An Exclusive Guide To Dating Damaged Women - Christian Mcqueen
An Exclusive Guide To Dating Damaged Women - Christian Mcqueen
An Exclusive Guide To Dating Damaged Women - Christian Mcqueen
You stare at the floor wishing it would open up and you could disappear into a dark abyss.
Feelings? Why cant I shut this pain off? What on Gods green earth did I do to deserve this
wretched sharp pain in my heart?
The ground, of course, doesnt open up. Your phone doesnt magically ring or beep with an
unoriginal sound that the genius at everything but creating cell phone noises at Apple
created. Nothing.
Nothing can be the worse sound when your heart is beating through your chest
and you feel so much that you wish you were a paraplegic just so you couldnt
feel anything.
You drag yourself out of the stupor, maybe reach for a bottle of pain reducer aka alcohol and
take a swig.
Dammit, the liquid just made the feelings more intense and you play back every single
moment you had with her.
You pull out a piece of paper and jot down ways to get her back:
Elaborate gift? Check.
A page long text confessing your damn feelings. No, you already sent thattwice.
Maybe, just maybe you could get in your car, or on a plane and just show up at her front door
pleading for her to change her mind. Hell, it works in the movies. Wouldnt it work in real life?
Weve ALL been there and if you havent, I truly pray you dont, but for most of us weve
experienced the devastating effects of dealing with a tragic breakup.
It could be you were married and discovered your oh so loving wife has been fucking random
guys off of Tinder. You only discovered it because you got up early to write her a love note
one morning and lo and behold her phone lit up with a Tinder notification from Larry.
Fucking Larry? Really? She always said she HATED bald guys
Or maybe she just up and vanished one day. It happens. It happened to me.
Or maybe, she chose a more classic breakup choice of the growing distant, complaining
that you just werent there for her anymore and before you knew it every reason that you
forsook your other life gets throw in your face even if you made those choices for her.
This post isnt for us to have a collective woe is me pity party. Instead, its to serve as a
guidepost for those of you to AVOID the mistakes myself and many much greater men have
made.
We got tangled up with the wrong girls, but you can avoid the sirens.
The call is strong, but being the best man you can be means taking advice from those who
are telling you theres a cliff ahead and if you only take my advice you can avoid your heart
plunging into a sure and speedy death.
Over here at the offices of this blog (i.e. the beach, a plane, or at my desk) I like to provide
extreme value to you the reader, but this article takes the cake.
This isnt really an article. Its more like an mini-ebook due to the length (11,000+ words). So,
if youre in a rush, bookmark it and come back to it later because its a lengthy, albeit
incredible read that is sure to help a struggling man out there.
A while back I wrote this article about my traumatic experience with a BPD (Borderline
Personality Disorder) ex-girlfriend of mine. If you havent read it, then do so here.
I received more emails than I can count about men who had similar experiences and men
who were worried that their current chick could be cut from the same cloth. My intention with
this guide is to provide a framework of sorts for men around the world who read this blog to
use as a reference point for when they date girls.
At the least this guide will help you avoid wasting your time, money and energy on a
damaged woman.
Either way its yours to print out, pass around to your friends and share with a fellow brother
in his time of need.
There are six parts to this post, all posted below. Instead of breaking this up into six separate
posts, its best to make one monster post thats easier to reference.
It can start with a look on the subway, a brush of her hand against yours at your local Trader
Joes as you reach for a cucumber, or a polite and perky Excuse me, how many sets do you
have left? as you sling iron at your gym.
Regardless of HOW you meet her, I can guarantee that for once in your life you feel that
special something with her.
You might think shes your soul mate (see Rollo Tomassis post here), or even as something
as light as you thinking hell, this is a really cool unique girl unlike ANY of the other club sluts
Ive been banging. Now note, with that single fleeting thought youve already started to build
a bridge to the disaster that putting pussy on a pedestal leads to.
The lure of these sirens is that they know exactly how to make you feel like a
man.
Until they wreck your life. Then she knows exactly how to make you feel like nothing.
This isnt the rule, but its more common that not, that the truly crazy ones tend to be on the
upside of beauty. This does NOT mean that every gorgeous girl is batshit burn your bunny
crazy, but it does mean that when a girl is extraordinarily beautiful and charismatic, then pay
close attention. More on that later, but for now, before I dive more into the enticement factor,
Ill share with you the clinical definitions for crazy bitches.
Bipolar Disorder
Source
Medical Definition:
Bipolar disorder, formerly called manic depression, causes extreme mood swings that
include emotional highs (mania or hypomania) and lows (depression). When you become
depressed, you may feel sad or hopeless and lose interest or pleasure in most activities.
When your mood shifts in the other direction, you may feel euphoric and full of energy. Mood
shifts may occur only a few times a year or as often as several times a week.
Although bipolar disorder is a disruptive, long-term condition, you can keep your moods in
check by following a treatment plan. In most cases, bipolar disorder can be controlled with
medications and psychological counseling (psychotherapy).
My Definition:
That chick that is happy one minute and crying the next for no damn reason? See if its a
habit. Does she get dark for no reason? Does she sit in the corner of the room depressed?
Thats probably more than just a typical girls mood and period swings.
In short: if shes acting like shes on her period 30 days out of the month, then not all is as it
seems.
