WHAT ADVICE WOULD YOU GIVE YOUNG GUYS WHO
ARE COMING OUT TO THEIR STRAIGHT MATES? IT CAN
BE PRETTY TOUGH.
Be confident with it. That way no one's going to say
anything about it or treat you any differently. Especially if
youre friends. Nothing should change that relationship.
WHEN IT COMES TO DATING, WOULD YOU SAY YOU'RE A
GOOD BOYFRIEND?
Erm... Well my previous girlfriend told me I wasnt
romantic enough. But I can cook! Apparently Im an
'okay' kisser. I havent had any complaints, although I
have had the odd one when Ive had too much to drink.
ARE YOU A DUMPER OR A DUMPEE?
Im always the one that gets dumped. Its the classic, "its
not working, lets take a break and see what happens" and
then we take a break and nothing happens. Its always a
surprise because they never tell me how I can change, they
just say I dont like you anymore. To be honest, I still dont
know why I got dumped. Its a total mystery to me.
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BIG GAY
FOLLOWING
IDINA MENZEL
PERFORMING LET IT GO
AT THE 86TH ANUAL
ACADEMY AWARDS IN
MARCH 2014
KEN MCKAY/REX
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idina as shelby
corcoran on glee
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the credentials
PETER BROOKER/rex
Date of birth:
30th May 1971
Place of birth:
Queens, New York City
worked with:
Kristin Chenoweth, Josh
Groban, Michael Bubl
Best known for:
Rent (1996); Wicked (2003);
Frozen (2013); being
introduced as Adele Dazeem by
John Travolta at the Oscars
Least known for:
Duetting with X Factor
finalist Rhydian
BGF status:
For her natural gravitation
towards gay anthems, and her
work for the LGBT community
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@MattCainWriter
Matt Cain
@GMlovelie67xxx
Its a fabulous song. He supports his
community very well. He really cares.
An Easier Affair also shows amazing
support for his community!
@banditbear247
I always loved that he took the
experience and used it so publicly. The
video always made me laugh.
GEORGE MICHAELS
OUTSIDE
Its a brilliantly uplifting
dancefloor banger. But George
Michaels Outside is so much
more than just a pop song.
It captures an important
moment in the life of one of our
most famous gay men and
represents a major step forward
on our collective journey
towards greater visibility and
social acceptance.
In April 1998, George Michael
was arrested by an undercover
policeman for engaging in a
@lobyouknowme
Its a great FU song. What better way
to annoy those that tried to humiliate
him than by releasing something
joyous.
@ukmarkus
I think if you take away everything and
just focus on the song itself, its pretty
underrated.
@dalebassett
Brave, unashamed genius.
@debserin
Outside. Unapologetic in a time when
unapologetic really wasnt trendy!
Best song about cruising ever? Can
we say that??
@Eamumc
I like the song. Its classic GM sound,
but I think the video is just tacky.
@Mikehaddon40
Not to be ashamed of your sexuality
is what he stands for and thats still
much needed!
@CMMR123
He stuck it to the police and it
was beautiful. He did it with class...
As always.
book previews
BODY COUNTS A MEMOIR OF POLITICS,
SEX, AIDS AND SURVIVAL BY SEAN STRUB
Lauded by the likes of
Andrew Holleran and Lily
Tomlin, Sean Strubs memoir
is set to go down as one of
this years must-reads. An
activist for years and the first
openly HIV positive person to
run for U.S. Congress, Strub
provides a fascinating insight
into what it means to lead a
vibrant existence in the face
of a life-threatening illness.
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Whats been the peak of your careers thus far, in
terms of medal winning, etc?
Ieuan: For me, I was very good at a junior level. I won
the Junior Olympics and I won the European Juniors.
I made the Olympics at 18, and then I found it really
difficult to step up onto the senior stage, going from top
dog, to being a bit lower in the order.
Tom: Ive won British championships as a junior and a
senior, and in 2009 I was World Championship ranked
seventh in the world.
Martin: I was Scottish champion for four years in a
row until this year. I was British Champion the year I
finished.
Chris: Competing at the Commonwealth Games and
winning gold is definitely my highest achievement to date.
Martin, youre retired now?
Martin: Yeah, I retired after the games. Im about to
start a new job.
Tom: Im thinking about what Im doing. At the
moment Im doing some courses in teaching and
coaching swimming so I have options for what I want
to do.
When you swim its such a big part of your life,
whats it like to give that up?
Martin: I think now Im just enjoying it because for
the last year of my training I knew that I was working
towards Glasgow 2014 and I knew that I was going to be
stopping after that, so I just put everything into it. I made
a lot of sacrifices and its really nice just to have a bit more
freedom now, in terms of a social life and stuff like that.
And youre still in the thick of it Ieuan?
Ieuan: Yeah, for me obviously Glasgow didnt go too
great for me. It was a bit of a disappointment to come
seventh in Glasgow, but Ive started the season very
positively, I feel more confident in myself and Ive
started making some new life choices. Ive got a good
relationship with my new coach.
Tom, what makes you decide whether or not to
continue with your career?
Tom: Its come to a big crossroads at the minute. My
coach of 13 years has just retired and Im getting on a bit
now believe it or not, 26 is relatively old in the world of
swimming! And Ive been doing it full time since I was
16, since I was doing my GCSEs, so Im thinking now,
what do I want to do next.
Chris, how do you see your future in this career?
Chris: I am fairly confident that Ill still be on the team
up until Rio 2016 thats basically my next target.
But then, until I actually reach that target and complete
that target, I cant really say whats after that. Ill still
be fairly young, and Im confident Ill have a few years
left in me.
Youve also got a budding career as a DJ though right?
