Signs of Deception:

Body Language of Lies:

• Physical expression will be limited and stiff, with few arm and hand movements.
Hand, arm and leg movement are toward their own
body the liar takes up less space.

• A person who is lying to you will avoid making

eye contact.

• Hands touching their face, throat & mouth.

Touching or scratching the nose or behind their ear.
Not likely to touch his chest/heart with an open
hand.

Emotional Gestures & Contradiction

• Timing and duration of emotional gestures and

emotions are off a normal pace. The display of
emotion is delayed, stays longer it would naturally,
then stops suddenly.

• Timing is off between emotions

gestures/expressions and words. Example:
Someone says "I love it!" when receiving a gift,
and then smile after making that statement, rather
then at the same time the statement is made.

• Gestures/expressions don’t match the verbal

statement, such as frowning when saying “I love
you.”

• Expressions are limited to mouth movements

when someone is faking emotions (like happy,
surprised, sad, awe, )instead of the whole face. For
example; when someone smiles naturally their
whole face is involved: jaw/cheek movement, eyes
and forehead push down, etc.

Interactions and Reactions

• A guilty person gets defensive. An innocent person will often go on the offensive.

• A liar is uncomfortable facing his questioner/accuser and may turn his head or body
away.
• A liar might unconsciously place objects (book, coffee cup, etc.) between themselves
and you.

Verbal Context and Content

• A liar will use your words to make answer a question. When asked, “Did you eat the
last cookie?” The liar answers, “No, I did not eat the last cookie.”

•A statement with a contraction is more likely to be truthful: “ I didn't do it” instead of

“I did not do it”

• Liars sometimes avoid "lying" by not making direct statements. They imply answers
instead of denying something directly.

• The guilty person may speak more than natural, adding unnecessary details to
convince you... they are not comfortable with silence or pauses in the conversation.

• A liar may leave out pronouns and speak in a monotonous tone. When a truthful
statement is made the pronoun is emphasized as much or more than the rest of the
words in a statement.

• Words may be garbled and spoken softly, and syntax and grammar may be off. In
other
words, his sentences will likely be muddled rather than emphasized.

• The use of distancing language.

Other signs of a lie:

• If you believe someone is lying, then change subject of a conversation quickly, a liar
follows along willingly and becomes more relaxed. The guilty wants the subject
changed; an innocent person may be confused by the sudden change in topics and will
want to back to the previous subject.

• Using humor or sarcasm to avoid a subject.

Final Notes:
Obviously, just because someone exhibits one or more of these signs does not make
them a liar. The above behaviors should be compared to a persons base (normal)
behavior whenever possible.

Most lie detecting experts agree that a combination of body language and other cues
must be used to make an educated guess on whether someone is telling the truth or a lie.
Eye Direction and Lying

Eye Movement and Direction & How it Can Reveal

Truth or Lies
This is a continuation of our previous article " Detecting Lies". Many comments by our
visitors have asked about how eye direction can indicate the presence of a lie.

So can the direction a person's eyes reveal whether or not they are making a truthful
statement? Short answer: sort of. But, it isn't as simple as some recent television shows
or movies make it seem. In these shows a detective will deduce if a person is being
untruthful simply because they looked to the left or right while making a statement.

In reality, it would be foolish to make such a snap judgment without further

investigation... but the technique does have some merit. So, here it is... read, ponder and
test it on your friends and family to see how reliable it is for yourself.

Visual Accessing Cues

The first time "Visual Accessing Cues" were discussed (at least to my knowledge), was
by Richard Bandler and John Grinder in their book "Frogs into Princes: Neuro
Linguistic Programming (NLP) " From their experiments this is what they found:

When asked a question a "normally organized" right-handed person looks (from

your viewpoint, looking at them):
Up and to the Left
Indicates: Visually Constructed Images (Vc)
If you asked someone to "Imagine a purple buffalo", this would
be the direction their eyes moved in while thinking about the
question as they "Visually Constructed" a purple buffalo in their
mind.

Up and to the Right

Indicates: Visually Remembered Images (Vr)
If you asked someone to "What color was the first house you lived
in?", this would be the direction their eyes moved in while thinking
about the question as they "Visually Remembered" the color of their
childhood home.

To the Left
Indicates: Auditory Constructed (Ac)
If you asked someone to "Try and create the highest the sound
of the pitch possible in your head", this would be the direction
their eyes moved in while thinking about the question as they
"Auditorily Constructed" this this sound that they have never
heard of.

To the Right
Indicates: Auditory Remembered (Ar)
If you asked someone to "Remember what their mother's voice
sounds like ", this would be the direction their eyes moved in
while thinking about the question as they "Auditorily
Remembered " this sound.

Down and to the Left

Indicates: Feeling / Kinesthetic (F)
If you asked someone to "Can you remember the smell of a
campfire? ", this would be the direction their eyes moved in
while thinking about the question as they used recalled a smell,

feeling, or taste.

Down and To the Right

Indicates: Internal Dialog (Ai)
This is the direction of someone eyes as they "talk to themselves".

The Gist of it...