Medical Definition:
Borderline personality disorder is a mental health disorder that impacts the way you think and
feel about yourself and others, causing problems functioning in everyday life. It includes a
pattern of unstable intense relationships, distorted self-image, extreme emotions and
impulsiveness.
With borderline personality disorder, you have an intense fear of abandonment or instability,
and you may have difficulty tolerating being alone. Yet inappropriate anger, impulsiveness
and frequent mood swings may push others away, even though you want to have loving and
lasting relationships.
Borderline personality disorder usually begins by early adulthood. The condition seems to be
worse in young adulthood and may gradually get better with age.
If you have borderline personality disorder, dont get discouraged. Many people with this
disorder get better over time with treatment and can learn to live satisfying lives.
My Definition:
The worst of the disorders in my opinion as well as many professionals of who some wont
even give treatment to them due to their erratic nature. Without being a complete dick the
medical definition about it getting better with age is fucking retarded, unless you love the idea
of having a batshit crazy girl driving you nuts during her prime and then leveling out once she
hits the wall. Even if she does level out (there are varying results with studies of this), youll
probably go nuts trying to keep her somewhat manageable.
Source: In the United States, recent research has shown that 1.6% of the population has
BPD. That number may seem small, but when you consider just how large the United States
is, you may realize that 1.6% represents quite a large number of people. That percentage
means that over four million people have BPD in America alone. Whole BPD is not as
well-known as other disorders, it is actually more common that illnesses like schizophrenia.
Heres another thought: there are plenty of women who have NEVER been diagnosed. 1.6%
of people period doesnt seem like much, but as the excerpt mentions, youre talking about
plenty who do in regards to the USA.
In short: it stems from childhood issues that are NOT your problem. Thats unfortunate that
some women have this and its terrible whats happened to them, however, its NOT your
problem to play Captain-Save-A-Ho. I know someone close to me whos tried this for a few
years and hes been miserable non-stop. Its not worth it. If she displays the red flags Ill
share with you in a bit, then dont walk; run like Usain Bolt at the Olympics.
Bolt running for his life from a BPD chick. Note his facial expression. This bitch is crazyyyy!
Histrionic Disorder
Source
Medical Definition:
Individuals with Histrionic Personality Disorder may have difficulty achieving emotional
intimacy in romantic or sexual relationships. Without being aware of it, they often act out a
role (e.g., victim or princess) in their relationships to others. They may seek to control their
partner through emotional manipulation or seductiveness on one level, whereas displaying a
marked dependency on them at another level.
Individuals with this disorder often have impaired relationships with same-sex friends
because their sexually provocative interpersonal style may seem a threat to their friends
relationships. These individuals may also alienate friends with demands for constant
attention. They often become depressed and upset when they are not the center of attention.
People with histrionic personality disorder may crave novelty, stimulation, and excitement
and have a tendency to become bored with their usual routine. These individuals are often
intolerant of, or frustrated by, situations that involve delayed gratification, and their actions
are often directed at obtaining immediate satisfaction. Although they often initiate a job or
project with great enthusiasm, their interest may lag quickly.
Longer-term relationships may be neglected to make way for the excitement of new
relationships.
My Definition:
Drumroll.
Because most chicks act like this! Ha, but its true.
The BEST way to get a read on a chick is to see if her behavior is CONSISTENTLY like the
behavior mentioned above. If shes constantly having issues with the following, then she
might just be histrionic:
Shuts herself off from connecting with you besides physically (over time)
Hyper controlling of you, where youre at and what youre doing
Lack of girlfriends. This is a big one.
Constantly living life on the edge
Pushing the boundaries consistently with you (not to be confused with shit tests which
are normal)
The sex with a crazy girl just absolutely destroys sex with a normal girl. This can stem from a
variety of reasons, but one is from their extensive promiscuous behavior.
In other words, shes sucked so many dicks and rode so many cocks, she knows
how to do it extremely well.
Theres also a mental aspect to this. Shes connecting with you on a different level, thus
causing the sex to be hotter than any other sex youve had.
Combine that with her probably being on a different level looks wise than any girl youve
been with and boom, all of sudden the sex almost turns into a spiritual experience.
I remember this one particularly passionate time having sex with a certified crazy chick and
we took turns consensually choking each other while cumming. Add to that the crazy girl
factor and the high from the lack of oxygen to our brains while cumming and you can only
imagine how powerful it was. I wouldnt necessarily recommend it (see Dave Carridine),
however, the point is, odds are you wont experience this type of powerful, oh my God I cant
believe the sex is this intense, Id marry her in a minute even AFTER you cum type sex with
a normal girl.
I didnt come up with the fact that crazy chicks are crazy in bed. Ask your Uncle Albert, hell
tell you.
One of my first experiences with crazy girls was this chick who gave head so well, I wouldnt
just cum once, but multiple times. Im talking separate loads and actual orgasms. Ill put it this
way: its no different then a chick who gets addicted to an alpha playboy who pipes her so
well she feels shes dreaming. Shes in essence, ruined after that. When she goes to have
sex with Boring Beta Bitch Boy it just wont be the same. It cant. Youre pushing buttons with
her she didnt know existed.
A crazy girls enticement is her sexuality that pushes our buttons like a player
pushes an innocent girls buttons.
We get hooked. Addicted. Craving it like a heroin addict craves their drug of choice.