Chris: Yeah. Ive been doing music since I was 16-yearsold. Then after London started getting a little bit more
serious I decided it was something I wanted to consider
in my future and now Im just building up to releasing
a single, which should be out very soon. Its out on
Universal Music in Mexico, and itll be a world-wide
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sale as well so anyone can buy it.
How have you found it all?
Chris: Its been a lot harder than I thought it
would be. You know, the music industry is a
tough one. And it was hard trying to build my
own sound but Im really happy with my single
that Ive produced and written. I cant wait for
people to hear it.
So whats the training day like for you guys,
when youre in the thick of it?
Tom: I think we swimmers do a lot of longdistance events, so it would be a lot more
than somebody who was a sprinter. I think we
all do a lot.
Martin: Yeah I was in for two-and-a-half
hours in the morning, two-and-a-half hours at
night, but my training partner who does the 50
breaststroke was maybe only in a few times a
week, so it really just depends on what event
you want to do. Theres a lot more land work if
youre a sprinter too.
Chris: I train 28 hours a week. I do 50% gym
work and then the rest is in the pool. I lift
weights three times a week which is tough. I do
a lot of gymnastic work and trampoline-based
work. So obviously its quite taxing on the body.
Weve all read tales of the huge intake of
calories from people like Michael Phelps
what do swimmers eat during training?
Martin: Id say I eat more now probably, than I
was. Because Im trying to bulk up at the gym.
Just for yourself?
Martin: Yeah!
Tom: When I was in full training I was
swimming 80km a week, and thats not even
a full week, thats Monday until Saturday
morning, so its more like five and a half days.
Then you can eat whatever you want, as much
as you want. The problem I had was keeping
weight on to be honest. I was so slim when I was
doing 80km a week, I could just eat whatever.
Are you all a bit like that? Because no one
has a particularly big build.
Ieuan: It varies on the event really.
Martin: Especially my event which is 1500m
which is the biggest one you can do, you dont
find that theres giant guys, in terms of build or
height really its such an aerobic event.
Tom: Me and Ieuan used to go to Yo Sushi in
Cardiff and they have this deal on a Sunday
where you can have as much as you want for a
certain amount of money, and wed go in on a
Sunday and have a competition of who could eat
the most.
Well at least sushi is fairly healthy, its not
burgers or sausages is it?
Tom: Well Ieuans a pie eating champion as well!
Ieuan: For two years in a row I won a pie eating
competition.
chris wears
swimwear by
Aussiebum
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very inappropriately...
Martin: No, hand driers! Under the
hand dryer!
What, their bits?
Martin: Yeah.
Tom: What! Ive never seen anyone
do that.
Another question why do you
shave your body hair, does it really
do anything?
Ieuan: I dont know if it makes that
much difference, but swimmers,
when they rest down for a
competition, shave all the hair off
their body. Its just less water
resistance. It gives you a little feeling,
you feel a bit smoother going through
the water. But Im not a very hairy
person anyway.
Tom: You feel higher in the water,
youre floating higher, and it reduces
the drag on your body.
Martin: Also its quite a powerful
psychological thing too because
its the final thing you can do in
preparation for your competition.
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All wear
swimwear by
Emporio Armani
at Bang+Strike
swimming gear?
Chris: Well Ive chosen a job that requires
a very small amount of clothes and Im
absolutely cool with it! Ive done it
since I was seven years old, so its not
anything new to me and Im comfortable
in my own skin.
Ieuan: Well we normally wear two pairs
actually we wear two pairs in training.
Is that why everything looks bigger?
Ieuan: No thats all natural!
Tom: I only wear one. The thing is, weve
been wearing trunks since such a young
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How often do you get that done?
Tom: Oh, just for today.
Anyone else guilty of that?
Tom: Martins been on the sunbeds!
Martin: Only one or two! Just maintaining
my tan from my holiday.
It seems to me that divers always get a
fair bit more attention. Why should we be
more interested in looking at swimmers
than divers?
Ieuan: We train harder!
Tom: I dont know, I dont want to take
anything away from divers. In Glasgow I
went to watch Tom (Daley) on the last day
of the Commonwealth Games, and I really
enjoyed watching it, I think its a great sport.
Martin: I would say that was one of my
favourite points of the games, because we
were all finished in the first week and we
went to watch the diving.
Whats the difference in your bodies?
Tom: Well they all have massive thighs.
They have a lot of jumping and diving,
where obviously we just have the one dive at
the start.
Tom wears
swimwear by
Aussiebum
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monotonous.
Chris: I just kind of post what Im doing,
and when Im away on a trip, Ill just be in
the pool and Ill be in speedos obviously,
and I guess people like to see that kind
of thing and it gets a lot of attention, so...
yeah, so be it! Got no problems with it!
Chris, you also have the honour of
being the only one of the four to make
the Attitude Hot 100 two years in a
row...
Chris: Yeah and the first year, I was like
70th or 71st or something and I was just
like Oh okay. Yeah cool! I didnt have
like, high expectations for this year,
but I was seventh and I was literally
gobsmacked. And I was honoured, really,
to be regarded that high up in the list!
That made me really happy.
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It wouldnt
be the
Sex Issue
without...
A BOX OF SAUCY
QUESTIONS
What do you wear in bed?
Tom: I just wear underwear in bed.
Martin: Me too.
Ieuan: None of us sleep naked.
Tom: I dont like it.
Chris: Im a boxers man. I only wear
boxers. I cant sleep if I have pyjamas on or
anything. Thats just my thing.
What would you win a medal for in the
bedroom?
Tom: Ive got a good answer, can I go first?!
Sleeping!
Martin: I do a really good pillow
arrangement. My bedroom is like Bree Van
de Kamps from Desperate Housewives.
Chris: Ill go for all round performance!
Ieuan: Id win a medal for keeping my
bedroom nice and messy.