How this information is used to detect lies:

Example: Let's say your child asks you for a cookie, and you ask: "Well, what did your
mother say?" As they reply "Mom said... yes.", they look to the left. This would indicate
a made up answer as their eyes are showing a "constructed image or sound. Looking to
the right would indicated a "remembered" voice or image, and thus would be telling the
truth.

Final Notes:
*** Looking straight ahead or with eyes that are defocused/unmoving is also considered
a sign of visual accessing.

A typical left-handed person would have the opposite meanings for their eye-directions.

*** As with other signs of lying, you should first establish and understand a persons
base-behavior before concluding they are lying by the direction of their eyes.

*** Many critics believe the above is a bunch of bull***t. In my own experiments I
have found these techniques to be more true than not. But, why not find out for
yourself? Make up a list of questions that like the sample ones, and give them to your
friends/family anyone who would be your guinea pig, observe their eye movements and
record the results.

*** This guide is hardly in-depth, I recommend getting the book "Frogs into Princes:
Neuro Linguistic Programming" by Richard Bandler and John Grinder for a more
thorough explanation if the subject interests you.

Art and Science of Flirting and Body Language

The art of flirting is expressed with actions. And non-verbal communication is more
important than words. Although flirting signals are rarely noticed consciously -- the
message is always sent across.

This artful dance makes possible for strangers to become comfortable with each other,
even at their first exchange of words. People become at ease with others when they find
the other person pleasant. People appear pleasant as a result of showing interest in
others...
Eye Contact and Triangulation
Our actions (body language) reflects our interest in various ways. In general, these
actions manifest by instinct when we are facing people that we admire. For example, in
intimate conversation, people usually look at each other's eyes.

Sometimes we shift our vision from one eye to the other, and to the bridge of the nose.
This is what is called the triangular formation of vision. As a person becomes more
interested in another, this triangular formation extends downward. Some say that it’s
rude to look at a stranger’s body, but when you really think about it, people really can’t
help it when they feel attracted.

When people are talking to mere acquaintances, they simply look at their eyes, but when
people are interested in someone, they tend to notice a lot more than just the eyes and
the nose. Also... looking at the someone's mouth can suggest interest in kissing.

Mirroring
We can make others feel comfortable by mirroring or matching their mood. When two
people enjoy similar things, they tend to move in sync with each other. This does not
mean that every single move they make is exactly the same, but rather that their moods
are the same.

Flirting Quickies
(for our lazy readers)

Male Flirting Signals:

- hands on belt or belt buckle
- preening / grooming
- stretching (and other actions that
make him seem bigger)

Female Flirting Signals:

- actions that make her appear smaller
- playing with hair
- exposure of neck or inner wrists

General Flirting Signals:

- eye contact
- mirroring
- triangulation
- "accidental" touching

When a person finds something in common with another, an instinctive fondness

develops between them. This same effect is replicated by mirroring. In mirroring, you
need to tune in to the other person’s movements and imitate them, not mimic them.
Also, these actions should not be done in the same pace as his/hers, otherwise, the
person might take it instead as mockery. Generally, the mirror actions should be done
after 10-20 seconds, and must be done naturally. The other purpose of the mirror actions
is to show the other person that you accept and respect their views without them
noticing it. In effect, he/she will subconsciously see you as an open-minded person.

Other Flirting Signals

When people are interested in the person they’re talking to, they tend to face the person
more. This is also noticeable in a person’s arms and legs. When a person’s attention is
completely focused on another, their legs, knees, or feet are always extended in the
direction of the other person. Another common signal are the pupils of our eyes. When
people like what they see, their pupils increase in size, and tend to blink more. Eyes can
blink in sync when looking into the eyes of the person they like.

Male Body Language and Flirting

Aside from general body language, there are also signs specific to males and to females
when they show their interest in a potential mate. When a man notices a woman he finds
attractive, he may suck in his gut, flex his muscles, and other postures that cause him to
appear taller and stronger.

A man shows his readiness to get involved by putting his hands on his hips, or putting
his thumbs behind his belt. Most men do this to appear macho and posed, but a
commonly unknown fact is that this action also highlights the genital region sending the
message:
“I’m virile.”

Men do other things like smoothing their hair, and fixing ties, to make them look their
best. Men do these while women are watching to show their interest.

Female Body Language and Flirting

The actions of women, on the other hand, are more subtle but very sexy in the eyes of
men. A woman can make a man desire her more by exposing the skin of her neck.

When a woman tosses her hair from one side to the other, the gesture appears more
intentional, and is often followed by a well directed intimate gaze.

The same thing goes when a woman exposes the thin skin on her wrist. Both actions
appeal to men saying, “I want to show you more.” Women can very well play with
men’s minds by doing little things like wiping off their sweat, and fondling with their
hair, fingers, and feet.

The most appealing sign a woman can give is to sit with one leg pressed on top of the
other. This gesture makes the legs appear very well toned. A hand on the thigh
completes the position and is definitely considered a call for the attention.

Whenever people show their interest, an exchange takes place. When a mutual
confirmation is established, one of them then makes the first move to approach. Body
language makes up a very big part in the first moments of courtship, and may determine
if people become more intimate.