She becomes your heroin and like drugs, many find it is funfor a time. Then the
withdrawals get worse and youll find you will do anything and everything to get your fix
again.
Sound familiar?
The worse part about her using her sexuality as the enticement is that its very hard to realize
the type of girl she is BEFORE you get addicted to the sex with her.
Joe meets a sexy girl out and once Joes had a few too many drinks his dick wont get hard.
Not even a chub.
He meets Michelle, a stunning girl by the coat check of the club he frequents. Shes instantly
all over him and he can hardly believe his luck. Sure, Joe has game, but is he THAT good? I
mean damn, Lebron James is just a few feet away and shes given him nary a look.
She agrees quickly to leave with Joe and they head to his apartment. As soon as they enter
his shabby apartment she starts complimenting his furniture like he has a Mondital sofa
imported direct from Italy. Its not. Its from Ikea.
Michelle whips off her shirt revealing a set of sweater puppies only a board certified surgeon
from Beverly Hills could have created, unzips his fly in one motion and proceeds to suck his
cock with the fervor of Sasha Grey with guy #10 of 32 in a warehouse porn shoot.
The shocking part is, his dick gets hard. How the hell is this happening he wonders, but no
matter he has to start fucking her quick or hes going to shoot a load in her face like dumping
a giant jar of Mayo dressing in her face. Shes THAT good.
The sex is crazy. Its intense. She talks dirty to him, not just in a crass porn-star manner, but
in an intimate fashion. In his 26 years hes NEVER been able to get hard after 10 drinks
and tonight hes had 15.
BOOM.
Compare that to his latest Tinder fling with a flabby 6 and this dreamboat could be his! Little
does he know its about to turn from a dreamboat into the Titanic in a New York minute.
She cleans up and returns to his bed laying her head on his chest. She starts to talk about
nonsensical things that really dont make much sense, but Joes ball sack is drained and he
feels great.
He has for all intents and purposes a solid 9 (or 10 in 99% of mens books) laying her head
on his chest talking about them going on a trip together.
A trip together? Joe remembers this article and realizes that is one motherfucking big red flag
and its only the first night meeting her
Red flags are of particular importance to me because looking back at the crazy BPD chick I
went through hell with, it could have been avoided within the first WEEK, if I had just listened
to my gut.
Maybe your gut isnt finely tuned. Maybe you find it easy to get swept up quick with a chick (I
used to), or whatever it is, but learning these red flags and using this post as a reference will
serve you well in the days and years to come.
The crazy chicks are out to get you! Ha, but really they are.
Im kicking off this section with a bulletin style list of red flags and then will cover some of
them using stories from my experiences so you can see them in a context thats easily
understandable. I dont want there to be any confusion after you read this. If however, you
have a particular question, or comment, then leave a comment on this post and I will
respond.
The Red Flags Checklist
Glazed eyes stares into space (see story below)
Extreme statements (see story below)
Extreme anger (see story below)
Massive mood swings from very happy to very sad within mere minutes, or even
seconds
Prescription bottles in her purse and/or medicine cabinet that makes Walgreens look
like their shelves are bare
Has a bad story about everyone in her life and loves to tell you. Her ex boyfriend, her
brother, her step-dad, etc. (see story below)
Has few to NO girlfriends beyond the superficial level
Acts spiteful in nature to simple and/or low-income people (you wont see this under a
medical symptoms site, but who wants to be with a rudeass bitch anyway? Avoid, or
when you go through a rough time shell kick you to the curb. Remember, she doesnt
deserve to ride in the Bentley with you if she wont ride on the bus with you)
Was sexually abused as a child
ALL of her exes were abusive and jerks (see story below)
Extremely promiscuous (harder to tell with the current Tinder Ho Generation, but
connect the dots)
Asks to act out rape fantasies sexually with you
Randomly starts crying after sex (BIG one, watch the fuck out. Im not referring to
virgins either)
Extreme tattoos (one or two, okay thats fine, but the more ink a chick has the more
kink shes done)
Constant turmoil in her life (cant hold a job down, always something or somebody is
out to get her)
Bad or non-existent relationship with her father
Adopted (I know this one is touchy and its not a deal-breaker, but it IS something to be
aware of)
Too close of a relationship with her brother(s)
Bisexual (note if shes just curious in passing manner, or aggressively tries to pick up
girls with or without you)
Compulsive Cop Callers (if the local cops KNOW her because she calls them about
any little thing, that is one crazy as fuck chick)
She has a vagina (KIDDING, couldnt resist!)
This is not an all-encompassing list, but its most of them and the main ones that I have seen.
If a chick has a few of these, then you can start to put the puzzle together and realize its a
picture of Freddy Krueger about to stab you. Feel free to add yours in the comments and Ill
add them to this list and give you credit for your respective additions to it.
This bitch just said shed leave her three-year old son?
My gut sent a sharp signal to me, but I brushed it off like an ignorant and horny sonofabitch.
Because of you she said as her eyes started to mist up and she stared into mine.
The red flag Amber alerts were going crazy flashing before my eyes at the audacity of what
this chick had just said. Shed LEAVE her kid for me. Who the fuck does that? My thoughts
started racing, but then she leaned in and kissed me. Damn, there went the rational thoughts
and logical thinking.