Tom: He should get a medal for the bloody
doorbell he has in his bedroom. It connects
to his room and Ive stayed at his house
and when the doorbell goes off it shakes the
whole room.
Have you ever worn your medals in bed?
Ieuan: I take them off as soon as theyre
given to me.
Tom: No I havent, but I know somebody
who has!
Do we know that person?
Tom: I dont know, Ill just leave it at that!
Somebody well known...
water boys_ATTITUDE
What if you pulled and they
wanted you to wear them.
Tom: Oh Id do that for a
joke.
Chris: Definitely not, thats
far too arrogant for me. Not
my style
Martin: Absolutely not!
Whats the naughtiest
thing youve ever done in
the water?
Martin: Skived half the
training sessions.
Thats another shit answer.
Chris: Im a good boy, I
dont do anything naughty!
Tom: Skinny dip! I did a
naked length once in the
pool after training. Thats
about it.
Ieuan: I did something...
Not to myself, to
somebody else. It was in a
Jacuzzi.
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help!
I dont
want
bum sex
For our Sex Issue Joe Kort explores your deepest, darkest sexual fears
Dear Joe
When I came out six years ago I was so shy and scared of gay sex.
Since then I really feel I have accepted my sexuality and learned to
enjoy sex, but its almost like since I decided to try anal sex, I cant
stop pushing the boundaries. There is pretty much nothing I have not
tried over the last six years. Recently I have been feeling increasingly
depressed. Where do I go next? Someone described me as hyper-sexual
the other day. Is that what I have become?
I dont think the question is where you go next sexually but rather
where you go next relationally. My guess is that you are depressed
because you are only focused on sex and not the relationships
as well. I think it is great that you have accepted your sexual
orientation and also discovered your sexual interests. Just because
someone comes out doesnt mean they become sexually open
and adventurous. I always coach people to expand their sexual
boundaries and try new things, which you have done. However,
engaging in sex acts with other people and being sexually
adventurous is easier than putting your energy into building
a relationship too. Notice I am using the word too. You dont
have to give up your sexual adventures to turn your attention to
relationships as well. How much time are you putting into dating? I
had a client once tell me that having a lot of sexual hookups was fun
but in the end it was like empty calories because it left him feeling
isolated afterwards. What was your former self like? Was your
attention turned toward friends and family? Do you have a regular
guy you turn to for being sexually open? I bet if you decided to focus
on one or two guys with whom you play with on a regular basis you
would feel less depressed and discover who you are since you have
come out. We see ourselves reflected in the relationships we choose
whether they are dating partners, sex partners, family or friends. I
think it is time you start to focus on your relationships.
Dear Joe
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The thought of this breaks my heart but surely it is better than him
deserting me or cheating.
The gay culture is obsessed with anal sex and it dominates much
of porn and those who don't like to participate feel shame and a
sense they don't belong. Gay men are constantly referring to and
defining themselves as tops or bottoms. When they consider
dating or simply hooking up, gay men typically ask the other guy
whether he's a top, a bottom or versatile. It's important to find this
out as soon as possible, because if you are planning to date or get
into a relationship, it's vitally important that you and he be sexually
compatible with each other. There are people who dont like anal
sex and dont consider themselves a top or a bottom so I call them
sides. There is so much more to sex than intercourse. Sides prefer to
kiss, hug and engage in oral sex, rimming, mutual masturbation and
rubbing up and down on each other, to name just a few of the sexual
activities they enjoy. That just may be who you are.
I like that you are thinking of various options and not being a
partner who digs his heels in saying, I am
not engaging in that sexual behavior and nor
can you! Before you address the options
though, I would first have a conversation
with him and confess you have never had
anal sex nor do you want to. You might
consider trying to have anal sex because it
excites him and see how that goes. You may
find you like giving and/or receiving more
than you thought you would. Regardless,
have that conversation so that together you
can discuss the options about letting him
sleep with other men or whether or not you
stay together. Dont make that choice alone.
Dear Joe
I am 42 years old, good looking and much sought after. I know this
sounds arrogant but its true. I have no sexual hang-ups whatsoever
but a few friends have questioned recently why I have never had a
relationship since I came out at the age of 18. I have never felt the need
and never felt in love. I guess Im asking, am I some kind of freak?
Is there something wrong with me and should I seek to change? My
sister says she fears for me when I am old and no one sleeps with me
anymore and I cant pretend it hasnt crossed my mind.
First of all you can tell your sister that having a partner and even
kids for that matter doesn't assure anyone of anything in terms
of being alone or having someone to grow old with. People tend to
think that if you are not in a relationship that something is wrong
with you. It is very judgmental and shaming, as if being single
means you are somehow flawed or damaged. It sounds like it is even
making you question yourself. It doesnt make you a freak. That said,
it doesnt hurt to explore whether it is out of choice or default, and
if being single is really what you want. What is
it about relationships that might contribute to
you not wanting one? Many people avoid the
conflict that results in most relationships. If you
didn't see your parents relate to one another in a
healthy basis or have healthy conflict resolution
it can make you grow up and be relationship
avoidant. Or are you enjoying being wanted
and much sought after and dont want to give
up the feeling that gives you? If you feel like
you want to try dating you could see how that
feels and if it is something you want in your life.
You need to be clear in terms of what you want
for yourself, not what others think you should
want. If you choose to stay single, enjoy it!
Dear Joe
Dear Joe
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readers
sex lives
No attitude sex issue is complete without turning to you, our loyal, rampant readers. we called out to those
of you who own a favourite pair of going out undies and were overwhelmed with responses. Here, seven everyday
guys joined Attitude at Bar Soho to whip off their togs, show us their knickers and tell us about their sex lives
SAM Reynolds
HaIRDRESSER, 24
I was just
thinking
Christ, its
like being
in a porno,
high five Sam
Nice pants!
