Crucial Conversations Book Discussion Questions PDF
Crucial Conversations Book Discussion Questions PDF
Crucial Conversations Book Discussion Questions PDF
Discussion Questions
Whether it’s with a gathering of family members, friends, co workers, or colleagues, a weekly discussion of Crucial Conversations: Tools for
Talking When Stakes are High (McGraw-Hill 2011) can go a long way to deepening your understanding of ways to step up to and handle
the crucial conversations you face. Here are some suggested discussion questions:
Chapters 1 & 2 3. How can you tell when a conversation turns from routine
to crucial?
1. What are the three elements that make a conversation crucial?
3. How do we typically handle crucial conversations? 5. Why should you be watching for safety?
4. Why are we often on our worst behavior? 6. What is your own Style Under Stress? Does it vary at work
and at home?
5. What is dialogue? What is the Pool of Shared Meaning? How
does the Pool of Shared Meaning both motivate and enable Chapter 5
people to make better choices?
1. What is Mutual Purpose?
Chapter 3
2. Why is Mutual Purpose the entry condition of dialogue? Why is
1. What does the expression “work on me first” mean? Why is Mutual Respect the continuance condition of dialogue?
it important?
3. Why is it important to stay focused on what we want? 4. What role does an apology play in restoring safety?
4. Why is it important to ask what we want for ourselves, others, 5. What is Contrasting? When people misunderstand your
and the relationship? What do our wants often change to? purpose or respect, how can Contrasting help?
Chapter 4 2. What role do stories play in the creation of our feelings and
actions?
1. Why do we typically get caught up in the content of a crucial
conversation and miss the conditions?
3. What are Victim, Villain, and Helpless Stories?
6. Why should we start by assuming that others are reasonable 1. Discuss which of the cases in the “Yeah, but” chapter most
and rational? applies to you. How can you use the advice for that case to
improve a particular result or relationship?
Chapter 7
2. What two principles are most helpful to keep in mind when
1. When we care the most about something, how are we likely to you’re just beginning to apply the crucial conversations skills to
express ourselves? your every-day conversations?
2. In order to make it safe for others to hear our views, why start 3. How can you use the “Coaching for Crucial Conversations”
with the facts? Why not start with our story? Why share our table to help you prepare to hold a specific crucial
story at all? How should we share our story? conversation?
Chapter 8
Chapter 9
Note: These discussion questions are not intended for use in corporate training and are only meant for informal reading groups or book clubs. For
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