Moral of the Story: when a chick starts staring into space with glazed eyes (sober), or if she
says shit that no women in her right mind would think, much less say, or if she does both at
the same damn time, then my friend, that is a HUGE red flag and you need to get away from
her forever. Dont walk. Dont jog. Run.
My chick started to run after the speeding white Bronco (no it wasnt OJ) as he screeched out
of the gas station parking lot. The poor dude had made the fatal mistake of not leaving the
pump quick enough for her liking as we pulled up behind him to fill up.
Thats it. He didnt hit our car and then drive off. He merely didnt move quick enough. Her
reaction wasnt just an overreaction, it was borderline homicidal and fucking ridiculous. What
took me back was how quick she flipped back to normal as though nothing happened. That
should have been even more of a sign then her Run n Rant she just pulled.
Moral of the Story: listen, everyone gets mad. Thats life. But HOW you deal with your
anger tells a lot about the person. Do you really want to date a girl who could go off like that?
What happens when that anger is directed at YOU? If a chick snaps into angry fits that are
extreme in nature, then avoid like the plague. Life is too short to be around angry crazy
bitches, or even constantly angry male friends. Drop em.
What does his dick have to do with it? Well alot, when youre with a size queen.
This one particular girl had a bad story about every single person in her life. From her pastor
(yes, she actually attended church), to her brother, to her step-dad, to the next-door
neighbor, to her fucking mailman; everyone had done her wrong, hell even the guy who
bought her a house.
Moral of the Story: people do talk shit about people they feel have wronged them (whether
its true or not. Sometimes its just a misunderstanding or miscommunication), however, look
for a PATTERN: it is literally EVERYONE. Is it extreme in nature? Do the stories seem
concocted from the mind of a 5th grader? Weigh the stories. Look for the patterns.
And yes, once you dump her shell be telling everyone about how mean you were to her.
Lastly, they often will tell stories that THEY did to their exes, but flip em so it makes them out
to be the victim.
If shes adopted, sometimes gets a bit angry and sucks dick like a pro, that doesnt
necessarily mean shes crazy.
She could have an Irish temper (even if she was raised in Wyoming), had one ex whos dick
she sucked every single day for two years and happened to be adopted because her birth
mother was a cunt and didnt want her.
Lets say shes adopted, she lashes out in anger irrationally, sucks dick like a parking lot pro
and is on Lithium, then vacate immediately.
One could just be personality and temperament flaws. The other example is evidence of
something thats off about her, i.e. being prescribed Lithium.
Sidenote on prescriptions as well: MANY girls will say something like, Oh gosh, my dumb
doctor said I should be on these meds, but I really dont need them. I dont even know why
he said I should take them, because Im totally cool.
Weigh the evidence. Made an educated decision based on the COLLECTIVE red flags shes
displaying.
Heres some examples of what I mean from real life experiences. Some locations and names
have been changed for obvious reasons.
The Ginger
Many years ago I met an attractive redheaded girl, got her number by handing her a bar
napkin and telling her to write her number down. Yes, to you youngsters reading this, thats
how us old school playas got numbers. We didnt have fancy smartphones at the time, but I
digress. She happily scribbled her number, her name and a smiley face with a heart.
Cool.
We met up a week or so afterwards (cant remember exactly as this has been over a decade)
and went to a nearby lake to hang out at the beach. We proceeded to make out, but stopped
short of getting naked. We moved it from the beach to my car where we continued to get hot
and heavy. Then I dropped her off at her parents house.
Kind of cool.
What had thrown me off at the time was that she made some faces when we were making
out. Its quite hard to explain this, but imagine youre making out with a girl and she pulls her
face back from kissing you and makes an odd expression that is slightly reminiscent of the
Exorcist chick.
Yea, it was weird. Weird enough that I was happy to drop her off, but not weird enough that I
didnt stop making out with her beforehand. Fast-forward and we had some conversations on
the phone and I was supposed to meet up with her again. Looking back I was retarded for
agreeing, but alas the folly of youth.
I called her the evening of to confirm and her dad picked up the phone.
Well son, shes not here right now. He sounded cool, but worried.
I responded with the only logical response one can have, Im supposed to pick her up in a
bit. Do you know when shell be back?
To be honest, his voice trailed off for a moment and I thought the call dropped. Im not
quite sure. You see son, shes in the hospital.
My mind raced at what had happened to her and being the compassionate lad I expressed
my concern for a moment and then he dropped the bombshell. Shes at the mental hospital.
Shes not well.
Not cool.
Then it hit me. The weird faces made sense. The odd behavior became clear.
That was the end of that and its a very simple story, however, the point of telling this is to
express to you the importance of noting red flags from the jump. It wasnt like I invested tons
of time, money, or energy into pursuing a relationship with her, nor did I have the intention,
however, she definitely needed to get help and Im happy she apparently did.
The Nympho
She was sexy as hell, a real tart. Petite, dark eyes, dark hair and an even darker pussy to
match. A Persian chick of all types which usually isnt my type, but we clicked from the jump
so alas we jumped into bed mighty fast.
But we didnt have sex right away. Three dates if you can call getting drunk at bars and
groping in the dark of her bedroom count and on the third date we got hot and heavy. This
chick could suck and fuck like a pornstar and after picking her up and literally carrying her
around the room while she rode my cock, I rewarded her with a fat load on her face. Her
eyes glistened as she looked up at me.