I LOVE wearing these pants as they give
me a great bulge and arse! They feel sexy
as fuck as they have the mesh on the sides
and because they are well fitted, you feel like
youre getting a constant grope on your tush.
Are you a confident guy when youre out
chatting up guys?
No! People seem to think that I will be
because I am confident all the time, but put
me in front of a good looking guy and I just
act like a little school boy. I have said to a guy
before Im so sorry but you are way too hot
for me to talk to you!
What role do apps like Grindr play in
your life?
I dont have Grindr or any other dating
*cough* hook-up apps. Im the sort of person
who when on a night out the village
idiot will come up to me swinging a bell
screaming I love you, so I tend to stay away
from anything that can bring them on more.
Do you think these apps make people
more promiscuous?
Yes! Whenever I hear guys say its for
dating or its to make friends, I just think
how desperate are you to make new friends?
Is sex important to you?
Yeah, every relationship needs it. Its that
one personal thing that a couple share with
each other that no one else can or should see.
What turns you on in a guy?
A sense of humour. I know everyone says
that but I mean when a guy can take the piss
out of himself and take the piss out of me
and not be offended.
Does size matter?
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James MacDonald-Hall
looks do fade.
Are you body confident?
Yes, I recently went on a health detox and
lost a lot of weight.
Describe your first time?
It was a friend from school and thats all
Im saying.
Are you regularly tested?
Absolutely everyone should.
How important do you rate safe sex?
Ten out of ten; its a necessity unless you
and your partner have been tested.
Have you had sex with more than one
person at the same time?
No comment! My mother might read this!
[laughs]
Do you want to get married one day?
Thats a tough one. Probably not.
Have you had a sex disaster
Ive been walked in on once, by my mother.
Which celebrity would you like to
sleep with?
1000% Aaron Taylor-Johnson!
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I dont drink,
I dont smoke,
I dont take
drugs. So I
guess sex is
my only vice
which is
healthy
Yoga instructor, 26
Introduce us to your pants.
Well, me and these pants have had some
good times. But really, you do walk a little
taller when youre wear a nice fitting pair of
tighty-whities. Except these are black. Also I
teach yoga, so comfort is important.
Are you confident chatting up guys?
I am in general. Im not shy to make eye
contact with people and say hello. That has
never been a problem for me. However if
I really like a guy and think hes too good
looking for me I tend to go quiet and pretend
Im not interested. I know this is stupid
because I should do the opposite but I think
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sex
stories
Lost dildo
Tube crush
I clocked a guy in
an empty carriage
looking at me after
a boozy night out.
He started rubbing
his bulge so I did the
same. Eventually
I had my cock out
rubbing it in his
direction. I was
so up for it that I
hadnt realised that
we had stopped
in a platform
and that all the
passengers on the
train on the adjacent
platform could see
everything.
Riiiiip!
sex isnt so
taboo anymore,
which I suppose
has its good and
bad points
javier santos
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Considering
he knew it was
my first time,
he wasnt
gentle at all
and I ran off
to the toilet
and hid
Fidel Ranson
Hairdresser, 30
Are you on Grindr?
I occasionally use the likes of Grindr, but I
dont let it take over my life. In my opinion
apps have definitely changed the way gay
dating works. Guys used to have to go to
bars, clubs or cruising areas to meet other
gay guys, now they stay at home and bring
the party to themselves!
How important is sex to you?
I couldnt be with someone if the sex
wasnt good!
What turns you on in a man?
I wouldnt say I have a type of guy I go for,
other than masculinity. Thats what really
turns me on.
Does size matter?
There is such a thing as too small and too
big, but Im not a size queen, just as long as
the guy knows how to use it.
Are you body confident?
I am, but Im always wanting to improve my
body in some way! My chest always feels flat
to me and I would like a bigger chest. Do I
worry that other gay men judge me? Yes, of
course, thats what gay men do!
Do you think gay men take too many
selfies?
100 percent! A lot of guys are addicted to
the attention they get in the form of likes.
Im not a massive selfie taker myself.
When you go out is the main aim to
hook up?
No, I go out to be sociable and sex will
sometimes happen as a result of going out,
but its never the reason I go out.
Describe your first time?
I was working in a hair salon when I
came across my first openly gay guy in
my life and he asked if I wanted to go on
a night out with him to the gay village in
Manchester, so I did. I met a guy who was 25
and who was showing me loads of attention,
I told him I was 18. At the end of the night,
he invited me back to his but I told him I
needed to go home. After a lot of convincing
and the offer of a lift home I went back. We
started to get down to it, and he asked if he
could bum me, I told him I hadnt done that
before but after even more convincing, I
agreed. Considering he knew it was my first
time, he wasnt gentle at all and I ran off to
the toilet and hid. When I eventually came
out of the toilet, I made him take me home
and that was that.
Are you regularly tested?
Every three to six months. Safe sex is the
most important part! Everyone has to be
careful. You cant afford to be careless these
days. I have had unprotected sex before, in
the heat of the moment. I regretted it and
wont make that mistake again. (Ed: If you
have a condom accident or unprotected sex your
local casualty department can give you PEP which
can prevent infection if seen within 72 hours.)
When you are with a guy, are you always
monogamous?
Yes, always!
Do you want to be married one day?
I never used to. Growing up I had always
thought I would marry a woman, so when I
realised I was gay I thought marriage wasnt
an option for me. I would love to get married
now that it is an option.
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if someone brought
out a dental dam
before rimming me
Id be so offended
Robert Stuart
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Chanikul Dechpholkrang
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Greedy boy
I once caught
a guy I was
going down
on checking
grindr at the
same time.
Needless to
say I felt
like a real
princess!
he ended up
staying over
and I woke
up to find
him taking
a picture of
us together,
terrifying.
