Life Traps Basic Needs
Life Traps Basic Needs
Life Traps Basic Needs
"A life trap is a pattern that starts in childhood and reverberates throughout life.
It began with something that was DONE to us by our families or other children. We were
abandoned, criticized, overprotected, abused, excluded or deprived - we were damaged in some
way. Eventually the life trap becomes part of us. Long after we leave the home we grew up in,
we continue to create situations in which we are mistreated, ignored, put down, or controlled
and in which we fail to reach our most desired goals."
Jeffery Young Pd.D.
The following list suggests what conditions are necessary for us to thrive as children and
develop into independent, responsible adults. After each basic necessity (in bold) is a list of
possible results if that basic need is not met. When those needs are not met, we experience a
shortfall or Missing Developmental Experience (MDE). The impact on our thinking and
behavior is predictable and impedes happiness, growth and effective interaction. The resulting
problems are called "Life traps" and are specific ways of coping with the problem in the basic
need area. The coping/defense mechanism doesn't resolve the problem, but instead continues to
perpetuate the pain and confusion from childhood.
(For those of you who have worked with me on basic psychological needs before, I have
included the wording that Harper and Hoopes (BYU) have used to describe the six categories in
their similar research.) Course content comes from Jeffery Young, Jim Harper, Meg Hoopes,
David Burns, Albert Ellis, Nathaniel Brandon and others.
"The end result is that, as an adult, we manage to recreate the conditions of our
childhood that were most harmful to us."
Jeffery E. Young