To say I was confused is an understatement. We had been on three dates, all had gone
smashingly well (heh) and now we had consummated our love lust in fine fashion.
Whats wrong darling? I crouched down beside her cupping my balls in one hand so as to
keep them from hitting the floor (hey now I have big balls) and stroking her shoulder with my
free hand. A fine site we must had made.
Im fine, Im fine she whimpered, but honestly at this point Im thinking this chick has a
screw loose.
The next words out of her mouth made me drop my balls on the floor.
If she told me she was an alien and we needed to hurry to catch the last UFO headed to
Mars I wouldnt have been more surprised.
Uhummmwhat??
I sprung up from my crouching position like a jack-in-the-box and in that moment I literally
thought about Jack-In-The-Box crunchy tacos. I have no idea why in the hell weird random
thoughts hit me at times of high stress, but maybe my fast movement up lodged that thought
free from my subconscious. Hell, I get hungry after a pound session. What man doesnt?
I had a few choices. I could answer and say No, Yes, or Maybe.
I chose the obvious. What do you think?
This little phrase has saved my player ass more times than I can tell you.
Her voice instantly softened and her lit up. Okay. Want to have sex again?
Im an idiot because I did. I deleted her number after her crazy episode and ran into her
again randomly at a club. She looked at me, but it was as though she looked through me. I
was 3 feet away staring right at her. Then she walked up to me and said, Hi, Im Brittney.
Whats your name?
I mumbled Gilroy, gotta piss and bounced. Never saw her again.
To recap this story, once again nothing inherently bad came out of it, but its also because I
stopped seeing them. Any girl asking if you love her after three dates is either a virgin, or
certified crazy. Dont stick around to figure it out.
The next day, remembering I had ZERO recollection of this chick, I noticed her name and
number saved in my phone under the text history. I shot her a quick text with the classic tried
and true line when you cant remember what the girl looks like:
wats ur IG?
She instantly sends it to me and wow, I was blown away. I waited a few minutes so as not to
appear like Needy Ned and set up drinks for a couple of nights later. She promptly agreed.
The date night comes and I post up at that particular little date spot I used to use a few
minutes before our date time. She walks in looking like an angel and the heads turn in the
joint. If you havent experienced the feeling of being out with a physical dime and the
attention it brings, I highly suggest doing it.
Date goes well, she gives me a blowjob, but no sex. No worries, shes smoking hot, cool to
boot, so Im not in a rush.
Flash forward two more dates (the second one I actually teased her without fucking her. Was
in a state of plenty of options had already had sex with another girl that day and wanted her
hopping on me like a wild woman by the third date, which she did) and we do the deed. It
was very good. Not mind blowing good, but hella good. Somewhere between holy shit and
damn this is goooood.
About two weeks later (seeing each other around 4 times in between) were having sex and
all of sudden she jumped off my dick (she was riding me), sits on the edge of the bed and
starts to cry. You gotta think too, you fuck enough girls and you will experience shit like this,
but at the time, Im like really? What the fuck is wrong with girls nowadays?
She proceeds to tell me that she was raped exactly one year ago by an attacker. Im not
talking about false rape bullshit thats prevalent in the news, but real horrible shit thats
detestable and fucked up. She showed me the pictures from when it happened, the police
report, etc so I know 100% she was not bullshitting. Needless to say though, it showed me a
side of her, that while it was NOT her fault, it was baggage I didnt want to deal with. Ill
explain why.
Flash forward another week or two later and I had lost my phone and by the time I got a new
one it had been a couple of days. I had no contact with her during those two days. When I
finally got my phone, I texted her and she asked me to come by her apartment. I went by,
she greeted me at the door crying and we sat on the couch. She proceeded to rub my hand
and express how worried she was about me.
Now heres the deal: a more compassionate ride on a white horse type of guy would have
been okay with all this. I wasnt.
Its not that I dont want a girl to express worry if Im gone, but that if this is what happened
within the first month to month and half, then what the hell kind of drama would there be in
four months? Or a year?
We stopped seeing each other and she immediately up and married some random dude
within a matter of three months.
The moral of this experience is when you start seeing a girl look for baggage that cant be
fixed. Is it her fault that horrible incident happened to her? Of course not and its truly sad,
however, you have to decide in your life whats more important to you: being a shoulder that
will be cried on constantly, having a clingy girlfriend or wife who freaks out constantly when
youre not around (sidebar: how can you expect a woman like that to be a good mother of
your child?), or your goals, dreams and most importantly, YOUR sanity.
Its not my job to play counselor and I dont want it in my life. Ive found plenty of baggage
free chicks, or super light baggage who are rock stable, chill and for the most part drama
free (every girl has a little drama in them). I choose peace. I advise you to as well.
Switching gears slightly, heres some actual medical symptoms for the aforementioned
disorders. You can see some parallels between them and the stories you just read and theyll
be handy to guide you.
Symptoms Checklist
Bipolar Disorder
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Histrionic Disorder
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The manipulation is perhaps the worst part for many men who are unaware of the dangers of
damaged women, for its in this portion of the inevitable process where much of the damage
is done. The exodus is more emotionally damaging, but the manipulation is where much of
the financial damage can occur.
If theres one thing that many of these girls have in common (and theres a LOT they do), its
their penchant for fine things. Theres nothing wrong with having a taste for the finer things in
life, however, when a girl manipulates you to your hurt in order to get what she wants, then
you need to reassess the relationship i.e. leave her ass.