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cree p er
I N T. D I V E B A R . C O L U M B U S , O H I O . 2 0 0 0 L A T E A F T E R N O O N
EXT. L I C KI N G C O U N TY , O H I O . 1 9 9 3 D A Y
Im 18, aimlessly driving backroads in my Caprice Classic
with typical teenage angst. Ohio is shit. These people are shit.
I live in a rural county called Licking for Christs sake. Its
no wonder escape is all I think about.
My girlfriend and I are nearly finished writing a story weve
titled, California Bound, thats exactly as it sounds. Were
hatching a plan to run away after graduation, and if it fails,
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Ill go it alone. Maybe Ill go to Europe, I think. We listen to indie
music from far-off places, like Manchester and London places where
life just seems cooler, smarter, and more alive. If we belong anywhere,
I bet its at least that far away.
Im singing at the top of my lungs to my favourite new song
anthem really from a band called Radiohead. It blasts from my car
speakers as a declaration of war against everything around me. Im
a creeeeeep, Im a weirdooooo, what the hell am I doing heeeeere? I
dont belong here. I dont belong here... And like so many other likeminded weirdos who felt isolated for any number of reasons, I really
really mean it. In my mind, Im like, no, you dont understand, like I
REALLY dont belong here. It doesnt occur to me until much later
that there are tons of kids around the world feeling just as alienated.
As a semi-closeted gay teen growing up in the rural Midwest,
sans cable, and with only the most rudimentary understanding of
what the Internet is, Im understandably lonely. I have more faith
in Thom Yorkes impassioned delivery of Creep than I do in any
number of adults around me. To my ears, his words amount to a
melancholy promise of some distant place where I might feel at home.
I dont belong here, but I might belong there, in London, maybe San
Francisco? A somewhere else place seemed possible.
I N T. S A N F R A N C I S C O . 2 0 1 4 N I G H T
Im 39, sleepy-eyed, in the same bedroom Ive claimed for the past 16
years of living in SF. I moved into this apartment when I was 23, and
while Ive travelled and subleased a lot, Ive never really left the Upper
Haight. This feels like my rent-controlled home.
Every five minutes, I check my iPhone. I check Grindr, I check
Scruff, and occasionally I check Tinder mostly out of some timekilling habit, but I remain open to all sorts of possibilities. Connection
is compulsive in 2014. Its available and seemingly everywhere, and
its no longer the luxury that it was just a few short years ago when I
started this series. You can argue that these are cheap connections or
that hook-up culture has made all of us ADD when it comes to real
contact. I wont argue that its there, but its not everything. Whats
great about GPS driven apps is that almost anyone can find someone,
and usually someone conveniently located, regardless of where you
are. But its up to you to make it a real connection.
When I started the series in 2009, apps and iPhones didnt exist, it
was the moment of flip-phones and Blackberries quaint, by todays
standards. When I shot the London episode, just three years later in
2012, everyone seemed to have multiple Apple products to help them
stay connected. In what feels like real time, technology is redefining
isolation. And its the never-ending advancements in technology that
will keep this series interesting in years to come.
I N T. B O Y H O O D H O M E . O H I O . 2 0 1 2 D A Y
A long time ago, I made a quiet deal with my mom that if I came
home during the summer shed overlook my absence during winter.
I quickly learned to bring work home in order to keep myself sane.
I was planning to edit In Their Room London this August, but when
James Franco appeared out of nowhere, I needed a month to edit our
film. I have exactly this month to edit Interior. Leather Bar. Some folks
like to say that Im a pornographer. Well, dont tell that to my mom,
who is suddenly thrilled about my work. Its kinda cool, kinda weird.
In Their Room was always meant to be something that my 16-yearold self could appreciate, something that would have made him feel
less lonely and isolated, with the suggestion that were all more alike
than we are different. I imagine that most of the men Ive filmed have
similar reasons for their own participation. I just question what kind
of place that 16-year-old would imagine in 2014. Would he even dream
of London or San Francisco, two of the most unaffordable cities in the
world? And with such access to cheap technology, would he even feel
the need to dream that big?
I take a break to check Grindr. Sometimes the nearest country boy
is ten miles away, but today Im in luck. Less than a mile from my
house is a cute 22-year-old who wants to have sex in the woods that
separates his house from mine. Sure, okay. We make a date that gets
thwarted by a heavy thunderstorm, but we continue chatting.
I quickly discover that we went to the same rural high school; that
hes been openly out for years, with little to no pushback; that hes
already been to far off places like Puerto Rico and Berlin; that he
prefers his ass dominated; that hes never heard of Radiohead; and
that technology was just something he grew up with.
He seems so well-rounded and sheltered from the angst I knew
as a teenager, that I cant imagine him being pained about much of
anything. I ask him what he wants to do after college and he hems and
haws, I dont know. I just want to get the fuck out of here.
In Their Room is released on DVD and On-Demand from Peccadillo
Pictures, available from all good retailers.
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Words: Will Stroude
Photography: Joseph Sinclair
grooming: Marcos gurgel
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I promised
myself to enjoy
it more, because
last year I just
kept thinking
I was going to
be fired!
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before we started I was like Oh I have left this way too late!
What diet do you usually stick to?
I try my best with my diet because that seems to be the best thing; so
lots of vegetables and protein, no carbs and trying not to have sugar,
I keep it that simple. As for training its just high intensity stuff. If
Ive only got half an hour Ill just try and do one exercise straight to
the other. But Im deceptively weak, as my brother pointed out
Thats what brothers are for!
They always do! All my brothers are really strong and theyre in
great shape so its shocking how little I can lift! Its a lost battle.
Are you all competitive?