The manipulation isnt just limited to financial, but is also focused on your other relationships.
Getting you turned against your friends and family is another technique theyll use so that
you become more dependent on them.
Now the deal with these manipulations are theyre pure evil in nature.
This isnt a chick trying to persuade you to take a job with her Dads law firm so she can feel
secure and because youre being a bum with no direction. Thats different. Thats how chicks
are designed and its ingrained in their DNA.
They call these type of people Energy Vampires and its for good reason: they will drain you
of energy like youve never imagined, throwing your life into a tailspin of which some men
never recover.
To clarify how manipulation can happen, Id like to share with you the story of Jeff.
You might wonder why a man would feel safe and calm around a woman. What could she be
doing to make him feel at ease? This is something that some women do bring to the table
and for some men they need this in their life.
Jeff and Becky enjoy six entire months of real early courtship bliss. In fact, the relationship
was going so well that Jeff could hardly believe his luck. Sure, there were a couple of
oddities about Becky, but Jeff brushed them off with encouraging words from his mother who
would make comments like, Well no relationship is perfect my son and You need to give
me some grandkids! Becky would make a great mother. Unfortunately Jeffs moms BPD
detector needing tuning.
Beckys trips to a counselor of which she told Jeff it was none of his business would be the
first glaring clue. A dummy with low IQ could see something was wrong, but were all
dummies when were in love aka thinking with our hormones instead of CHOOSING to love
after careful and rational observing for a period of time.
Also, it could be the damn pills she constantly was popping, but you know, Becky always had
an excuse.
My back hurts! and Something is wrong with me, the doctor doesnt know what, but
probably just my age and hormones were the usual gotos shed use.
She was right. There was something wrong with her. She was 32 years old and single.
Ill write that again for obvious emphasis: 32 years old and single.
As non-PC as this and despite the average of single people getting married being pushed to
older ages, it does not fucking matter, so heed the facts that arent fuzzy and friendly:
If a woman is NOT a widow, or left high and dry randomly by a real asshole (Im
talking maniac who beats his wife type) and shes single at 30 years old, theres
SOMETHING wrong with her.
Punch your keyboard. Call me an asshole. Hate my guts. I dont give a fuck and will point
you to the nearest mountaintop so you can scream from the top of your lungs, CMQ is a
misogynist!!!!, the facts remain the same.
Back to Becky
Her back was hurting, she had a hormone issue, etc and Jeff meekly took her excuses to
heart.
She got involved with his kids. Oh, I didnt mention she convinced him to marry her in a
Justice of the Peace shotgun wedding (no guests allowed of course) and get him to buy a
house putting her name on it as well?
So lets assess: she had him legally bound to her through marriage, her name on the title to
their new house Jeff could barely afford and now she was playing step-mother to his kids.
It gets worse
Two of the step-kids were 8 and 10 respectively. His third child was 18 years old senior
strapping high school jock. You can only guess what happened next. She started having sex
with the 18-year-old son of Jeff. Now lets not even get into how fucked up that is by his son,
lets stay focused on Becky because it gets even worse
Eventually Jeff finds out and gets into a physical altercation with his son. He doesnt punch
him, but gets in his face and some light shoving goes on between them. Becky calls the
police even though there was no need to *remember when I mentioned the Compulsive Cops
Caller*, but before they arrive she decides to add fuel to the fire and repeatedly smashes a
frying pan against the side of her face with the plan to tell the cops he hit her with it.
Now lets be clear: were not talking about some Jerry Springer Show family who live in a
trailer park. Were talking about your typical middle-class middle America family.
Cops come, arrest Jeff on charges of assault (pushing his son and beating Becky with the
pan). One was blatantly false and the other was a stretch due to lack of physical marks on
either party. Also, the son pushed Jeff first.
They go to trial, Jeff loses custody to his kids, loses his job, is forced to pay child support and
pay for the house that shes still living in with HIS kids and gets a few months in jail, plus his
record is stained which will pretty much make him unemployable.
BPD Becky ruined his life, but Jeff, if he would have listened to his gut and investigated the
red flags further could have avoided his suffering.
Theres no happy ending to the story. It fucked Jeffs life. His son is a seriously fucked up
individual and last word is Becky and him are planning on marrying. His life will be fucked too
without a doubt.
I didnt tell you this story to make you of fearful of dating women, but instead to point out
HOW a man can be manipulated IF he doesnt have good frame, good game and avoid toxic
women. If Jeff could have this post right now and read it the night he met Becky his life could
have went in a positive direction.
Maybe you know a Jeff who youve warned about the Becky he just started seeing.
If so, then share this post with them. And if youre early stages Jeff, then print this article out
and read it every night before you go to bed.
Theres varying degrees at which the male hamster starts to turn like a hamster slowly
walking on his wheel until hes moving so fast he flies off of it. Here they are.
Light Hamster
Light Hamster is when a guy will casually think or say something that is almost imperceptible
to him. Its like when you might say Im sorry to someone as you open a door and theyre
stepping through. Its more instinct than anything. Pretty girls can short-circuit a mans brain
(yes, it is scientific and a womans pretty face causes our brains to respond as they would to
cocaine or cash. See this Harvard Study) into reacting in ways that are conflicting with what
his proper frame should be.