Not in any serious way. We all support each other and back each
other, but we do like to have a go at each other and compete. One
little brothers a model and the other is in Vegas with Cirque du Soleil
so for a long time they were winning, but now my youngest brothers
just written a musical and theres a chance it could go to the West
End, so now were all losing and my parents love him most because
of it! [laughs] Oh god, thats going to sound so terrible in print.
Thankfully the residents of Atlantis arent renowned for their
heavy clothing. Are you a bit of an exhibitionist in real life?
No! I guess I used to be, but not so much anymore. I did know thered
be some topless stuff. You cant really think about the fact youre
doing it otherwise you become too self-aware.
One particularly notable scene in series one saw you waking up
totally naked in a chicken coop too
Yep, that was actually filmed on my birthday last year. I was turning
28 that day and I had to wake up naked in a chicken coop and run
through the street! Funnily enough the chicken idea only came later.
I was supposed to just be covering myself and I had pants on but
you could see the pants, so the cameraman was like Youre going to
have to cut them, and we kept cutting them and making these pants
smaller and smaller until essentially it was just a piece of material and
some tape! We thought This is no good, this is a family show and you
can see everything! So one of the producers said Why not use the
chicken?! Just dont hassle it too much and it wont peck or scratch!
It seems like an ordeal holding a live pecking animal there.
[laughs] Are you speaking from experience?! No it was terrifying, I
was like If this thing starts to go to town on me! It was the most
horrible feeling. We did about three takes of me running with it and
trying to cover up while keeping the claws away from everything
that counts! I dont know how much I managed to keep hidden!
Are you starting to get a lot of fan attention? Something tells us
your gay fan base might start increasing.
Thats awesome. I mean, I am starting to get recognised, but only
because people come up to me and go Are you Lee Mead?! [laughs]
They always say Are you who I think you are? and I go Maybe,
who do you think I am? and they say Lee Mead! So I am getting
recognised a lot, just not as myself! Its the hair that does it. Someone
the other day told me Id make a killing as a Lee Mead look-a-like, so
thats probably how Ill spend the time between series two and three!
Are you seeing anyone right now?
[laughs] Very much single, very much single.
Oh good the, Attitude readers will be pleased to know. But are
you enjoying becoming a bit of a heart-throb?
Well thats a lovely thing to hear, but my youngest brother is a model
and my other brothers are ripped, so if youre not even a heartthrob
in your own family then you can hardly put it out there Im not
even the hottest one at home! They keep me in check. They level my
ego out massively. But, you know, Ill take what I can get! [laughs]
Atlantis airs on BBC One, Saturday at 8.30pm
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lets get
pr e p e d
N e w t e s t s i n t h e U K a n d F r a n c e a r e s h o w i n g t h a t HI V - p r e v e n t i n g
p i l l P r EP c a n s t o p i nf e c t i o n s , e v e n f o r t h o s e h a v i n g b a r e b a c k
s e x . Bu t P r EP b r o u g h t s o m e h e a t e d d e b a t e a t t h e r e c e n t Y o un g
P e o p l e s D i s c u s s i o n o f HI V e v e n t i n S o h o . P a t r i c k C a s h r e p o r t s
Words: Patrick Cash
photography: miles elliot
The Young Peoples Discussion of HIV was held in front of an audience in Soho as part of the 56 Dean Street Gay Mens Wellbeing Campaign. The panel of
Maximus Crown, Mark-Ashley Dup, Baga Chipz and Kayden Gray was assembled by London gay community magazine QX. An open communication forum for anyone to
come talk about how they perceive issues mentioned in this article runs monthly in Soho, supported by Attitude: facebook.com/LetsTalkAboutGaySexAndDrugs
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Prep_ATTITUDE
people who are infectious with HIV think of themselves as negative
either because they have not tested at all, or because the last time
they tested HIV negative they had in fact caught HIV just before
the test, or subsequently. PrEP provides an incentive to be tested
regularly and because it is highly protective for the individual, it is
protecting the people they have sex with too!
However, the drugs we are using are the same drugs we use for
treatment. They are expensive and the budget is limited so there
are opportunity costs to consider. Condoms on the other hand, are
relatively cheap for the NHS and reduce the risk of more than just
HIV. Its not just sexual health demands that PrEP might threaten,
its also treatment in other diseases. All this has to be considered.
The cost of PrEP came up in the Young Peoples Discussion. 400
per person per month, thats a lot of money, said Mark-Ashley.
That money should be put into the homeless, not so that you can get
your end away without a condom Id rather use a condom and then
if I dont, Ill get PEP [post-exposure prophylaxsis].
Simon Collins, of treatment activist group i-Base, took the floor to
respond. Youre worth 400 a month, he stated. It costs 1,000
a month to put you on PEP! Anybody who accesses PEP more than
once a year should be offered Truvada and when more data comes
out showing how effective it is we need a groundswell from the gay
community saying that we cannot be denied something that theyve
had access to in America for over two years! 3,500 gay men is
shocking. A good percentage of those will be under 30.
There are additional pros and cons writhing around PrEP. Its
introduction may paradoxically stymie HIV vaccine efforts. Having
something as effective as PrEP makes it harder to do the HIV
vaccine trials plus it sets a high bar for a vaccine says Sheena. Yet
PrEP might be revolutionary in preventing another method of gay
men passing on HIV: injecting drugs. As chemsex trends rise in
the gay male population of London and other urban areas, where
people are slamming mephedrone and crystal meth, HIV is also
liable to be spread by needles. The Bangkok Study (2013) proved the
effectiveness of PrEP against drug-injected HIV.
Sheena McCormack says the recent advancements in the PROUD
study will speed up the availability of PrEP on the NHS, but the
commissioning process itself takes over a year, therefore the earliest
that PrEP could be commissioned would be the 2016/17 financial
year. In the meantime, some gay men are importing it from America.
For gay porn star Kayden Gray the debate boiled down to
communication. When you take a condom you dont need to
communicate anything to anyone, he said. But when youre
on PrEP a discussion opens, where part of your prevention is
communicating with other people and thats what people have a
huge problem with.People dont want to be ashamed, and they dont
want to be rejected in an environment where theyre having fun.
Communication was repeatedly identified as a vital, and lacking,
tool in tackling HIV. Events like these dont happen on the gay
scene, said Maximus. Its too late for me to take PrEP now. I think
part of the problem as well is that people who are diagnosed dont
talk about it And because nobody knows, it just becomes this
hush-hush secret society of people with HIV.
PrEP and condoms are both practical solutions to a problem that
ultimately has psychological origins. HIV is the gay scenes boogie
man, always lurking in the mind but never on the tongue. A silence
which makes HIV positive men not reveal their status, and HIV
negative men misunderstand the unknown positive. Yet ultimately
there is no division; whether negative or positive, we are all human
beings fighting a virus.
We win this battle by talking: about sex, about PrEP, and about HIV.
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B-SEXUAL
Words: Aaron Toumazou
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gorgeous. Shes adorable: Such a strong,
independent woman who I admire and
respect. Simon, we have a giggle and a bit of
a fight with each other. We love each other.
Sometimes we hate each other, but were
both very smart; were both business people.
I respect him for what hes achieved in his
life too, and hes rightly said to me Youre
a woman that I never thought worked this
hard, and I respect you for that.
Cheryl spoke to us pretty scathingly about
Louis Walsh. Is he hard to work with?
Louis is funny. I love Louis. You know, hes
Irish and hes a bit all over the place and
hes just quirky. The best characters arent
normal, and he isnt normal. What even is
normal? I love a bit of quirkiness.
Back in 2008 in an interview we did with
Girls Aloud, Cheryl said We recognise
what the Spice Girls did, but it really
annoys me when I meet girls and they
say they want to be the next Spice Girls. I
think piss off. Yes, they had world-wide
domination but they fell out, bitched about
each other and went their separate ways.
We never really fell out! I cant imagine
Cheryl saying that, shes a really good
friend of mine now. Myself and the other
girls, weve never fallen out. Weve always
supported each other. As a group, we knew
that we werent going to be together forever.
You know, when I first got a call from Missy
Eliot, and she wanted me to do a song with
her, I was like I have to ask my girls first!
Because Id never done anything else, other
than be with my Spice Girls. And it was a
simple answer of well we all want to do
something on our own at some point, so
go ahead and do it. And I did. And I dont
think its fair to compare people to other
people, but comparisons between us and
Girls Aloud were inevitable I know that.
That is just what happens. Personally, I
think theres room for everybody: Multiple
girl groups, boy groups, solo artists.
Everything and everyone.
Has there been much competition
between you and Cheryl for the limelight?
Have you ever got dressed for a live show,
seen what Cheryls wearing and changed?
No, because me and Cheryl have different
body frames, were different colours, we
have different hair. What she would wear,
I probably wouldnt fit in to. What I wear
would probably frighten her. I think we both
have great taste. Its just different taste.
Would you ever wear one of Victorias
dresses on a live show?
I have done! Not The X Factor, I did The Queen
Latifah Show her talk show right before I
left for the UK. That would have been eight
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OPEN
SEASON?
ARE GAY MEN REALLY PREDISPOSED TO MONOGAMY?
OR IS THIS A HETERO-NORMATIVE LIE SOLD TO US
BY STRAIGHT WANNABES? OR COULD IT BE THAT
THE SIMPLE WAY IS THE BEST WAY? ARE OPEN
RELATIONSHIPS JUST A FAST-TRACK TO EMOTIONAL
TORTURE AND AN EVENTUAL BITTER, DESTRUCTIVE
BREAK-UP? SO MANY QUESTIONS. RUSSELL DEAN STONE
ATTEMPTS TO WADE THROUGH THE TREACLE OF MODERN
GAY LIFE TO FIND THE ANSWERS...
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I t s 2014
slut bag and make sure you wake up next to your boyfriend.
Did they set rules? BE FUCKING AVAILABLE FOR SEX. That
is the first rule. If you have enough go for playing away, you better
fucking give out at home, or youre going to fuck your partners self
esteem up; ask yourself can I seriously fuck two or three times a
day every day? Take note -stamina is important!
Emotionally though, things take a toll. Eventually I felt pretty
unattractive because he was looking for sex somewhere else, says
Darren. To be honest if your other half wants an open relationship
it means they dont like you. Theres something theyre not getting
at home. One of my oldest friends tried an open relationship with
his girl. He said they had great jealousy sex for a while but then he
realised he wanted to be single. And it was her idea! Ouch.
Relationships are defined by being one on one. Only one person
can be the most important person in your life by definition. When
youre saying I love you and you dont want to put a ring on it,
thats a lie. Lying is the opposite of love really.
This is the car crash version of open relationships. There surely
had to be a better example than this! I speak to Mark, who I already
knew might not be the best example, but hey, in for a penny in for
a pound. Mark had also just ended an open relationship (seeing
a pattern here). In the interest of full disclosure Mark and his ex
were also escorting at the time and doing some porn work so the
extracurricular infidelities were sometimes professional ones with
personal consequences.
I ask if he thinks that monogamy mightve saved it. Open or
monogamous it wouldnt have made a difference, he says, If my
partner had the same honesty towards me that I gave him then we
probably would have lasted longer. It wasnt the infidelity what
done it, it was the lack of honesty!
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BE FUCKING
AVAILABLE FOR SEX.
I get the impression that the professionals are saying its rarer
than unicorn shit to find a functioning, successful (I am loathed
to use those words but for want of better ones stick with me) open
relationship. Its at this point in doing my homework that I realise
I may not be 100% unbiased in this debate. Im basically desperate
to present an enviable open relationship. So third time lucky I meet
Patrick for coffee and hope for the best.