Jack meets Stacy at the dog park. They instantly connect over their fuzzy fuckers and
decide to go on a date later that evening. Jack has no idea how to build suspense and
intrigue with a girl and offers his Saturday night up like a sacrificial lamb to Stacy who eagerly
snatches at the opportunity. She had just walked out on her husband little to Jacks
knowledge.
As they leave the dog park Jack starts to pull out of the parking lot at the same time Stacy
does. Jack doesnt hesitate and yells out the window So sorry! My bad, here, you go ahead!
and waves at Stacy with the enthusiasm of Barney Fife and Herges Thompson and
Thomson Twins combined.
Stacy doesnt acknowledge Jack as she peels through the open space Jack just backed out
of. Jack plays the scenario over and over in his mind on the way home, thinking thoughts
like:
This is Jeffs hamster lightly walking on the wheel. Its the start of some real bullshit unless
Jeff nips in the bud and quick.
The mistake Jeff is making is already putting her pretty face on a pedestal. Little does he
know that it wont take long for her hidden dragon to appear and hell have wished he took off
like Jeff Gordon in the third turn instead of backing up for her.
Now you might be thinking, Well, Christian, he doesnt KNOW shes a damaged woman yet,
so what did he do wrong besides being overeager? and the answer is this:
When you start off with allowing your light hamster to start moving in the beginning of
meeting a girl, you set the stage kickstarting the momentum to head down the slippery slope
of gauging her through lenses of emotion instead of logic and proper frame.
Jeff was fucking up because his frame was already fucked up due to bad inner game and
allowing her beauty to affect him to such a degree. If he knew HOW to combat the knee jerk
reaction when around a beautiful woman then he wouldnt have responded the way he did,
thus using good frame, boosting her intrigue and preventing what well see happen in the
next section between the two of them.
Quicksand Hamster
Stacy follows through with the date and Jeff selects a fancy restaurant for the date. He
should have started off with something more light, a round of drinks, a coffee, or maybe
some light sushi. When getting to know a girl less is more and sitting through a fancy dinner
from the jump is rarely fun for either party.
Stacy shows up ten minutes late for the dinner and Jeff sits eagerly waiting growing anxious
by the minute. Red Flag #1 Shes late.
Throughout the dinner she constantly looks at her phone and comments about the guys
hitting her up on Instagram and Tinder. Red Flag #2. Shes rude as fuck.
Jeffs hamster is slowly sinkinglike a man trapped in quicksand. He knows in his gut that
something isnt quite right, but hes so blinded by her beauty and charm (when she does give
him attention) that he ignores it.
After dinner they walk along a popular area of the city near some canals. Its a romantic spot
known for couples celebrating their first year anniversary, not a first date, but Jeff is clueless.
Jeff goes in for the kiss and Stacy pulls away. Jeff is confused, but Stacy tells him she
doesnt kiss on the first date and Jeff believes her. Red Flag #3. Obvious lie. A woman
Stacys age has and does kiss on the first date if the attraction is there.
As they head back to their cars, Stacy pulls him in close and lays her head on his chest and
talks about wanting to find true love. It throws Jeff off slightly, but assumes she really is
sincere and so he holds her while she talks about her abusive ex husband (shes still
technically married, but lies to Jeff). Red Flag #4. Talking shit about the ex on date one,
mentions abuse and includes dreamy talk about finding love with a man she met mere
hours ago.
As Jeff drives home his balls swollen and blue like a Robins eggs on a Spring morning he
contemplates Stacy and thinks thoughts like this:
Jeffs hamster is sinking into the quicksand of bullshit. Unfortunately, how many men does
this happen to every single night throughout the world?
Jeff finances the trip to Cabo for the two of them. The dates are set. Hes excited and is
planning on proposing to her. He buys a ring he cant afford, but shit society and his mother
told him it should cost 2.5 months of salary, or was it 3.5 months worth? Nevermind he had
his dream woman, The One. Yes, its only been two months, but they have had sex four
times and it was the best sex of his life. It was almost like Stacy was mechanical when they
would fuck, but Jeff couldnt believe his luck when inside her. Her face, how she moved her
body; everything was just perfect. Or so he thought.
The day comes for them to leave for the airport and Stacy doesnt show up at his house at
the allotted time. Jeff calls her a few times, but her phone goes straight to voicemail. He
drives past her house, but doesnt see her car. Worried now, he calls the cops to file a
missing persons report, but they laugh it off saying it needs to be at least 48 hours before
theyll look into it since shes a grown ass woman.
Jeffs gut starts to burn with pain. Something is wrong. Something is off, but what exactly?
Jeffs hamster is officially fucked and it wont be until Jeff discovers her real past that the
puzzle pieces will connect.
The mark of a real man is a man who can control his emotions during high times of stress,
but lets keep it real: weve all overreacted at one point or another in our lives when dealing
with women. The good news if you now know how to control your emotions so you wont be a
slave to them like women are.
Theres a few ways the pyramid of bullshit collapses around a man whos tangled up with a
damaged woman and its not limited to just these, however, from my experience and having
heard from and discussed with many men on their experiences, these are the main ones.
If youre in the middle of experiencing the exodus, then heres a quick list of what you can do
right NOW in order to regain some control of whats going in your life:
1. Cut off ALL contact with her immediately. Social media, cell phone (block/change your
number), and even temporarily move out of your place if shes well aware of where you
live for your safety and so you have witnesses present with you (i.e. a friend, family
member etc).
2. Repeat step one: DO NOT CALL, TEXT, EMAIL or send smoke signals to her. Shes
done. Its over.
3. Get the fuck ahold of yourself emotionally. If theres ever a time where you need to man
up and think clearly, its right now. You cant afford to be bellyaching, dreaming and
wondering about the what ifs.
4. Get advice from someone you trust who is REDPILL. If you get bluepill advice at this
time in your life odds are youll get led astray even more. Remember, its the bluepill
that got you fucked up in the beginning. You need truth, not fantasy.
5. Legally protect yourself. Screenshot the fuck out of any texts from her, emails, etc. If
you have video, or audio back it up as well. Depending on where you love youll either
be able to use it in court or not, but it can help decide if theyll press charges or not.
6. Take a trip. You need to be as far away as possible from her when she decides your
evil. Trust me, it happens. Go somewhere else for a few days, clear your mind and
re-read the hell out of this article until you put the puzzle pieces together.
7. Dont blame yourself. Look, you fucked up, should have seen the red flags, should
have listened to your gut, should have known she was damaged goods, BUT you didnt
and you dont know what you dont know. I was clueless at one point too and had to go
through hell in order to figure it out. Blaming yourself will only intensify the emotional
pain which will hinder your progress in thinking clearly through the situation though.
You can sort out later where you fucked up so you can learn from it, but dont belabor it.
Its simple: you got involved and fell for a crazy chick. It happens.
When I experienced the exodus that I wrote about here, it was the most painful emotional
experience Ive went through, however, it caused me to transition from boyhood into
manhood. Sometimes we go through hell in order to be refined. If I wouldnt have gone
through it with her I would have continued blindly with women until experiencing perhaps
something even worse with another. Believe it or not, Im actually thankful I went through it
for a couple of reasons:
1. It showed how damaged women can be, thus providing me with the experience to
avoid them for life
2. Its allowed me to relate to men like you who may have gone through similar
experiences and perhaps help you with my writing
If you see the exodus coming in your current relationship, the red flag alerts are going off of
warp speed and you know in your gut something is off, then plan to get out and fast. I can
only hope this article will PREVENT you from experiencing it.
You can be cynical and believe what you want, but having dated hundreds of girls, having
slept with 450+ women in my life (Im 31yo) and having seen almost everything under the
sun when it comes to relationships and dating, I can tell you there are some high quality
women in this world. Ive enjoyed and currently enjoy beautiful relationships with incredible
women who have only spurred me onto be a better man while providing the joy of their
feminine natures.
Is it easy to find them? If you know where to look for them and what to look for, then its not
extremely difficult.
There are women out there who will be supportive of your dreams, loyal and committed to
building a life and a family with you, but if you take on a toxic attitude of AWALT (all women
are like that), then I can guarantee youll never find them. This type of attitude is women
repellent. What you look for you will get. If you think all women are psycho whores, then
thats all youll find. If you think all women are out to get you thrown in jail, then thats all youll
find. If you think all women are purple-haired nose ring sportin feminists, then guess what?
Thats all youll find and obsess about non-stop. By the way, Ive yet to meet a high value
man whos obsessed with feminists who consistently bangs gorgeous women and makes
real money. Just food for thought
This guide shouldnt serve to make you cynical or fearful. Fear will hold you back from
becoming the best man you can be and stifle your attempts to meet high quality women.
Instead, use it for what it is: a testament to what CAN happen, a guide on what to LOOK for
so as to avoid damaged women and a litmus test of sorts to hold the quality women up to.
I hope and pray this guide serves you well and if it helps even one man regain clarity then itll
have been worth my time.
Id like to hear your feedback on this type of article as I may consider doing more lengthy
posts like this in the future, or if you need advice, simply leave a comment below and Ill
respond.
CMQ
Christian,
Why couldnt you have posted the guide to damaged women two years ago? I kid haha. My
name is (redacted for privacy reasons) This is my story. If you use it please change the
names cause Im in the middle of a legal battle.
I met (name redacted for privacy) roughly two and a half years ago. She was married and still
is to a (location redacted for privacy) cop.
She chased me and I gamed her like a seasoned pro. At first I had no desire cause of her
husband but she wouldnt take no for an answer. She would stop at nothing to land me.
The sex was amazing. Literally like a drug. We did everything without going into details
everywhere.
Long story short cause I realize this could go forever. I caught her cheating, whatever didnt
care. I was looking to leave anyways. But she left with our car the next morning never came
back. I am an arrogant prick and didnt expect that.
Was served with a Protection From Abuse order the most hilarious lies ever. Seriously, its
comical. I was homeless for two days. Live out of a hotel. Anyways the PFA was about
screwing me financially. Got an attorney PFA is handled. No wrongdoing admitted cause
there was none and we agree not to see each other for like six months. Good ridden.
I thought it was done than yesterday I get a call from the cops and Im being charged with
simple assault and harassment. Lol. My attorney will crush her and this will be dropped. Plus
I think she is going to get busted for false statements which would be euphoric.
Main point. Up until I read what you wrote about damaged women my mind was poisoned
with nostalgia. I missed the good times. Reading that was a huge wake up call.
Thank you,
(name redacted for privacy)