Were not open, but open minded he says. We play with others
together and sometimes apart, but were honest with each other.
The main reason that we give freedom is because we both travel,
and have different likes that should be explored. We share pictures
and videos.
For that to work you must have some firm rules that work for you?
We always play safe and a fuck buddy is that never a mate, he says.
We are very private and respectful of each others feelings. Our gay
friends that know love it. Too right. Who wants to be friends with a
bunch of judgementalists! I find that people are still judgmental when
we say that we do not want to get married, have kids etc.
I wonder about the guys that Patrick and Thomas play with
they have feelings too, right? We had a guy a few years ago who fell
in love with us. Thats awkward. I once played with a guy here
whilst Thomas was in New York watching on webcam, the guy got
upset when he heard me say that he was just a shag, but a guy we
play with in NYC loves when we call him the whore!
What do you think your relationship has gotten out of it? The
first six years together, maybe more, we were only us, he says.
But can 100% monogamy ever really work? Im starting to think
it might be a case of trying to fit a square peg into a round hole,
trying to fit into hetero-normative ideals rather than creating new
ones that maybe inspire out-of-the-box thinking. Its been good
for Thomas confidence and it makes me so horny seeing him with
another guy. I do not get jealous! I do get jealous if I feel like he is
hiding something from me or wants to play with another without
me even if I am in town, but, Ive gotten over that! And from
Thomas perspective? He and I just work on every level. At first he
struggled when I was with another, but now seems to love it.
Now Im jealous, it all sounds too good to be true! I want to say case
closed, there you have it, conclusive proof that same sex couples
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opinion on the subject way more than any academic theorist since
not only does she write about sex for a living, but shes been in both
monogamous and open relationships. Its a stereotype that men,
and gay men in particular, are less jealous when it comes to sex and
relationships, and are better at having sex thats strictly physical,
and not complicated by emotions, she says. Of course thats a
generalisation, but we all know stereotypes are rooted in truth, so it
makes sense that gay men might stand
a better chance at making an open
relationship work than other types of
couples. Thats a positive perspective
Id not heard yet. I knew that Karley
would have words of wisdom.
How about your first-hand
experience of open relationships?
I was in an open relationship with
my girlfriend for a year. At the
beginning it was great, I had a loving
partner to make dinner and have
feelings-y sex with, but I was still
allowed the satisfaction of having hot,
spontaneous sex with random dudes I
met on the subway. Did that situation
have an expiry date then? Over time,
as she and I fell deeper in love, we
began feeling more possessive, which
caused arguments and insecurities.
After a year we became monogamous
because we personally felt like sleeping
with other people was disrupting the
emotional narrative of our relationship,
and causing insecurities and arguments
that were jeopardising our partnership.
Of course, Im human and still want to
sleep with other people sometimes, but
ultimately I had to make a choice about what I valued more: sexual
variety or a continued relationship with the person Im in love with.
Its definitely not easy to make an open relationship work, because
theres a lot working against you, namely jealousy, possession, and
a heavy social stigma. But we cant lie to ourselves: monogamous
relationships are also difficult and complicated in their own ways.
Open-relationships can work. There are many couples who are in
happy, long open marriages, but they are not right for everyone.
The truth is everyone should be allowed to do whatever they
want in life as long as it doesnt stop anybody else doing the same.
Open or closed you might one day wake up and find that the type
of relationship you thought was for you, isnt right at all; as John
Waters once said Dont judge, try something new, take a risk.
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the rules
No open relationship can work without ground rules. Heres some to get you started.
It all sounds really complicated... just remember youre supposed to be having fun!
KISS AND NOT TELL
Are you going to be the kind of couple that dontask-dont-tell or are you going to get off on hearing
about each others escapades? Some people are
happy for their other half to go play but dont need
to hear about the ins and outs, others might want to
beat their meat while their other half dishes all the
dirty details, jealously is a mad aphrodisiac.
This probably comes under dos and donts but needs some
special attention. Everyones relationship situation and status
is different. If youre playing together without protection and
comfortable with that, are you still going to when youre both
hooking up with other people? Opening your relationship up
to encounters with other boys also opens it to other risks like
STDs and lets face it, no one wants a screaming match at 3am
about who gave who gonorrhoea.
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the street which wasnt nice, because
people at school would see it and say
stuff to me. It was worse when it was
made up shit or when someone at school
would say something about a story I
hadnt read.
It was pretty hard for a young boy to
deal with.
The press can be tough.
The saddest thing about Britney was
when she was seen crying outside on
the street and the paps just carried on
taking pictures of her and recording her
breakdown. Yes, I know its a business,
but these people have to remember shes
still a human being. And were seeing
it again with the whole Amanda Bynes
situation. Its like watching a countdown
to her meltdown. Its inhumane. I dont
understand the fascination of that.
But then there are some young stars
like your friend Kelly Osbourne, who
seems to deal with life pretty well.
She gets a hard time being the daughter
of Ozzy and Sharon, but she works so
hard. When I go to Los Angeles I always
try to see her but she is constantly
working. Shes a great role model to
women. She makes her own money.
Most celebrity kids do work. whether its
modelling or TV shows or music
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170g of brown our
2 tsp baking powder
2 egg whites
10g stevia or sugar
1 tsp cinnamon
150 ml water
1 shot of French vanilla beanies coffee (mixed to a liquid in small
amount of warm water)
A pinch of salt
A handful of chopped walnuts
Preparation
1. Preheat oven to 180 and grease a square bread tin.
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coffee, water and mashed banana.
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Calories 150
Protein 15g
Carbs 20g
Sugars 2g
Fat 8g
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